[Excerpted from: OMW - Feb 5, 2011 - Loving and Being Loved]
Before we go into the dynamics of the Personality and how Loving and Being Loved works within each Lifetime, we will point out the general themes for each Role and how that pursuit of Loving and Being Loved shows up over lifetimes.
Every Role has its blind spot to love, and when that blind spot finds light, that Role usually experiences a profound exposure to Love.
SAGES, more than any other Role, need you to TELL THEM that they are Loved, in order to bring light to their blind spot. More than any other Role, they need to hear it.
You can be the most difficult and challenging person in his or her life, but if you can express a heartfelt, genuine Love into WORDS, the Sage knows that everything will be ok.
Though it is important for the words to be genuine, even the most-fleeting of "I Love You's" for a Sage can often make a difference. But the more genuine, the more profound the embedding of that Love.
EXPRESSION ROLES RECAP
ARTISANS - need to SEE Love - default to Alliance Love
SAGES - need to HEAR Love - default to Comprehensive Love
The needs here relate to Self-Destruction and Greed, which are about Having Too Much, and Not Having Enough.
It could be said, then, that the Artisan needs permission to WANT Love, while the Sage needs permission to NEED Love.
Demonstrating Love for the Artisan is acceptable to the Artisan because once it is in creation, and created for him or her, it is often okay then to Want it.
Telling the Sage that you Love her, and telling her often, is important to the Sage because it means that it is okay to Need that Love.
Artisans can tend to "take" love if it is not offered, creating manipulative strategies to secure it without looking like she wants it, and the Sage can often come off as "needy" and resort to quiet or demonstrative tantrums in her wish for more direct and honest expressions of Love.
What we have described above are blind spots for the ESSENCE. This means it will be consistent across lifetimes, regardless of the Chief Negative Feature of the Personality during that lifetime.