[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles]
We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles.
This may seem obvious, but the WANTS of a Sage, and the consciously motivating form of navigation throughout the life, is the want to COMMUNICATE. More elaborately, we would say “to be seen” and “to be heard.” We prefer the term “communicate” because, ultimately, it is not just about being seen and heard, it is about seeing and hearing as well. It is about creating that circuit of communication, that experience of exchange. So a Sage will always find, underneath all other motivations as a foundation, that want to communicate, to be seen and heard and to see and hear, to truly have dialogue, to truly have exchange.
This should be quite obvious in terms of the Sage, but often what is subconsciously motivating a Sage, and what they NEED, is AFFECTION. More than any other Role, Sages crave affection the most. They benefit the most from physical proximity and touch and contact. This does not mean they want you to fondle them without invitation necessarily, but that they have, even more so than Artisans, a difficult time feeling present in the world. They may seem present, and they may seem quite aware of themselves, and they are, but it is difficult for them to not have some form of physical contact, some sort of physical proximity, if this goes on too long. Hugging a Sage is much easier than hugging a King.
So when a Sage recognizes that he or she is subconsciously motivated by that need for affection, it could help explain a lot of why they gravitate towards certain relationships, certain scenarios. Even if they are completely out of their element, if that need is being fulfilled in that arena, or in that relationship, or in that exchange, they will gravitate towards that even over a great conversation, if that need is lacking.
For the Sages among us, do you have comments or feedback?
[Question] Well I have a question. So if you maybe are feeling like you aren't getting those things, or getting them … wait let me organize my question. So it would be easy to utilize, like, sex to get affection, but it's not really a very positive thing, and it would sort of be like the negative pole of it, if you're doing it really just to fulfill that need?
MEntity: Not necessarily. Your judgment of it, of sex as a way of fulfilling affection, may make it less fulfilling. But recognizing that you may gravitate towards sex as a way of fulfilling your need for affection will help you to make choices that may be more meaningful to you in terms of fulfilling affection.
[Question] I don't feel that it's unfulfilling. I'm just saying that I wondered if it was, maybe, not as positive, or if there would be a better way to obtain it.
We will say that if it turns into something that is a compulsion that cannot be controlled, and possibly moving into a form of addiction that is harmful to you, then yes, you might deem it to be a negative form of fulfilling that need. But if it is bringing pleasure, and is not harming, then it is a valid form of fulfilling that need.
We want to remind you that we said, as you progress throughout your lifetime and you evolve your pursuit of your needs and your wants, the necessities for the degree of fulfillment will change. So then sex may not fulfill that need for affection at some point in your life, and you may have to either move away from that as the source and look to other sources, or move to become more inclusive of other sources, such as literally reaching out to those that are close to you, and hugging more, and snuggling more. We are not speaking in terms of affection only being in physical touch, but affection in our definition is about resonance, is about —
MEntity: We would not say intimacy in this case. We will say simply resonance: that you like who are with, that you like who you are when you are with them, which is often different from intimacy in this case.
[Question] Does the craving for affection have anything to do with craving belonging, a sense of belonging?
That might be another way of describing what we were using in terms of being present, yes. The belonging is a little more emotionally charged than the term “present” in this case in terms of what we are trying to convey here. The Sage does not necessarily need to feel as if he or she belongs, but they often do feel as if they do not have a presence, that they are not seen and heard in a way that is grounded. We can't think of another, more appropriate word than “present.” Belonging could be a part of that dynamic of their definition of present, but there is a little bit more of an emotional charge to that term than what we would like to convey by using the word present.
We will turn it to the Sages to ask if you find a difference between being present and belonging, or if you feel the differentiation yourselves.
[Comment] Well I do. I don't think there's a huge difference, I think it's very subtle, because I feel like I belong in certain aspects. But remaining present in the times where I don't feel like I belong is very different, like at work or something where I'm around people that are very casual, as opposed to my close family. There is definitely a difference then. I don't feel as much of a belonging there, but I can feel present.
[Comment] I think it's easier to be present when you feel that you are someplace that you belong. If you don't feel like you belong in a situation or in a place, then I think that, personally, yeah, you tend to go to the future or to the past — to imaginings, you know?
MEntity: What you may have touched on then is an extension of what is required for them to feel present and that would be, in some cases, that sense of belonging. The reason why we differentiated is because we know many Sages and they do not necessarily need to feel as if they belong in a group of people for them to feel present. But there may be circumstances where that is a defining factor.