[Excerpt from a private session originally posted by ViP in December 2013.]
My first question today relates to my Lunar/Nature body type.
In a previous exchange, you shared this: 'There is some validity to the concept of the "child within," and this body type knows it well. He is kept secret, hidden, quieted, and then reveals himself in tantrum or self-destructive behaviors.'
I think my Lunar/Nature body type is one of my biggest challenges in being positive and active. Could you describe more about this 'inner child' and how I can make 'him' a real part of my life, so 'he' does not have to be hidden, but can develop and be part of my life in a healthy way?
At the heart of the Lunar Body Type is a struggle with (and strength of) control and power. For those with more active body types, the control is expressed over others, while the more passive body type such as Lunar, expresses this as resistance to others.
Lunar Body Types "hate" to be forced into, manipulated, victimized, told what to do, etc.
However, the Lunar Body Type "loves" to have something to bump up against, to orbit around, to serve this need for resistance.
This can turn into a nightmare of push/pull that can feel as if one is torn apart, or it can be understood as a dynamic that is invigorating, revealing, and full of mysterious discoveries.
So to let the energies of this Body Type unleashed into full flow and health is to let yourself have your resistances, have your push/pull events, have your person, persons, or events against which you bump up against as a way to define yourself. These are not "bad" things. They are not always fun or easy, but they are PART of the dynamic of who you are.
The "kid in you" loves to rebel. Loves to feel the security of an orbit, the sense of light from other sources being shined upon you, because you have a "dark side" that is always yours. No one will take that from you. No one will define that for you. It is untouched by anyone but you. So there is some amount of thrill, joy, and revelation gained from the exposure you allow as a large part of your life.
Like the Moon, it can be easy to be caught in the gravity of another person, another person's life, and then this gives you something to rebel against, to stand against, to express and experience power and control.
This may sound like a terrible set up that can be painful and bewildering, and it can be, but it does not have to be. For most evolving Lunar Body Types there is a process of going from static orbit, to rebellious retaliation and reaction, to profound appreciation and trust.
The Lunar Body Type in its healthiest arc of development is like a microcosmic cycle of growth through dependency, rebellion, independence, then peace (trust).
So to bring the healthiest angle of the Lunar Body Type into your days, it can be meaningful to first accept that you gain something from those who are more active in their expression of control and power because this helps you to cultivate your own. Then accept this power and control as something that is not static, and it is not something you will probably ever exert over someone else, but you DO HAVE IT. And it is yours. You may not change anyone else, but you get to use it for yourself.
Once the Lunar Body Type owns his sense of power and control, then the process of independence and peace begins.
The difference between dependency and rebellion, and independence and peace, is that one is an unconscious process of accessing power and control, while the other is conscious. The first two are reaction, and the latter are response.
And no matter how resistant or pulled you may feel, it can be helpful to remember that you were never lost in any of it. There was always a consistent "you" involved that is like that symbolic "dark side" of the Moon, untouched, pure, and raw. You were never lost. You simply found all of you.
That wholeness is the foundation for that peace that would continue to grow.