This material was originally posted by Martha following a POF on October 5, 2011.
Question: Can I get an update on current active Agreements? It feels like a lot is going on “behind the scenes”.
Since you have more than 35 currently-active Agreements, we think it would be easier to describe to you how to go about identifying those with whom you share Agreements, rather than to list each of them and their details. It is not a difficult Task for an individual to identify these, and we think our students are quite capable of doing so on their own.
We think this may help: Agreements come in 3 forms: Essence, Personality, and Spontaneous. There may be better words to describe these, but these will do for now.
- Essence Agreements are those that are made prior to birth by the Essences involved, or during Astral exchanges during the lifetime. Essence manages these, but Personality can always trump them.
- Personality Agreements are those made between two people who have met, and discover that they would like to make plans. It is that simple. These count as Agreements and are no different from those on an Essence Level, except in context of origin. Personal Agreements always trump Essence Agreements.
- Spontaneous/Pivotal Agreements are those that happen "on the spot," between two Personalities, not because they have grown to know one another, but because of immediate need or desire. Spontaneous/Pivotal Agreements trump all other Agreements.
The trumping of Agreements come from the fact of impact, not because one is more important than another. For instance, Essence One made Agreements to Mate with Essence Two. The Personality of Essence One has found herself attracted to the Personality of Essence Three because of proximity within the workplace. Personality One and Personality Three start dating exclusively. Essence Two now shows up as planned. Personality One is now torn [between] Two and Three. Instead of communicating and maturely handling the process of choice around such a situation, she "cheats" with Personality Two, which is discovered by Three. And now all Agreements are off among all involved. All choices of Essence take the "back seat," if you will, to all choices made by Personality, because Personality only gets that one life, and it is yours to do with as you please, which means completely revamping all Agreements carefully set up by Essence prior to the life, if you choose to so.
Essence, Personality, or Pivotal Agreements have no tier of priority for Essence, but the more one begins to make choices consciously, the more one tends to align with Essence Agreements. But because the Personality knows the terrain of the physical life much better than Essence does, it will always have the advantage in sustaining, rejecting, or creating Agreements. The way you can tell with whom you share Agreements is if THAT PERSON MATTERS IN SOME WAY. It is that simple.
This may not be the person from whom you borrow a stapler, but it can be a person whom you see every day who serves your coffee, or drives your bus, or services your car, or changes or impacts your life. We can go into greater detail as to the different depths and circles of Agreements at another time, but our point in this exchange is to say that you are surrounded by Agreements. For us to list them in any given day is no different from your looking at your day in retrospect and listing every single person who crossed paths with you that day, internally or externally, who MATTERED to you in some way. And people matter far more to each other than they ever give each other credit for.
Rather than taking on the daunting task of listing everyone who mattered to you in the day, it may be helpful to start with two groups: those that obviously mattered, and those whom you think mattered. Listing 3 from each group every day can add to one's level of gratitude and consciousness in ways that may be surprising.
The level of consciousness involved in terms of who matters to whom is unnecessary, or no progress would be made. In the case of our Older Soul students, consciousness cannot be undone, so you may be achingly aware of when others are not reciprocating consciously, or conscious at all, but it should have no impact on whether that person mattered to you, or whether you know that you mattered to him or her.
Edited by Janet