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[Excerpt from MMW: The Health of Your Moving Center] [MEntity] If you think of the Polarities of the Center as the "skin" of the Center where one Pole or the other comes to the surface, and your state of relationship to the Body and your levels of Self-confidence as the blood, then the very deepest core of your Moving Center issues would be your PRIMARY SHAME. The bones. Where you are in your dance with Shame affect everything "above" that. Everyone has access to each Primary Shame, but the Primary Body Type tends to be the key to one's Primary Shame. LUNAR - Intelligence - the shame of not being smart enough JOVIAL - Indulgences - the shame of giving in to the pleasures of life and the body MARTIAL - Demand - the shame of requiring more than what is obvious or offered SOLAR - Needs - the shame of needing more than one will admit or ask for MERCURIAL - Desperations - the shame of expressing what is important for your healing SATURNIAN - Talents - the shame of not being important or unique enough VENUSIAN - Appearances - the shame of not looking or being as you are expected, or expect, to look Matching your Primary Body Type to your Primary Shame can shed light on some of the deepest wounding that you may carry that alters the quality of function for the Moving Center. If you do not find this at the deepest core of you, it means you have worked hard on this and have transformed it, or you are not looking deeply enough. If you have worked hard on this, you probably recognize it. These are universal obstacles built into the Body Types. They are what might best be understood as unique "pockets" in the Body Type that collect experiences quite specific to that Body Type and there comes a point in the life where that pocket gets heavy, and/or must be sorted through and emptied. [Excerpt from Michael Speaks: Advanced Body Types] [MEntity] In addition to a Primary Shame, each Body Type has a Primary Joy or Primary Delight. This Primary Joy tends to be dynamically tied to the Shame so that if the Joy is blocked or not pursued, the Shame takes over and eventually eclipses all efforts toward Primary Joy. The Body will tend to lock into the Shame as a way to earn or seek Joy, but Shame will always mute Joy. PRIMARY JOY OF BODY TYPES: LUNAR - USEFULNESS JOVIAL - SPECIALIZATION MARTIAL - SEX SOLAR - WANDERLUST MERCURIAL - DEBATE SATURN - IMPLEMENTATION VENUS - AFFECTION
[Excerpt from: Bobby's POF Session] [Bobby] I now would love to hear what you have to share about my inherent Shame. FROM MICHAEL: We think your inherent Shame is that of Demands. "Demands" speak to the nature of the body to have expectations fulfilled, often based from "obvious" expectations that are general to all bodies, but then built upon over the years. These Demands become Shameful because, at first, they are presumed to be shared by everyone, and even if they are, it is found that these are not to be spoken about. So the original Shaming often begins by expressing these Demands be fulfilled, and then either being shamed into thinking you are the only one with these expectations, or being shamed into confusion about how to have these Demands met when you are not to speak of them. Depending on the experiences of the lifetime, this can develop into a multiple layers that harden like concentric spheres of existence for the body. The body becomes like a churning planet that must have its layers shifting and moving as a means to be addressed, but with nearly all of that movement happening over time and below the surface so as to hide from the Shame that these depths represent. There are times, however, that there are eruptions, quakes, and various other "events" that reveal that there is much more going on beneath the surface than was ever let on. The life, then, can tend to be a constant cycle of pressure for stillness, containment of movements, and the inevitable eruptions, over and over. This cycling is more prominent and dramatic in those whose Demands are not met, or for those whom the Demands are shrouded in Shame. The rise above the Shame of Demands comes when these Demands are put into perspective and an open circle of support can be generated so that these can be expressed, discussed, spoken about, and asked for. These Demands are called "demands" not because they are asking too much, or asking for what is not necessary, but because they are drives that are inherent in the body: demands for sleep, for sex, for food, for pleasure, for excitement, for movement, for affection, for acceptance, for intimacy, for play, etc. If the rise above Shame comes, then these Demands will have been identified (and can be identified as they come up), allowed, and their fulfillment is found through appropriate processes, and not through force, secrecy, or literal demand.
[Excerpt from Michael Speaks: March 2008] [Question] Currently I have an issue with a woman in my home owner’s association, Mrs. W. I’m the president of our HOA, and the minute she told us, via email, that she sent me a certified letter making demands, my reaction to it was to get very angry about it. I couldn’t contain my anger towards her when she arrived at our meeting and I yelled at her. This surprised me… that I got so angry because I rarely get angry with people. I have been looking at this issue of what caused me to get so angry with her and what am I missing about her to allow me to stop feeling my hackles raise when I see or even think about her. I know the anger I’m feeling is not really about her. Please can you shed some light on this… along with telling me how I might handle her with more positive results? [Michael Entity] On a self-karmic level, this relates to several issues: issues of Control as it extends from Stubbornness (you prefer discretion over obnoxious call-outs); issues of inadequacy as described by your Self-deprecation (it hurts to be told you fall short of expectations). In the case you describe, this triggered every defense you could muster to protect yourself from losing control and feeling inadequate. Your anger was a form of your trying to re-implement some control and to compensate for the sense of inadequacy. It is Good Work that you recognize that this incident is unrelated to the woman, herself, even as she provoked these reactions in you. This is consciousness, Essence. [Comment] Wow… that makes total sense to me. [Michael Entity] You claim that you “rarely get angry with people,” but this is untrue. Or more specifically, this is an inaccurate statement. It is simply that your anger more often is turned inward rather than outward. You are exploring the other side of anger in this incident as a means to bring some wholeness further into your life. That is the main self-karmic issue: your RIGHT to be angry. Your RIGHT to feel hurt. And ultimately, your RIGHT to express. Vocalizing your Anger frees your Intellectual Center or your Throat Chakra to “unclog” years of suppression. [Question] This is healthier for my body to express it outwardly? [Michael Entity] It came out more strongly as a result of past suppression. We would not say that it is healthier for your body to express it outwardly as much as we would say that it is healthier for ALL of your bodies to OWN your anger and to express it appropriately. This would include the internal expressions as much as the external. In other words, you have created a dichotomy within you that has left you with arguments against and for your anger over time. Whether this anger was kept inside, directed toward the self, or externalized. Your next steps are to consciously grasp that your anger is a means of uncovering areas of powerlessness within the life and then to bring consciousness to that area, re-empowering that area. In your case, the powerlessness could be said to be rooted in your Goal of Acceptance. As you explore this Goal, much of what is acceptable about yourself or others seems to be out of your hands in many ways. Over time you have found this to simply be untrue. So it is that you are now more likely to express your anger because you are not threatened by the loss of acceptance, of yourself, or from others. Now that you have seen the disproportionate effects of anger as it is expressed after being suppressed, you may find that you are more appropriate as you experience it in the future. Though this was a rather personal question, we do see our response as being applicable to many. If you wish to stretch yourself a bit more, it would be an interesting “short cut” toward balance if this incident were addressed with the woman in question, not offering apologies, but in offering appreciation and acknowledgment for the benefit gained from your exploring your part of the equation. You may not be able to control how people ask for what they want, but you can learn to see these calls for action to simply be variations of how one has learned to get things done, not as personal attacks.