Originally posted by Nicholas on September 28, 2011, and edited by Troy on November 23, 2015
Note: Original post in Yahoo list on June 20, 2001.
Original note from Nicholas:
Channeling from TLE Yahoo Group Archives on MODES & RELATIONSHIPS!!!
Some of you who have been studying w/ the Michaels (through Troy) for a while may be familiar with this piece...but it is the first time I have come across it! I found it in the old TLE Yahoo Group archives.
Some great info about how our modes work in interaction with others.
One of the areas that seems to be of most interest to those of you on the Physical Plane, regardless of your Soul Age, is your attractiveness, your matedness, and your levels of Intimacy shared, especially with your own species. It is one thing to drop all barriers with your Dog, or other companion animal, and quite another to engage in this exchange of Intimacy with another Human. Part of the reason for this nagging pull is simply because on one level you realize you “should” be able to interact and engage with others of your species without obstacles. This naive vision is not the case in “real life”. The obstacles to Intimacy is better understood when you stop to realize that you have evolved through a Young Soul phase on your planet for quite some time. Routines have been put in place where isolation was necessary and engaged in willingly so as to promote less compassion, less interaction intimately. With this lack of Intimacy, strides could be made without concern for the harm done to other fragments. Whether an Old Soul or not, you will still have imprinting from this influence, particularly in the U.S., even if it’s just an undertone in your environment. It is frightening to Personality to “reach out” since Other may be “out to get you” or Other may or may not be “worth it”.
For Old Souls, “reaching out” sometimes surfaces unconscious or conscious memories registered from other Soul Age Cycles. These experiences may have been devastating, in that your own actions or those of another created or attracted harm on some level. Since you are primarily an aggressive species, physical pain (which, we remind you, is primarily the condensation of emotional pain) is easier to access; therefore Fragments lean toward negative experiences as references for future interaction because pain is valued as a much more tangible memory. This is yet another example of your own species' "hardwiring" that Essence must work to "rise above" as Sentience.
Your Essence strives to accomplish Intimacy while on the physical plane in physical bodies. Many of you may reason and dismiss this as trivial when compared to larger tasks or daily routines, but Intimacy is a profound experience and one that could be deemed an ultimate goal for the Essence throughout its Grand Cycle. Having Essence Recognition within or between you and another is Ecstasy to the soul and the only form of true evolution. It is a penetrating experience regardless of brevity or lengthiness.
Essence strives for this in any way possible whether through sexual contact, short-term interaction, long-term mate agreements, serial monogamy, promiscuity, chatting to a stranger in line at the grocer’s, etc. Most frenetic movement between partners and relationships whether sexual or not, is a result of resistance to intimacy and the obvious need for Essence’s “fix”. In truth, the biological vehicle, you as Personality, would literally die without contact of some sort that Essence could register as valid and intimate. A brush with someone at the airport making you smile can sustain you for weeks or months. Those moments are “fed” to Essence and by default you are automatiåcally aligned within. That example is one form of Essence Recognition. We mention this since a lot you find Intimacy to be a secondary or trivial pursuit in the shadow of your tasks and daily routines. This couldn’t be further from what your Essence strives and your own compulsion to seek it reveals this importance.
What we are going to speak about today is in regards to what you find attractive about a person in general, what is first found attractive about you and how this attraction plays out or is sustained. This is from the most superficial to the most profound.
We will define Attraction here as what draws Personality to Personality in pursuit of Essence Contact, or Intimacy. We will also elaborate here and say that when Attraction occurs in its many forms it is always about what is “missing” and being sought by Personality. This is a clever and efficient method for Essence to move Personality toward contact.
Though it is true each of you contain or have access to all “answers”, or that each of you are really “one” with all, this does not negate the event of Intimacy and the longing for contact. Inherent in the Personality is “pieces missing”, “longings” or “questions”, however you choose to interpret your map towards Intimacy; they all lead to opportunities for contact. From the stance of the Tao, as we perceive this game, your resisting or neglecting Intimacy is likened to writing a book and not reading it; the Tao relies heavily on our yearning for contact as it experiences itself through us.
All of this is not to put pressure on an individual to “find someone” or to present a picture of any importance; this is simply from our perception and the perceptions we have experienced in sharing with many Essences. You may choose any partner, multiple partners, your friends, your children, your companion animals, your backyard, your home, your selves, your souls, anything as opportunities for Intimacy. What we wish to convey here is that it is part of the dynamic fabric of your Universe and disregarding it can be a source of many troubles while Human. To avoid, ignore, or reject Intimacy, even choosing apathy, are all valid and part of the process of exploring Intimacy. They just don’t “feel” as good to Personality or Essence.
Intimacy is a large topic to indulge in, but for convenience and specificity, here we are only speaking primarily of attraction between Personalities.
The MODE in the Overleaves System is the first thing you “see” in another and what you first present to another, in most cases. It is similar to the astrological Ascendant. First contact of any level of intimacy (speaking, touching, sex, dinner, small gatherings) is almost always in the context of this Overleaf.
It is best to understand, if you choose, that ALL of your Overleaves are being used at all times. They are unable to be disconnected or isolated, but certain Overleaves ARE presented or highlighted for certain purposes as leverage to access or utilize other Overleaves more effectively. In the case of interaction and intimacy, you mostly enter through the Mode, and then move to other Overleaves as ways of revealing yourself depending on the context of the exchange, karma, history, etc. Regardless of what Overleaves your relationship explores, your first important contact will be through Modes. The moment you move into an intimate or public setting, as soon as you gauge an exchange, you highlight your Mode.
Each Overleaf resonates to a Center, and each set of Overleaves (Attitudes, Body types, Roles, etc.) covers all seven centers. Rather than explain the system, we will simply share and allow the information to reveal itself. Now, even though each Overleaf resonates to a Center, or Chakra, it is a separate influence from the actual CENTERING. We can mix, add, combine and analyze all the various influences of the Overleaf System, but for now we are simply discussing the MODE.
We will also note here, and will again at the end, that there is a definite pattern of “entrance” to each other.
Based on your Mode, you may or may not seek a person’s Goal, Attitude, Soul Age, etc. We will return to this topic another day. This initial exchange lasts through a great portion of stages toward Intimacy, but is not a constant.
Before going into detail, here are the MODES and the corresponding Chakra/Center, in order of Chakra sequence:
1) RESERVED – INSTINCTIVE
2) CAUTION – HIGHER MOVING
3) PERSEVERANCE – MOVING
4) OBSERVATION – EMOTIONAL
5) POWER – INTELLECTUAL
6) PASSION – HIGHER EMOTIONAL
7) AGGRESSION – HIGHER INTELLECTUAL
For purposes of reference and review, here are the Modes as they appear in the Overleaf System along with their “partner” Mode (axis).
We will highlight first what is attractive TO a Mode, what is attractive ABOUT a Mode, and last, a brief comment on the dynamics of interaction between them.
We’ll start with Reserve Mode and it resonates to the Instinctive Center. Those of you in Reserve Mode are drawn to the “roots” of another individual, your past lives shared, you are more willing and likely to rely on or refer to “past” associations for your identification of each other. You have almost direct, unconscious access to your SOUL, hence the choice for RESERVE. You are Restrained in your output of Essence as you reveal only what is “necessary” for another to “see”. Since you have this vast place to draw from, it makes sense that you would not want another to be overwhelmed, but instead to share what is relevant. In the Negative Pole, you feel overwhelmed, yourself, and Inhibit your output to a point of near-invisibility and can lead to an Automatic pilot type of interaction with others. In the Positive Pole you are not only Restrained, but also highly AWARE of Other. Reserve Mode is then most attracted to an individual’s history, from this lifetime or other’s. This Mode, in the context of our system, “enters” Other through their CENTERING.
What others find most attractive about Reserve is their ability to bring focus out of the chaos in Self. What this means simply is that when you find Reserve Mode to be attractive, it is most likely out of a desire to draw a specific sub-personality, facet, or historic memory to the surface for exploration and/or healing.
Caution Mode relates to the Higher Moving Center. It can be a most frightening experience to the Personality to feel itself “splayed” throughout all things; therefore you Deliberately express portions of yourself, or allow only “pieces” of another individual into your space. This is a result of having to monitor your potential for “loss” of self. When you so easily and “secretly” connect with your environment, having lost your sense of self, Phobia results. This is all quite different than what is occurring in Reserve Mode. Whereas Reserve Mode is about “Facets of Soul”, Caution is about “Facets of Self”. Caution, then, is most attracted to a person’s sense of motivation; the more complete that is, the more attractive you are. In the context of our system, this Mode “enters” Other through the GOAL.
Caution Mode has the potential to be the most sexual in our sense of the word: "moving in unison with something other than self." Of course, all beings have the potential for sexual intimacy in light of that definition and with anything, but Caution has a built-in wiring that allows a sense of Integration of their identity with another. It is highly attractive to Caution to find safe elimination of boundaries. When Caution is in Phobia, and has lost contact with self, or the ability to at least monitor expression, Desire can result (negative pole of Higher Moving). This simply means they are more likely to attract or be attracted to the SAMENESS of an individual, the familiarity. Mostly this will be a matching of “emptiness” and lead nowhere, but CAN lead to some breakthroughs.
What is most attractive about Caution, then, is “Safety”. By this we mean that an individual attracted to Caution would be seeking some form of comfort in expressing self AS IS, and Caution can provide that forum. This may not make sense at first since this Mode has to do with Goals, but Goals are NOT about ACTION necessarily, but more about a STATE. Thus, when self trusts life AS IS, fulfillment can occur.
Perseverance Mode relates to the Moving Center and IS probably one of the most sexual in the traditional sense, utilizing the body and physical tactics for interaction. Perseverance is concerned with Physical reality and the ramifications of actions; therefore they find what is most attractive in another confidence, or self-esteem. Perseverance as a Mode means making actions “count”, so it is especially attractive if your actions match you. You may speak confidently or “talk big, or sexy”, but your body, how it is held, how you interact is more telling to this Mode even if unconsciously. So, again, Perseverance is attracted to you as your physical expression and mannerisms. This is not superficial by any means, simply a valid medium and level of contact. What can be difficult for some fragments IS the superficiality of being “caught up” in ONLY the level of Physical Reality. This leads to an Unchanging definition of “beauty” and creates judgments, then leading to Chief Feature. In this case, this Mode is most likely to be Frenetic in their sex life and not be “satisfied”, indulging in it feverishly or relinquishing from it altogether. In our system, this Mode “enters” Other through the primary Body type Overleaf.
What is most attractive about Perseverance is the same. When you are attracted to Perseverance it may be because you are seeking reflections of your own strengths. When negatively attracted, the results are merely physical and can lead to self-judgments, losing the whole “point”.
Observation Mode, the most popular and obvious in your culture, is Emotionally centered. The popularity of this Overleaf and the influence of it’s imprinting (particularly from the Negative Pole), regardless of your own Mode, tends to justify WATCHING “love” pass by or Surveying life rather than participating in it. This lends Sentimentality (or attachments) to your exchanges rather than the use of your own Mode or the positive pole of the Emotional Center, Perception. Those in Observation Mode can “see” Other most clearly and many times will be content just watching, reading about, hearing about, or vicariously experiencing you. This, in itself, is only a limited capability of Observation.
It may seem that Observation Mode, a neutral overleaf, could not be Emotionally Centered, but this bias is due to the misunderstanding of Emotions. That misunderstanding also perpetuates the confusion of those in Observation. Emotions allow you to PERCEIVE another, bypassing logic and physicality. It is one of the clearest and unbiased tools you have while being physical. It is thought that EMOTIONS are inaccurate or untrustworthy or inconvenient, but it is REACTIONS that usually pass as emotions. We will digress for a moment here, but we assure you it is relevant.
Reactions are bodily functions and fueled by Intellect. Reactions are based on INTELLECTUAL discrepancies in behavior or events, not emotions. Even tears, for example, are the biological reaction to TRUTH, an Intellectual byproduct. All tears relate back to something that has been realized as TRUE, even if it is physical pain. Tears are often related to Emotions, if not exclusively, but it is an Intellectually centered event. Emotions, as they relate to Observation Mode, are about Resonance. Therefore, what is most attractive to Observation is their level of Resonance with you. In our system, this Mode “enters” Other through Other’s Mode.
What is most attractive about Observation is the opportunity to be SEEN. When you seek a person in Observation, it is in light of choosing to be “validated”. When Negatively sought, it is merely to “get” this person to see how you WISH to be, not how you ARE.
Power Mode presents themselves through Intellect and communication. When Power Mode seeks, it is attracted to your personally validated beliefs, your philosophies, and your viewpoints. When Power is insecure in their beliefs, they seek to build a false system of thought through Reasoning and Oppressing your own beliefs. They can then be attracted to those who have “false” beliefs, high insecurities, or undefined perceptions of life. When secure and comprehensive in their beliefs and communication, Power brings Authority and Insight to exchanges. Power Mode, in our system, “enters” Other through Attitude.
What is most attractive about Power is the sense of consolidation of truths or ideas. When seeking a person in Power Mode, it is in lieu of recognition of your “place” in your mental environment and the want for confirmation, regardless of Soul Age. Whatever your Soul Age, if you are attracted to a Baby Soul in Power, it would be for Insight or Authority in understanding your “place” in the social structure. A Mature Soul in Power will provide in the context of “what emotions are for”, of course, and Old Souls in Power might provide exchange about you and the “scheme of things”.
Passion Mode resonates with the Higher Emotional Center and has the greatest leaning towards just wanting to “love” everybody. Passion recognizes the inherent lessons found in knowing or exchanging with another and finds not only more love for self, but Self-actualization through Other as well. They are most attracted to the psychic life of another and tend to draw in the most bizarre and unusual people for intimacy. Those who would normally NOT experience intimacy with another Mode will find almost unconditional trial runs with this Mode. Passion Mode has the most intensity around intimacy issues since there is a “no holds barred” mentality. This can be discomforting or elating to the Personality.
What is most attractive, then, to Passion is the lack of Time/Space as a reference in your exchanges. In our system, Passion “enters” Other through Soul Age, since this puts you in touch with a field of energy outside of Time/Space. Passion Mode can tend to become tied to the experiences of interaction more than other Modes leading to Identification or loss of all boundaries. You are no longer just a person to Passion Mode, but a REPRESENTATIVE of the person in Passion. YOUR actions, acceptance, rejections, etc, can be used as a reference for the Passion person’s own sense of soul. This also relates to the Negative Pole of the Higher Emotional Center, Intuition, in which a connection has been made to an individual, but only from a specific reference, not considering entirety. This sounds similar to Caution, we realize, but this is vastly different.
What is most attractive about Passion Mode is their ability to absorb into anything or anything into them. When seeking a person in Passion Mode, an individual is ready to be PRESENT. If this is sought from fear, it may be from a longing to “disappear”.
A SIDE NOTE: Caution, Reserve, and Perseverance are about Facets of Soul, Self, and Body, respectively, whereas Passion, Power and Aggression are about TOTALITY of Soul, Self, and Body. Observation is about both.
Aggression Mode relates to the Higher Intellectual Center since this Mode deals with the Dynamics of thought and the shaping of these into thought forms. What is most attractive to Aggression is the totality of your life; not necessarily you as a person, your appearance, your perceptions, your being, but what has BECOME of it. When Aggression cannot find a vision of what they have become or what they will become, they can tap into your chaos of direction and use that energy for Belligerence, shadowing you.
We mentioned earlier this Mode being about Totality of Body (or physicality). This is in reference to the results or impact of you as a vehicle; using the body, ultimately, of course. This Mode, then, in our system, “enters” Other through the Role.
What is most attractive about Aggression is their innate capability to emit Truth on all three levels: Personal, World, and Universal. Just the wave of a hand can spring to life many truths. This is not always about cognitive or comprehensive truth, but Causal truth. The motion of a hand, the sweep of a gesture, the raising of an eyebrow: all igniting something. When Aggression is sought Negatively, it is for reprimanding, or “correction”.
We have only scratched the surface of each of these Modes and their actuality, but this may be enough to spark some of your own validation and discovery.
For periods of time, depending on your lifestyle or agenda, you will “rest” in the Mode that is partner to your own. For Observation, of course, you will have Modes you “slide” to habitually for your “rest”.
When in the partner Mode, you are “unavailable” for contact. For instance, if you are naturally Passion Mode, but are "resting" in Reserved, you are "off-limits" for the time being and are more likely dealing with inner levels of Intimacy issues and self-karma. So, if you find you in are in a state of isolation or loneliness, check with the Positive Pole of that partner Mode you are resting in, initiate those qualities, and you will “automatically” move back to your own Mode. This will be sustained ONLY if desired or consciously maintained, otherwise, you will revert to the Mode most appropriate for your current state.
So, what can you do with all this information?
First, understanding your Mode in terms of what you might “naturally” seek as an "entrance" to others can help you understand what you are "looking at/for" in another. Understanding the various Modes and what that might mean in terms of what you find attractive about another, can help you understand what you are seeking to fulfill in general. Additionally you may look at your current Mates and see what each of you “naturally” stimulate in another by how your Modes “enter” each other’s Overleaves. This is likened to plucking a certain string in a piano or guitar: A “note” is brought out of you by another person’s Mode. Understanding your reactions or responses to a Mate or relative can be greatly revealing.
And, finally, it is Good Work to determine whether you are seeking from NEED (the Negative Pole of Intimacy), in which case, it is Intimacy with SELF you lack. If seeking a mate brings anxiety, pressure, self-judgment, etc., you are not seeking a mate; you are seeking you. We will talk more about this at a later date.
Edited by Janet