2 pointsThis one really speaks to me! My husband's mother abandoned his family when he was around 13, and he has never recovered from it. She moved to another state and left him and his sister to be raised by their father. She always loved her children but was not in a good enough state of mental health to really care for them properly. My husband has never dealt with this properly and has never forgiven his mother. I see a lot of depression, anger, fatigue and laziness in him and it's nice to know where it's coming from. I wish I'd known this 15 years ago because I became really resentful and internalized most of his behavior as some sort of shortcoming on my part. Sadly he still refuses to get help.