[Extracted from NWM: 7 Stages of Goal]
Note: This is a complex topic and the full transcript should be reviewed for context. The following extract for Growth is intended as a quick reference.
Inner Negative = ESCAPE
LOCK/BALANCE = CONFUSION
Outer Negative = RESISTANCE
GOAL - GROWTH
Inner Positive = STIMULATION/FRICTION
BALANCE/LOCK = EVOLUTION
Outer Positive = RECOGNITION
AnnH: I am perhaps being too literal here. But for example in Growth... The Outer Extreme is Recognition. Whose recognition and how is it manifested?
In all inner or outer states, the term can be used to describe how you bring that to others, or how others bring that to you. For example, in RECOGNITION as an Outer Extreme, it can play out as either your receiving feedback that recognizes your evolution, but that your evolution is dependent upon that feedback, or it may show up as your evolution depending upon your recognition of the growth of others.
In either way it shows up, it is about recognizing that you have grown, that you have evolved.
ViP2: hi Michael - can you provide similar elaboration for Growth ...
GROWTH is the process of learning how to create meaning.
When you are in Escape or Resistance, you are in CONFUSION.
Or, rather, when you are Resistant or seeking Escape, CONFUSION seems to be the answer or solution.
CONFUSION is the rejection of the consequences of choice.
As long as you are confused, you cannot be held accountable for your choices.
That is the theory, at least, when in the negative pole.
Confusion can come when one does not like the choices from which to choose, or when one has generated so many directions of choice, it is terrifying to choose.
To unlock oneself from Confusion, it can be helpful to GROW UP.
GROWTH is all about creating meaning, but there is responsibility in the creation of meaning, so Growth is also about owning one's responsibility.
In other words, your confusion is your own, not that of someone else's. Your confusion is yours to resolve, not to use for hiding until someone else makes your choices for you.
So if you think in terms of GROW UP, this helps one to make even the most incremental of moves toward responsibility and this is Evolution.
Does this make sense to you?
ViP2: Partly, but it feels like a fine line between growing up "from the inside", and growing up based on external/societal expectations. Or not a fine line, but something that would require constant attention to not fall into. The latter wouldn't really be growing up, I think. The former being growing up based on what one really wants, not what is expected from the outside. Otherwise, it does make sense.
That may be because of the charged phrasing. We are not stating it as a shaming, but as a way to use the term GROWTH as a verb in helping you move out of Confusion. By "GROW UP" here we mean that YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO CHOOSE. USE IT.
EVEN IF THAT CHOICE IS NOT TO CHOOSE. IT IS A CHOICE, AND YOU OWNED IT. AND THAT IS EVOLUTION.