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OMW - May 19, 2012 - Accepting The Unacceptable Channel: Troy Tolley The Preliminary Set-up/Preparation [CocteauBoy] ONE. Write down three things that you find unacceptable. There may be more than that, but pick three very clear things that you find difficult to accept. Make sure these are things that you come across a lot, too. Not something abstract and horrific that is obviously, universally difficult to accept, like child sex rings (unless that is directly relevant to you), but something relevant to you. [CocteauBoy] Take a moment to do that. (Note: Use syntax of "I find it unacceptable that . . .") [CocteauBoy] "Unacceptable" here means "something or someone who prompts negative (as in, constricting) reactions in you in a way that you feel you have trouble recovering from." [CocteauBoy] That "something or someone" can be yourself, too. [CocteauBoy] TWO. Okay, so here's part two: [CocteauBoy] List one thing that is unacceptable to you in each of these categories: The World; Other People; Myself. However you want to interpret those. Sort your original list to see if it fills these, but if not, make sure you pick a new one for that category without one. [CocteauBoy] IF you did name names, you have to translate that into what it is that bothers you about that person. Note: This is ONE list of up to six items, but can be less due to overlapping items. Beginning of Channeled Michael [MEntity] Keeping your list in mind, we will share with you what we think might be helpful for "accepting the unacceptable," what it means to accept, what the path is to true acceptance, and whether it is always the valid choice to make. [MEntity] To begin any discussion on Acceptance, we must discuss the elements involved with Acceptance. [MEntity] Acceptance is a Higher Intellectual function. It is the "highest" functioning Center of the body, and is the gateway for Essence to move into the high planes over its evolution and return to Tao. [MEntity] However, True Agape, or True Acceptance, requires all elements, or Centers (or Chakras) to be functioning in the Positive Poles for that state to be achieved. [MEntity] This is nearly impossible while Human, or while in a Body. There is almost always a Center teetering toward the Negative Pole, even on the best of days, as there is a spectrum involved in the living of life, and there is no need for one to exist only in the Positive Poles. The Negative Poles are important and useful. [MEntity] This is why we encourage the aim for Agape, but we also know that it is rare to experience it. To truly Love is not what most know as Love, or Agape. [MEntity] However, the aim for Agape is a valid aim, even if rare in reaching it, because the aim for Agape means that every single layer of your life is then aiming higher, aiming for wholeness, aiming for health, aiming for prosperity, aiming for whatever has been deemed beneficial. That single aim affects everything. [MEntity] Aiming toward Agape ensures that every aspect of you, both the most "negative" and the most "positive" are aiming in the same direction, and including everything known and unknown in the life. [MEntity] Aiming for Agape is also the most effortless direction to aim, despite the rarity and difficulty of experiencing it at the highest levels. Agape is the gravity that will take you "home." [MEntity] It is our most natural state. [MEntity] But it is also the most buried and remote in our consciousness so that we must work through the layers to unfurl it, so to speak. [Maureen] Michael -- wouldn't Agape (Acceptance) be associated with the Higher Emotional Center rather than the Higher intellectual? Am I missing something? [MEntity] In our system, it is an Cardinal, Expressive Overleaf that resonates to the Higher Intellectual Center, or Truth. There is a reason you may find resonance with the Emotional element, which what we will speak to now. [MEntity] Love is the Highest Truth. [MEntity] Regardless of one's Goal and overleaves, Acceptance will still be a part of the life. It may not be emphasized as the challenge, but it will be a part of the life. In the same way that one will grow, even if Growth is not the Goal, so will one Accept, even if that is not the emphasis. [MEntity] So what we will do today is speak to the most pervasive element involved in the hurdle to Acceptance. [MEntity] For most, this would be the Emotional "element" or the Emotional Center. [MEntity] This is because one can know the truth of something or someone and still not Love, or not Accept, because of the Emotional Centering's pull into Sentimentality vs Perception. [MEntity] The Intellect can often grasp the truth of something while the Emotions cannot make sense of it. We think each of you know of this experience. [MEntity] This is because the Intellect, when functioning properly, simplfies, reduces, and synopsizes events, people, and self so that the bare bones or structures are all that are necessary for understanding and accepting. The rest is unnecessary. [MEntity] The Intellectual Centers, both Lower and Higher, can sort through everything to find that structure or core and this is known as Insight and Truth, when they are in the positive poles. [MEntity] This is not to say that the Intellect is immune to issues, but in the context of our workshop today regarding "accepting the unacceptable," the Intellect can often already be on board, while the Emotions are not in any mood to accept what the Intellect has accepted. [MEntity] This is because the Intellects use a linear language, or linear understanding, such as words, for its processing. The Emotions have no words, nothing linear, and its language is highly symbolic. [MEntity] This world of symbolism is highly effective when it is in the Positive Pole of Perception. This is the capacity for one to "know" something based upon perceiving, and bypassing all logic or intellect. It is holistic in its processing, so that all components or aspects of a situation, person, or self are comprehended in a moment. [MEntity] In the same way that a swatch of color can convey much more than a single English letter, so can Emotions convey whole concepts. The world of dreams is an Emotional world in that way. The Astral Plane, or Emotional Plane, is the same. [MEntity] Perception is the immediate comprehension of that symbolic language. [MEntity] It is also the allowance for shift in that symbolic language. [MEntity] All language is dynamic, and if not allowed for nuances and variations, it can become useless and ineffective. [MEntity] Sentimentality, then, is the attachment to symbols, or the attachment to symbols, or the attachment of meaning to symbols. [MEntity] As a simplistic example, the color RED is often immediately meaningful in one way or another, such as meaning STOP, or HALT, AGITATION, EXCITEMENT or WARNING, or it may mean PASSION, LOVE, ANGER, or it may mean REWARD, such as the red of harvested fruits, etc. [MEntity] For one to truly grasp the meaning of a symbol, the larger context must be considered. [MEntity] When walking through a red apple orchard, one does not see STOP, WARNING, AGITATION, as one might see on a road with many Stop Signs, and one does not see PASSION, INTIMACY, LOVE, as one might find while walking through a red rose garden, etc. [MEntity] You would see apples. Fruit. Harvesting, Reward. [MEntity] So while the color has powerful meaning in itself, the context clarifies that meaning. [MEntity] But when Sentimentality becomes involved, one begins to attach rigid meaning to the symbols of life. [MEntity] So your meaning of Red will mean RED in any circumstance. [MEntity] This is what happens when you have come across the unacceptable. You are seeing your Red, and its meaning, alone. [MEntity] You have turned the event, person, or aspect of yourself into a symbol that has no room for new meaning. [MEntity] Or for alternative meaning, at least. [MEntity] So the greatest pitfall in your efforts toward increasing Love in your life tends to be where you have locked down the symbolic meaning of events, people, or self in a way that you feel justified in keeping locked down. [MEntity] Before we move on, is everyone following this, and does this ring valid for you? Do you have any questions so far? [Janet] I think it rings true. I am trying to figure how it applies to some items on my list. [Maureen] Great so far Michael [Bobby] yes [MEntity] Your lists will come in handy as we continue. [GeraldineB] I had a "bingo!" on the difference between intellectual or linear and emotional symbolism being perception -- will need to chew on it [MEntity] We will continue now. [MEntity] For greater understanding of your Emotional navigation, imagine that it is your way of moving about in life with no eyes. [MEntity] Your Emotions, then, need to reach out, to touch, to feel. This is simplistic, but effective in making our point. [MEntity] When you feel something that "feels good," it is an immediate knowing that it feels good, and it is often embraced. When you feel something that does not feel good, it is an immediate knowing that it may be dangerous and you might push it away. [MEntity] Knowing that something feels good, or not, is not the truth, though. [MEntity] The fur of a Grizzly bear may feel amazing, but it will not keep your skull from being chewed. The burn on your hand from the hot skillet while you cooked has no bearing on the quality of the meal you will consume after. [MEntity] In short: YOUR FEELINGS ARE NEVER THE TRUTH. [MEntity] Or rather: never the whole truth. [MEntity] Your feelings are what you experience ABOUT the truth, but they are not the truth. [MEntity] Consider any important relationship in your life: one day, you may not feel close at all, and another day, you cannot imagine your life without that person. Your feelings change. They are not the same thing as the truth. [MEntity] Good days, bad days, good relationships, bad relationships, are determined by your feelings about those things, not by those things, themselves. [MEntity] This is why one person can find such agitation with something or someone, but another person finds no charge at all, because the symbols are different, and the feelings generated are different. [MEntity] The actual situation can be exactly the same, but the feelings vary wildly. [MEntity] This is also why "the truth" is often so slippery, because many are referring only to their feelings as a basis for what is true, and not the truth, itself. [MEntity] What we are sharing with you today is not just about your list, but about your list as it reflects you. Because our discussion with you today is about the ultimate aim: Self-Love. Everything that is experienced internally or externally in terms of being "unacceptable," are clues as to where and how you will want to aim your capacity for Self-Love. [MEntity] We realize it has come to be cliche, that "one can only love another if one has learned to love oneself," but we will clarify this as being true that one can only love or accept another to the extent that one can love or accept oneself. The extent to which one is incapable of loving oneself can often be revealed in those areas where one cannot accept. [MEntity] So we will state here that Self-Love is built upon one's capacity for accepting all of the fluctuations in the Emotions that make up how you know yourself at any given moment. [MEntity] In other words, it is vital that you allow room for ALL of you. DEFINITIONS [MEntity] We will go further here to expand on some terms: [MEntity] Perception might be defined as that part of you that can transcend the confines of Space, Time, and Logic to grasp the essential and nuanced nature of the self, another person, experience, or event. [MEntity] Sentimentality might be defined as that part of you that remains attached to the definitions already determined for yourself, another person, experience, or event, often determined only by your own past. [MEntity[ Perception is based in a state of NOW, if you will, while Sentimentality is rooted in comparisons that takes one outside of Now. For instance, Perception knows that if you are sad right now, it is okay because another "now" comes along, and you know you are not always sad. Sentimentality compares sadness to happiness and seeks to escape Now by longing for the past when happy, or the hope for a future when happy again. [MEntity] It is not in the comparisons that there can be trouble, but in use of comparison as the distraction away from the self, relationship, experience, or event. [MEntity] Perception allows you to avoid being trapped by symbolism. It knows that just because you are feeling sad, that it does not mean you are sad. You are experiencing Sadness. That is all. You also know that when you are Happy, it is not permanent; you will still have bad days. Perception "knows" this. [MEntity] You are incarnating for the point of Being, and that means you would naturally include a spectrum of Being, not one end or the other, if there is such a thing. [MEntity] To that end, whatever you feel, is a PART of who you are, right now. It is not the entirety of who you are. It is not the truth of who you are. [MEntity] And so it is that what you find unacceptable is only a PART of whatever is unacceptable. It is not the truth, nor is it the entirety of that which is unacceptable. [MEntity] There is so much more. [MEntity] If you wish to accept that which is unacceptable, then, you must start with yourself in that experience, and with your feelings in that experience, and know that you cannot accept the unacceptable until you allow yourself NOT to accept it. [MEntity] Accepting the unacceptable starts with accepting your lack of capacity to accept. [MEntity] This irony is a quick short-circuiting of the wheel that can perpetuate terrible feelings in unacceptability. [MEntity] When you accept your own lack of capacity to accept, your energy can shift toward expansion, rather than defense. [Maureen] Acceptance of your own Un-Acceptance leads to "eventual" Acceptance? [GeraldineB] Well, at least to your perception of your unacceptance [Maureen] yes [JanaK] because in that you are accepting yourself (not accepting) [GeraldineB falls off her chair howling with laughter] [JanaK] lol [Maureen] :) [MEntity] Yes, but naturally, not magically. [MEntity] This is because at the heart of this element where acceptability can get trapped is the capacity for compassion and empathy, and one must generate compassion and empathy for the self before extending that to another. [Bobby] This rings true to some degree like the mode of passion does. I see things that I don't like/accept but I don't have to take them personally. [MEntity] For example, many who suffer loss may focus on trying to accept that loss, but the key is not in aiming toward accepting the loss, but in aiming toward accepting your struggle to accept the loss. This may seem a fine line, but it is not. [MEntity] This goes back to the symbolism of the Emotional Center. [MEntity] The Emotional Center, when Sentimental, cannot differentiate very well between the self and the symbol, and it can cause great agitation, grief, and reaction if the symbols do not behave within the confines of how they have been defined. [MEntity] In other words, The World should behave in certain ways because that is how you determined your world should be. Other People should behave in certain ways because this is how you presume you will show up for others. You must, yourself, behave in certain ways that fulfill your symbolic identity. [Maureen] It can get really tricky [MEntity] But in the same way that you will have good days and bad days and ALL of those are yours, so will there be "good" people and "bad" people, but they are your people. There will be challenging people and harmonious people, because you are those things, as well. There is a spectrum, not a fence to cross, or to herd everyone over. [MEntity] What tends to perpetuate a lack of acceptability is the lack of effort to Be Present. [MEntity] This is because it is considered a threat to the self if the symbol is given any validity, especially if that symbol is behaving outside of what you have deemed acceptable. [MEntity] For instance, to Be Present to the fact that there will be people at war, even if you prefer Peace, means that you feel you would have to, essentially, accept war. [MEntity] But the key here is in accepting that there will be people at war, not in accepting war, itself. [MEntity] There will be people behaving badly around you, based on your standards, and they will exist with or without your accepting them. [MEntity] To Be Present, however, does not mean you have to remain in an uncomfortable or painful situation, but that you accept that there are people who are okay with what you are not, and that you have the right and the capacity to choose not to be a part of it. [Janet] Ok, now I think I'm getting it. [MEntity] To Be Present simply means that you bring your consciousness to the moment and can make a choice from there. Being Present is a first step toward Intimacy, and is a form of it, in itself. [MEntity] And Intimacy is the first step toward Essence Recognition, which is often the key to freeing one another from the symbols that bind you. [MEntity] Essence Recognition is the stripping away of all symbols, including the current body and Personality, to resonate with the Essence of another. It is the truth. The whole truth. It is Love. [MEntity] Keeping in mind that Love, and Essence are spectrums, so that Essence Recognition is inclusive of that spectrum. The unacceptable is included. And this, paradoxically, generates a kind of acceptance that can undo any reactionary cycles of defense that were previously in place against the unacceptable. [MEntity] For example: [MEntity] We have said this before, but one does not have to remain in a burning house to learn how to love it. [MEntity] Being Present means being able to make the choice to step outside of the danger or impact that can very well harm you. It is not a denial, avoidance, reaction, rejection, or a confusion between the house and the fire. [MEntity] The Fire is a PART of the experience of the House, but is not the entirety of the House. [MEntity] Making the choice not to burn with the house is not the same thing as not accepting the fire, or not accepting the house. [MEntity] You accept that you wish not to burn, but that the fire exists, and that the house is being transformed by it. This is acceptance. [MEntity] It is allowing room for all of these symbols to dance, to move, to change, to interact, and to BE. Being is not defined by predetermined meaning, but by context, creativity, and evolution. [MEntity] When you look at your list of unacceptable things, then, these are areas of your life looking for new meaning, new freedom, new perceptions. [MEntity] These are your blind spots. [MEntity] These are the things you have touched and determined are "bad" only because of how they felt in the dark, so to speak. [MEntity] Your feelings matter, but they are not the whole truth. Your life reflects you, but it reflects everything, not just you. It is the whole truth, not just the pretty parts. [MEntity] Bring our consciousness to the equation, make your choices in how to navigate these difficult challenges, but make room for more than the symbolic conclusions. [MEntity] To put the final empowerment into place for accepting the unacceptable, we will say that if you still deem something unacceptable, it will be helpful for you to know that you are right. You will always be right. No one can take that away from you. No matter how awful you have determined something to be, or how wonderful, you are right. Because it is your experience. [MEntity] And when you change your mind, or change your heart, you will be right again then, too. [MEntity] Giving yourself that freedom to be right can help you to remove the necessity for recruiting others to support your condemnation of a symbol, or to justify your not being accepting of something or something. [MEntity] If you are already right, then the only thing left to do is to navigate. But as soon as you bring in your presence, your consciousness, your navigation begins to include a greater context, and when a greater context is included, your ideas of "right" begin to expand and become more inclusive. It is not a sad day when you realize that "everyone is right." QUESTIONS and REMARKS [MEntity] Before we conclude with a clear synopsis, and offer suggestions for how to move the unacceptable into being acceptable, we will take your questions about what has been shared, so far. [MEntity] If that is a possibility, and your choice, of course. Acceptance is not dependent upon what is possible, or in what you should do, or not do, but in your capacity to allow for that which IS, even as it may be compared to what it should be, or was. [MEntity] Acceptance is not apathy. [Janet] That's what I was getting to. Thanks. [Bobby] I would add the question: why do we care so much what others think about things we either do or don't do? [MEntity] For example, we know our channel is highly passionate about Animal Rights, and this has made his list of "unacceptable" things in The World. Accepting that there are violations and suffering imposed upon the innocent is not the same thing as resigning from making a difference. The acceptance removes the reactionary, defensive element, and allows for conscious choices, which are far more effective, such as through education and exemplifying alternatives. [Janet] That's understandable. Mine was Fox News. And fear-based politics in general. [MEntity] Accepting that this "news" exists does not mean that it is your news, or that it is the truth about the world. It simply means that you allow room for it for those who want it and need it. They want to be as right as you do. [Janet] And I accept that. [MEntity] Accepting that it exists does not mean resigning from countering it, or making known a more fact-based resources. [MEntity] It simply means that it no longer triggers you, causes defense, or reactionary divisions that cannot allow for it to exist. This is a part of the world that does not reflect you in any obvious way, but we can say that its spectrum between gullibility and some feverish impulses to condemn may be familiar from within yourself. [Janet] Yes, I am finding that most things that set me off have some connection to things I do myself. [MEntity] This is what we meant by the Emotions feeling the surface and rejecting the content. On the surface, this prickly subject is obviously unappealing and has no bearing, but beneath that is the innocence that you feel is exploited, and that you wish to heal from your own past. [MEntity] This is often the core of most of what is unacceptable when it comes to the Older Soul: the healing of, and return to, Innocence. [Maureen] My husband doesn’t do the dishes – “when” I want him to. This seems so silly -- but it drives me crazy. [JanaK] you have just spoken for millions of people [MEntity] The Old Soul is the Infant Soul, exalted. The tantrums are more refined and justified, but that which "drives one crazy" is often used as permission for tantrums. [MEntity] The unacceptable is often built from the need To Be Right, and is a rejection of Innocence in some way, both of which need serious attention and healing in most cases. [MEntity] Your husband is Innocent. It is simply not as important to him as it is to you. You have blurred him into your symbolism for who you are, and it is not his job to symbolize you. [Maureen] I can see that - LOL [MEntity] Accepting that his priority for doing dishes is different from yours does not mean that you lose your own, but that you now have a choice: allow him to do so on his own, or do it when you want to do it. No one is out to hurt the other by being oneself. [Maureen] So funny -- he's told me as much Michael SUGGESTIONS [MEntity] Here are some suggestions for each of you to use in your days and weeks ahead when working with the unacceptable: [MEntity] Beyond bringing your own Presence into the equation, practice "realizing" the presence of others. In other words, return them to being people, to being real, to having their own pasts, their own ideals, their own validity; return them back to themselves. Remind yourself that this person cares about something, too. It may not be the same as you, but he or she cares. Remember that this person tries to love someone, too, and that he or she struggles with letting himself or herself be loved. [MEntity] Remember that you feel the way you do because you care, too. And because you try to love, and to be loved, as well. You matter. They matter. So return them from the land of symbolism and give them back to themselves, as you must do for parts of yourself, too. [MEntity] This helps return your Perception back to a bigger picture, not just the tunnel-vision of reaction and condemnation. [MEntity] Another suggestion is to extend this "realizing" into what we call "practicing vividry." [MEntity] This is simply the enhancement of the moment of experience into a moment of awe. [MEntity] It will not matter what you are doing, or where, but it is the sudden realization that you are present, that your skin exists, that there is light on your face, that there are textures touching you, and that there is a temperature, and that you have a face that has a tongue and mouth and eyes, and that your hands and arms exist, etc. It is the filling up of everything within "reach" with your conscious awareness. [MEntity] Bringing you and your environment to life through vividry is a powerful way of comprehending just how sleepy you may get in your movement through your days. [MEntity] One need not be consciously and constantly aware like this at all times, of course, but for you to be able to call upon that at any moment is vital for moving your into Self-Love and acceptance of others. [MEntity] This is because one can have a very difficult time accepting the unacceptable if one is asleep, as it is much like being in a dream where one feels that the symbols happen without rhyme or reason, and that there is not much one can do but to report on them. Waking up changes this. [MEntity] And finally, if you were to do this "waking up" before going to bed at night, it can carry over into your days in even more natural ways. Practicing Vividry just before retiring into sleep can help remind you that your day was a specrum that supported everything that is You. [MEntity] That would include the unacceptable. [MEntity] Extend this vividry to beyond the moment so that there is a realization that your bed, your linens, your home, and everything in it came from "somewhere," and that a lot of effort and creativity and generosity and even pain and suffering went into all that is a part of your days that you take for granted. [MEntity] You will not know what went into everything that got to your home tonight, but it is there now, and it is a part of your days, your nights, your comforts, your challenges, etc. [MEntity] Accepting that these things are in your home does not mean that you cannot deal with them effectively, help transform them, or even remove them. [MEntity] And that is how the unacceptable is in your life, as well. It is a part of the package of what your life is, and accepting that does not mean that you cannot deal with them effectively, help transform them, or remove them. [MEntity] We do have much more to say on this topic, of course, but we think this is a start in helping each of you to, at least, soften the effects of the unacceptable, and then to begin the efforts of accepting from there, all the while aiming for Agape and Self-Love. [MEntity] We must conclude here for now. [MEntity] Good day to each of you.
This material was originally posted by Geraldine B on August 10, 2009. Note from Geraldine: In my travels through the older TLE group postings, I came across this from Michael/Troy. I loaded it into the database, but I still thought it worthy of reading as we all struggle with negative versus positive poles, CFs, and all of the other fun stuff of life. For some, it's a repeat, for others it's new material. Note from Kasia: Although Geraldine indicates that she loaded this article into the database, it was not found in the ning materials when they were transferred -- unless she meant this specific article. 7 Rings of Love April 6, 2007 In this article, the material was built upon from past material channeled in the past, with just more layers explored. I think this article came about because the original material was just an outline, and some of us really wanted to grasp what it meant to Love. [MEntity] We are asked tonight to cover what we perceive as the 7 Rings of Love. Considering the magnitude of impact that understanding this Universal Truth would have on an individual life, we are continually surprised at the lack of attention this subject receives. This is not conveyed to you as a judgment, but as an observation. There is no obligation to ever understand our perception of a subject. You will learn to love, and you will love to learn, at your own paces and through your own experiences, regardless of your intimacy or lack of intimacy with us. As we cover the 7 Rings of Love, you will easily see where you are in various areas of your life in relation to events, people, and yourself. You may have no questions in your love for a certain individual, yet have a painful challenge against loving the perpetrators of war or cruelty, for instance. In other instances, you may find you experience a Ring of Love for a complete "stranger," yet feel quite repulsed by your mate. We will list the 7 Rings, then cover each in some detail. First Ring: Nurturing Second Ring: Alliance Third Ring: Reciprocity Fourth Ring: Appreciation Fifth Ring: Comprehension Sixth Ring: Altruism Seventh Ring: Agape The First Ring, NURTURING, of course, is not tremendously difficult to bring to your life or to someone else's. Even "Events" receive some amount of this Ring of Love if you experience certain repetitive patterns in your life. In other words, if you find you continue to struggle with "issues" that change form, but retain the core "lesson," you are providing some form of Nurturing for those issues; some form of Love. Love is not reserved for only Humans or Relationships, but is able to be generated for all Events you experience as a Sentient Being. When you have repetitive patterns in your life and you "wish" they were not a part of your life, it will do you well to observe in what ways you Nurture these events as a means to extract or create opportunities for expanding into wider Rings of Love or as a means to opening to receive Love. We will clarify here that NO RING OF LOVE HAS CONDITION. That fact is the one underlying theme throughout each Ring. When you truly Nurture another person, yourself, or an event, it is without condition. This is why some Events continue to remain, even as you assume you prefer them to leave. On some level of your consciousness, you have determined that your "unwanted" areas of your life require unquestioned Nurturing, so it will remain Nurtured. Some of the most important first experiences of Love are found in Nurturing unwanted situations and relationships. Consider the result of having an "unwanted" child, yet without question, providing the Nurture required for sustaining the life of that child. Nurturing "unwanted" events is similar, even as the event outgrows you or you outgrow it. Nurture is the lowest form of Love, yet it is Love. It is unquestioned obligation and duty. Because the experience of Loving is vital to a lifetime, many Events and People remain within the life that may be harmful, draining, and even dangerous, because to Nurture these things means at least some amount of Love is being experienced. At some point, a fragment will either move beyond that Ring of Love, or eventually dismiss the event as it grows "out of hand, or out of control," responding in a way one would to an "unwanted child." To move beyond Nurture for an event or person or self, one must be willing to move beyond Obligation and Duty, and into AT LEAST Alliance, the Second Ring. ALLIANCE is the second Ring of Love and this rings sees the Person, Event, or Self as an equal. If the Person, Event, or part of Self is not found to be equal, then at least some striking similar traits are emphasized. Alliance becomes necessarily "exclusive" of other people and events and various parts of the Self. The Ring of Duty and Obligation experienced is increased, but without resentment or lack of understanding, and with more willingness and enthusiasm. Issues having been Nurtured in the life become more understood, even if still "unwanted," much in the same way that a person may surrender to, or devote oneself to an "unwanted child." Alliance allows that which is being Loved to become for the first time, a part of the identity of Self. To move from Nurture to Alliance, one only need gain a level of understanding that your actions led you to the Event, Person, or Part of Self. This Ring is related to the 3rd Chakra, or Moving Center, and the First Ring, Nurture, is related to the 1st Chakra, or Instinctive Center. Alliance then leads to RECIPROCITY, the Third Ring of Love. Reciprocity is the Ring that begins to incorporate the Emotions, or Emotional Centering (4th Chakra). It then becomes the first time that a fragment begins to RECEIVE energy, and a circuit is created. The first two Rings focus on basic ways of Giving Love, but to Receive Love is far more challenging than to "give" it. Although Love is more than a circuit of energy, that circuit must be completed before broader Rings of Love are experienced. Reciprocity is the Ring of Love many are capable of reaching on a steady and stable basis. It is fairly easy to live with this Ring and still experience the range of Emotional, Instinctive, and Physical experiences that can challenge a life, self, or relationship. This is the Ring in which your "issues" or "unwanted events," challenging relationships, and difficult parts of Self are even more consciously explored as being "mirrors," or as having more meaningful possibilities beyond superficial challenge. This is the Ring in which you begin to experience more important Attraction/Repulsion experiences within Events, Parts of Self, and Others. Because this Ring is experienced within the arena of Emotions, it can be quite confusing and difficult to manage at times, but it is marked by its strange, solid experience of truly knowing a strong connection and strength is shared with even the most repulsive of People, Events, or Parts of Self. This is because this Ring has the ability to perceive in even the "worst" of Events, People, and Parts of Self, that "gifts" can come of that experience and this allows the continued exploration. To move from Alliance to Reciprocity, one must be willing to Feel in relation to that which is being Loved. Reciprocity then leads to APPRECIATION, the Fourth Ring of Love. This Ring of Love relates to the Intellectual Center, or 5th Chakra, and is the first time a fragment is able to differentiate between what IS and IS NOT your definition of "You," and allows a release of that which IS NOT. Appreciation is the Ring of Love that recognizes the diversity of life and can begin grasping the reality that not EVERYTHING has to be "important" or "have purpose." The fragment begins to Forgive, to truly accept that there has never been a mistake, that all experiences are simply that, Experiences, and that all people are just that, PEOPLE. This is a ring that loses the emphasis that everyone must find a powerful position within their own definition of life, but does allow for others' definitions, even if those definitions are diametrically opposed to your own. Many fragments find this Ring of Love to be invigorating and begin creating strings of sexual and emotional relationships of short durations. This provides satisfying, beautiful, and intensely-contained experiences of Love. This Ring of Love is experienced strongly during the Hormonal Washes of the formative Teen years, but the experiences are dismissed as meaningless, not only because of the nature inherent in that Ring, but also because no validity is given by your culture to the knowledge gained from such formative and fleeting experiences. Of course, we do not say, nor do we imply, that the "teen" years are the only years in which this Ring of Love is experienced, as this Ring of Love can also be generated and sustained even as a "lifestyle" form of Love for some. We also wish to emphasize that the serial sexual/emotional exploration is only one example of how this Ring might be experienced. A more encompassing description is simply that the fragment begins to find a great appeal in exploring anything foreign, unfamiliar, and alien. In terms of the "unwanted issues," the Love experienced at this Fourth Ring will have the fragment finding the issues and events as being adventures, exciting tours, in the world of experiences, rather than as mere burdens. In addition, this Ring begins to see and reach beyond the Person or Event being Loved, expanding to include all associations with that particular Event or Person. "Any friend of yours is a friend of mine" might be a simple, familiar phrase to capture that Ring. Appreciation then leads to COMPREHENSION, or the Fifth Ring. This 5th Ring of Love is associated with the 7th Chakra, or Higher Intellectual Center. This is the Ring in which all Events, People, and Self are seen as quite simply having a part in THE TRUTH. In other words, this is the Ring in which you realize that absolutely nothing is "wrong," that everything is dancing a part in the scheme of things, and you grasp that Truth. You begin to Comprehend that Events and People exist for "their own truth/reason," and that these Events and People do not require your understanding. This is also the first time the Self becomes fully integrated as itself in relation to the Event or Person being Loved, but recognizes these external factors as PART of the life, not as defining it. There is no longer a distraction with attachments to external factors as being the only definitions of "You." For instance, if a relationship ends, this is seen as an experience, not as a blow to your identity. To move from Appreciation to Comprehension, one simply begins to experience Awe. Everything seems to begin to "make sense," despite a lack of logic. Comprehension leads to ALTRUISM, which is the Sixth Ring of Love. Altruism relates to the Higher Emotional Center or 6th Chakra. While Comprehension sees the Truth of an Event or Person, Altruism experiences the deep compassion for how life may be experienced by Others. There is an encompassing acceptance of the "human condition," and an emphasis on the fact that life is never experienced exactly the same by any two points of consciousness in Time or Space. This Ring of Love is the first time you feel Human, or feel a full part of your Species with acceptance of that position of Sentience. As the Fifth Ring of Love loses any emphasis on your Self as being fragmented, the Sixth Ring loses emphasis on Events or Issues as distractions. There begins to be seen only a vast sea of experiential paths that are interpreted by everyone differently. It is the simultaneous understanding that while you experience your world quite particularly, another fragment may never have experienced or interpreted it the same way or even remotely similarly. It is the realization that it has never been the Events, or Parts of Self that defined or created the Life, but simply, how well you loved it all. To move from Comprehension to Altruism, one would tend to experience True Compassion, or Empathy, for that which is being explored. And finally, the Seventh Ring of Love is AGAPE, reached through Altruism. At this Ring, there is no emphasis on anything. Complete acceptance is experienced, with absolute loss of condition, meaning, reference, and definition. As the Sixth Ring developed a lack of emphasis on Events, and the Fifth Ring lost emphasis on Self, this final Ring removes ALL emphasis beyond the allowance of EXPERIENCE. Agape is PEACE. This Ring is related to the all-encompassing, boundless Higher Moving Center, or Tao. This is the Ring of realization that ALL of your life was Created by you or Allowed by you, and that not only is there nothing Wrong or Separate, but that EVERYTHING IS PERFECT in its own way. We will add that the Fifth Ring of Love is marked biologically through the experience of Crying, or Tears, as this is the realization of Truth on some level. To acknowledge the Truth of anything is a higher Ring of Love. Furthermore, True Hate can be included in the Fifth Ring, as Hate is a powerful form of Intimacy and recognition of Truth. The Sixth Ring of Love is marked biologically through True Pleasure and what most would call Happiness, as these states are an experience of lacking fragmentation and self-acceptance in the moment. The 7th Ring of Love is marked biologically through the experience of True Laughter, or the recognition of Oneness among all. The power of Tears, Pleasure, and Laughter are simple, accessible experiences to allow these Rings of Love to be experienced in many instances within the life, yet these biological interpretations of those Rings are difficult to sustain, understandably. (Note from Kasia: I've included relevant comments with additional channeling from the original post.) Comment by Geraldine B on February 15, 2010: Note to all those who attended either the Feb 14th 2010 Chat or Workshop, this is the article that was originally posted on the TLE group list. (Snickering at Troy -- you couldn't find it here, either???) Note to those who didn't attend either event, nor the NYC Live group, there is a wealth of material that is part of the chat transcript and I can think of no topic more fraught with imprinting and false beliefs than love, yet so fundamental to the very structure of life itself. I'm going to jump the gun, so to speak, and publish the transcript in here -- and let Troy publish in the regular Transcript forum with whatever edits and tweaks he might want to add for the permanent record. Geraldine Note from TLE Admin: Geraldine is referring to this transcript: Michael Speaks: on Love