Search the Community
Showing results for tags 'expectations'.
Found 2 results
[Excerpt from TT: 2007-05-07] [Lightspring] Could you suggest exercises or information that would aid with the ability to let go of expectation(s)? [Michael Entity] Yes: to allow yourself the freedom of expectations. This is the only means you have for learning to navigate your expectations. To “let go” of expectation is about as useful as giving up your legs; yes, it can be done, but mobility is not enhanced by doing so. Embracing your expectations is to embrace your inner map. However, the expectations that are often felt to be so compelling are simply not the truth of that inner map. To allow the embrace of those expectations can often then reveal the truth of this, and allow for more appropriate desires to lead the way. Expectation is neutral. Your ability to use the tool of expectation is a spectrum. There is a negative form of expectation and a positive form. To expect that the sun will rise can be seen to be quite natural. To expect a loved one to conform to your ideals is quite another end of the spectrum. In this case, it could then be said that TRUST is the positive pole of Expectation and DEMAND is the negative pole. To demand that the sun rise as you will it in the middle of the night is as fruitless as forcing upon another your ideals. To trust that your loved one can find his or her own path of expression and truth despite your ideals is as beautiful an expectation as one that allows the sun to rise on its own. If there is pain involved in your experience of expectation, it is quite likely that it is in the realm of DEMANDS. In this case, one must do the work of exploring WHY one would have such demands and then allow room for a shift of attention. In most cases of DEMAND, or painful expectation, one is in a self-karmic cycle of punishment, either upon the self or upon another. There is a perpetual investment in the Demand until there is vindication. To understand that this is a cycle of punishment will often allow room for the true inner map to be found and a new peaceful navigation to be found. To understand that this is a cycle of punishment is to surrender to the truth that “you will never be right.” When Expectations are painful, when they are DEMANDS, you can never be right. You can only impose your will, if that, but you will never be right. To grasp the reality that there may be more to you than being right can be a disturbing buoy to free oneself from. But there is so much more to you. Demands lead to unfulfilled expectations, which is a root of anger, which is a form of punishment. It is quite obvious to most of you as to where you are Demanding and where you are Trusting. Free yourselves to navigate more gently, softly, and you will find your expectations have clues, motivations, and magnetism within them that are a part of your true inner map. NOTE: We use the statement “you will never be right” as it relates to this particular experience, not as an implication that there is actually a wrong or right.
February 15, 2001 Troy Tolley, Channel Happiness Note: This is a followup session to the original topic, as channeled a little earlier in February. See Michael Speaks: Happiness. [Michael_Entity] We are here. One Moment. We have been asked to continue with the topic of Happiness. We believe a way for this topic to complete itself with your group is through responding to any questions you may have around the subject. We will take, then, Barb’s question first. [Barb] In light of my recent “life change” and in order to reestablish happiness in my life, I’d like to ask what my “trues” are so I can focus my time on what is most productive to me at this point. [Michael_Entity] We will send these to you through Troy, privately, before the posting of the transcript. Tonight, his focus is not high enough to delve into individual factors. You may post them if you wish, from there. We can comment though, that it is valid to consider your Pillars, or “trues,” when pursuing Happiness. [Barb] yes, I believe this to be the case, hence my question. [Michael_Entity] By generating the energy for the various Overleaves as associated with the Four Pillars and their fulfillment, a great deal of recognition of what you truly define as “happy” can come into realization. [NOTE from Troy: To all of you, please refrain from asking specifically personal questions during the group events. When I am in trance, sometimes I don’t have the sense to deter this and Michael is more than willing to respond and that is why it looks “ok” sometimes. They don’t have the conditions, I do. If you want to ask personal questions, please phrase them in a way that can be used for all who are participating. This isn’t directed specifically at you, Barb, but it is a good opportunity to remind everyone of this.] [nemo999] How does one’s unhappiness affect others or their reality; can one person make another unhappy involuntarily? [Michael_Entity] The degree of Happiness you have in relation to another is entirely dependent on the INDIVIDUAL interpreting the energy exchange. When two or more fragments are interacting, shallowly or intimately, Happiness or Unhappiness is a direct result of expectations fulfilled or not fulfilled. It has been a distorted interpretation by some that this then means you should not have expectations. This is just not possible in most cases. It is biological to have expectations. Expectations are part of the Intellect and inherent in all Creatures of Reason. This is part of what allows adaptability and survival. The efforts then are not to remove from you an element that is biologically considered vital, but to learn to understand disappointment and how to process that, instead of trapping yourself in it. Expectation may be better understood as the negative pole of Anticipation, the positive pole then being Vitality. It is part of your aliveness that you have Expectation, but as it is a negative pole, it separates you from OPTIONS and recognition of probabilities/possibilities. It is not really possible to remove the experience of Expectation, as it is part of the spectrum of experiencing Aliveness and Anticipation. Understanding the part of the spectrum it is from, though, can lend you a greater freedom. Allowing you to recognize Expectation as part of Anticipation, this then can lead you then to Vitality. Vitality is what makes you feel alive and prone to survive a situation that was “not” as anticipated. So then; your unhappiness can only affect another fragment IF they require your state to match their Expectations. If they, or you (if you are the one being affected) can move into Vitality as part of the experience, then you can adapt and remain happy. If you restrict the experience to only what is Expected, not allowing a more fluid form of Anticipation, then you will create unhappiness. We also note in response to your question that it is not a matter of voluntarily or involuntarily, it will always be the choice of the fragment supposedly affected as to whether they create happiness or unhappiness. Again, this is linked to our comments about Happiness and its poles of Surrender and Resignation. Your responses can always bring more happiness if you simply surrender, but to “give up” can muffle the experience of motion forward in your life. [Kathie89] In my normal way of reacting to people and situations, I just seem to be happy. Was this an essence choice before I came into this life or is it part of my imprinting or because of my role and overleaves as an old soul? [Michael_Entity] Anytime you are in touch with Essence and living the life fully, even if the life is not what you “want,” you will be happy. THIS IS TO ALL OF YOU: IT IS ALWAYS ESSENCE’S CHOICE FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY BEFORE THE LIFE IS BEGUN. THIS IS WITHOUT EXCEPTION. In the same way a SAGE will always be a SAGE, no matter how it ends up being expressed within the lifetime, so is Happiness ALWAYS part of the original dynamic of the lifetime. There are some elements of life that will ALWAYS be accessible, no matter how hard you try to ignore it or create scenarios to diminish it, and Happiness is one of those things. It is always accessible in every moment. This does not mean you will not, as Essence, create challenges for the life around Happiness, but it is NEVER out of reach. In your case, Kathie, you have a very fantastical approach to the life and this alleviates the focus on a lot of the “details” that others get “hung up on.” Those with more exalted Overleaves, in general, tend to seem “happier.” This is due to their ability to see “past” a lot of things. We put “happier” in quotes, because sometimes this state is more a bandage for wounds that have been overlooked, as well, and will tend to come out in isolation, but not in interactions with others. The happiness there can be valid on all levels, but built on shaky foundations. This is simply something to consider. Those with more ordinal Overleaves can be “happy” too, because they may focus within the “bigger picture,” just focusing on what is happening in detail, now. The ordinal pitfall can be that the fragment ignores the bigger picture to a fault and builds happiness “serially,” instead of as a whole. Again, this can be valid, but shaky. [Annette] Can Michael comment on the strong sense of happiness that your children and grandchildren bring to the soul? Is it the joy of being together “again”? [Michael_Entity] This would be entirely relative. Though the pun was not intended, it works. We remind you that many fragments burn, beat, terrorize, neglect, and murder their children or grandchildren. It is a personal truth that they “bring happiness to the soul.” [Shannon] My Artisan mother, in her creativity, has “created” an unhappy, hard life for herself, where it needn’t have been so. What overleaves should one choose, that might have the greatest likelihood of generating a “happy” lifetime (especially for an Artisan)? (You may have just touched on some of this.) [Michael_Entity] ALL Overleaves have the capability of generating Happiness, it is ALWAYS AND ONLY in the reaction/response to events that determines the spectrum. Though some Overleaves give the life a challenge, we do not believe it is valid to say if you choose certain Overleaves you might be more guaranteed to be happier. Only Choice guarantees this. With that being said, “happy” Overleaves could be said to be any on the Axis for your particular Role. Any Overleaf that is “popular” during a period of time on the planet, such as currently, Growth and Acceptance, Observation, Idealist, Realist, and Intellectual Centering, can be said to be “happy” overleaves. This is NOT A RULE, only a response to your question. [MoonSinger] I wondered how much soul age and level affect a person’s ability to be happy? It seems level 6 presents quite a challenge to happiness, or is it really a matter of conscious choice? Choosing to be WILLING to be happy with whatever circumstance you find yourself involved in? [Michael_Entity] Only the LEVEL presents ease or challenge, not the Soul Age, though Older Souls can seem to “find” happiness easier in general, but even then, they are gripped by deeper challenges still. Conscious choice in terms of your RESPONSE or REACTION to events will help you to navigate through life’s obstacles. Response allows you to CHOOSE consciously, while REACTION, while still a choice, is not conscious. WILLING yourself to be happy usually will not work. Many of you literally HAVE to be unhappy in order to extract that which will allow you to appreciate and maintain happiness when you find it. [Liiona24] You stated to Troy earlier that some fragments need others while most can generate happiness in themselves. Could you comment on this further? [Michael_Entity] We will clarify that ALL fragments can GENERATE Happiness from within themselves, and in ALL cases this will be true, but some fragments require external factors in order to MAINTAIN it. There is the difference. Two fragments can BOTH create happiness for themselves, but of the two, one of them may require more support, interaction, etc., in order to maintain the energy originally generated. We will conclude here. Good Night.