[Excerpt from Ask Michael: March 2014]
[Juni] How is it possible to tell the difference between (and validate) when one has had actual contact/conversation with others while sleeping versus it being "just a dream" and is there cording happening when it's the former?
If you dream about a person, you are most likely in some form of contact with that person. Even your sex dreams about a celebrity are "real," in that regard. The Astral Plane is not restricted to known or appropriate relationships, and this is why you might even have sexual dreams about a family member. In the Astral Plane, sexual exchanges are not exploitative or ugly. They are forms of nurturing, support, and resonance. This is often carried back into the waking state as disturbing or distracting, because of the rules of relationships in the Physical Plane, but one can simply let them be what they were, and not impose temporal concerns on them. The Physical Plane is not burdened by those Astral relationships/contact, beyond the memory of the person dreaming, and what he or she chooses to do with that. In most cases, it is quite specific to the need of the dreamer, and not the one dreamed about.
We emphasized sexual exchanges here, but we speak of any exchanges.
And, yes, Cording does get involved. In most cases, the Cord would have had to have been in place already.
If you dream of communication with someone you know you know in the dream, but do not know in waking state, it is often the case that you simply do not have a current incarnation that can reference that fragment very easily to you. If you dream of an exchange with someone who is faceless, or is vague, it is often an exchange with some facet or extension of yourself.