[Extracted from Energy Report: April 2016]
It could be said that Discrimination is the process of learning how to say NO through saying YES and Acceptance is the process of learning how to say YES through saying NO.
For those in Acceptance, this tends to be far more apparent. The inclination to say Yes to everything and everyone is, eventually, found to be meaningless, empty, and exhausting if there is no sense of power and meaning in saying No. Saying Yes out of fear, obligation, routine, or “just to be nice or liked” is not a true Yes. That is the Negative Pole: Ingratiation. To truly mean Yes, one must know when to say No. For those in Acceptance, this is a hard lesson and can be painful to take those steps in establishing clear boundaries and parameters of acceptance. Ironically, the more comfortably one can say No, the more unconditionally one can say Yes, and be in the Positive Pole: Agape. ...
What tends to happen for both Acceptance and Discrimination is that this “hard lesson” of learning to say Yes or No is avoided by “doubling down” on saying what has always come to be familiar. So Acceptance will “double down” and become deeply entrenched in saying Yes to something, losing themselves in that Yes, and investing deeply in whatever has become the focus of that Yes so that the No can be avoided. Discrimination will “double down” and become deeply entrenched in some statement of No as a way to avoid saying Yes.