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    True Humility vs. True Pride

    Jana

    What is true humility, and what is true pride – as opposed to, respectively, self-abasement and chest-thumping?

     

    [Troy] This is a great question, especially when a Chief Feature having a “positive pole” seems a contradiction. According to my work with Michael, they have commented on why Chief Negative Features can never, truly be “positive” and that is because the entire premise of a Chief Negative Feature is that it is based in DIVISION, or Separation. The negative pole usually describes a division that is BOTH within the self and between the self and the external world, whereas the positive pole describes a closure of the division within, but then remaining standing in division from the world.

     

    Don’t forget that Chief Negative Features are all just terms to describe the act of protecting yourself from something that is NATURAL.

     

    FROM MICHAEL:

    Self-deprecation is the act of protecting oneself from the natural experience of inadequacy. Inadequacy is not only NATURAL, but a vital part of the internal Inspirational process; somewhere within the life those in Self-Dep have determined they must fight against the experiences of Inadequacy, thus reducing all forms of personal Inspiration. The negative pole is Self-Abasement, which describes a division internally as created by an over-emphasis of every, single Inadequacy, while another part of you struggles to protect you from that. Protection comes in the form of proving to you that you are inadequate so you never try that again, using much external evidence to support this, thus dividing you from the world through amplified weaknesses and showcased failures. Humility is a step toward integration as internal divisions begin to mend, allowing room for successes, despite inadequacy, yet shunning any external acknowledgement of this, thus remaining divided from the world.

     

    Arrogance is the act of protecting oneself from the natural experience of Vulnerability. Vulnerability is not only NATURAL, but a vital part of process of gathering external Inspiration; somewhere within the life those in Arrogance have determined they must fight against the experiences of Vulnerability, thus reducing the experience of all forms of external Inspiration. The negative pole is Vanity, which describes a division internally as created by an over-emphasis of every, single Vulnerability, while another part of you struggles to protect you from that. Protection comes in the form of proving to you that you are exceptionally vulnerable so that you never expose yourself again, using much external evidence to support this, thus dividing you from the world through calculated, showcased superficialities or through private, wounded resentment (shyness). Pride is a step toward integration as internal divisions begin to mend, allowing room for exposure despite vulnerability, yet celebrating or highlighting differences as a means to remain divided from the world.


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