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    [Excerpt from Membership Gratitude Event]

     

    [Note: This list was apparently requested a second time, and Michael provided different but similar content.]

     

    Tyrone: Can I have the 7 Angles of Behavior for Transforming the Chief Feature of Stubbornness like we've gotten for the action and inspiration axis CFs?

     

    MEntity:
    ONE ) BABY STEPS - for those in Stubbornness there is a fear of change, either coming from themselves, or reflected around them in others. Change will happen no matter what, but if you wish to bring about change and fear it, you can begin with "baby steps." You do not have to overhaul or make a sharp turn. If you are in control of the change or you are inviting that change in others who resist it, go as slowly as necessary.

     

    TWO ) HAVE A PLAN - Stubbornness is terrified of change, and while a plan can always be derailed, it can be helpful to have created some form of structure that allows for you to navigate with sign posts and indicators that act as safety points to catch your breath.

     

    THREE ) CHANGE IS POWER - it may not always seem to be a "good thing" when change comes, but if you resist change you can begin to recoil from life and go into defensive stances. What is helpful is to ride change as if it were a wave, to harness it as if it is in your favor, even if you do not know for certain. Find one "good" thing in the mix of energies moving about and focus on that. For example, if you are losing or have lost your job, harness this energy and find or create another. We are not implying this is easy, but it is your best option for navigating.

     

    FOUR ) LOOK BACKWARD AS A WAY TO LOOK FORWARD - If you look to your past you will find a multitude of examples where change has come and gone and you survived. You may not always have certainty or comfort, but you always have YOU. And giving credit to your past for surviving or thriving change can help to empower you for the next wave of change.

     

    FIVE ) TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE SCARED - Let others know you are scared. When change comes that is terrifying or unexpected or chaotic, you are not expected to endure this alone. It is okay to be scared. It is okay to express this and share it. You may not find the perfect help for your situation, but you have let your panic move up and out of you so that you are no longer carrying so much of it. And this helps.

     

    SIX ) SHARE YOUR DREAMS AND DESIRES - You can get ahead of change by looking forward and allowing room for your "hopes," your dreams, and desires to be infused in the waves of change that will continue to come. Share these with others. You may not be able to anchor yourself and halt change, but you can plant the seeds of dreams so that change can bring with it the tools, probabilities, and opportunities that help change to be experienced as a "good thing."

     

    SEVEN ) YOU WILL DIE - the deeper core of the fear of change is the fear of death, the greatest unknown, the greatest change, so every change feels like a "death." You will die. Over and over. Not only within the life, but across lifetimes. It will happen. It has happened. You survived all of it. You will change. Everything will change. Change is no more the end than death is. 


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