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    Janet

    This material was taken from a private session originally posted on January 22, 2011.

     

    Q: I'm a little concerned of our daughter, as she's become really shy outside the circle of the closest family and friends. She's been a very strong-willed toddler, and when she was younger I would've never imagined she'd be a shy child, but now she is. I wasn't shy as a child, so I have troubles relating to her feelings. What would be the best way to deal with this now, to encourage her, but at the same time make her feel it's okay to be shy?

     

    MEntity:

    We see this as a stage of her developing consciousness that is simply particular to her way of becoming aware of "Other."

     

    It is only just dawning on this fragment that "other" is not always a safe or familiar extension of "mother, father, or me." This is natural. Shyness, in this case, does not appear to be based in fear as much as it is in the beginning of her Overleaves being ignited. A child "grows into" Overleaves, and though it takes approximately 7 years for this to be completed, the various Overleaves begin to manifest at different times.

     

    During the 2nd Internal Monad, the first of the Overleaves will begin to manifest, and this will set the stage for the general arc of the entire lifetime. For instance, if the Attitude sets first, then the life would take on a more philosophical or Intellectual tone, whereas if the Mode is activated, then the life may bring more emphasis to the themes of relationships and intimacy, while the Goal would bring a life focused more on the gaining of experiences for the point of that Goal.

     

    This first activation usually happens during the 6th Stage of the 2nd Internal Monad as Autonomy is being realized. In this case, the Goal has been activated, and this means the reality of the spectrum of Acceptance has now been comprehended to some meaningful degree. The 2nd Internal Monad is already a rather fragile process, with a great need for supply of security and value from caretakers, and when a child activates a Goal of Acceptance, then that supply is in even greater need.

     

    Bringing to her a sense of safety when she needs it is exactly what she needs, and upon securing that realization that she is safe, she will then begin her own methods for how to Accept or Be Accepted. Emphasizing her value to you, to herself, and to the world, can also help to expand the sense of self-esteem, which would then help her to move more confidently through the challenges of Acceptance.

     

    Your own history that lacked shyness is because of your igniting your Attitude first, which gave you a very early, quick, and clear perspective of what and who you were in relation to others, allowing for a more solid sense of self.


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      By Johanne
      Atteindre votre But

      Traduction d’un atelier avec l’Entité Michael (EM) le 15 novembre 2014

      Canal : Troy Tolley

       

      Source anglaise : https://our.truthloveenergy.com/topic/193-omw-nov-15-2014-reaching-your-goal/?tab=comments#comment-365. Texte adapté du livre anglais « The Book of the Books », 2018. 

       

      Entité Michael (EM) :

      Bonjour à chacun de vous. Nous sommes ici, maintenant. Nous pouvons commencer.

       

      Aujourd’hui, nous sommes invités à parler des Buts, en mettant l’emphase sur comment chacun de vous, individuellement, remplissez votre But.

       

      Gardez à l’esprit que le But est précisément cela. C’est un But. Cependant, comme pour de nombreux buts, la cible visée continue toujours d’évoluer de façon exponentielle tant que l’objectif demeure. Il n’y a jamais de ligne d’arrivée pour un but conceptuel.

       

      Il y a des buts tangibles et des buts conceptuels.

       

      Les buts tangibles sont toujours alimentés par des buts conceptuels, et les buts conceptuels sont toujours atteints à travers des buts tangibles.

       

      Notre système met l’accent sur le But Conceptuel, ou But abstrait, et ressemble plus à un état à atteindre avec une certaine satisfaction, au cours d’une vie.

       

      Par exemple, le But de la Croissance ne sera jamais atteint au cours d’une vie, sauf en termes de comment l’individu dont la Croissance est le But trouve ce cheminement satisfaisant.

       

      Bien que le But ne décrive jamais la Personnalité, il est inhérent à la biologie d’une Personnalité parce qu’il fait partie de ses Attributs.

       

      La raison pour laquelle le But ne décrit jamais la Personnalité c'est parce qu’il est un But. Il n’est pas déjà réalisé. Il n’est pas déjà un état inhérent à cet individu.

       

      Cependant la motivation est inhérente, ce qui signifie qu’en comprenant son But, on peut comprendre presque tous les aspects de sa vie et pourquoi ils sont générés comme des expériences.

       

      Pour chaque But, il y a ce que nous pourrions appeler les 7 « versions » ou états qui décrivent où l’on se situe dans ce qu’on vise pour ce But.

       

      Ces 7 versions ne sont pas nécessairement linéaires et sont les mêmes à travers les vies, les Âges de l’Âme, les Niveaux et les Personnalités. En d’autres termes, une Âme Nourrisson dans sa première vie pourrait rencontrer toutes ces versions d’un But.

       

      On ne peut pas rejeter le But. On ne peut qu’atteindre ses différents états, en visant à partir des pôles positif ou négatif.

       

      Donc, quelqu’un en Acceptation travaille TOUJOURS sur l’Acceptation.

       

      Quel que soit votre But, voici les 7 versions (états) :

       

      PAR DÉFAUT — Tendances/Résistances

       

      C’est celle où penser, remarquer ou ressentir à propos de son BUT demande le moins. C’est le Par Défaut.

       

      Les expériences s’accumulent et l’Essence les trie plus tard.

       

      Par défaut, il y a des tendances générées dans la vie à cause du But, et ces tendances peuvent ou non être remarquées, mais parfois on y oppose de la résistance.

       

      Quand il y a de la résistance, il y a de la douleur.

       

      La vie « semble » amener des tendances vers l’Acceptation, la Croissance, le Flux, etc. et on les navigue ou on les combat.

       

      Quand on fait l’expérience de la vie comme un état constant de douleur pour le corps, c’est que le But fonctionne probablement dans l’état Par Défaut.

       

      C’est le moyen de navigation le moins conscient.

       

      Ce n’est pas une « mauvaise » chose, mais une réalité du spectre de notre conscience.

       

      DÉCISIONS — Direction/Déni

       

      La prochaine version d’un But commence à inclure une conscience plus attentive à la façon de naviguer avec les tendances Par Défaut. Cela se fait par des DÉCISIONS. On commence à remarquer que l’on peut décider à partir de ces tendances. C’est là que l’on commence à apprendre à dire non à une direction. Tous les fragments apprennent à dire non avant d’apprendre à dire oui.

       

      Ce n’est pas la même chose que le Choix. Nous reviendrons plus tard sur le concept de Choix.

       

      Les Décisions pavent la voie aux Choix.

       

      Donc du côté positif, on apprend à dire non de façon à inclure plus de conscience à sa direction, mais certains peuvent tomber dans la tendance à dire non à tout, niant complètement leurs tendances dans la vie.

       

      Quand on constate qu’on est dans un état constant de NON qui empêche les expériences, alors on est probablement dans cette version de notre But.

       

      DIFFÉRENCE — Prévoyance/Apathie

       

      C’est quand on commence à remarquer les tendances dans notre vie d’une manière qui nous donne le sentiment de pouvoir faire une différence dans ces tendances. Il ne s’agit pas seulement d’arrêter une direction, mais de la changer.

       

      Ceci permet d’avoir une vision de l’avenir, de planifier, de considérer les conséquences. Quand les Décisions donnent l’impression que l’on regarde dans des directions où il y a des embranchements sur notre chemin, la DIFFÉRENCE commence à créer ces embranchements.

       

      Il s’agit de la première version du But où l’on commence à se sentir responsable du chemin et de l’état du But.

       

      Ceci peut être un peu écrasant et la Personnalité peut se dégager de cette responsabilité en tombant dans l’Apathie.

       

      C’est là que l’on présume que « ce qui a à arriver, va arriver » ou que « c’est la volonté de Dieu » ou en termes plus actuels de « laisser cela à l’univers ».

       

      Ce sont des formes d’Apathie.

       

      Elles ne ressemblent pas toujours à ça, parce que les mots peuvent sembler poétiques ou savants, mais ils sont un désengagement de notre responsabilité à créer.

       

      EFFORT — Volonté/Limbes

       

      Il s’agit de la version du But où les tendances ralentissent énormément sans la participation consciente de la Personnalité.

       

      Les expériences ne viennent pas, les tendances sont répétitives, familières et il y a très peu de « nouvelles » choses qui font leur apparition dans notre vie.

       

      Pour la première fois, le But requiert votre participation pour la génération d’expériences.

       

      Ceci signifie que l’on doit Vouloir faire l’Effort, pour générer activement des expériences. Beaucoup trouvent cela décourageant et tomberont dans des tendances familières qui apportent très peu à leur vie en termes d’expériences, et leur vie tombe alors dans les Limbes.

       

      PARTAGE — Intimité/Conflit

       

      Il s’agit de la première des versions du But où l’on commence à graviter, intentionnellement ou non, vers ceux qui partagent le même But.

       

      Trouver un terrain d’entente dans des expériences aide à apporter de l’Intimité. Le But devient alors une sorte de terrain de jeu partagé par deux ou plusieurs personnes.

       

      Cependant, cela peut également venir avec un grand investissement dans son But de sorte que l’on perd la capacité de se lier avec ceux qui ont un But différent, ou même avec ceux qui n’abordent pas notre But de la même manière.

       

      Cela mène alors au conflit.

       

      Certains des plus grands conflits peuvent survenir parmi ceux qui partagent le même But.

       

      DÉFI — Enthousiasme/Frustration

       

      C’est la première fois que votre But commence à être véritablement mis à l’épreuve par des forces extérieures.

       

      Vous maîtrisez probablement votre But à ce stade, connaissez ses tendances, êtes prêts, partagez, etc., mais « tout » semble se mettre en travers.

       

      C’est la première fois qu’il n’est pas « facile » d’obtenir un certain sentiment d’accomplissement de votre But.

       

      Ce n’est plus seulement une tendance par défaut qui fait obstacle à votre But, mais c’est une tendance qui semble vous faire dérailler de tout sens de direction relié à la réalisation de votre But.

       

      Du côté positif, ce sont l’optimisme et l’enthousiasme qui vous gardent ciblé sur le But. Les Obstacles sont abordés comme un moyen d’atteindre un nouveau niveau du But, et non comme un moyen de le faire dérailler.

       

      Du côté négatif, la frustration peut venir, on peut se sentir vaincu, déprimé, en colère et supposer que rien de ce qu’on fait ne peut nous aider.

       

      Plutôt que de négocier votre chemin et de faire appel à la créativité, vous continuez à faire les mêmes choses encore et encore tout en vous attendant à des expériences/résultats différents.

       

      CHOIX — Création/Indulgence

       

      Maintenant, votre But est dans un état de Choix. Vous savez que vos décisions pavent la voie à vos choix, vous assumez vos choix qui créent vos expériences et vous utilisez la créativité pour tous les obstacles, difficultés, défis, etc.

       

      L’indulgence est une forme passive de Choix en ce sens que l’on reconnaît que l’on n’a peut-être pas le choix en tout temps, et on le sait, et on est d’accord avec ça, car le choix est actif là où il peut être.

       

      L’indulgence peut tomber dans des états de paresse, mais la conscience est tellement présente à ce stade que, même si la paresse n’est pas préférée, elle est assumée comme un choix.

       

      Résumé

       

      S’il est vrai que ces versions/états ne sont pas séquentielles, elles se construisent les unes sur les autres; toutefois l’on peut être dans n’importe laquelle de ces versions à tout moment. Une fois que vous atteignez le CHOIX, cela ne signifie pas que vous ne retomberez pas, par exemple, dans le Par Défaut. En effet, la Personnalité est réinitialisée à chaque vie. C’est du nouveau. Ce n’est pas une progression. La Personnalité est conçue à partir de la progression de l’Essence, et plus la Personnalité est consciente, plus l’Essence est impliquée dans sa vie, donc il y a évolution, mais la Personnalité peut « revenir en arrière », contrairement à l’Essence.

       

      Il est difficile de revenir en arrière, même pour la Personnalité, mais cela peut arriver et cela se produit.

       

      Souvent.

       

      Plus l’Âme est âgée, plus cela devient difficile.

       

      Nous allons maintenant ouvrir la file d’attente pour vos questions concernant ce que nous avons partagé jusqu’à présent, et demander à chacun de vous de partager où vous pensez être dans votre propre version de votre But.

       

      LA FILE D’ATTENTE EST MAINTENANT OUVERTE

       

      Janet : À un moment donné, vous m’avez dit que 12 Décisions peuvent conduire à un Choix qui crée un embranchement ou un moment pivot dans la vie. Y a-t-il un lien entre ces états et cette corrélation avec le nombre 12? Et je pense que j’ai atteint au moins le PARTAGE mais le CHOIX semble correspondre aussi.

       

      EM : Janet, les 12 Décisions qui mènent à un Choix décrivent comment le processus du choix est généré dans n’importe quel aspect de la vie. Les versions du But décrivent comment on progresse dans la capacité de choisir par rapport au But : d’une approche passive ou moins consciente du But à une approche plus active ou consciente.

       

      En d’autres termes, les 12 décisions du choix seront toujours en vigueur, avec ou sans conscience ou éveil actif.

       

      Les versions du But décrivent donc une sorte de processus d’appropriation des décisions et des choix relatifs au But/aux expériences.

       

      GeraldineB : Comme je vis avec une détérioration articulaire, de l’arthrose, qui semble également héréditaire, je ne vois pas la corrélation entre votre énoncé « Quand on fait l’expérience de la vie comme un état constant de souffrance pour le corps, c’est que le But fonctionne probablement dans un état Par Défaut », et mon état actuel dans l’utilisation de la Discrimination.

       

      EM : Nous pourrions être plus clairs en ajoutant « OU que le But a probablement fonctionné dans l’état Par Défaut pendant une très longue période. » Lorsqu’il y a douleur chronique, c’est toujours une indication d’une grande résistance à « quelque chose », et c’est souvent relié à des expériences générées par les tendances par défaut du But.

       

      Plus la douleur est intense, plus ça fait probablement longtemps.

       

      Les douleurs émotionnelles et physiques peuvent être le résultat de plusieurs années de tendances, et cela peut prendre autant d’années pour les inverser ou pour s’en libérer. La douleur intellectuelle ou spirituelle peut aller et venir assez rapidement et est souvent davantage représentative d’expériences plus locales de la Personnalité dans le temps.

       

      GeraldineB : Ai-je expérimenté la Discrimination plutôt comme un rejet pendant longtemps ?

        

      EM : Oh, oui, Géraldine. Le rejet et rejeter ont été le Par Défaut pendant de très longues périodes.

       

      Gardez ceci à l’esprit : votre douleur physique est maintenant une douleur physique. Cela peut vous aider de comprendre ce qui a conduit à cette douleur chronique, mais une fois qu’elle est physique, il est valide de la traiter simplement en termes physiques. C’est pourquoi cela devient physique : pour donner de la tangibilité à l’intangible qui était difficile à gérer à l’époque.

       

      Vos traitements, votre soulagement et prise en charge sont tout à fait pertinents pour le passé.

       

      Il n’est pas nécessaire de déterrer les anciennes tendances pour gérer la douleur actuelle.

       

      La douleur actuelle est un langage symbolique qui parle de cette douleur et de tout ce que vous avez besoin de savoir à son sujet.

       

      Nous ne disons pas cela pour décourager tout examen plus approfondi, mais il y a un sens à la douleur. Elle est ici, maintenant. C’est là que vous voudrez être aussi.

       

      GeraldineB : Douleur = langage symbolique ?

       

      EM : Oui, la douleur est un langage du corps. Elle parle toujours de notre résistance à un certain niveau. Même si cette résistance est seulement celle de la peau qui résiste à une piqure.

       

      Plus la douleur est chronique, plus les tendances dont cette douleur parle sont grandes.

       

      GeraldineB : Une digression : est-ce également vrai pour toute la douleur dont souffre Troy ?

       

      EM : Oui, Troy n’est pas exempté, bien sûr. Sa douleur est liée à un manque de soins attentionnés. Ceci est souvent représenté par son manque d’apport en d’eau. Le manque d’eau et d’hydratation génère la plupart de ses problèmes, et ceux-ci témoignent de sa résistance à permettre des soins attentionnés. Peu importe qu’il puisse embrasser consciemment l’idée. Il s’agit d’une tendance qui remonte à il y a longtemps et qui parle à la personne « la plus importante » de sa vie qui l’a torturé, et ainsi il la porte d’une façon insidieuse en négligeant l’apport d’eau, une force vitale pour le corps.

       

      Nous ne pouvons pas parler davantage sur ce sujet pour le moment.

       

      Claire2 : Je pense que je suis à Défi, oscillant entre Enthousiasme et Frustration. Dernièrement, je suis très consciente d’avoir choisi « de ne pas » me laisser aller à être frustrée, mais j’ai du mal à maintenir mon Enthousiasme. Je deviens très consciente du Choix, mais je ne sais pas toujours quels sont mes choix.

       

      EM : Claire, c’est une question importante. Si l’on découvre qu’on se trouve dans une version négative du But, des solutions peuvent être trouvées dans la version « précédente ».

       

      Dans ce cas, le retour au PARTAGE est vital.

       

      Vous voudrez tendre la main, créer des liens, générer et entretenir l’intimité avec les autres. Votre enthousiasme viendra de ce défi, de ce retour à quelque chose qui vous manque, qui est l’intimité.

       

      Si vous sentez que l’intimité fait déjà partie de votre vie, alors vous pouvez vous tourner vers elle comme un lieu pour votre enthousiasme. Profitez simplement d’être avec vos proches. Cela vous aidera à maintenir votre enthousiasme élevé, votre frustration basse, et à garder votre esprit ouvert et créatif pour quand vous verrez d’autres choix.

       

      Si vous sentez que le Partage/l’Intimité fait défaut, alors que cela soit le défi sur lequel vous vous concentrerez.

       

      Trouvez cela. Créez cela. Permettez cela. Encouragez cela.

       

      KittyMac : Je n’arrive pas encore à connaître et à comprendre le But de Discrimination, tant en général que dans ma propre vie. Je me reconnais dans la plupart des 7 versions que vous décrivez de sorte que je ne peux pas nécessairement dire où je suis en ce moment. Est-il possible d’être partout comme ça ? Ou suis-je simplement en train de m’aveugler pour ne pas voir où je suis vraiment ?

       

      EM : Nous pensons que vous pourriez aimer la vérité que « oui » est vrai pour vos deux questions.

       

      Tout d’abord, ceci n’est pas inhabituel pour ceux qui sont en Discrimination. La Discrimination peut être décrite comme étant essentiellement comment la Personnalité apprend à choisir, à raffiner les choix et, le plus important, aimer les choix. Ainsi, lorsque l’on n’a pas atteint un certain degré de raffinement du choix, alors tous les choix/directions semblent valides et pertinents. Ainsi, le spectre des versions du But ressemble au spectre qui est vous lorsque vous apprenez à choisir et à raffiner vos choix. La Discrimination consiste à apprendre à dire non et à le penser. Ne pas seulement dire non pour dire non. La Discrimination peut constater qu’elle dit oui à tout jusqu’à ce moment-là.

       

      Mais ce sentiment de pertinence pour toutes les versions du But peut aussi être le symptôme d’une personne dans l’état d’EFFORT.

       

      Quand on est dans l’Effort, on regarde dans toutes les directions pour avoir des conseils, de la considération, des commentaires, des idées, etc. afin que la Volonté puisse être mise derrière l’Effort. Jusqu’à ce moment-là, les Limbes peuvent ressemblées à un éparpillement et un étalement entre les différents états.

       

      Lorsque vous participez à l’Effort, vous vous engagez automatiquement dans une direction qui ressemble davantage à un mouvement vers votre But.

       

      Cependant, tout cela étant dit, il est toujours vrai que l’on trouvera de la pertinence et de la familiarité avec toutes les versions d’un But si l’on est vivant et conscient assez longtemps.

       

      SUITE…

       

      EM : Parce que chacun de vous peut se déplacer dans ces versions de votre But, il est utile de comprendre toutes les versions, puis de noter où vous en êtes. Tel que décrit à Claire, si vous trouvez que vous êtes dans le pôle négatif de votre version du But, regardez la version précédente pour savoir comment retrouver un sentiment de progrès.

       

      Si vous trouvez que vous êtes dans la version négative du Par Défaut, retournez à CHOIX et dansez entre la Création et l’Indulgence comme un moyen de vous sortir de la résistance.

       

      Vos « devoirs » ne sont donc pas seulement d’explorer ceci sur le plan de votre propre approche de votre But, mais de regarder autour de vous pour voir si votre compréhension des versions du But peut vous aider à comprendre les gens dans votre vie, votre monde.

       

      Nous avons donné notre avis. Nous pensons que chacun de vous savez assez bien où vous vous trouvez à un moment donné, et puisque cela fluctue, et que ce n’est pas particulièrement une progression où l’on s’arrête, il est plus logique que vous évaluiez cela par vous-même. Nous savons que Troy nous a invités à commenter où chacun de vous se trouve dans votre But, mais il ne savait pas que nous décririons ce processus comme étant non statique et moins linéaire.

       

      Nous pouvons répondre à vos questions.

       

      Maureen : J’ai eu beaucoup de mal à « accepter » ou à composer avec l’état de santé de mon mari et son déclin et sa mort éventuels. Mes niveaux d’anxiété « habituels » ont fortement augmenté et la dépression est apparue. Je pense que je me suis éparpillée, mais je suis récemment (je pense) passé au DÉFI. Je veux me libérer du DÉFI de la situation et passer au CHOIX au sein de mon But d’Acceptation. Je veux entrer dans un état de Véritable Acceptation et ne pas résister à ce qui est inévitable, pour nous tous, dans la vie. J’ai reçu un message clair il y a quelques semaines alors que je conduisais. J’ai entendu : l’anxiété est de la résistance.

       

      EM : Premièrement, il est important de noter que là où l’on est dans son But c’est là où l’on est. Il ne s’agit pas d’échapper à une version pour passer à une autre. Vous êtes dans une version de votre But parce que c’est le domaine sur laquelle vous travaillez, ou comment vous travaillez sur ce But. Le Défi est exactement là où vous êtes parce que vous êtes au milieu d’un grand défi. Accueillir ce défi est la seule voie à suivre.

       

      Vous n’êtes pas au mauvais endroit parce que vous êtes mis au défi. De plus, si vous vous trouvez dans la version négative du Défi, alors cela indique votre besoin de revenir à l’Intimité, de tendre la main, de vous connecter, d’être plus proche de quelqu’un. Vous êtes sur la bonne voie.

       

      Avoir de la difficulté à « accepter » la douleur, la maladie ou la mort d’un être cher n’est pas une faiblesse. C’est la vie. C’est naturel. Ce sont des défis, peu importe où l’on se trouve par rapport au But.

       

      Vous visez trop haut lorsque vous visez à accepter la mort, la douleur et la maladie. Ceux-ci ne nécessitent pas votre acceptation. Ils n’apportent ni avantage ni paix à vous ou au concept que vous les acceptiez.

       

      Seule la conscience doit être acceptée. Que ce soit sous forme de sentience, d’êtres chers ou de toute créature de raison ou de sentiment.

       

      Acceptez votre bien-aimé. Votre compagnon. Acceptez-VOUS. Le reste prendra soin de lui-même.

       

      « L’anxiété est de la résistance » est vrai, mais pour aller plus loin, l’anxiété est une résistance à la confiance ou un déni de la confiance. L’anxiété est la douleur de la méfiance.

       

      La vie est comme une personne pour ceux qui l’aiment.

       

      Donc, quand la vie fait du mal à un être cher, ou à soi-même, c’est un choc, cela semble personnel, cela incite à se méfier maintenant de cette « personne ».

       

      VOUS avez expérimenté la vie. C’est tout ce que vous avez expérimenté. VOUS n’avez jamais expérimenté la mort. Vous ne pouvez pas faire confiance à la mort. Vous n’avez aucune expérience de la mort. Pourquoi voudriez-vous vous forcer à faire confiance à quelque chose dont vous n’avez pas l’expérience ? La vie est ce en quoi vous avez confiance. Vous la connaissez bien. Peu importe que votre Essence ait eu des centaines d’incarnations. Chaque incarnation ne connaît que la vie jusqu’au moment où elle meurt. Elle ne connaît que très brièvement la mort.

       

      La vie ne vous a pas trahie. On peut toujours lui faire confiance. Mais la mort viendra. Elle est aussi inévitable que la respiration l’est pour vivre. La seule façon de basculer dans la confiance de la mort est de savoir que la mort est à l’Essence ce que la respiration est à la Personnalité.

       

      Vous connaissez l’Essence. Vous faites partie de l’Essence. Vous pouvez faire confiance à l’Essence. Et, éventuellement, elle prend son souffle. Elle doit respirer pour vivre. C’est comment vous êtes en vie et pourquoi vous mourrez. Mais c’est aussi comment et pourquoi vous n’aurez jamais de fin.

       

      Nous savons que la mort et la perte sont douloureuses. Nous n’avons pas oublié. Mais nous pouvons vous assurer que, même s’il n’y a pas de « paradis » au sens propre du terme, et que l’au-delà est moins romantique que l’imagination ne le souhaiterait, « vous » continuez. Nous sommes une entité intégrée avec des millions de Personnalités qui s’agitent parmi nous. Elles ne s’en vont pas. L’intégration n’est pas la même chose que la désintégration.

       

      Cependant, pendant que l’on vit, vivons. Pendant qu’un proche malade est vivant, laissons-le vivre. Quoique cela signifie, et cela pourrait signifier quelque chose de terrible ou de beau. C’est la vie. Rendez votre confiance à la vie et vous retrouverez votre confiance envers votre bien-aimé, vous-même, l’Essence et l’existence.

       

      Ce retour de la confiance peut aider à soulager votre anxiété, mais pas votre lutte. Pas vos défis. Ils sont là, peu importe comment vous les regarderez.

       

      Regardez-les différemment et l’acceptation viendra.

       

      Nous devons conclure ici pour aujourd’hui. Mais nous continuerons à nouveau. Comme vous tous, peu importe quand arrivera le jour de votre conclusion.

       

      Au revoir, pour le moment. Cela sera toujours « pour le moment » pour n’importe lequel d’entre vous.

       

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      Décisions

      Direction/Déni

      Conscience plus attentive à la façon de naviguer avec les tendances Par Défaut.

      Différence

      Prévoyance/Apathie

      On commence à remarquer les tendances dans notre vie d’une manière qui nous donne le sentiment de pouvoir faire une différence dans ces tendances. On commence à se sentir responsable du chemin et de l’état du But.

      Effort

      Volonté/Limbes

      Les tendances ralentissent énormément sans la participation consciente de la Personnalité. Le But requiert votre participation pour la génération d’expériences.

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      Intimité/Conflit

      On commence à graviter, intentionnellement ou non, vers ceux qui partagent le même But.

      Défi

      Enthousiasme/Frustration

      Votre But commence à être véritablement mis à l’épreuve par des forces extérieures.

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      Création/Indulgence

      Vous savez que vos décisions pavent la voie à vos choix, vous assumez vos choix qui créent votre expérience et vous utilisez la créativité pour tous les obstacles, difficultés, défis, etc.

       

    • Bobby
      By Bobby
      MMW - September 16, 2017 - Understanding YOUR Overleaves
       
      MEntity:
      Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We can begin. We will suggest further clarification of this format for this topic:
       
      We encourage our students to never become complacent with knowledge. There is no end point to learning, as far as we know. There are plateaus upon which one would explore a focus on application as a means to gain experience, but one must continue to move to another plateau.
       
      The overleaves tend to be a point of re-entry for most of our students and they quickly become a foundation upon which all other elements of the teaching are built.
       
      It is often assumed that once one grasps the general idea of overleaves and their details then there is no more to learn, but continued learning is vital for this teaching to remain alive and valuable to you. A discussion such as the one posed for today is not a revisit to Overleaves, but a continuation of learning.
       
      There are 7 paths of continued study in our teaching or any other subject of deep interest: EXPOSURE, EXPERIMENTATION, CHALLENGES, APPLICATION, MEANING, SHARING, TEACHING. Application is the assimilative stage and can be inserted anywhere in this map.
       
      Many of our students will choose a path of study and then move into Application, but not move to another path.
       
      Most of these terms should be fairly self-explanatory, but we will briefly elaborate before opening to questions.
       
      EXPOSURE - the initial introduction to any new concept or new angle on a known concept.
       
      EXPERIMENTATION - questioning, testing, observing, exploring that new concept.
       
      CHALLENGES - the concept is met with conflict, conflicting experience, confusing experience, debate, doubt, and found to not work as expected.
       
      MEANING - the concept is finally owned, understood, and its value clear to the student.
       
      SHARING - you see the concept could be valuable and meaningful to others and seek to find ways to share your knowledge as insight, guidance, advice, or introduce others to the concept for them to explore on their own.
       
      TEACHING - the student now lives with the concept fully integrated so that simply existing becomes a model for the concept and others can see the effects and influence of this teaching with or without actual introduction to terminology or details.
       
      APPLICATION - the concept is at a resting plateau as other concepts are explored and pieced together with it.
       
      The sequence of learning tends to be in this order, with Application inserted as necessary.
       
      More accurately, this is the Sequence of Continued Study.
       
      Once one has reached a Teaching stage, it is always likely that a new angle will come on what was previously thought to be fully understood.
       
      Today we will focus on your questions and then you may see where you fall into the Sequence of Continued Study.
       
      We open the floor now to your questions about any Overleaf and any context.
       
      FLOOR IS NOW OPEN
       
      Johanne: Is APPLICATION = plateau, a halt in the sequence?
       
      MEntity: Not exactly a halt, but a slowing down.
       
      Johanne: You said: choose a path of study and then move into Application, but not move to another path. What is this path?
       
      MEntity:
      Application is a kind of resting point give one the room to see where one has been, where one is, and where one might go next in studies.
       
      Johanne, that path would be relative to the individual. For example, many of our students enter at Exposure and this is quite inspiring and exciting, and then move into Experimentation as a way to understand themselves better in light of this new terminology, and then will move into Application because she feels she now has a basic grasp on what her own Overleaves mean. She remains in Application and does not move on to Challenges because she feels understanding herself to a certain extent is all that matters.
       
      Johanne: Ok, I got it clearly. Thanks
       
      MEntity: NEXT, Lucianna.
       
      Lucianna: I would like to understand more about passion mode. When, for example, I think it's the family problem. This would be an manifestation of the negative pole of passion mode, the identification. Or is it something else?
       
      MEntity: Luciana, we ask that you clarify what you mean by "I think it's the family problem."
       
      Lucianna: I mean me. I always had the feeling that the biggest concerns of my family. The worst of the bad parents was about me and my future. I had some difficulty at the beginning of school life. And some difficulty getting a job. This raised some concern as to what I would get. And I already felt like being the family problem.
       
      Lucianna: I wrote some things wrong
       
      MEntity:
      We understand.
       
      Yes, Passion is involved here, but the core of the pain comes from your Acceptance, the Goal.
       
      Your challenge and motivation in this life is all about Acceptance.
       
      One of the most painful and beautiful things you will learn with a Goal of Acceptance is that Acceptance is not the same thing as APPROVAL.
       
      Lucianna: ok
       
      MEntity:
      You may never receive the approval you seek, and you may not approve of how your family behaves or supports you, but you can accept them and they can accept you.
       
      The pain comes from when you feel you must be different, to be something better, to be something more, to meet some condition of expectation in order to be accepted.
       
      Lucianna: yes
       
      MEntity: INGRATIATION is when one assumes that one should comply to the expectations and standards and conditions of others as a way to be accepted. INGRATIATION is also when one expects others to comply to expectations, standards, and conditions before being accepted.
       
      Lucianna: I see
       
      MEntity:
      What you will learn with the Goal of Acceptance is that your loved ones are also human and have their fears, their wishes, their worries, their hopes, etc. and they can be messy in how this is expressed if they are about you. If they express frustration with you, or disappointment, or higher wishes, or worries about you, this is not the same thing as being accepted or rejected.
       
      Others will always have their own ideas about what you can do to be a better person or have a better life. Listen to them and use what inspires you, but if it does not inspire you, it is not for you. It is not about you.
       
      Passion Mode can add to the pain because it can feel as if the criticisms from loved ones is about you as a Being. Though it is not always clear, loved ones often mean to criticize actions and choices, not the person, not the innocence and beauty of the person.
       
      Lucianna: yes, I understand
       
      MEntity:
      It is up to you to learn the difference between messy criticism and hurtful insults. If you determine it is only hurtful insults, then you have every right to establish your boundaries. If you determine it is simply messy criticism, then you can use that when it is useful, and discard it when it is not.
       
      We must move to another question to accommodate group dynamics, but the response above is a start in helping to understand your family dynamics better.
       
      NEXT, DIANE
       
      Diane: Pat posted not too long ago that she has a hard time figuring out the roles/overleaves of family and long-time friends. I've noticed that I have the same experience of having a hard time discerning overleaves of family, and some I’ve had profiles channeled that I can't validate easily or at all. I'm wondering if this is because I grew up with them and are used to seeing them a certain way, because they behave in certain habitual patterns around family (which I do too), because they're behaving according to imprinting...or what?
       
      MEntity:
      Your assessment is correct. Through this channel we deliver that which is on record in the Akashic. Those Manifesting Essence and True Personality are quite rare, particularly when in family or social dynamics. The tendency is to immediately present the most presentable persona, and/or the most protective persona.
       
      What can help in validation is to start with the ATTITUDE. This tends to be the most difficult to hide for long if there is interaction of any depth.
       
      It can also help if you design a set of Overleaves that describe how you understand and experience the other person. Let this stand as your interface for understanding them until they are more revealing of their True Personality.
       
      The above suggestions are for when the information delivered in channeling is fairly accurate, but there may also be instances when the information is distorted or incorrect. A Student will always have to consider that possibility.
       
      Diane: That helps, thank you
       
      MEntity: NEXT, JOHANNE
       
      Johanne: I am working as a team with 2 other people. We are not fully functionnal because one seems to me to be in the negative poles of her discrimination goal and realistic attitude. The two others: we are both in acceptance goal; for attitude: one is pragmatic and one is spiritualist. How such 3 set of overleaves could work better together or how to help each other to get out of the negative poles? The 3 of us are in observation mode. We all have arrogance in one of our CF.
       
      Johanne: to be brief, you can focus just on the discrimination: how to help go from the negative to the positive
       
      MEntity:
      REJECTION comes when one does not want to make a choice. One tends not to want to make a choice when the choices are not appealing, or when the choices are unclear, or one does not want the responsibility of choice. It is "easier" to simply reject than it is to do the work of Refinement. REFINEMENT is a state of responsibility for choice, the work of understanding and clarifying and questioning.
       
      Sometimes the process of Refinement for Discrimination can look like the Negative Pole to others who do not use the same process for making choices.
       
      If the individual is in the Negative Pole, there will be no effort to understand. If the individual is working through a personal process and is simply being difficult for those who have a different process, then it is likely not the Negative Pole.
       
      Those in Discrimination, even in a sustained Positive Pole of Sophistication/Refinement, can often be deemed "difficult."
       
      Johanne: ok, may be it is the process that is hard on us (acceptance). Very hard on criticisms.
       
      MEntity: Yes, this is Good Work: to consider if you are the ones implementing defenses against something that you do not like or understand. Acceptance can quite easily fall into the assumption that others or the self must comply to make things easier.
       
      Johanne: Having a realistic and a spiritualist working together is a bit of a challenge too
       
      MEntity: Many times it is not about easy or difficult, but about listening and compassion and patience.
       
      Johanne: Very right indeed
       
      MEntity: Experiencing challenges is something you can work with. Even when all are in the Positive Poles there will be challenges. It is only when Fear becomes the currency of exchange that you lose the capacity to move forward together.
       
      Johanne: I will remember that !
       
      MEntity:
      It can be helpful to announce and clarify that each of you bring a strength of perception to the collaboration and that you welcome all of it. Make time to hear each other out. But make it clear that a process must be in place that is acceptable for final decisions, even if you do not like that final decision.
       
      Acceptance and Discrimination will always benefit from the experience of "being seen and heard." That is at the heart of either of these Goals.
       
      Johanne: thank you!
       
      MEntity: NEXT, BOBBY
       
      Bobby: With my Mode being Perseverance and the fact that our Mode is how we relate one on one, would you perhaps speak about how exactly you see that I do that with this Mode and what obstacles come to the surface most for me when I attempt to use it?
       
      MEntity: For Perseverance, "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS" is a motto to live and die by. No amount of talk or presentation or explanation cuts it for Perseverance. You have to see results. This is true of how Perseverance relates to others and to the self.
       
      Bobby: Poor Troy 🙂
       
      MEntity:
      Perseverance despises weakness and insecurity and excuses, particularly when they are only used as a means to avoid Right Action.
       
      Perseverance learns about himself and others by constantly assessing the value of ones Actions. This can lead to relationships that are full of scrutiny toward your own Actions or lack of Actions, or can lead to relationships where attention is focused on others and what they are Doing or Not Doing so as to avoid your own insecurities, weaknesses, and excuses.
       
      Eventually, when Essence is Manifest and True Personality is present, the pitting of the self against others, and the pitting of the self against the self, comes to an end. Perseverance shifts into unity and combination of strengths to help fill in for weaknesses, not out of resentment and obligation, but from true vulnerability and responsibility.
       
      Weaknesses are no longer despised, but are healed.
       
      Actions are no longer assessed in terms of superficial standards to comply with expectations, but are assessed in terms of HARMFULNESS.
       
      This is the difference between UNCHANGING and PERSISTENCE.
       
      UNCHANGING is not about moving forward, but about holding someone or the self back.
       
      UNCHANGING is about locking someone into their flaws and insecurities and not letting them grow until they show some sort of acceptable remorse, guilt, shame, etc.
       
      PERSISTENCE is about moving forward, flaws, insecurities, frustrations, and all.
       
      You Persist. You learn how to carry everything and keep moving forward.
       
      This is true for yourself as well as any relationship.
       
      You draw the line if there is HARM.
       
      Bobby: Would you see it as it exists currently at the Application, Sharing or Teaching stage?
       
      MEntity: You are in SHARING.
       
      Bobby: Ok. Thank you!
       
      MEntity: FINAL QUESTION: Maureen
       
      Maureen: What are true abrading Overleaves?
       
      MEntity:
      All Overleaves in the Negative Poles. All Overleaves on an Axis. Overleaves with numerical values that add up to more than 7.
       
      For example, the Exalted Action Axis carries an inherent value of 7 and will tend to have the most abrasion with other Overleaves. A King must learn very quickly how to work with this natural state of abrasion. It is what hones the King into a great leader.
       
      The Exalted Inspirational Axis has an inherent value of 6 and can be quite abrasive to all Overleaves not associated with Server (1).
       
      The inherent bond of a set of Overleaves on an Axis that "adds up" to 7, such as Re-evaluation (1) and Growth (6) also comes with inherent abrasion by being on an Axis together. This makes for a kind of yin/yang dynamic that helps the personality "slide" between these as necessary.
       
      It is a misnomer for us to use a King as an example above. We speak of the Axis that are King Overleaves. Abrasion is rarely between Roles, only the Overleaves and how they are used.
       
      We will conclude here for today. There is more to learn. There is always more. And we encourage our students to continue banking their questions for when the time is determined by you as ready to ask. Allow your plateau of Application to be useful, but you will always move into another stage or path if you wish to continue studies.
       
      Good day to each of you.
       
      Goodbye, for now.
       
    • Kasia
      By Kasia
      OMW - Aug 18, 2012 - Honest and Accurate Self-Assessment
       
      Channel: Troy Tolley
       
      Note from Troy: 
      This class idea came from my asking Michael about a personal assessment. I wanted to know "how I'm doing" with this life.
       
      Of course, they turned it all around on me and pointed out that they can't really do an assessment like that, not only because they have no interest in describing FOR us what we should or could be doing vs what we are doing, but they also pointed out that their entire teaching is based on having those tools for self-assessment already!
       
      So they pointed out that the Positive and Negative Poles were already a way to gauge where we are with ourselves.
       
      Still, I wanted to know if they would describe a method, then, for how to go about doing that. They didn't have to do the work, but maybe elaborate upon a method. So get your pens and paper all set.
       
      Make a list of: [this thought was never completed]
       
      Make a note of the Positive and Negative Poles for each of these next to each. Make sure you are leaving room for going back to write next to the list items.
       
      I'm going to turn the class over to Michael for the next part because I think they can explain the method much more eloquently, but also as you go through the assessment, they'll have more access to you for help with it.
       
      ********
       
      MEntity:
      Hello to each of you. We are here. We can help facilitate your interest in self-assessment, which is not a new practice for any of you, though these more technical methods may be.
       
      Each of you are self-assessing on levels that tend to be fairly constant.
       
      Sentience tends to be built from this capacity for self-assessment.
       
      Consciousness grows from self-assessment processes, and this evolves the Essence over lifetimes.
       
      However, a great amount of self-assessment processes are never completed until Review. Only half of the process is usually initiated, with the second half rarely completing the circuit.
       
      We use the term "self-assessment" specifically here, as this is a process of judgment of yourself on your own terms.
       
      As we have said many times, Judgment is a healthy function of Personality and consciousness, and is, in fact, vital. The fear of Judgment generates a couple of the Chief Features, but it is not Judgment that is the problem there; it is the fear of it.
       
      Judgment is natural and healthy.
       
      There is a great difference between condemnation and judgment.
       
      So this is the first thing to differentiate. Your Self-Assessment is not self-condemnation.
       
      It is a critical eye, and is, therefore also, self-criticism, but again, criticism is a healthy tool, and is not the same thing as condemnation.
       
      Most tend to pass off self-condemnation as self-assessment and this makes the process of self-assessment a tedious, exhausting, and fruitless task for your consciousness to sustain.
       
      Self-assessment is not asking "what am I doing wrong?" "what am I doing right?" "what needs to be fixed?" Self-assessment is best understood as Self-understanding.
       
      The better you understand yourself the better you can then make choices from there regarding your emotions, actions, thinking.
       
      Our system is set up so that this self-understanding is encouraged and made accessible, but we do know that even this can become a mere batch of words that once meant something and then become static.
       
      Our Teaching is alive, however, and is revived by your participation and use of it, no matter how static the meaning or words have become for you.
       
      Self-understanding and self-assessment are not static, either. One does not reach a completed point of saturation for either of these. It is on-going.
       
      Time periods, experiences, relationships, careers, etc. constantly prompt relative self-assessments.
       
      There is no end-point of enlightenment. No blissful plateau.
       
      There is always more.
       
      [GeraldineB says plaintively] . . .No Nirvana?
       
      MEntity:
      There are states of bliss and "nirvana," but as with any state, they are not static.
       
      After the differentiation between self-assessment and self-condemnation, the understanding for what self-assessment is would be helpful. Self-assessment is simply an understanding of your nature, qualities, and/or abilities at the moment.
       
      What you do with that information is a different thing from self-assessment. For instance, if your self-assessment reveals a state that you wish to improve upon, then that effort to improve upon it is a step beyond self-assessment.
       
      This is important to understand because self-assessment is passive. It is much like a computer doing a self-assessment to reveal its state, but what you do with that state after it is revealed is a different thing.
       
      This is important because self-assessment is not something that should be considered a matter of good or bad, right or wrong.
       
      As long as one considers self-assessment to be something that would only reveal what is wrong, then the process can tend toward self-condemnation.
       
      Self-assessment only reveals what IS.
       
      This may seem a simple idea, but as you assess yourself, understand yourself, the subtle importance of this may become more obvious.
       
      And so we will begin.
       
      First: ask yourself why you want to understand yourself right now?
       
      Turning this assessment directly back toward you as you direct this assessment can help bring that basic state of wholeness necessary for true self-assessment.
       
      We encourage you to really feel this question. It is not just an intellectual process. Self-assessment is an honesty that is often avoided or ignored or taken for granted. Bring this honesty into your awareness by meaning the question when you ask it: Why do I want to understand myself right now?
       
      [Maureen] Do you want us to tell you Michael -- or just keep it in mind?
       
      MEntity:
      You may share your responses, if you choose to do so. We have posed the question to Troy so that he can participate, as well.
       
      Troy's response is as revealing as your own responses may be: "because someone has to."
       
      *** Responses ***
       
      [Martha] So I can: be happier and healthier and get the most out of my life; be content and confident and find a healthy intimate relationship; accomplish the things I want – writing, being a good mother, being good at my job. So I can feel good.
       
      [Janet] I am entering a new phase of my life. I have choices to make on which directions I want to take or to plan for.
       
      [Maureen] True Acceptance (not just the words...)
       
      [GeraldineB] Hmmmmm . . .Why? Answer could be "because this workshop is being offered today," or "it's part of an ongoing process that I've been working on for sometime." In general, my "goal" is to complete this Soul Age Level all the way through the 7th IM Review, and I think this needs a regular assessment on my conscious contact with Essence.
       
      [Bobby] Well, Essence has a plan and in order for me to help fulfill that, I need to understand myself.  Also, just from a Personality perspective, it helps to not feel like a leaf blowing in the wind.
       
      MEntity: We will point out here that explanations are not the same thing as answers. We do not wish to throw your responses into question, but we will ask you, for the sake of this workshop: how much of your response was an explanation that resisted or cloaked honesty, and how can your response be put into words that are a more direct, simple truth. Or is your response standing as it is?
       
      [GeraldineB] A simpler answer is "I seek the truth"
       
      MEntity:
      Look below the explanations to see if there is something that can be described with more honesty.
       
      That was for everyone, not in response to Geraldine's simplified answer.
       
      [GeraldineB] oh, heck, and I was feeling so special -- was looking for a one-word response ?
       
      MEntity: Self-assessment cannot be a completed circuit without honesty. And by "honesty," we mean the inclusion of all of your bodies, not just treating this as an intellectual exercise.
       
      [Martha] I want to heal the damaged or neglected parts of me
       
      MEntity:
      Now we are seeing honesty.
       
      We are seeing answers.
       
      [Maureen] If I can "honestly" Accept my self and others -- that would be my goal.  Wait -- it IS my Goal!
       
      [StudentX] I want to like myself more
       
      [Janet] I'm looking for practical means of using the Michael teachings in everyday life. This self-assessment seems of a practical nature.
       
      MEntity: It will not be this complicated or complex in further self-assessments, but this challenge may help reveal to you how you may have been going about self-assessment over this lifetime, so far.
       
      [Janet] And I stand by my original answer.
       
      MEntity:
      We will leave it to each of you to determine the degree of honesty in your answers, though we did offer the initial round of challenge for the sake of the possibility that there may be more honest and direct answers.
       
      And to help point out the difference between explanations and answers. Explanations tend to be elaborate, while answers are quite simple and direct, in this case, at least.
       
      Before we continue: if any of you would like to volunteer yourself up for our feedback about your responses as we progress, we are capable of providing this, but we will not do so as interference or imposition, and it must be understood that any feedback is merely our interpretation, not a trumping conclusion.
       
      We will start, then, with your initial responses to the first question.
       
      For Troy, we would suggest his response to "why do I want to understand myself right now?" might be a bit more honest in the phrasing of "because I always feel misunderstood."
       
      These suggestions, by the way, are not to say that some need correction over others. We do not wish to imply that. We are practiced in distilling information, and we only offer up a different way of saying what you may have already said.
       
      What we will share with you today, then, is a means for using self-assessment at any point in your life, and can be used within any context.
       
      For instance, Janet's is direct and honest, but may be phrased differently as, "because I want and need to make confident choices again." or "because I want to trust myself again."  Martha's is direct and honest, as well, but may be phrased differently as, "because I'm tired of thinking and feeling that I'm damaged and need healing."
       
      [Janet] That's fair.
       
      [Martha] agreed
       
      MEntity: Your feedback about our feedback is welcomed, of course. You may call us out for being completely "off." We would not take offense.
       
      [Martha] I don't think I'm totally damaged ? Just in some areas
       
      MEntity:
      That is "good news."
       
      StudentX's is direct and honest, but might be phrased as, "because I want to LET myself like me." She is already capable of liking herself, but may still be working out how to permit this and experience it.
       
      [StudentX] hmmm...:)
       
      [Maureen] Well -- I'm tired of "trying to Accept" -- everything -- ALL the time -- I just want to "Accept" -- I want it to be easier.
       
      MEntity:
      Geraldine's is honest and direct, as well, and may be phrased as, "because now I can."
       
      Maureen's is honest, though broad in implication, and might be phrased as, "because I want it to be okay with the fact that not everything or everyone is okay."
       
      [Maureen] Yes!
       
      MEntity:
      Combining our feedback with your own is, at least, food for thought and heart, as you proceed with your self-assessment.
       
      The next part of your self-assessment is to determine where you may be leading from in your Personality's set of Overleaves.
       
      Here are the questions that will help you determine this. One of the following questions would tend to stand out as dominant for you right now:
       
      Do I find that I am focused more on accomplishing, doing, and/or planning something? Do I find that I am more focused on trying to understand why or how I, and other people, see and experience the world right now? Do I find that I am more focused on resolving conflicts with others, keeping the peace, being intimate and available to someone, or others?  
      You may find that each of these resonate, because they speak to the three key elements of Personality, but one should tend to be the most dominant in your awareness at the moment's assessment.
       
      *** RESPONSES ***
       
      [Martha] one
       
      [Bobby] it use to be #1 but definitely #2 currently
       
      [Maureen] #3 is the highest with #2 running second.
       
      [GeraldineB] #2
       
      [Janet] I am uncertain. It's either ONE or TWO but I lean toward TWO.
       
      MEntity: Troy would reply that his is 2.
       
      [StudentX] #1, normally but also tend to #2
       
      MEntity:
      ONE reveals that you may be leading your life from the GOAL; TWO reveals that you may be leading your life from the ATTITUDE; and THREE reveals that you may be leading your life from the MODE.
       
      Understanding from where you are leading your life can reveal to you most-precisely where the hub of your Personality is at the moment, with the rest of your Personality traits revolving around that hub.
       
      Your revolving Personality traits are fed by that hub. All energy taken in from the life is collected by that hub and funneled to the rest of Personality.
       
      [GeraldineB] Question -- Since my mode is Observation, I don't see how that would ever be the chosen method for THREE
       
      [GeraldineB] I guess that's not a question as much as a comment needing some explanation
       
      MEntity:
      Geraldine, if you were to have found that your relationships were the dominant focus in the life, then Observation would have been leading your Personality, feeding the rest of your Personality. It would mean that you Clarity or Surveillance are affecting your relationships.
       
      Understanding where you might be in the poles of Observation would help you to understand those relationships.
       
      Do you wish to change your response to "3?"
       
      [GeraldineB] Previously, you've said that I tend to be overly in Surveillance, and it's true, relationships aren't the most important thing to me at this time
       
      [GeraldineB] No.
       
      [GeraldineB] I'm very much in 2
       
      [GeraldineB] I just couldn't even see how to apply Observation to the 3rd option ?
       
      MEntity:
      Relationships and relating are always important. One is always relating, and therefore, everyone as a Mode. One may say that relationships may not be the distraction at the moment, or not the focus, but they will always be important.
       
      Right now, there is a peaceful state for most of your relationships, so they are not the distraction, but this has not always been the case, and then Observation would have been leading.
       
      But we digress.
       
      [Maureen] actually Michael -- to me 2 and 3 are entwined.  It's hard to 3 without doing 2 as well.
       
      MEntity:
      It would be true that none of these can be done without the others being involved.
       
      However, one would be dominant in focus.
       
      For example, if 2 is in focus, then it would be that one is focusing on understanding or dealing with differences in perspective and philosophy as a way to help 1 and 3. If 3 were in dominance, it might mean finding commonalities, resolving distance, and emphasizing resonance as a way to help 2 and 1.
       
      We will put this a different way:
       
      ONE is "leading with one's Motivations and Actions, and/or aiming to understand another's Motivations and Actions"
      TWO is "leading with one's Philosophies and Perspectives, and/or aiming to understand another's Philosophies and Perspectives"
      THREE is "leading with one's Presence and Impact, and/or aiming to understand another's Presence and Impact"
       
      Obviously, Motivation, Action, Philosophy, Perspective, Presence, and Impact cannot be isolated, but there are tendencies for emphasis.
       
      [Maureen] It sounds like whatever is dominant in your Nine Needs might be showing up here.
       
      [Maureen] ...at this time
       
      MEntity:
      If one is leading by the Goal, there would tend to be an emphasis on conflicts and challenges regarding what you are trying to accomplish. If one is leading by the Attitude, there would tend to be an emphasis on conflicts and challenges to how you see the world and other people. If one is leading by the Mode, there would tend to be conflicts and challenges within your relationships and realms of intimacy.
       
      We realize the differentiations may be difficult to assess, but keep in mind that this is only for the sake of helping you understand the whole of you, not to choose one over the other as a means to cut out the other two.
       
      After our elaborations, do each of you still find your emphasis to be your original choice?
       
      *** RESPONSES ***
       
      [StudentX] Definitely, #1.
       
      [Bobby] yes, 2
       
      [Janet] At work, I am leading by the goal. Otherwise, I believe I am leading by attitude at present. I'd hope that work is not my life. I'm trying to keep work from being my primary focus anyhow.
       
      [GeraldineB] Yes, still 2 "at this time"
       
      [Martha] still 1
       
      [Maureen] It may be more with #2 -- but I keep on getting pulled into #3 -- and I would rather be doing #1
       
      MEntity: Janet, this is an important differentiation: those areas of the life that are necessary obligations are still important to consider, but would not be the defining factor for assessing your emphasis.
       
      [Janet] Agree, Michael, so I think I am primarily focused on #2.
       
      [Martha] I can see where I've spent a lot of time on 2 and 3, but I think 1 is in the forefront at the moment
       
      MEntity: Your emphasis is what you find yourself drawn to on your own, not what you find yourself obligated to address. For instance, one may be involved in projects at work where #1 is dominant, but underneath all of this, and persistent beyond the workplace, is the challenge of different perspectives and philosophies in emphasis.
       
      [GeraldineB] I was using the prism of my interest in TLE and the teachings as this is where my preference is showing up
       
      MEntity:
      There are no "right" answers in your self-assessment, and one can always assess again at another time for ever more insight, trying out different paths of assessment.
       
      The point of discerning which Overleaf is leading is to help put into context where your life is at the moment.
       
      This means that if you are having problems, troubles, obstacles, there are solutions to be found on what is determining your life right now.
       
      For instance, if Janet is looking to bring more confidence to her choices, and she has determined that Attitude is leading, then it is not about what she should or should not DO, but a matter of how she THINKS about what she is doing.
       
      If Maureen finds herself torn between the aim for emphasis on her Goal, but finds herself pulled into areas related to her MODE, but has determined that ATTITUDE is leading, then it is helpful to understand that the solutions (and problems) may be found in how she THINKS about what she is DOING and FEELING.
       
      [Maureen] that makes sense
       
      [Janet] I'm considering that. So since my attitude is Stoic, I should strive for more tranquility in what I'm thinking?
       
      MEntity:
      This may seem quite simplistic, but it is profound in its implications, and helps to hone directly into the heart, head, or body of where you are in your life right now.
       
      Using our associations of #1=Goal=DOING, #2=ATTITUDE=THINKING, and #3=MODE=FEELING, we suggest each of you now state your first assessment addressing the response to that first question.
       
      For example:
       
      Troy - Why do you want to understand yourself right now? "Because I feel misunderstood." Why do you feel misunderstood? "Because of what I THINK about what I am DOING and FEELING."
       
      In your own words, share your own dialog of self-assessment in a similar way, if you wish.
       
      *** RESPONSES ***
       
      [Martha] I want to do something about what I think and feel about being damaged and needing healing (and I am!)
       
      [Janet] I want to understand myself because of what (how) I think about my ability to made good choices for myself.
       
      [Martha] and I want to look honestly to see if there's something I'm missing or avoiding that could help that process
       
      [StudentX] I'm conflicted about thinking I should be "doing more", in general, and accepting that what I do is enough.
       
      [GeraldineB] Ok -- using Michael's suggestion: "Because I can now" -- in combo with "I seek the Truth" -- Using #2 Attitude/Thinking -- Truth removes the "should" from Idealism -- it allows Idealism to be "all" as in coalescence
       
      MEntity: Janet - Why do you want to understand yourself right now? "Because I want to feel confident, and trust, in my choices again." Why do you not feel confidence and trust in your choices right now? "Because of what I THINK about what I am DOING and FEELING."
       
      [Janet] Okay I'll buy that
       
      MEntity: We are not looking for answers, yet. Just assessments.
       
      [GeraldineB] hmmm . . .my brain's cat's cradle has knots in it
       
      MEntity:
      Geraldine - Why do you want to understand yourself right now? "Because I can." Why can you now? "Because of what I THINK about what I'm DOING and FEELING."
       
      These examples should help you to streamline your assessment to this point, then.
       
      [GeraldineB narrows her eyes at Michael] -- that seems like some philsophical circle thinking
       
      [Bobby]  you did suggest # 2  lol
       
      [Janet] I have to admit to some skepticism as well Geraldine, but I'm waiting for the application of the assessment.
       
      [Janet] But of course I may be THINKING about it all too much. ?
       
      [GeraldineB] LOL -- Obviously, I am too
       
      [GeraldineB] so, let's keep on going ?
       
      MEntity:
      We will address the confusion or "skepticism" here, before continuing.
       
      There is no circular philosophy here. It matters what you think about what you do and feel. It matters what you do about what you think and feel. It matters what you feel about what you do, or think. At various points in the life, one matters more than the others, or dominates and leads more than the others. Whatever dominates, defines the others.
       
      If you think your actions and feelings are useless, pointless, and making no difference, that is very different from thinking your actions and feelings are useful, purposeful, and make a difference.
       
      If you do not do anything with or about your feelings and thoughts, this is very different from doing something about and with your feelings and thoughts.
       
      [GeraldineB] Ok -- I get that -- makes sense
       
      MEntity:
      If your feelings about what you do and think are apathetic, frustrated, or angry, this is very different from the feelings of enthusiasm, eagerness, and excitement.
       
      Geraldine, what you THINK NOW makes a big difference in why you "can understand" more now. There was a time when what you thought actually kept you from being able to understand yourself and others.
       
      [GeraldineB] I totally agree with that -- I do understand that perception
       
      [GeraldineB] I've really been working on imprinting and conditioning
       
      MEntity: Janet, there have been other times in your life where the question of what to do was not so much of concern, because there were parameters in place that took the place of having to really "think" about how you felt or what you were "doing."
       
      [Janet] This is true. My lack of confidence now I think is associated with how wide open my choices may be.
       
      MEntity:
      As your consciousness has grown, so has your self-consciousness, and parameters are far more inclusive of what is important to you, not just what you should or can do.
       
      It is now not just a matter of CHOICE, but a matter of what you THINK about what you are choosing.
       
      [Janet] Agreed. I think I see where you're going now.
       
      MEntity: "Think," being key.
       
      [Janet] lol. It's a common verb for me.
       
      MEntity:
      Now, look to the Overleaf that is specific to this assessment.
       
      Each of you can now share that Overleaf that is relative to the leading Goal, Attitude, or Mode.
       
      *** RESPONSES ***
       
      [StudentX] Growth.
       
      [GeraldineB] Attitude - Idealism (sliding to Skepticism regularly)
       
      [Janet] Attitude is Stoic
       
      [Bobby] Pragmatist
       
      [Maureen] Realist
       
      [Martha] Flow
       
      MEntity:
      Keeping in mind that the aim is assessment, not solution (just yet), it may be clear to you where you are in your Doing, Thinking, or Feeling right now.
       
      Do not consider where you "slide."
       
      For StudentX: Is your DOING in Confusion, or is it Evolving? For Geraldine: is your THINKING in Naivety, or in Coalescence? For Janet: is your Thinking Resigned, or Tranquil? and so on.
       
      [Janet] My thinking is rarely resigned but not always tranquil.
       
      [StudentX] I believe that I strive a lot.
       
      [GeraldineB] My thinking is in coalescence
       
      [Martha] I don't think I'm in inertia
       
      [StudentX] Striving is growing.
       
      MEntity: Some Poles may need elaboration for clarity. We will offer some feedback.
       
      [StudentX] or evolving.
       
      [Martha] I think I need more on "suspension"
       
      MEntity: For instance, "resigned" in this context does not mean that you have stopped thinking, but rather that your Thoughts may have you resigned from the process of choice, instead of having you peaceful and tranquil about it.
       
      [Martha] Barbara's Taylor's chart says "free-flowing" for the pos pole of Flow, but I have "suspension" on my spreadsheet
       
      MEntity: Geraldine, it is true that your Thinking now tends to put the pieces together that allow you to understand much better now, but when you cannot understand, it can be because of naivety, which is when the pieces were expected to come together in a way that is failed or disappointed.
       
      [GeraldineB] yes -- a lifelong "work in progress" -- getting better
       
      MEntity: Martha, we find the more meaningful terms for the Poles of Flow to be Freedom and Inertia, or Momentum.
       
      [Martha] OK, I like those better
       
      [Martha] I can see where Momentum applies better than Inertia
       
      MEntity:
      The difference being: Freedom is much like having a paddle for the boat that is moving with the flow of life, as there may not be much that can be done about that flow, but the steering is all your choice. Inertia, or Momentum, is being without the paddle, forced to a narrow trajectory, or using the paddle to try to go against that flow.
       
      For the most part, this process of self-assessment can be quick and easy at any point in the life, and will often tend to lead to a realization of patterns in your tendencies for challenges and solutions.
       
      Again, this assessment is not for anything other than grabbing a quick snapshot of where you are with yourself.
       
      By now, in this practice of assessment, one would have been able to determine the motivation for the quick assessment and the basic context of the life or circumstance at the moment of assessment.
       
      Understanding yourself in this way can then help you to make more conscious choices regarding where you are, where you want to go, what you want to do, be, feel, etc.
       
      It can also free you from self-condemnation, and free you from the fear of judgments.
       
      For example:
       
      If Janet wants to understand herself because she wants to return to a sense of confidence in her choices, and reveals that the strength and weakness in her confidence is being dominated by her THINKING, Intellect, and current Philosophy, which is within the spectrum of her Attitude between Tranquility and Resignation, she now knows enough about herself to make more conscious (and confident) choices.
       
      What she does with this assessment is her choice, but she might realize that she has only resigned from her strength of confidence and trust in her choices, and and that it might just be time to surrender to, or find Tranquility in, the same trust and confidence that has always served her so well.
       
      Your assessment is not an answer or solution, but a basis for finding your answer or solution, if one is wanted or needed.
       
      If StudentX wants to understand herself because she wants to let herself like herself more, and she has assessed that it is what she is DOING that is leading her life right now, and that her Doing is either leading her into Confusion, or Evolving her, she can then pay more attention to what she is already DOING, or needs to do, as a means to support her permission to like herself more.
       
      Are each of you putting all of this together in a way that is useful and meaningful?
       
      [Maureen] yes
       
      [Martha] yes
       
      [StudentX] Yes
       
      [GeraldineB] Yes, very useful -- trying to reword it so I might pass it on
       
      [Janet] Is a possible solution -- to switch focus from thinking to doing or feeling or from doing to thinking or feeling -- as a way to move forward, if that seems appropriate to the situation?
       
      MEntity:
      All of what we share tends to be simple equations, even if elaborated upon in words, and "plugging in" the key elements can bring each of you to your own understanding, assessment, and solutions.
       
      Janet, for the purposes of Self-assessment, you want to understand what you are already using, or leading the life through, and this tends to be where the strength lies, even if it is also the source of weakness at the moment, however, it will always be important to flank that with the other two.
       
      If you are already leading the life by what you think about what you are doing or feeling, then shifting the emphasis to the doing will not change what you think about what you are doing.
       
      [Janet] I tend toward thinking always, which leads me to ask if our tendency is tied to our centering. I believe I am intellectually centered.
       
      MEntity: However, the key here would be that when you take action, or DO, that you actively choose what to THINK about that.
       
      [Janet] You have given a lot to think about today! ?
       
      MEntity:
      For instance, you may not know what is beyond the choices that must be made in the near future, but you know from experience that you CAN make those choices, and that is an important part of what you THINK about making choices.
       
      One's Centering and Part do tend to help bring the corresponding Overleaf into lead for the life.
       
      There are other rounds and paths of self-assessment that can be done, and we will share these over time. The one we shared today is the most immediately effective and far-reaching in its impact, if one were to truly comprehend and apply its beautiful simplicity.
       
      We will conclude here for today. Good day to each of you.
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