[Excerpt from Ask Michael: August 2014]
Kurtis: Hi Michael, in the OMW section of this site I found some nifty information on how Aggression and Power Modes evolve intimacy. ... I was wondering if you could provide the same info for how the other modes evolve intimacy like those examples. Particularly Observation, Passion and Reserve, as most students here are or slide to those modes.
MEntity: For Observation Mode, it is a matter of truly seeing and being seen. The key, however, is that it is not a static state. It is an evolving, shifting, and adaptive state of seeing and being seen. Intimacy for Observation Mode is killed if someone locks him or her in one version of himself or herself. If the one in Observation does not allow for the variations and facets of others, but locks them into one preference or expectation, this begins to repel the other.