[Excerpt from TT: 2016-02-09 Personal Session]
Question: I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "caring appropriately" mentioned in this month's energy report and whether I've been caring "too much" or not enough. I think I'm prone to caring too much to the point of wanting control over things I can't control, and caring only toward certain people I want to care for. I tried to distance myself from the work to reduce my stress level, but now I'm having a hard time caring enough. What would "caring appropriately" look like in this situation?
MEntity: Caring appropriately is a dynamic dance among the opportunities and pitfalls of Having, Being, and Doing. In more delineated terms, this is a dynamic dance among the Lower Centers so that one must navigate between the pitfalls that are Sentimentality, Reason, and Frustration and the opportunities that are Perception, Insight, and Productivity.
MEntity: To understand where one is in the spectrum of Caring, it can be helpful to assess where you are in these terms.
MEntity: If you are caring too much or too little, then you will struggle with the attachments that are Sentimentality, the excuses that are Reasons, and the repetitiveness that is Frustration.
MEntity: If you are caring appropriately, then you will see beyond symbolism and bypass attachments to make choices because they are the unconditionally right (loving) choices, not based in only expectation, investment, and reward. You would stop depending upon excuses and see if your caring is the honest and authentic (true). You would take a look at your patterns of frustration to see if there are different paths or approaches that can be made toward that which you desire (beauty).
MEntity: When you care appropriately, it does not mean it will not have any sentimentality, reasoning, or frustration, but that you look at these states to see if they are valid, or only generated due to circumstances.
MEntity: For example:
MEntity: You can love someone and then find that they grow ill and become a burden that is difficult to navigate. You may wish for the past (sentimentality) and feel guilty over your resentment even as you feel obliged to care (reasoning) and you may feel nothing you are doing is making a difference (frustration). These are products of your circumstances. They WILL be a part of the range of experience that be extracted from the event because they are valid.
MEntity: If you continue along those lines, you are not caring appropriately. It would be better to have someone else care.
MEntity: However, if you acknowledge these states as inherently natural to the event, but consciously and actively aim for rising above these, you can care appropriately.
MEntity: Caring appropriately means INCLUDING those states, but not being consumed by them.
MEntity: Caring appropriately means consciously aiming away from attachments to prescribed symbols so that you can see yourself clearly reflected in the event (perception/inspiration). It means consciously honestly assessing if you are learning anything and that your participation is authentic (insight/expression). It means being willing to aim away from emphasis on necessary repetition and routine and adding to that the necessary energy that may endure and uphold desires and intentions (productivity/action).
MEntity: If you are unwilling or uninterested in aiming in those directions, you may not care enough, or you may care too much about something unrelated.
MEntity: Three quick key thoughts can help you navigate: BE PRESENT, BE HONEST, and BE ACTIVE in your choice to care. If you cannot, then it is time to consider alternative directions.