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OMW - Jun 15, 2012 - Tending To your 7 Basic Rights Troy Tolley, Channel [MEntity] What we are asked to discuss today is rather vital to the health and well-being of a lifetime of incarnation, and is fairly directly hooked into the capacity for Personality to Manifest Essence for any extended period of time. For the sake of clarity, we will state here that while Chakras and Centers have resonance that can draw meaningful and relevant correlations, they are not the same system. Chakras are inherent energy management systems of varying complexities that are formed by bodies as a means to sustain form of some kind, whereas "Centering," in our teachings, while referencing Chakras, describes one's "center of gravity," or how one navigates the physical plane while in the body. Primary Centering is how one takes in the world around the body, while the Part is how one tends to emit themselves back out into the world. So while one may have Emotional Centering as a form of navigation, this would not necessarily mean that one has a strong or emphasized Heart Chakra, for instance. Nor would it mean one has an underused or de-emphasized Heart Chakra. We point the difference out here because there are Correlations and then there are Resonances between the systems, and they are not consistent with each other. We will not get into those differences here, but it will be important not to draw tight parallels between the two while exploring both systems, as they are, indeed, different systems. For today, we discuss the Chakras, and if we draw parallels to the Centers, it would be relevant in that context, but not necessarily in another context. The Chakras, then, are the connecting portals between Essence and Personality, or the Essence and Bodies. We speak in plural of the bodies, as there are various layers of the body that vary in density and function, and these bodies are the parts that bring the whole to "life," but each body, or density, could function on its own. Each body has a different experience of time and space and dimension, and each has a different emphasis of management for what and how to share with Essence, and each may have a different agenda, different wounding, different version of history, etc. And each body is in charge of fulfilling its own "right." We are speaking of these bodies as delineated, only for the sake of convenience and comprehension, but they function seamlessly and as a whole. It will not be helpful to think of these as separate, except insofar as it helps you to first grasp this particular topic. In other words, in much the same way that we could speak to you about how your fingers function as very specific tools as compared to your arms, they do not function without each other, and to focus on one over the other would be pointless. In order for Essence to experience the various Planes of Existence, there must be bodies. Essence, alone, has no bodies, no form, no location. As Essence is FIRST Cast from Tao, its most amorphous "form" is actually something more like a recording device: the Instinctive Center, or what would become the Root Chakra in a Physical Body. This is because Essence is actually "formed" from the Akashic Plane, which, in itself, is the only "plane" that is not a Plane. There is no incarnation or processing through that "plane," as it is only a memory bank and probability generator. This Instinctive Center is inherent in ALL that is Cast from Tao, which means that if it is "not" Tao, then it has an Instinctive Center, and if it is on the Physical Plane, no matter what it is, there is a Root Chakra, at the very least. In terms of Rights, then, this would be the very basic Right To Exist. Once a portion of energy is Cast from Tao, it is "forever" its own thing. We know of nothing that has lost that Right, regardless of form, return and exit from Tao, etc. It would be important, here, to define what we mean by "Rights." We mean the term in much the same way that it is already understood. These Rights are those qualities and states of Being, Having, and Doing that are fully guaranteed, inherent, and due. Once one is Cast from Tao, these Rights are permanent. For example, there will never be a "when" that you do not Exist. It is permanently your Right as Essence. In much the same way this works for Essence, this Right is inherent in its own creations, as well. So the Personality is always "born" from the memory bank and probability generating Instinctive Center of Essence, and cast with the very basic Right To Exist. This means that "you," as you know you, will "never" go away, even when "you" die. The form may change, the identity may evolve, and the attachments will wane, but the "you" that is you, cannot be undone. This is why we use the term "fragments" as both a reference to your Essence as a part of its higher contexts, but also in reference to the Personalities that exist as parts of an Essence. Essence is a microcosmic Tao. This Right to Exist translates into the individual Personality as its Right to its memories and its capacity for generating probabilities. In short, its Right to Choose. The capacity for choice exists in every known form, even if the contexts for choice are relative. The parameters of choice for an atom, a rock, or a chicken are very different from the choices of a Personality. The parameter of Choice of a Personality is very different from that of Essence, as well. This does not undermine the capacity for choice, though. One way of understanding this is to consider the choices necessary for a fighter pilot to make versus those of a housewife, or the difference in parameters of choice for a child in kindergarten versus those of the college graduate. These are not limitations imposed, but simply contextual. Your Essence must make Choices that a Personality will never have to face. And Personality must make choices that Essence would never have been able to make on its own. Grand Cycle after Grand Cycle, lifetime after lifetime, the Instinctive, or Root Chakra, is the only element carried forth, over and over and over. It becomes multilayered, as each Grand Cycle "stacks" a layer upon a layer so that there is no bleedthrough, and so that there is a fresh layer for recording, but those layers are always accessible by Essence. All other Chakras are new and relative to the Grand Cycle. That is because these other Chakras become the means by which the recording of experiences are funneled to the Instinctive. And those Chakras must be relative to the systems in place for that "universe." As no universe or Essence can be in existence without inherently owning an Instinctive Center, or Root Chakra, this is the only one that is at the root, if you will, of any existence. It is a misnomer to describe Essence as "owning" this, as Essence is, essentially, the same thing, but the same could be said of a Personality in relation to Essence; we delineate for purposes of understanding the parts that are the whole. In the same way that the developing Chakras relative to a Grand Cycle become the funnels for recording experiences to the Instinctive Center, so are Personalities within a specific Sentience funneling experiences to Essence. The first Chakra, then, that is developed, is that which allows for location. That would be the Second Chakra, or the Sacral Chakra. This Chakra is the first form of differentiation within a universe. This is not the same thing as separation. It is the capacity for form within form. Thus, it is also the Chakra of Creation. Because this is a Chakra that allows for location and form and creation, it is also the first body that "feels." Form within Form allows for intimacy, unison, oneness. We describe the Highest Plane, which inherently has these qualities, as the Buddhic Plane. This Right is vital for the use of Existence. It is the capacity for Existence to have location, and to create form. Everything "feels," then. Everything. However, what is often thought of as "feelings" are not the same thing here. Having the capacity for form within form means being aware of the self in relation to something else. All matter has that capacity to some degree. We refer to it as Consciousness. A rock, flea, and chicken have a consciousness just as your Essence does, and "you" do. The capacity for choice determines the capacity for Consciousness. A rock has a very different parameter of Choice from a chicken or a Sentient Human, so there are varying degree of Consciousness involved in each. However, for an Essence to ever move into a Sentient Species, it must evolve though all of those parameters of choice, or degrees of Consciousness, before considering Sentient exploration. Before doing so, the first "form within form" or creation of Essence is its formation of Entity, Cadre, and Energy Ring, etc. This is its first experience of location. And this is done through "feeling." Every Essence, then, could be said to "feel" its way through the universe to find its Entity Mates, old friends from other Grand Cycles, and the formation of what is the actual "Casting" begins. "Feeling" here, then, is the inclination toward the organizing of patterns, or the creation of harmony and resonance. When this is carried into a Physical Lifetime, or a Personality, this Right to Feel translates into your Right to Intimacy, to Creativity, to Pleasure. The next Chakra that is developed, then, is the 6th Chakra, or the Brow Chakra. This is first time that "Time" begins to be experienced. It is often said that "time is an illusion," but that is another misleading cliche. "Time" is simply a term that describes the organizing of experiences. Time for Essence is very different than Time for Personality, because they organize experiences very differently. Time for a gnat is very different from Time for a rock for the same reasons. This organizational capacity must be in place early on, if you will, so that experience can be funneled into Essence in a way that can be comprehended, for that is the "entire point" of Existence. In terms of Personality, this Right is quite similar, in that it is your Right to see beyond any circumstances, beyond the self, beyond the moment, to dream, to imagine, to be visionary, etc. The next Chakra that is developed, then, is the 7th Chakra, or the Crown Chakra, as this is the means through which Essence will comprehend its experiences of existence. It is the Right to Evolve. This is inherent in all matter, as well. The Rights to Exist, Feel, Dream, and Evolve, then, are inherent in all matter or energy. There are better words that may be considered, but this is a fair enough reference here. Yes, even Rocks have these Rights, at least in terms of the energy and matter that is the Rock. However, something very different begins to happen for those forms of Consciousness who choose to aim for exploration in Sentience (and not all forms of consciousness aim for that). The Chakras, or Rights, that we have described so far are the Rights that come from the very nature of energy as representative of Tao, and this gives all a vast range of exploration in form throughout that universe, since all matter would inherently have these Rights, or portals/chakras. Entire Entities and Energy Rings can then exist as mountain ranges, weather systems, herds of animals, insects, birds, amoeba, fish, water systems, etc. or whatever other terms might be used to describe the planet of interest that may house a candidate species for sentience. All of the Rights inherent in Essence are carried through those forms and implemented in ways that evolve the planet and its species and life forms. Nothing in existence was formed in matter without some consciousness involved in its coming into that existence of form. Nothing in existence of form is evolved without the consciousness that is experiencing that form and its parameters of choice. But what makes Sentience so unique is that it learns to use the inherent Chakras of the denser bodies, and turns those into an extension of Essence Rights. In the exploration through the Physical Plane, there comes a time when the aim for Sentience includes having the Rights of Essence represented through the bodies of that Plane. The first of these to be established is the 3rd Chakra, or the Right to Move, to Change, to Be Free. This tends to prompt the evolutionary chain of events that lead to the candidates for Sentience much later. This is because the Third Chakra is the Second Chakra, made Ordinal. Or, in our terms, the Moving Center begins being used for manifesting the Higher Moving Center. This 3rd Chakra, then, is developed in anything that can move or grow in form, and that Right will exist for anything that can move and grow within the Physical Plane after that Chakra has been developed for that form. Again, at least in terms of the consciousness exploring that form. In a Sentient Species, this Right continues as a similar Right. It is the Right of the Personality to make its own choices, choose its own actions, choose its own directions, grow in its own way, be free on its own terms, etc. The 4th Chakra is developed among species whose wiring has evolved to a point where it can become aware of itself beyond itself. This is not the same thing as self-awareness or Sentience, but a kind of empathy, and an awareness of Time, and a capacity for learning. In non-sentient Species this would be the Right to Nurture, to Care, to Empathize. In a Sentient Species, this becomes the Right to Love. And then the 5th Chakra is developed and explored through species who have gained the capacity for language. This becomes the Right to Communicate in non-sentient species, and becomes the Right to The Truth in a Sentient Species. By "language," we do not mean speaking English, but some form of complex symbols in sound, body, or other form that allows for the transfer of ideas. This 5th Chakra becomes the practice portal for the use of the 7th Chakra of Essence. As an aside: We will not go into detail about the Kingdoms that were developed and then explored on this planet by Essences aiming for Sentience, but we can say that, while this planet was explored by our Design of Sentience before choosing a different planet, and because our bodies were "moved here," many fragments within our Design are wholly unfamiliar with the the Kingdoms here, and therefore have evolved over time with a gross lack of concern for the Rights of the creatures who evolved here. What we have shared with you so far has been an overall picture of these Rights, why they are called Rights, and how they came about. When a species shifts from non-sentient to sentient, it tends to be because of the capacity for that species to not merely be experienced by Essence, but to represent Essence. [GeraldineB] Is this the basic reason that taking a sentient life requires karma to expiate it? The right to life? [MEntity] To some extent, yes. And that is because it is very different to experience a Physical Plane through a form, versus AS a form. We will point out here that before there is an incarnation as a Sentient Species, there is no 3rd, 4th, or 5th Chakra. But once locked into an incarnational cycle as a Sentient Species, that Essence is then locked into a path back to Tao that will require the full exploration of those Chakras AS ESSENCE, which means a process through not only the Physical Plane, as represented by the 3rd Chakra, but the Astral Plane, as represented by the 4th, and the Causal Plane, as represented by the 5th. It is important to understand the greater context for these Rights and the Chakras, but for the point of this workshop, we will now point you toward the ways in which you can use this information on a daily basis so that it is meaningful to "you" "now." [Janet] Do you mean before there is a plan to experience sentience there is no 3rd, 4th or 5th chakra? Earlier you said it was necessary to experience nurturing as non-sentient. [MEntity] Janet, those Chakras are developed as inherent in the species being explored, but only upon Sentience do they then become a part of Essence. That is because, when exploring the Chakras through non-sentience, they are stationary, if you will, in that species, but once Essence is exploring Sentience, those Chakras rise out of the Instinctive Center that is "inserted" into every body of each life. This is the difference between being a fragment that is Sentient, and being a part of a Hive Soul. Those stationary chakras act as portals for the exploring consciousness of that species. That species becomes like a hive of portals, or Chakras, through which various Essences, Entities, or even Energy Rings explore, diving in and out, etc. In Sentience, however, the bodies die without the consciousness that holds them together. To continue: In exploring your Rights as a Personality that is representative of Essence, and having all of the Rights that are inherent in both Essence and Personality, it will help you to understand one simple question for assessing what Right you are either blocking, ignoring, or undermining: What makes you Angry? Anger is the means through which bodies develop the capacity for alerting itself to the violation of Rights. We are using the term "anger" here because it is the most obvious, but anger is another term for helpless, and is the underlying factor in sadness or depression, as well. [Bobby] no offense taken ;-) [MEntity] If it helps, then, one can ask, what makes me sad? what makes me depressed? what makes me feel helpless? Most of what makes one helpless, sad, depressed, or angry is relative to one's capacity for fulfilling one's own Rights. None of the reasons or causes are relevant for anything other than your own process of awareness, as there are often limitations in what one can do to change the what, or the who, or the when of anger. [Maureen] How does the “Right to Life” or the “Right to Exist” play into being a Carnivore vs a Vegetarian? Do Humans have more “rights” than Animals? Do Animals have more “rights” than Plants? Is there a pecking order? (no chicken jokes here ;) ) [MEntity] The point would be in helping you to understand how you can bring more fulfillment and flow to your Chakras, or Rights, to help you to Exist, Feel, Grow, Love, Communicate, Dream, and Know. No one species has more Rights than another, but eventually, Sentience begins to acknowledge the spectrum of Rights inherent in all form, and makes choices relative to how those are honored. A Sentient Species is the only species with the capacity to grasp the concept of Rights while in form. A factory animal may know anger, sadness, depression, helplessness because it is aware that its Right to Be Free has been violated, but it does not know that it has that Right. On their own terms, the creatures would exemplify their Right to Be Free, to Nurture, and to Communicate, as these are inherent in the species, but they would not know to defend these until they are violated. This is why many species can be enslaved and farmed, as they know only the instinctive defense of the Rights, but not the Rights. [Janet] Michael, my primary source of anger relates to limitation of choice -- in the form of people seeking to impose their beliefs on others via rules or laws and also in the form of individuals mindlessly accepting whatever their church or peer group say is best. I cannot see how this ties to a specific Right or chakra. It seems to affect all of them. Although, given your last statement, perhaps it most affects my right to be Free -- similar to the animals you have described. [MEntity] Janet, when you cannot seem to clearly identify what Right is in violation, what you might want to do is look at or feel where the anger is felt in the body when noting this violation. Where it is felt in the body is often a sign as to what Chakra is being violated. If you feel this in your stomach, or your gut, it may be that it is the Right to Be Free. [Janet] Well, that is helpful. I do feel it in my gut. [MEntity] Keep in mind, however, that while the "cause" may be consistent, the Right is not always the same one being violated. For instance, another time you may find that it is a violation of truth, or the right to the truth, and all of the variations on the truth. This may be felt in your body by wishing you would say something when you end up not speaking up. And so on. [Maureen] Do Plants "suffer" the same distinction then? [MEntity] As for Plants, they only suffer in terms of their Right to Grow. They do not experience suffering in other ways, for the most part, as they do not have the 4th and 5th Chakras developed. [Maureen] Michael -- Then Headaches may represent that your "Right to Dream" is being curtailed? .. and so on? [MEntity] Maureen, that would be correct, though one must be careful to explore the spectrum of interpretation that can be attributed to a Chakra and Right, so as not to become too literal in correlation. For instance, a headache might also speak to the refusal to see beyond one's circumstances, to explore imaginative solutions, etc. When one feels that his or her Rights are obstructed in some way, there is only one solution: YOU. [Maureen] Do Creatures have developed 4th and 5th Chakras then? [MEntity] Not all creatures have developed 4th and 5th Chakras. Creatures that have developed the capacity for Nurturing have developed the 4th, and Creatures that have developed the 5th have created a means of sharing ideas and concepts. In some way, somehow, you must acknowledge that your Right is actually still intact, or find a means through which you can acknowledge that it is implemented. When one feels that his Rights are violated, by the self or by others or by circumstances, there will ALWAYS be a way that those Rights can be fulfilled, or that are already being fulfilled. This is not the same thing as the Rights that are fought for within societies and communities, though these do represent internal battles within various groups. We are speaking to your Rights as Sentience, the combination of Essence and Personality, and these are always intact. We have gone rather long in our exploration of this topic, and we think that we could do well to follow up with more discussion in your Forum where this will be archived. As you explore the concept of these Rights over the next weeks, we can respond through Troy for further discussion about your questions and experiences. We must conclude here for today. It has been a long journey to Sentience, and these Rights are yours. They will be intact with or without your acknowledgment, but to acknowledge them, and occasionally manage your way back into that acknowledgment, can have profound effects upon your capacity to choose, and to be conscious.
March 9, 2008 Troy Tolley, Channel MICHAEL SPEAKS Online – Open Floor [Michael Entity] Hello to all of you. We are here. [Question] There are some chemicals that seem central to our culture at this time. Testosterone is one, Caffeine another. A new one I just learned about is Oxytocin. Could you comment on these substances? Maybe there are other ones just as important, or more so. That is my question. [Michael Entity] The three chemicals you have listed are natural to your world and culture, even as there may be some synthetic versions of each, or innovative media for each. For the most part, every culture within a time frame has as part of its emphasis an attention toward some stimulants. In terms of the list you’ve offered up, each has its different effect. We will comment on each listed above as they are used outside of a natural supply, when actively sought as a supplement or for effect. Testosterone is sought in your culture now as a means to bring about a balance (or imbalance) to the ratio between “male” and “female” energies. Your world now has more higher-male energy female bodies and more higher-female energy male bodies than it has seen in a long time. Testosterone is called upon to soothe that panic during this natural shift. Rather than implementing a deeper understanding of the female energies as they show up through a male body, it is sought to stimulate out of the body as much of the male energy as possible. This use is “fine,” but the implementation of Testosterone as a substitute for understanding can only last for so long. Eventually the panic fades and a more natural expression is allowed. Caffeine is called upon as a stimulant as it relates to an individual’s Frequency. Many are drawn to Caffeine as it keeps the individual Frequency at the higher end of the range one has within his capabilities. A Higher Frequency fits into Young Soul paradigm of “fast, fast, fast!” in terms of productivity, processing, and use of energy. As the Mature Soul consciousness takes more rooting, less Caffeine will be consumed as each individual finds his own pace and uses that to his advantage, rather than forcing oneself to the exhausting higher end of your Frequency. We remind you that we are responding to your question within the context of its use within the culture, but there are various individual reasons, as well. Oxytocin is a stimulant that triggers access to the Higher Centers, particularly the Higher Moving Center. When naturally occurring, it is activated in relation to a fragment’s conscious ability to process that access, but in its synthetic uses, the access is still made, but conscious processes are out of sync. The use of this chemical is relative to the panic over Soul Age Transition within your culture from Young To Mature. We do not see this as being used as a “central to your culture,” but it is a possibility that it gain more momentum if a shift in consciousness is not rooted more tangibly within the next 10 years. The use of this chemical is to help induce access to the transition process in a tangible way, because many assume that evidence must be externally-shown that one is present and accessible. Many fragments are present in your world who appear to be withdrawn and out of sync with an expressive, social culture, but these fragments are not lacking. They are merely interacting in a different way. Imprinting and social pressures can cause one to either push a withdrawn fragment into a chemically-induced accessibility, or push the self into that state. [Question] I don´t see the difference there… The self? [Michael Entity] In general, people may feel pressured to push a withdrawn fragment into this state, or one might feel that pressure on oneself and choose it for oneself. We would suggest that there are many who are incarnated at this time who are in a lifetime that could be akin to an “in-breath” over the scheme of things. As with all preoccupations with a stimulant, the evolving understanding of the motivation behind its use brings far more effect than the actual use of the chemical. In addition to the list above, we would add Nicotine, which is a stimulant that affects the Mode. This chemical has been in place over a long, Young Soul paradigm because of the nature of that soul age to leave intimacy out of the picture as one goes for what one wants from life. Smoke in the lungs can act as a substitute for intimacy as this soothes the Emotional Center, and Nicotine stimulates superficial socializing as a means to keep the Mode in effect. The Mode is the part of ones personality that describes how one RELATES. Though we focused more directly on some of the specifics of each of these chemicals, it could be said that ALL chemicals within a culture that tend to be used as a stimulate are relative to the Mode. In nearly all cases of use in stimulants, each has to do with a forced form of relating. [Question] How to validate one’s entity, if one has never met a person who has been channelled as a member of that entity? [Michael Entity] Channeled information is not required for one to validate contact with an entity member, but it can help one in the process. In the case you describe, we would suggest exploring the themes and qualities and “trademarks” of your Entity and then apply that filter to your life to see who might resonate to those factors. That would be a first step. A next step might be then to “invite” entity members into your life who are more obvious and accessible. This could be done using the dream state, consciously inviting your incarnated members into your life as you fall asleep. Contact may be made in this dream state as a means to make plans for contact in physical life. Channeling can then be used beyond this for details and rounding out validation. You have met several from your Entity within your lifetime, from a childhood “friend” who used to kick your shins or feet on a playground, to a cashier at a frequented market who “went out of her way” to be helpful, to a fellow passenger on a public transportation route of some length, to a man who was a “stranger” who appears to have photographed you at your request, etc. Though we will not list all of them here, we can offer those suggestions for references in your memory as a means to start your validation process. If none of these sound familiar, it may be because these instances are too vague or that we are accessing the records incorrectly altogether. We suggest you explore them, but you will know more precisely if they are accurate or not. In addition to these, there are many public figures from your Entity, as well as many Michael Students with whom you have contact on a regular basis. [Question] Currently I have an issue with a woman in my home owner’s association, Mrs. W. I’m the president of our HOA, and the minute she told us, via email, that she sent me a certified letter making demands, my reaction to it was to get very angry about it. I couldn’t contain my anger towards her when she arrived at our meeting and I yelled at her. This surprised me… that I got so angry because I rarely get angry with people. I have been looking at this issue of what caused me to get so angry with her and what am I missing about her to allow me to stop feeling my hackles raise when I see or even think about her. I know the anger I’m feeling is not really about her. Please can you shed some light on this… along with telling me how I might handle her with more positive results? [Michael Entity] On a self-karmic level, this relates to several issues: issues of Control as it extends from Stubbornness (you prefer discretion over obnoxious call-outs); issues of inadequacy as described by your Self-deprecation (it hurts to be told you fall short of expectations). In the case you describe, this triggered every defense you could muster to protect yourself from losing control and feeling inadequate. Your anger was a form of your trying to re-implement some control and to compensate for the sense of inadequacy. It is Good Work that you recognize that this incident is unrelated to the woman, herself, even as she provoked these reactions in you. This is consciousness, Essence. [Comment] Wow… that makes total sense to me. [Michael Entity] You claim that you “rarely get angry with people,” but this is untrue. Or more specifically, this is an inaccurate statement. It is simply that your anger more often is turned inward rather than outward. You are exploring the other side of anger in this incident as a means to bring some wholeness further into your life. That is the main self-karmic issue: your RIGHT to be angry. Your RIGHT to feel hurt. And ultimately, your RIGHT to express. Vocalizing your Anger frees your Intellectual Center or your Throat Chakra to “unclog” years of suppression. [Question] This is healthier for my body to express it outwardly? [Michael Entity] It came out more strongly as a result of past suppression. We would not say that it is healthier for your body to express it outwardly as much as we would say that it is healthier for ALL of your bodies to OWN your anger and to express it appropriately. This would include the internal expressions as much as the external. In other words, you have created a dichotomy within you that has left you with arguments against and for your anger over time. Whether this anger was kept inside, directed toward the self, or externalized. Your next steps are to consciously grasp that your anger is a means of uncovering areas of powerlessness within the life and then to bring consciousness to that area, re-empowering that area. In your case, the powerlessness could be said to be rooted in your Goal of Acceptance. As you explore this Goal, much of what is acceptable about yourself or others seems to be out of your hands in many ways. Over time you have found this to simply be untrue. So it is that you are now more likely to express your anger because you are not threatened by the loss of acceptance, of yourself, or from others. Now that you have seen the disproportionate effects of anger as it is expressed after being suppressed, you may find that you are more appropriate as you experience it in the future. Though this was a rather personal question, we do see our response as being applicable to many. If you wish to stretch yourself a bit more, it would be an interesting “short cut” toward balance if this incident were addressed with the woman in question, not offering apologies, but in offering appreciation and acknowledgment for the benefit gained from your exploring your part of the equation. You may not be able to control how people ask for what they want, but you can learn to see these calls for action to simply be variations of how one has learned to get things done, not as personal attacks. We will conclude here. Good day to each of you. Good night.
[EDIT: additional clarification added on August 18] I'd like to clarify (and I am adding this to the original post, too) that I don't mean to condone hate or the use of hate or living perpetually in hate as a motivation. My original intent was to point out that hate is something that is natural and nothing to fear and what we do with it is what matters. We don't have to be scared of hate that rises in us in reaction to awful things. Hate is just information. It points out what we find repulsive and disgusting. Most people think of the hate that is expressed from people who live in hate just because someone is different and they don't understand or like it. That's what we think of when we think of hate. That's an ugly and terrifying kind of hate because it goes unquestioned and unchecked. But when we are subject to the horrors of Nazis, racists, sexists, homophobes, abusers, rapists, murderers, and molesters, etc. it is totally fair, normal, and natural to feel hate for these things. That kind of hate is still just information. We are passionately repulsed and disgusted. But we don't want to live in it any more than we want to live in fear or anger, but we shouldn't try to avoid or shame or fear our hate, and we certainly shouldn't believe that our hatred of people who harm other people is the same thing as the hate that actually harms people. That's like saying that the violence of people fighting for their lives is the same kind of violence that has come to take their lives. Violence, hatred, anger, and fear... they are not the bad guys. What we do with these, how we direct them, how we understand them... that's what matters. That's all I really meant to say. **** [original post below] Below is a combination of posts I wrote in response to two different approaches to questioning hate, anger, and violence. One presented the question as a thoughtful exploration, and one came from a hostile Michael Student from the greater community who wanted to put me in my place for expressing my anger on Facebook toward a fake president who is encouraging violence and white supremacy. Both prompted me to look more carefully at these terms of hate, anger, and violence and try to explain how they work when they are forced on us and how they can be constructive. I decided to create a new post from those responses so we could discuss this and call bullshit on my perspective, or if we can learn to see the constructive side of emotions that are sometimes forced on us and that we have to deal with. *** For those of you uncomfortable with the hate, anger, and violence forced into the equation of protecting ourselves from hateful violent racists and homophobes, rest assured that Love *will* win and save the day. But some of us don't have the protection or privilege of just waiting for that day to come, so please forgive us as we get dirty, hurt, and angry. We are doing the work of clearing a path to that day when you get to say that Love Wins. We don't have to fight dirty for Love, but please understand that we have to fight, and we will get very dirty fighting for it. So save a nice spot us for when we can rest again. *** It's so frustrating to see the effects of inculcation from the new age and religion that keeps us locked in this binary world of "Versus." Love vs Hate, Fear vs Love, Anger vs Peace... That binary world just doesn't exist. It never did. It only looked like it did because it made it easier for us to navigate as we grew up. It made it easier for Baby Souls and Young Souls. Eventually, we grow more mature and that's when we realize there is a spectrum of life, of emotions, of gender, of sexuality, of intelligence, of choice, of everything. Even at the heart of this teaching is the very concept of Polarities that teach us about this spectrum that was never pitted against each other, but a part of each other. Hate and Fear and Anger are near the end of the spectrum of life where choices have become more limited. When this is imposed on yourself or imposed on others as a way to remove choice, it is the familiar destructive force we all know. But when Hate, Fear, and Anger come in response to others taking away our choices and threatening our lives, it is entirely warranted, appropriate, and can be constructive. Hate is just extreme passion. It's no more inherently uglier or villainous than Fear. Things like Fear and Hate and Anger are tools that can protect a house or tear down a house, and Love IS the house. Fear can destroy us or protect us. Hate can destroy us or protect us. Anger can destroy us or protect us. Sometimes protection is necessary in a world where we can be harmed. These emotions are tools that override logic and that's why they can seem so scary. Those who glorify Hate, Fear, and Anger tend to be those who passionately and senselessly seek to destroy the choices of others, and this is what we think of when we see actions motivated by Hate, Fear, or Anger. But these are the same tools that have to be used by many on the front lines of fighting for those who are targeted and oppressed because they know there is no logic that can reach the oppressors or make sense of the chaos. They have to passionately fight back and help clear a path back to logic and reason and it is entirely warranted and healthy and constructive to harness the tools and fuel of Hate, Fear, and Anger and aim it all right back toward protecting and rebuilding the "house" of Love. When people say they can't fight hate with hate, they think of hate as being this singular position opposite of Love. But Love and Hate were never opposites. Love can't be divided, but Hate can be, so Hate can be used against Love or help us clear a path back to Love. Shocking, I know, but anyone who has been directly targeted by violent oppression knows the productive and passionate power of hate, anger, and fear that can help change the world for better. I'm not saying it's ideal, but it helps more than we give credit. When people say they can't fight hate with hate, they also tend to mean that it's an issue that means something different to them and that it makes them uncomfortable to be expected to feel as much extreme passion about that issue. I am totally okay with that and if you can fight using calmer more "loving" methods, then please, by all means, do so. Please don't just turn your back because it's uncomfortable to see the passion from those more directly targeted and hurting.
[Excerpt from TT: 2003-04-20] [Leela] Mom the Server (and I guess Servers can really REALLY get angry!) [Troy] You had better believe it. The most monstrous and angry and violent behavior I have ever seen has all come from the Servers. My abusive mother was a Server. And god help you if you get the angry Server who discovers subtle forms of manipulation as torture! Most Servers born in the U.S. before 1970 have been overworked, under-appreciated, and expert martyrs, at least they behave like that. The United States lacked Servers for so long that any Server who was born here found themselves overwhelmed and angry. This isn’t necessarily because they actually have too much to do, but that they can sense the serious lacking of nurture among people and families in the U.S. This is experienced quite sensitively and many Servers find themselves feeling unsupported, invisible, and powerless in this, even if they are supported and loved. Many more Servers are being born here now, so we should see the concept of support, family, and strong community being a revitalized force here again.