[Extracted from OMW: Equality in Relationships]
For Growth, Relating is all about extracting Meaning. When one forces or imposes that Meaning, it can move into Confusion. When one creates that Meaning, and allows it to change, there is Evolution.
For those in Growth, all Relating tends to have "some kind of meaning." Growth tends to swing in its extremes from "what does this mean about me?!" to "wow, that says a lot about you!" to a balance of shared Meaning that is nuanced and inclusive, rather than divided and exclusive.
It is paired with Re-evaluation, because Growth often requires a return to simplicity for help and returning to Meaning, or Evolving, through Relating.
Question: What is the difference between "forcing" or imposing meaning and creating it?
Forcing is prejudiced and decided before the Relating has even started. Creating is to use the ingredients available in the Relating.
Confusion leaves out many of the ingredients that Relating, or a Relationship, provides. Evolution uses all of the ingredients that are available.
In other words, "you mean something to me, you evolve me, only if you do so on my terms," and sometimes, "I mean something to you, I evolve you, only if I do so on your terms." Evolution, however, is "we mean something, we evolve each other, only if we do so on our terms, and those may shift and change."
In terms of Relating, Growth then would be learning to Create Meaning when aiming to Evolve, and to Allow Meaning when rising above Confusion.