[Extracted from MMW: Understanding your Overleaves]
Johanne: I am working as a team with 2 other people. We are not fully functional because one seems to me to be in the negative poles of her discrimination goal and realistic attitude. The two others: we are both in acceptance goal; for attitude: one is pragmatic and one is spiritualist. How such 3 set of overleaves could work better together or how to help each other to get out of the negative poles? The 3 of us are in observation mode. We all have arrogance in one of our CF.
To be brief, you can focus just on the discrimination: how to help go from the negative to the positive
REJECTION comes when one does not want to make a choice. One tends not to want to make a choice when the choices are not appealing, or when the choices are unclear, or one does not want the responsibility of choice. It is "easier" to simply reject than it is to do the work of Refinement. REFINEMENT is a state of responsibility for choice, the work of understanding and clarifying and questioning.
Sometimes the process of Refinement for Discrimination can look like the Negative Pole to others who do not use the same process for making choices.
If the individual is in the Negative Pole, there will be no effort to understand. If the individual is working through a personal process and is simply being difficult for those who have a different process, then it is likely not the Negative Pole.
Those in Discrimination, even in a sustained Positive Pole of Sophistication/Refinement, can often be deemed "difficult."