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[July 3, 2007]
Although this will be in the podcast, most of you have been waiting for this since February, so I don’t want to delay any longer. I think it is so funny (in a sick kind of way) that the subject of Procrastination took so long to get done! hee hee I’d love for any of you with psychology or psychiatry backgrounds to comment on this!
[MICHAEL ON PROCRASTINATION
Procrastination is often seen as a personal problem to be solved or cured as a means to be more productive or to allow more fulfillment, but we have never seen this as an issue that is necessarily negative, but more an element within the personality that is misunderstood and can be harnessed in ways that do bring more fulfillment and productivity without having to engage in some internal battle. We would define Procrastination as “a preference for pleasure over productivity.”
The root of Procrastination is not dread, as many have concluded, but OPTIMISM. There are very few fragments engaging in Procrastination that are not also engaging in a form of optimism; a trust that things will work out, that one will be able to handle the consequences, that others will be understanding, that one can correct a situation, that it is never “too late,” etc. Although this can look to be a negative trait because of the inconvenience it can cause, it is actually a deep trust that is simply misunderstood in your current culture of enforced ambition, time-centric definitions of responsibility, and immediate results. In an Older Soul world, time and productivity are never higher in priority over synchronicity and pleasure, but you do not live in an older soul world, so it is often not appropriate to disregard the current contexts of Young Soul values if one wants to participate in the world. To understand why one has inclinations toward what is called Procrastination can help one to make a more gentle choice to regard time and productivity as equally important values to pleasure and synchronicity. One does not have to choose one extreme over another, but can find a balance.
Procrastination, like every other description of energy in your world, could be described as having Positive and Negative Poles:
In the positive pole, one uses Procrastination to simply do things at one’s own pace and sense of priority, ultimately getting things done, even if laced with pressure, disappointments, distress, anxiety, etc.
In the negative pole there is either an inclination to busy oneself with trivial or distracting tasks to completely avoid the pressing responsibility, or a paralyzing of choice to do anything, choosing instead to do nothing.
For those who engage in Procrastination, there is a similar pattern of imprinting that must be addressed before freeing oneself from the inner battle that is self-imposed. In nearly all cases of chronic procrastination, we have seen 3 influences that have not been fully addressed, each building upon the other:
1. resistance/distaste for authority;
2. by extension, an extreme distaste for absolute obligation;
3. by further extension, a distaste for lack of immediate reward/pleasure from the effort.
These three influences are the inspiration behind the fragment’s sense of Optimism. This is because there is a subtle, if not strong, pleasure gained from holding out against the authority, obligation, and while it is not the most ideal reward, it is more rewarding than conceding. Many who practice Procrastination can attest to this habit being linked not only to the obvious obligations, but to experiences that could be seen as pleasurable, and this can be confusing. We suggest that it is not confusing, but that the “pleasurable” agenda that is avoided or delayed still has some kind of air of obligation attached to it, or Procrastination would not be involved. In nearly all fragments who engage in Procrastination, there is a history of some form of oppressive force in the life that required a form of Optimism as a means to endure and get through to the other side. This optimistic force is then used as a means to deal with any form of authority or obligation, to help keep a focus on dealing with the consequences and responsibilities on the other side of the avoidance and delays.
For the most part, Procrastination then is harmless, even when it interferes with many obligations and responsibilities. If any procrastinator would look closely at his or her life, it would be evident that procrastination is NOT a factor in all aspects of the life, but in only those areas somehow interpreted as being imposed, even when those impositions are chosen or seen as potentially pleasurable. The pleasurable experiences that are avoided are often attached to the phrase, “I really should get around to doing that; that would be fun.” But even the pleasurable agendas can get categorized into “obligations” once a delay has already begun.
The greatest pain caused by procrastination is when the adult becomes his or her own authority, but the distaste for authority and obligation remains without intelligent discernment of the source of authority. In other words, a division is created within the self between the aspect who assigns or chooses the obligations and the one who must carry it out. The distaste for oneself as authority is often overlooked as it is easy to displace this distaste as directed toward those indirectly involved with the choices or assignments one takes on. In addition, the more pain involved with procrastination, the more there is a tendency for that fragment to consume stimulants such as caffeine, sugars, and alcohol as a means to increase valid distractions for the body. It is important to note that the pain of procrastination is not caused by the procrastination, itself, but by the resistance to what has been deemed the “authority,” and when this is inherently the self, it is quite painful to divide oneself in this manner. In effect, the pain is a result of creating an “innocent” side of oneself vs a “bad guy” side of self. Having to manage the energy that it takes to sustain this division, along with the emotional impact of such inner rejection vs protection, can be exhausting. This is why we suggest that this is not a dynamic that is to be cured or overcome, but simply to be understood. Once this unnecessary division is comprehended, a wholeness begins to unfold as a form of freedom, expanding the ability to choose more appropriately to the life’s context.
It has been speculated by many of our students that the Moving Center is somehow connected to procrastination as the Moving Center is also connected to productivity and movement, but the Moving Center is rarely the primary energy that is involved. More often than not, it is the Intellectual Center. As Optimism is the root of Procrastination, the Intellectual Center is called upon to be used as the means to justify the procrastination, providing a range between REASONS (negative pole) and INSIGHTS (positive pole) to carry the fragment through time until either the obligation passes, or the obligation is resolved at the “last minute.” The Intellectual Center can find a myriad of “reasons” and “insights” into why one can avoid or delay the obligations. On the negative end (REASON), there is lying involved and a lack of self-regulation that can lead to distractions with stimulations and escapism, which is directly related to the sense of helpless rebellion against authority, while the positive end (INSIGHT) is simply a lack of interest in practical or time-centric obligations as one takes on more important, bigger tasks with bigger rewards as deemed by the self.
Soothing the effects of procrastination within the life means soothing the reactions to authority, which means telling the truth about the present, and acknowledging the past as the past. For most procrastinators, there is an element of the self that is locked in past battles with oppressive authorities and any indication in the present of another authority is a reliving of that distaste. Bringing the self into the present with the truth (“I am my own choice, not a result of someone else’s choice”) is a means to draw upon the Higher Intellectual Center as a way to bring wholeness to the process of choice and responsibility. It really is as simple as that.
Beyond this, procrastination is a misnomer that describes a way of living life within a culture that upholds ambition and results as being a more stable sign of identity than it does pleasure and freedom. This is not to say that one should fall prey to the effects of procrastination to the point of being incapable of functioning in current times, but more that if one were to understand the inherent division and pattern contributing to procrastination, then one can find one's own definition of productivity and responsibility within the capabilities of the self, and not just defined by external factors. In other words, the external factors that one takes on are CHOSEN in most cases and these can either be chosen with more care and presence, or managed as a whole person telling the truth to oneself, without dividing oneself into authoritarian vs rebel.
Tools for helping the body to be more present so that the Intellect and Higher Intellect can bring insight and truth to your choices:
1. scent of oranges, fresh or essential oil
2. removal or cutting down of stimulants
3. shaking meditation (stand, shake out every part of the body in as comical and fun a way as possible for as long as it feels necessary, then sit for focus)
And remember: you are your friend, not your authority. This simple phrase could be the most profound in setting you free from the negative impact of procrastination.
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Michael Speaks Live Online
March 23, 2014
(3 Hour Session)
Channel: Troy Tolley
We understand the topic of focus is that of the Emotions.
First, as you explore the concept of Emotions, we will point out that "feelings" and Emotions are not, technically, the same things. They are so interconnected that they are often considered the same thing, but for the sake of the topic today, it will be helpful to understand that the "feeling" aspect is a bodily reaction/response to the energy that is Emotion.
Emotions are more like a surge of energy, a kind of electricity, if you will, and your processing of that is what you call "feelings."
All Emotions originate from the Emotional Center.
These are then distributed, or processed, through the Parts of that Center, which funnels the energy into the other Centers relative to the Part.
So, for example, if an Emotion is a Moving Part Emotion, it still originates from the Emotional Center, is processed by the Moving Part, and directed toward the Moving Center then.
We will return to this circuitry a bit later.
All Emotions Are Personal -- Only About Oneself
Because all Emotions are of the Emotional Center, this means they are always related to ORDINAL INSPIRATION. This means that all Emotions are personal, and they are either a result of PROJECTION or REFLECTION.
Emotions are personal (ordinal) in that they only ever tell you about YOU.
Emotions never tell you anything about anyone other than yourself. Ever.
It is an information circuitry that is entirely unique to you, about you, and is all about your collection of experiences, organized in layers of time, and that are then used to measure against your current experiences. All of this is a form of navigation.
This is all true whether one is Emotionally-Centered, or not.
When one is Emotionally-Centered, it simply means this form of navigation is relied upon far more than the other two forms (Intellectual and Moving).
All fragments will have all three forms inherent to the incarnation, of course
No matter how provoked, your Emotions are informing you about you; not the other person or even the event.
When we say that they are "informing you about you, we mean that they are sifting through your collection of experiences over time and comparing the current experience to a past one for reference. If you have a painful experience in your records, a current experience might trigger that painful association and the current experience will be regarded as painful, even if it may not be painful.
Because Emotions are Inspirational, they are LOADED with POTENTIAL. They are not reality. They only speak to the potential of a reality. So, for instance, this reference to a painful experience from the past is only meant to suggest that the current experience MIGHT BE painful, too. It is not meant to tell you that your current experience IS painful.
And therein lies the difference between PROJECTION and REFLECTION.
Projection is a reactionary processing of Emotions that presume that what is "felt" is the conclusive truth. If you feel it, it must be true. That is that. This is Projection.
This is why we continue to remind our students that Emotions are not the truth.
In a sense, Emotions are ALWAYS about the PAST.
So the truth that you "feel" is about the past, not the present or the future.
This is not a bad thing or a good thing, it is simply how Emotion functions.
Even the best of how you feel is a product of the past.
For example: you may find that the watching of the setting Sun is one that brings joy. But this is because it is not your first sunset. First sunsets for many fragments (in those early lifetimes) was terrifying. The world was plunged into darkness and new creatures emerged in that darkness, and nothing was ever the same again. Until the morning, of course. But then it would happen again. This was terrifying.
Eventually, enough experience with sunsets brings Trust, and it is known that the Sun has not died, and it will rise again in the morning.
To be clear, this Trust still cannot speak to the TRUTH. It can only speak to experience. MORE THAN LIKELY the sun will rise, and MORE THAN LIKELY the sun has not died, but there may very well come a night that never ends.
As you can see, Trust then becomes an important Emotion for navigating because one cannot constantly fight and fear a sunset.
If there comes a day when the sun does not rise, you will deal with that. Until then, you live as if the sun will rise again, because you Trust that it will, and you Trust that it will because you have enough experience to do so.
This is no different in processing when it comes to relationships.
It is fair to be wary of new relationships if one has experienced pain in one or more. Your Emotions are telling you to be careful, and that another round of relating COULD result in another round of pain. But, remember, Emotions are not the truth. They are only referencing your experience, and your experience, while your own, is not a constant. You lived in terror for years, afraid that the sun may not rise again. That fear and pain and terror was real. It is fair to be wary as the night falls again.
But your fear, pain, and terror are not a constant, because you continue to gather experiences.
And as your days are found to be filled over and over again, despite the terrors that the night will come, you begin to note this and grow from it, and face each day and night with Trust.
The same is true of your relationships.
The fear and pain and terror of your losses when a relationship ends or departs from expectations can make the next relationship seem a breeding ground for more terror, fear, and pain. But a new relationship is like a new day. IT WILL END. AND YOU WILL NOT.
And just like the passing of days, you will find that relationships, like your days and nights, are uniquely filled with what you put into them, and are not defined by their beginning and "end."
This is REFLECTION, then.
PROJECTION is when you impose your past on an experience, relationship, or event. REFLECTION is when you learn from your past, but allow the greatest potential of the present or future.
What we have shared, so far, is how Emotions function, how they are processed, what they are for, and what they mean.
Though there many words to describe Emotions and how one feels, all Emotions can be traced back to one of seven basic Emotions, or as a combination of two or more of these basic Emotions.
Those SEVEN BASIC EMOTIONS are:
TRUST, DISGUST, ANTICIPATION, SADNESS, JOY, ANGER, SURPRISE.
Trust is of the Instinctive Part.
Anticipation is of the Higher Emotional Part.
Joy is of the Higher Intellectual Part.
Surprise is of the Higher Moving Part.
Disgust is of the Emotional Part.
Sadness is of the Intellectual Part.
Anger is of the Moving Part.
FEAR is not an Emotion, technically, anymore than Truth is or Love or Energy, in any technical sense.
Many "emotions" that are referenced by other terms are combinations of the above, either in negative or in positive pole combinations.
None of these Emotions are bad or good, but all can be experienced in beneficial or harmful ways.
Before we break down these Emotions into polarities, we will open the floor to any questions relative to what we have shared so far.
[DianeHB] What IS Fear, if not an emotion?
Fear is a "feeling," a secondary response or reaction to the processes of Emotions of Anger and Surprise.
Fear, then, could be said to be the body's reaction of protection against negative experiences relative to Anger and Surprise.
Keep in mind that the entire concept of Fear is one that is far more insidious and pervasive than this simplified version we speak of. We are speaking of Fear in terms of Emotions here, but we may speak of fear in larger terms in other discussions.
But for the point of discussion regarding Emotion, Fear is often that bodily reaction to protections against all that is related to negative experiences of Anger and Surprise.
In broader terms, it could be said that Fear is also the bodily response to all of these Emotions in their negative poles.
[Juni] I am wondering about the difference between feelings/emotions and intuition. If feelings/emotions only ever tell you about oneself, how do you distinguish that from a "feeling" about another?
Intuition is different from Emotions. Again, these are often presumed to be the same things, which is why many who use "intuition" are merely guided by a maze of emotions, and not insights.
This is not a bad thing in the end, because when "intuition" is thought to be a process of navigating Emotionally, it can still be helpful, since Emotions always lead one back to the self. This can be just as important as guiding one outwardly.
However, to more directly respond to your question, one's "feelings" about another person can still be useful, even if those feelings or Emotions are informing one about the self. It simply means that one has owned the feeling as one's own, and not as having originated from another person.
If a person "makes you feel good," it is informing you as to how you feel about that person, but it is not necessarily how anyone else might feel about that person. And it only tells you how you feel about that person RIGHT NOW, not about how you will feel about that person in the future. All of this speaks to your past as a reference, too.
If you meet someone and presume that your good feelings are the truth about that person, you have immediately cut yourself out of the picture as a source of those good feelings. This is often the case when "falling in love."
Presuming that these Emotions and feelings are sourced by someone else means that there will likely come a day that the other is then blamed for less pleasant feelings.
This becomes problematic for relating to someone because then the emphasis shifts away from how you contribute to your range of emotions and feelings, and the emphasis shifts toward how to get the other person to make you feel the way you had expected to feel.
So there is no real differentiation here. Your feelings about a person are your own, and are not the truth about another person.
There is a big difference between "I feel good" and "You make me feel good."
Intuition, however, is another topic, and it is a synthesis of input from all of your senses so that comprehension can be gained.
Hi Michael. I've read in psychology articles that insufficient contact or interaction (as an infant) with one's mother (or perhaps both parents) in the form of touch, and responses to facial and other cues, can inhibit peoples' abilities to recognize and describe their emotions (or perhaps, feelings?)
And hence, leading to difficulties in dealing with them (emotions - or perhaps feelings, I'm not sure which based on your earlier distinction between them. Probably feelings.)
Would you say that there is validity to this, and if so, if someone has had this experience in early life, how the processing circuitry is affected (and if possible, tips on how to rectify it, ie, recognize and process emotions effectively?)
Any issues with care taking during the first 7 years can affect the Instinctive Part and, therefore, affect one's TRUST. Trust is reset in every lifetime, but how one is handled, treated, nurtured, born, etc. can skew that function so that it has some range of challenges.
All Emotions are reset in every lifetime.
But as one progresses through the Internal Monads, these Emotions are explored in a way that locks them into Projection or frees them into Reflection.
These are not tied to the Internal Monads in a way that leaves an Internal Monad unfinished if the Emotion is not freed, but there do tend to be periods of the life where the various Emotions are emphasized in exploration.
For example, Trust is explored and emphasized between the 1st and the 2nd Internal Monad.
The 1st and 2nd Internal Monads can be successfully closed, even if Trust is not freed, but there is a rather high correlation to the level of trust vs distrust that one has in relation to whether one has completed those Internal Monads. In other words, there does TEND to be a much higher level of distrust among those who have not successfully closed their 2nd Internal Monad.
DISGUST is explored and emphasized from the 2nd Internal Monad all the way through the 3rd Internal Monad.
This is why you will find your toddlers to teens emphasizing this in ways that can be repellent and difficult.
ANTICIPATION is explored during these, as well.
Whereas SADNESS and JOY are explored and emphasized during the 4th Internal Monad.
While ANGER and SURPRISE are explored and emphasized during the 5th Internal Monad.
This is not to say that these Emotions do not exist as emphasis at any other time. We did not say that, nor did we imply that. But it is to say that those stages tend to be when those particular Emotions come to be truly resolved and freed, or locked into a more restricted state.
Speak to a fragment who is successfully navigating the 5th Internal Monad and you will speak to someone who has all but lost the charge of Anger as a form of helplessness, and has freed it to become a form of motivation.
Emotions as Polarities
This may be a good segue into these Emotions as polarities.
Think of the poles below as describing the Emotion as restricted or freed, and therefore more subject to Projection vs Reflection.
TRUST as restricted might be FOOLISH/DISTRUST, and freed as CONFIDENCE/AWARENESS
DISGUST as restricted might be CAUSTIC/LOATHSOME and freed as HUMOROUS/PREFERENCE
Keep in mind that our polarities here are not necessarily emotions. These are merely adjectives to help understand the spectrum of that particular Emotion.
SADNESS is restricted as PATHETIC/SELF-PITY and freed as GRIEF/HONESTY.
ANGER is restricted as DEPRESSION/BLAME, and freed as MOTIVATION/PURPOSE.
ANTICIPATION is restricted as AGITATION/DISDAIN, and freed as ENTHUSIASM/CONSIDERATION.
[ViP1] Michael, just to confirm, you are giving negative poles first, then positive, as usual (eg, ENTHUSIASM: -ve, /CONSIDERATION: +ve?)
What we are sharing with the two terms for each pole is the branching that the restriction or freeing can show up as. For instance, some restrictive Trust shows up much more like Foolishness or blind faith than as Distrust.
But Foolishness and Distrust are fair ranges to include how the Freed end would show up.
JOY is restricted as OBNOXIOUS/SELF-INDULGENT, and freed as INCLUSIVE/INVITING
SURPRISE is restricted as RESISTANCE/DISREGARD, and freed as ADAPTIVE/PLAYFUL.
To bring further correlation, it could be said that these Emotions are more inherently explored and emphasized in various Essence Roles, as well, though this is certainly in no strict sense of delineation.
Scholars - Trust; Servers - Disgust; Artisans - Sadness; Warriors - Anger; Priests - Anticipation; Sages - Joy; Kings - Surprise.
These inherent Emotions might be said to be a long-term spectrum for each Role to truly comprehend from its worst to its best.
Furthermore, one COULD look at one's overleaves and "translate" his or her profile to show how the Personality might be emphasizing certain Emotions as exploration and emphasis.
For example, if one has a greater emphasis down the Moving Axis, one might be exploring the wide range of Anger and how this is both debilitating and motivating.
We will open the floor for 2 or 3 final questions. We think we have covered a good amount on the subject of Emotions tonight, and these can be further explored in other exchanges with us.
[Tyrant] Do each of the emotion types when blocked or repressed (or stuck in negative poles) have certain types of illness/ailments to them that manifest/what are they? as in, are there consistent patterns in types of ailments
Yes, there can be. However, by the time most ailments are showing Physical symptoms, it is often a mix of two or more Emotions that have remained restricted. We can delineate these in another exchange.
We would, first, want to share how illnesses/ailments can be broken down into 7, before correlating.
If there are no more questions, we will conclude here for today.
Good day to each of you
OMW - May 19, 2012 - Accepting The Unacceptable
Channel: Troy Tolley
The Preliminary Set-up/Preparation
[CocteauBoy] ONE. Write down three things that you find unacceptable. There may be more than that, but pick three very clear things that you find difficult to accept. Make sure these are things that you come across a lot, too. Not something abstract and horrific that is obviously, universally difficult to accept, like child sex rings (unless that is directly relevant to you), but something relevant to you.
[CocteauBoy] Take a moment to do that. (Note: Use syntax of "I find it unacceptable that . . .")
[CocteauBoy] "Unacceptable" here means "something or someone who prompts negative (as in, constricting) reactions in you in a way that you feel you have trouble recovering from."
[CocteauBoy] That "something or someone" can be yourself, too.
[CocteauBoy] TWO. Okay, so here's part two:
[CocteauBoy] List one thing that is unacceptable to you in each of these categories: The World; Other People; Myself. However you want to interpret those. Sort your original list to see if it fills these, but if not, make sure you pick a new one for that category without one.
[CocteauBoy] IF you did name names, you have to translate that into what it is that bothers you about that person.
Note: This is ONE list of up to six items, but can be less due to overlapping items.
Beginning of Channeled Michael
[MEntity] Keeping your list in mind, we will share with you what we think might be helpful for "accepting the unacceptable," what it means to accept, what the path is to true acceptance, and whether it is always the valid choice to make.
[MEntity] To begin any discussion on Acceptance, we must discuss the elements involved with Acceptance.
[MEntity] Acceptance is a Higher Intellectual function. It is the "highest" functioning Center of the body, and is the gateway for Essence to move into the high planes over its evolution and return to Tao.
[MEntity] However, True Agape, or True Acceptance, requires all elements, or Centers (or Chakras) to be functioning in the Positive Poles for that state to be achieved.
[MEntity] This is nearly impossible while Human, or while in a Body. There is almost always a Center teetering toward the Negative Pole, even on the best of days, as there is a spectrum involved in the living of life, and there is no need for one to exist only in the Positive Poles. The Negative Poles are important and useful.
[MEntity] This is why we encourage the aim for Agape, but we also know that it is rare to experience it. To truly Love is not what most know as Love, or Agape.
[MEntity] However, the aim for Agape is a valid aim, even if rare in reaching it, because the aim for Agape means that every single layer of your life is then aiming higher, aiming for wholeness, aiming for health, aiming for prosperity, aiming for whatever has been deemed beneficial. That single aim affects everything.
[MEntity] Aiming toward Agape ensures that every aspect of you, both the most "negative" and the most "positive" are aiming in the same direction, and including everything known and unknown in the life.
[MEntity] Aiming for Agape is also the most effortless direction to aim, despite the rarity and difficulty of experiencing it at the highest levels. Agape is the gravity that will take you "home."
[MEntity] It is our most natural state.
[MEntity] But it is also the most buried and remote in our consciousness so that we must work through the layers to unfurl it, so to speak.
[Maureen] Michael -- wouldn't Agape (Acceptance) be associated with the Higher Emotional Center rather than the Higher intellectual? Am I missing something?
[MEntity] In our system, it is an Cardinal, Expressive Overleaf that resonates to the Higher Intellectual Center, or Truth. There is a reason you may find resonance with the Emotional element, which what we will speak to now.
[MEntity] Love is the Highest Truth.
[MEntity] Regardless of one's Goal and overleaves, Acceptance will still be a part of the life. It may not be emphasized as the challenge, but it will be a part of the life. In the same way that one will grow, even if Growth is not the Goal, so will one Accept, even if that is not the emphasis.
[MEntity] So what we will do today is speak to the most pervasive element involved in the hurdle to Acceptance.
[MEntity] For most, this would be the Emotional "element" or the Emotional Center.
[MEntity] This is because one can know the truth of something or someone and still not Love, or not Accept, because of the Emotional Centering's pull into Sentimentality vs Perception.
[MEntity] The Intellect can often grasp the truth of something while the Emotions cannot make sense of it. We think each of you know of this experience.
[MEntity] This is because the Intellect, when functioning properly, simplfies, reduces, and synopsizes events, people, and self so that the bare bones or structures are all that are necessary for understanding and accepting. The rest is unnecessary.
[MEntity] The Intellectual Centers, both Lower and Higher, can sort through everything to find that structure or core and this is known as Insight and Truth, when they are in the positive poles.
[MEntity] This is not to say that the Intellect is immune to issues, but in the context of our workshop today regarding "accepting the unacceptable," the Intellect can often already be on board, while the Emotions are not in any mood to accept what the Intellect has accepted.
[MEntity] This is because the Intellects use a linear language, or linear understanding, such as words, for its processing. The Emotions have no words, nothing linear, and its language is highly symbolic.
[MEntity] This world of symbolism is highly effective when it is in the Positive Pole of Perception. This is the capacity for one to "know" something based upon perceiving, and bypassing all logic or intellect. It is holistic in its processing, so that all components or aspects of a situation, person, or self are comprehended in a moment.
[MEntity] In the same way that a swatch of color can convey much more than a single English letter, so can Emotions convey whole concepts. The world of dreams is an Emotional world in that way. The Astral Plane, or Emotional Plane, is the same.
[MEntity] Perception is the immediate comprehension of that symbolic language.
[MEntity] It is also the allowance for shift in that symbolic language.
[MEntity] All language is dynamic, and if not allowed for nuances and variations, it can become useless and ineffective.
[MEntity] Sentimentality, then, is the attachment to symbols, or the attachment to symbols, or the attachment of meaning to symbols.
[MEntity] As a simplistic example, the color RED is often immediately meaningful in one way or another, such as meaning STOP, or HALT, AGITATION, EXCITEMENT or WARNING, or it may mean PASSION, LOVE, ANGER, or it may mean REWARD, such as the red of harvested fruits, etc.
[MEntity] For one to truly grasp the meaning of a symbol, the larger context must be considered.
[MEntity] When walking through a red apple orchard, one does not see STOP, WARNING, AGITATION, as one might see on a road with many Stop Signs, and one does not see PASSION, INTIMACY, LOVE, as one might find while walking through a red rose garden, etc.
[MEntity] You would see apples. Fruit. Harvesting, Reward.
[MEntity] So while the color has powerful meaning in itself, the context clarifies that meaning.
[MEntity] But when Sentimentality becomes involved, one begins to attach rigid meaning to the symbols of life.
[MEntity] So your meaning of Red will mean RED in any circumstance.
[MEntity] This is what happens when you have come across the unacceptable. You are seeing your Red, and its meaning, alone.
[MEntity] You have turned the event, person, or aspect of yourself into a symbol that has no room for new meaning.
[MEntity] Or for alternative meaning, at least.
[MEntity] So the greatest pitfall in your efforts toward increasing Love in your life tends to be where you have locked down the symbolic meaning of events, people, or self in a way that you feel justified in keeping locked down.
[MEntity] Before we move on, is everyone following this, and does this ring valid for you? Do you have any questions so far?
[Janet] I think it rings true. I am trying to figure how it applies to some items on my list.
[Maureen] Great so far Michael
[MEntity] Your lists will come in handy as we continue.
[GeraldineB] I had a "bingo!" on the difference between intellectual or linear and emotional symbolism being perception -- will need to chew on it
[MEntity] We will continue now.
[MEntity] For greater understanding of your Emotional navigation, imagine that it is your way of moving about in life with no eyes.
[MEntity] Your Emotions, then, need to reach out, to touch, to feel. This is simplistic, but effective in making our point.
[MEntity] When you feel something that "feels good," it is an immediate knowing that it feels good, and it is often embraced. When you feel something that does not feel good, it is an immediate knowing that it may be dangerous and you might push it away.
[MEntity] Knowing that something feels good, or not, is not the truth, though.
[MEntity] The fur of a Grizzly bear may feel amazing, but it will not keep your skull from being chewed. The burn on your hand from the hot skillet while you cooked has no bearing on the quality of the meal you will consume after.
[MEntity] In short: YOUR FEELINGS ARE NEVER THE TRUTH.
[MEntity] Or rather: never the whole truth.
[MEntity] Your feelings are what you experience ABOUT the truth, but they are not the truth.
[MEntity] Consider any important relationship in your life: one day, you may not feel close at all, and another day, you cannot imagine your life without that person. Your feelings change. They are not the same thing as the truth.
[MEntity] Good days, bad days, good relationships, bad relationships, are determined by your feelings about those things, not by those things, themselves.
[MEntity] This is why one person can find such agitation with something or someone, but another person finds no charge at all, because the symbols are different, and the feelings generated are different.
[MEntity] The actual situation can be exactly the same, but the feelings vary wildly.
[MEntity] This is also why "the truth" is often so slippery, because many are referring only to their feelings as a basis for what is true, and not the truth, itself.
[MEntity] What we are sharing with you today is not just about your list, but about your list as it reflects you. Because our discussion with you today is about the ultimate aim: Self-Love. Everything that is experienced internally or externally in terms of being "unacceptable," are clues as to where and how you will want to aim your capacity for Self-Love.
[MEntity] We realize it has come to be cliche, that "one can only love another if one has learned to love oneself," but we will clarify this as being true that one can only love or accept another to the extent that one can love or accept oneself. The extent to which one is incapable of loving oneself can often be revealed in those areas where one cannot accept.
[MEntity] So we will state here that Self-Love is built upon one's capacity for accepting all of the fluctuations in the Emotions that make up how you know yourself at any given moment.
[MEntity] In other words, it is vital that you allow room for ALL of you.
[MEntity] We will go further here to expand on some terms:
[MEntity] Perception might be defined as that part of you that can transcend the confines of Space, Time, and Logic to grasp the essential and nuanced nature of the self, another person, experience, or event.
[MEntity] Sentimentality might be defined as that part of you that remains attached to the definitions already determined for yourself, another person, experience, or event, often determined only by your own past.
[MEntity[ Perception is based in a state of NOW, if you will, while Sentimentality is rooted in comparisons that takes one outside of Now. For instance, Perception knows that if you are sad right now, it is okay because another "now" comes along, and you know you are not always sad. Sentimentality compares sadness to happiness and seeks to escape Now by longing for the past when happy, or the hope for a future when happy again.
[MEntity] It is not in the comparisons that there can be trouble, but in use of comparison as the distraction away from the self, relationship, experience, or event.
[MEntity] Perception allows you to avoid being trapped by symbolism. It knows that just because you are feeling sad, that it does not mean you are sad. You are experiencing Sadness. That is all. You also know that when you are Happy, it is not permanent; you will still have bad days. Perception "knows" this.
[MEntity] You are incarnating for the point of Being, and that means you would naturally include a spectrum of Being, not one end or the other, if there is such a thing.
[MEntity] To that end, whatever you feel, is a PART of who you are, right now. It is not the entirety of who you are. It is not the truth of who you are.
[MEntity] And so it is that what you find unacceptable is only a PART of whatever is unacceptable. It is not the truth, nor is it the entirety of that which is unacceptable.
[MEntity] There is so much more.
[MEntity] If you wish to accept that which is unacceptable, then, you must start with yourself in that experience, and with your feelings in that experience, and know that you cannot accept the unacceptable until you allow yourself NOT to accept it.
[MEntity] Accepting the unacceptable starts with accepting your lack of capacity to accept.
[MEntity] This irony is a quick short-circuiting of the wheel that can perpetuate terrible feelings in unacceptability.
[MEntity] When you accept your own lack of capacity to accept, your energy can shift toward expansion, rather than defense.
[Maureen] Acceptance of your own Un-Acceptance leads to "eventual" Acceptance?
[GeraldineB] Well, at least to your perception of your unacceptance
[JanaK] because in that you are accepting yourself (not accepting)
[GeraldineB falls off her chair howling with laughter]
[MEntity] Yes, but naturally, not magically.
[MEntity] This is because at the heart of this element where acceptability can get trapped is the capacity for compassion and empathy, and one must generate compassion and empathy for the self before extending that to another.
[Bobby] This rings true to some degree like the mode of passion does. I see things that I don't like/accept but I don't have to take them personally.
[MEntity] For example, many who suffer loss may focus on trying to accept that loss, but the key is not in aiming toward accepting the loss, but in aiming toward accepting your struggle to accept the loss. This may seem a fine line, but it is not.
[MEntity] This goes back to the symbolism of the Emotional Center.
[MEntity] The Emotional Center, when Sentimental, cannot differentiate very well between the self and the symbol, and it can cause great agitation, grief, and reaction if the symbols do not behave within the confines of how they have been defined.
[MEntity] In other words, The World should behave in certain ways because that is how you determined your world should be. Other People should behave in certain ways because this is how you presume you will show up for others. You must, yourself, behave in certain ways that fulfill your symbolic identity.
[Maureen] It can get really tricky
[MEntity] But in the same way that you will have good days and bad days and ALL of those are yours, so will there be "good" people and "bad" people, but they are your people. There will be challenging people and harmonious people, because you are those things, as well. There is a spectrum, not a fence to cross, or to herd everyone over.
[MEntity] What tends to perpetuate a lack of acceptability is the lack of effort to Be Present.
[MEntity] This is because it is considered a threat to the self if the symbol is given any validity, especially if that symbol is behaving outside of what you have deemed acceptable.
[MEntity] For instance, to Be Present to the fact that there will be people at war, even if you prefer Peace, means that you feel you would have to, essentially, accept war.
[MEntity] But the key here is in accepting that there will be people at war, not in accepting war, itself.
[MEntity] There will be people behaving badly around you, based on your standards, and they will exist with or without your accepting them.
[MEntity] To Be Present, however, does not mean you have to remain in an uncomfortable or painful situation, but that you accept that there are people who are okay with what you are not, and that you have the right and the capacity to choose not to be a part of it.
[Janet] Ok, now I think I'm getting it.
[MEntity] To Be Present simply means that you bring your consciousness to the moment and can make a choice from there. Being Present is a first step toward Intimacy, and is a form of it, in itself.
[MEntity] And Intimacy is the first step toward Essence Recognition, which is often the key to freeing one another from the symbols that bind you.
[MEntity] Essence Recognition is the stripping away of all symbols, including the current body and Personality, to resonate with the Essence of another. It is the truth. The whole truth. It is Love.
[MEntity] Keeping in mind that Love, and Essence are spectrums, so that Essence Recognition is inclusive of that spectrum. The unacceptable is included. And this, paradoxically, generates a kind of acceptance that can undo any reactionary cycles of defense that were previously in place against the unacceptable.
[MEntity] For example:
[MEntity] We have said this before, but one does not have to remain in a burning house to learn how to love it.
[MEntity] Being Present means being able to make the choice to step outside of the danger or impact that can very well harm you. It is not a denial, avoidance, reaction, rejection, or a confusion between the house and the fire.
[MEntity] The Fire is a PART of the experience of the House, but is not the entirety of the House.
[MEntity] Making the choice not to burn with the house is not the same thing as not accepting the fire, or not accepting the house.
[MEntity] You accept that you wish not to burn, but that the fire exists, and that the house is being transformed by it. This is acceptance.
[MEntity] It is allowing room for all of these symbols to dance, to move, to change, to interact, and to BE. Being is not defined by predetermined meaning, but by context, creativity, and evolution.
[MEntity] When you look at your list of unacceptable things, then, these are areas of your life looking for new meaning, new freedom, new perceptions.
[MEntity] These are your blind spots.
[MEntity] These are the things you have touched and determined are "bad" only because of how they felt in the dark, so to speak.
[MEntity] Your feelings matter, but they are not the whole truth. Your life reflects you, but it reflects everything, not just you. It is the whole truth, not just the pretty parts.
[MEntity] Bring our consciousness to the equation, make your choices in how to navigate these difficult challenges, but make room for more than the symbolic conclusions.
[MEntity] To put the final empowerment into place for accepting the unacceptable, we will say that if you still deem something unacceptable, it will be helpful for you to know that you are right. You will always be right. No one can take that away from you. No matter how awful you have determined something to be, or how wonderful, you are right. Because it is your experience.
[MEntity] And when you change your mind, or change your heart, you will be right again then, too.
[MEntity] Giving yourself that freedom to be right can help you to remove the necessity for recruiting others to support your condemnation of a symbol, or to justify your not being accepting of something or something.
[MEntity] If you are already right, then the only thing left to do is to navigate. But as soon as you bring in your presence, your consciousness, your navigation begins to include a greater context, and when a greater context is included, your ideas of "right" begin to expand and become more inclusive. It is not a sad day when you realize that "everyone is right."
QUESTIONS and REMARKS
[MEntity] Before we conclude with a clear synopsis, and offer suggestions for how to move the unacceptable into being acceptable, we will take your questions about what has been shared, so far.
[MEntity] If that is a possibility, and your choice, of course. Acceptance is not dependent upon what is possible, or in what you should do, or not do, but in your capacity to allow for that which IS, even as it may be compared to what it should be, or was.
[MEntity] Acceptance is not apathy.
[Janet] That's what I was getting to. Thanks.
[Bobby] I would add the question: why do we care so much what others think about things we either do or don't do?
[MEntity] For example, we know our channel is highly passionate about Animal Rights, and this has made his list of "unacceptable" things in The World. Accepting that there are violations and suffering imposed upon the innocent is not the same thing as resigning from making a difference. The acceptance removes the reactionary, defensive element, and allows for conscious choices, which are far more effective, such as through education and exemplifying alternatives.
[Janet] That's understandable. Mine was Fox News. And fear-based politics in general.
[MEntity] Accepting that this "news" exists does not mean that it is your news, or that it is the truth about the world. It simply means that you allow room for it for those who want it and need it. They want to be as right as you do.
[Janet] And I accept that. 🙂
[MEntity] Accepting that it exists does not mean resigning from countering it, or making known a more fact-based resources.
[MEntity] It simply means that it no longer triggers you, causes defense, or reactionary divisions that cannot allow for it to exist. This is a part of the world that does not reflect you in any obvious way, but we can say that its spectrum between gullibility and some feverish impulses to condemn may be familiar from within yourself.
[Janet] Yes, I am finding that most things that set me off have some connection to things I do myself.
[MEntity] This is what we meant by the Emotions feeling the surface and rejecting the content. On the surface, this prickly subject is obviously unappealing and has no bearing, but beneath that is the innocence that you feel is exploited, and that you wish to heal from your own past.
[MEntity] This is often the core of most of what is unacceptable when it comes to the Older Soul: the healing of, and return to, Innocence.
[Maureen] My husband doesn’t do the dishes – “when” I want him to. This seems so silly -- but it drives me crazy.
[JanaK] you have just spoken for millions of people
[MEntity] The Old Soul is the Infant Soul, exalted. The tantrums are more refined and justified, but that which "drives one crazy" is often used as permission for tantrums.
[MEntity] The unacceptable is often built from the need To Be Right, and is a rejection of Innocence in some way, both of which need serious attention and healing in most cases.
[MEntity] Your husband is Innocent. It is simply not as important to him as it is to you. You have blurred him into your symbolism for who you are, and it is not his job to symbolize you.
[Maureen] I can see that - LOL
[MEntity] Accepting that his priority for doing dishes is different from yours does not mean that you lose your own, but that you now have a choice: allow him to do so on his own, or do it when you want to do it. No one is out to hurt the other by being oneself.
[Maureen] So funny -- he's told me as much Michael
[MEntity] Here are some suggestions for each of you to use in your days and weeks ahead when working with the unacceptable:
[MEntity] Beyond bringing your own Presence into the equation, practice "realizing" the presence of others. In other words, return them to being people, to being real, to having their own pasts, their own ideals, their own validity; return them back to themselves. Remind yourself that this person cares about something, too. It may not be the same as you, but he or she cares. Remember that this person tries to love someone, too, and that he or she struggles with letting himself or herself be loved.
[MEntity] Remember that you feel the way you do because you care, too. And because you try to love, and to be loved, as well. You matter. They matter. So return them from the land of symbolism and give them back to themselves, as you must do for parts of yourself, too.
[MEntity] This helps return your Perception back to a bigger picture, not just the tunnel-vision of reaction and condemnation.
[MEntity] Another suggestion is to extend this "realizing" into what we call "practicing vividry."
[MEntity] This is simply the enhancement of the moment of experience into a moment of awe.
[MEntity] It will not matter what you are doing, or where, but it is the sudden realization that you are present, that your skin exists, that there is light on your face, that there are textures touching you, and that there is a temperature, and that you have a face that has a tongue and mouth and eyes, and that your hands and arms exist, etc. It is the filling up of everything within "reach" with your conscious awareness.
[MEntity] Bringing you and your environment to life through vividry is a powerful way of comprehending just how sleepy you may get in your movement through your days.
[MEntity] One need not be consciously and constantly aware like this at all times, of course, but for you to be able to call upon that at any moment is vital for moving your into Self-Love and acceptance of others.
[MEntity] This is because one can have a very difficult time accepting the unacceptable if one is asleep, as it is much like being in a dream where one feels that the symbols happen without rhyme or reason, and that there is not much one can do but to report on them. Waking up changes this.
[MEntity] And finally, if you were to do this "waking up" before going to bed at night, it can carry over into your days in even more natural ways. Practicing Vividry just before retiring into sleep can help remind you that your day was a specrum that supported everything that is You.
[MEntity] That would include the unacceptable.
[MEntity] Extend this vividry to beyond the moment so that there is a realization that your bed, your linens, your home, and everything in it came from "somewhere," and that a lot of effort and creativity and generosity and even pain and suffering went into all that is a part of your days that you take for granted.
[MEntity] You will not know what went into everything that got to your home tonight, but it is there now, and it is a part of your days, your nights, your comforts, your challenges, etc.
[MEntity] Accepting that these things are in your home does not mean that you cannot deal with them effectively, help transform them, or even remove them.
[MEntity] And that is how the unacceptable is in your life, as well. It is a part of the package of what your life is, and accepting that does not mean that you cannot deal with them effectively, help transform them, or remove them.
[MEntity] We do have much more to say on this topic, of course, but we think this is a start in helping each of you to, at least, soften the effects of the unacceptable, and then to begin the efforts of accepting from there, all the while aiming for Agape and Self-Love.
[MEntity] We must conclude here for now.
[MEntity] Good day to each of you.
[Excerpt from Energy Report: July 2008]
MEntity: By "meditate," we describe a triad of effort that starts with Examination, moves into Implementation, and then into Realization. For July, it would do our students well to examine which of the primary centers (Moving, Emotional, or Intellectual) is least-used or most out of balance, (this should be rather obvious to most of you) and then implement a behavior that brings about that Centering into your life. If you lack balance of Movement, then for a part of your week, your day, emphasize Movement: take a walk longer than you normally would; literally exercise; dance; stretch; do Yoga, etc. If you lack Emotional balance, then expose yourself to elements that provoke or soothe your emotions, such as listening to music (actually listening to it, not just having it as background); experiencing a live concert or performance; watching the sky, sunset, clouds; sitting with nature; etc. If you lack balance of Intellect, then for part of your week or your day, implement Intellectual experiences such as crossword puzzles, brain teasers; singing; shouting out randomly in nonsensical sounds to provoke laughter; telling the truth to a friend or self; writing a list of gratitude; sitting still; etc. On the other side of these experiences one would find the Realizations that come as part of Meditation.
Michael Speaks Live
OPEN FLOOR QUESTIONS
November 24, 2013
Channel: Troy Tolley
Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We can begin our exchanges with you.
We understand this exchange to be focused on the questions and considerations of those students "new" to our teachings.
What we will do to launch this discussion is to share with you how best to go about your approach to learning and studying our teachings, and where best to apply what it is that you learn.
The best way to go about your approach to learning and studying our teachings is: YOUR WAY. The best places to apply the teachings as you learn them is: WHEREVER AND HOWEVER YOU WISH TO DO SO.
We know of no "best way" for either of these things
Your questions are yours. Your path is yours. Your pace is yours. We have not presented our teaching in a linear or delineated way for a reason. It is a spherical teaching. It can be approached from all "sides" and each side is interlaced with every other side. You cannot go wrong.
[dave] hello michael. is there anything in particular that would identify the influence as you when i am making choices? is there a way to hear each of our guides individually? i feel love for them and am incredibly grateful.
[MEntity] First, we will say that we, nor your guides, have much influence through even the most willing of fragments. "Influence" from guides can only come in three forms: insight, perspective, or support. We know this can be considered influence, but we wish to clarify that we cannot do more than what is asked of us.
[dave] i get it. those 3 are what i mean.
Next, we would say, yes, there are ways to differentiate between "you" and your guides/us. However, this takes time and awareness. Most fragments are quite content with the more practical "inner voice" that one tends to know as one's own voice.
Because we do not have a voice, nor do your guides, the indicators for those voices tend to need to be defined by the listener, and then listened for.
For example, if you have a guide who is sought for help with career choices, you might assign a more distinct authoritative voice to this guide. That guide will not override this, and all guides would rather use any voice you can hear than to not be heard when you most wish to hear them.
[dave] yeah. i think i maybe shouldn't care too much about it. just that i make wise choices.
If a guide or teacher does not have a distinct "voice" assigned to them, we can say that voices of guides with INSIGHT tend to come with more unaffected, flat deliveries, while voices of PERSPECTIVE tend to come with more "personality" and even symbolism, and voices of SUPPORT tend to come as quite comforting and quiet.
All of these would tend to come as "bursts" or spontaneously, and it is in those moments that you can begin to build your awareness of what each "voice" tends to, and how it is slightly different from your own.
We are speaking of those who live with guides and teachers, not of those who pursue a career in channeling where the differentiation is far more important to distinguish.
[Connor] Hello Michael. This is a question I've run into a couple times which has not been clarified to date, as far as I know. Can Transcendental Souls create karma? An example of Muhummad comes to mind, whose teachings didn't quite 'get across'.
Any fragment who is incarnated can create Karma. It is always a gamble.
However, by the time one has come to be Transcendental, the requirements necessary for the formation of a Ribbon or Ribbons would be highly unlikely.
Karma can be generated without Ribbons. It is the Ribbons that are evaded, not the Karma.
[Connor] Ah. Still learning to differentiate the two.
Karma is imbalance generated by intensity of interference of choice. This almost always generates a Ribbon. A Ribbon is the unattended necessity for balance that is caused by the imbalance.
Older Souls and beyond in Soul Age tend not to generate Ribbons because they can process any imbalance quite rapidly, and it is rarely relative to any Physical Plane requirements for balance.
[Connor] So then the fragment who killed Gandhi, for example, would not have generated a ribbon, despite the act of murder? (if time allows)
For example, a Transcendental Soul may still find himself distracted with the pleasures of the Physical Plane, as was Mahatma Gandhi, and generate some Karma because of some irresponsible choices that create imbalances between himself and others.
There was no interference of choice in terms of the Physical Plane, but there was neglect and indulgences that created imbalances in the Emotional and Intellectual realms. These were then balanced in those realms, such as through dreams or after the life.
[MEntity] Dying is wholly understood and known to be built into the life of a Transcendental Soul. It is expected. The death is often orchestrated through Agreements in a way that would bring about the changes that the life may not have been able to generate. Karma *could* be generated through the murder of a Transcendental Soul, but it has yet to be done. This is because there is simply no sense of intensity or violation to generate the imbalance necessary.
[Kurtle] Hey Michael, I'm getting to know the overleaves better. For today could you elaborate on the Caution and Power modes and how they appear in older souls(mature and old)? The definitions we have here typically apply to the younger souls so clarification would be useful in how they “manifest”.
The Mode is how one RELATES. This is how one relates to the Goal, to the life, to others, and how one goes about securing Intimacy in the life.
At the core of Caution and Power are EXPRESSION, so these will be all about the FORM.
Regardless of Soul Age, Caution will relate DELIBERATELY (with intention) as a way to give form to a relationship, to a goal, to intimacy.
When the forms of relationship, goals, and intimacy are not felt to be representative of Caution, it can fall into PHOBIA, or an extreme aversion to most everything that is in relationship to the fragment.
ah that makes sense.
Well the definition of phobia I mean.
In the older souls, DELIBERATION can come in the form of having quite specific standards and parameters for what is of interest for relating to the fragment. Think of Caution as DISCRIMINATION in the context of relating. Deliberation aims for Sophistication.
So Caution Mode is about refining relationships.
When Caution is in Phobia, it is like Discrimination in Rejection.
[Kurtle] It sounds like a friend of mine. 😛
It is a refusal to take responsibility for the forms that have been created or allowed.
Caution could be said to be an emphasis on how the other half of the equation of Relating takes form, whereas POWER is about how YOU take form in the equation of Relating.
Power is about how PRESENT one is in a relationship.
The more Present one is, the more Authority one has over the self.
[Kurtle] So it's like Caution is adapting itself to the situation and Power is adapting the situation to itself?
[MEntity] When POWER feels its Presence is not taking form, it can compensate by falling into OPPRESSION.
[Kurtle] Kind of like Enforcing their presence on others. Ah I see.
In the older souls, Power is all about being awake in a relationship. When the old soul falls into Oppression, he has fallen asleep. If Power is like ACCEPTANCE, the Oppression is like Ingratiation. It is about losing one's form as a way to conform so that one has some sense of power, in the same way that Ingratiation is about doing what one thinks is necessary in order to be loved.
Of course, Ingratiation is not Love, and Oppression is not Power.
Kurt, in the younger Soul Ages, Oppression does come as more of an enforcement of presence upon others, but in the older souls, this turns around so that one begins to shrink in the shadow of anything deemed more powerful.
For all of the Overleaves, try this for understanding the differences between how they manifest in younger Soul Ages versus older Soul Ages:
Add SELF- to the Positive or Negative Pole of the term.
[Kurtle] ohhh that make s a lot of sense.
For instance, in Discrimination, the Negative Pole of Rejection is more often SELF-Rejection for the Old Soul. The Goal of Acceptance is more about SELF-Acceptance. CAUTION Mode can fall into SELF-Phobia, or the Stoic into SELF-Resignation. And so on.
This is not always a clear differentiation, but it can help.
[Kurtle] Ah, would that be the same for the Mature Soul? Self- I mean.
[GeraldineB] That's for another time, Kurt
[GeraldineB] Time to move along 🙂
[MEntity] By "older" we always mean mid-Mature through Old.
Sex education for children is something that seems particularly important in order for children to know how to manage their impulses with respect for themselves as they become older, and yet it is approached in wildly varying, ad hoc ways that typically depend heavily on cultural background.
Such approaches range from no intentional attempt at sex education at all, rather avoiding the topic completely, to complete openness that might strike other people as awkward and inappropriate.
The education itself might come from parents, or from teachers, or from friends, or from the media, or all of those. In addition, there is usually some degree of awkwardness in parents around even raising the topic with their children to begin with.
Do you have any insights on how to approach sex education for children, irrespective of their cultural background, in a manner that is inclusive of their own makeup, that is appropriate to and respectful of their needs and level of mental/emotional development, the best age for children at which to introduce it, and who such education might best be provided by?
The greatest approach to sex education is through the removal of shame from the equation. The rest is fairly moot. Shame is easily learned, and this informs one more so than any other guiding factor for health.
We say that the rest is fairly moot because most education for children regarding a topic that cannot be fathomed is difficult to instill in any meaningful way, and for those in the throes of it simply cannot hear. "Education" would be most effective in removing shame, and inviting choice.
By inviting choice we mean that children would do well to know that they have a choice for being safe, asking for more information, accessing protection, etc. For some, the details are helpful, for others the details are meaningless, but for the entire spectrum of ages and cultures, CHOICE is what is often missing from the equation of education.
"You do not have to understand what you are doing, just that you have a choice in how you are doing it."
Once the power of choice is in a child's hand from any culture, and the weight of shame is removed, the eagerness for "better choices" comes naturally.
In short: reduce shame, increase choice. This can be implemented in any number of ways.
[HunterG] Hello Michael, I know you have said listening to music can be a direct link to essence. My question is "What is the interaction with essence in the context of CREATING music?" Because not much has been said in that regard.
The process of creating music is often the process of manifesting Essence. It is a bringing of the language of the Astral Plane into form.
All music is an extension of the Astral Plane.
This could be said of any Matter, actually, but music is one of the more fluid and concise extensions.
Different kinds of music extend from different levels of the Astral Plane, but all of it is an extension of this Plane.
This includes the "music" of non-sentient species, as well.
[HunterG] Would there be a way to differentiate the different kinds of music?
[MEntity] Yes. Think of the Astral Plane as something like an Emotional Center with all of its Parts. The Moving Part would be that which encourages movement/action. The Higher Moving would be that which encourages resonance/Beauty. The Intellectual Part would be that which brings Expression, such as song, lyrics, etc., while the Higher Intellectual would be along the lines of choral, or philosophical/Truth explorations in word, and the Emotional Part would be that which soothes and calms, while the Higher Emotional Part might bring healing/Loving. Music is not one or the other of these, but often a mix of at least 2 or 3.
If there is a question to which we can respond in brief, we will take that to close out our session.
If there are no more questions, we will conclude here for tonight. Good evening to each of you.