[Excerpt from Energy Report: January 2016]
This is a Server year. This means that sensitivity is going to run higher than usual and this can be met with recoil, reaction, and resentment, or met with impulses to help, to reach out, to care and nurture that which seems to be in most need at the moment. A Server year can feel overwhelming even when approached positively because it is a year where NEEDS come to the surface more than usual. Wants are set aside and Needs come to your attention. Your own Needs and the Needs of others.
It is a good time for reviewing the Nine Needs that every person is responsible for upholding for himself or herself. Others can help in supporting or challenging those Needs, but only you can truly provide them for yourself. We will further discuss the Nine Needs with our students if this is requested.
When there is a year in which Need is emphasized, it is important to consider your resources. If you cannot give, you cannot give. This is an important consideration. Give when you can, and give what you can, but know your limits. This limitation is not a shame, nor is it necessary to be enforced with defenses. It is simply honest that is important to communicate.
When you need help, it is just as important to understand that not everyone can or will give. If you do not have responses to your needs around you, it okay to look elsewhere. It is okay to keep looking. It is okay to keep asking for the help. Keep in mind that if you find that responses are perpetually saying “no” or not responding, it may be that you are the one you need to ask and the one who needs to give. It is often the case that when one expects solutions personal needs to come from others, but finds that the asking for help pushes people further away, it can be a reflection that you are the one who is not doing the work of providing for your needs. This is not always the case, but is often the case. You are quite often your own best and immediate resource of help, support, and kindness. This is not to emphasize separation or isolation. It is a means of nurturing your own reserves and resources so that you can return to being a giver.