[Excerpt from a private session on February 6, 2013]
My grandmother has recently been dealing with a noticeable reduction in her hearing and a significant impairment in her short term memory. She forgets things in minutes, and is much more easily confused and frustrated than she use to be. This has caused definite disruption in her life and has been a source of worry and unease for my mom and uncle. Recently we've been looking into the possibility that she has early signs of dementia, specifically vascular dementia (where “mini-strokes” or bad blood circulation in the brain cause damage over time). We are continuing to explore that and any other ideas that may appear along the way through the healthcare resources we have.
My question is, what can you see regarding this issue? Do you have any suggestions on how to alleviate the symptoms for my grandmother, how my mother can approach the situation, or how I can be helpful to either my mother or grandmother?
Part of the process of the 6th Internal Monad is the full realization of mortality and the activation of the means for exiting the life. A healthy process of that Internal Monad is coming to terms with this, and making peace with it, not only by the one experiencing it, but by those around that fragment. The more resistance and fear and worry around the fragment in the 6th Internal Monad, the more difficult the process for that individual.
For those who are willing to process this consciously, it tends to parallel a breakdown in the cohesiveness of the consciousness as it is sustained "in" the body and brain.
If the 1st and 2nd Internal Monad are like the body as a sponge absorbing everything, then the 6th and 7th are like the wringing out of that sponge.
This helps to free the consciousness into higher perspectives that lose references to time and place, and are no longer anchored in memory as it exists as function of the local brain.
We know this is not comforting, and we do not wish to undermine the experience of loss, or impending loss. We know now that none of you are lost, none of us is lost, no part of us. Ever. But you do not. You can imagine it, and you can philosophize about it, even accept that it may be true, but you cannot know it, yet. Until then, the ebb and flow of life in a body is not easy.
We can suggest for those around this fragment to begin an assumption that she is no longer subject to any linear expectations of behavior, and that this process, however frustrating, disorienting, and scary, is not much different from birthing, in reverse, if you will.
If the assumptions and prejudices are flexible, this leaves room for some exciting and revelatory surprises from the fragment in question. If she expresses distress and frustration, then comfort and support are the only things that can be done to continue as anchors for this fragment as the expansion continues.
Along with proper medical and health care, the only things that can be done is the expansion of ideas about who she is, how she is, and why she is, since those will also be in question for her.
Keeping the necessity for memory to a minimum can be helpful, and encouraging the use of exploration of thoughts and memories as they naturally occur to her can be helpful.
Though the fight against this natural process is not necessary, if you choose to incorporate exercises to keep the memory active and regenerating with as much strength as possible, then daily activities of simple games that require memory can be helpful.
Children's games, such as "memory," or such specialized programs as those created by "luminosity" can be ideal.
The approach to these would tend to require an element of "fun," not a desperation to avoid something impending.
But embracing her process, wherever and however it takes her, is key to this being as healthy and comforting as possible.
Considering that, medically, dementia seems to be seen as a process, and that you've referred to this as a process, has she activated an exit point in the near future, or is this more of a gradual approach to one?
Activation of exit points happen fairly "regularly" across the lifetime, and are often moved, removed, replaced. With that in mind, there are activated exit points, but no more than the usual that any person carries across the life.
They become increasingly more difficult to move, remove, or replace, of course.
We would not say they are in the "near future." But our perspective of time is a bit skewed from your own
So this can be approached more from a "let's see how we get there" kind of thing; i.e., still room and time for exploration and no hard, set limits
We think that is helpful, yes.
If it is approached as claustrophobic closing in on the life, it can be quite terrifying and painful, but if approached as a return to innocence of body and mind, an exploration of new unknowns, it can be far more adventurous, even if not convenient.
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