[Excerpted from: OMW: Loving and Being Loved]
Before we go into the dynamics of the Personality and how Loving and Being Loved works within each Lifetime, we will point out the general themes for each Role and how that pursuit of Loving and Being Loved shows up over lifetimes.
Every Role has its blind spot to love, and when that blind spot finds light, that Role usually experiences a profound exposure to Love.
For Servers, the experience of Loving comes so easily that at some point over the lifetimes there is a period of time where it is blocked as much as possible so that there is a well-rounded experience of Love, and this gives insight into how to work around blockages in others.
This period of blockage is cyclical and within each Level of Soul Age, so it is rather common enough that we can describe it as a pattern of significance.
Servers, then, more than most Roles, tend to need PROOF OF LOVE in order to bring light to through their blind spot.
Keep in mind that we are describing blind spots, and the means through which to bring light to that blind spot, but these conditions for experiencing Love does not equal a distortion of Love or a lack of Love.
Love, if you will, does not mind the hoops that each of us requires of it, which we realize is a paradox or irony.
In other words, the person who Loves the Server who requires Proof would not be offended by that necessity for Proof, and would allow room for that necessity.
Because Servers are often so overlooked or taken for granted, this wish for Proof make go on as a silent longing, and the Server may never give voice to that craving.
They may even dissuade it or dismiss the attempts. At first.
But they will also know when it is true. When it is Love. And that will not be forgotten.
SERVERS - need Proof - defaults to Nurturing Love
PRIESTS - need Surprises/Faces - defaults to Altruistic Love
Both of these factors of need are extensions of the correlating Chief Negative Features of Self-deprecation and Arrogance, which are about Being Seen Too Closely, and Not Being Seen Close Enough.
Self-deprecation is about Not Being Seen Close Enough, or Being Invisible, etc, hence the necessity for Proof that you can see that fragment.
Arrogance is about being Seen Too Closely, being Too Vulnerable, but if you can expose yourself, show your face, it can help the Priest to overcome that obstacle.