[Extracted from Michael Speaks: Modes]
First, we will share that each of the Overleaves tend to be showcased, presented, emphasized, brought to the forefront of a Personality in different contexts. Depending on the context, a specific Overleaf is leading the Personality for that context. For instance, in SOCIAL situations, the Attitude is the most prominent Overleaf that is used for leading the Personality. In RELATIONSHIPS, it is the Mode. We realize that Social interaction may be consider variations on “relationships,” but we differentiate these by the level of intimacy that is intended or sought for exchange. In “Social” situations, we speak of the level of interaction that emphasizes “getting along” over “getting intimate.”
Social situations seek commonalities in viewpoints, or challenges to viewpoints. In Social situations the commonality or challenge is primarily in the realm of philosophies, expression, and information exchange. In “relationships” the commonality or challenge is primarily in the realm of intimacy, resonance, meaning, emotions.
The Attitude has a voice. The Mode is mute. The Mode can only “feel,” intuit, “know,” perceive, etc. The Mode bypasses logic in its support or challenge to intimacy.
When in groups beyond 2, it is likely that the Attitude is at the forefront for interaction. But even within a group, if conversation or exchange moves to a more ordinal exchange, a more intimate exchange, then the Mode kicks in, so to speak. It is not necessarily the number within the group that is the determining factor, but how one is focusing upon those within the group. If there is a sense of each individual, then the Mode is probably emphasized, but if the group acts as its own entity, and recognition of individuals is rather fleeting, it is most likely the Attitude interacting.
The Mode requires a Connection at the very least, and full-blown Resonance at its best. In fact, it could be said that those terms may be used as Negative and Positive poles for the Term “Mode.” Connection would be an anticipated, speculated commonality, while Resonance would be valid, mutual recognition of commonalities. For the most part, the difference between Connection and Resonance is the difference in the degree of space and time involved. “We have a Connection” is often the anticipated, speculated (and hopeful) initiation of a relationship, whereas Resonance is validated from experience and exploration, which requires space (as in, physical interaction) and time (as in, digestion of experiences). Keeping in mind that one can RELATE to anything from an object to an intention to an animal to a person to a soul and all the way to Tao, it will be helpful to understand the spectrum between Connection and Resonance.
We spoke of the comparison of the Attitude and Mode only as a means to exemplify the differences, but for no other reason. In our system, the Mode not only describes how one relates to others, but within the Personality it describes how one relates to the motivation for the lifetime as described by the Goal. Understanding your Mode can help you grasp the challenges or the commonalities that you may feel about your Goal for the lifetime.