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Open Floor Session -- October 4, 2015 [MEntity] We are here, now. Hello to each of you. We can begin now. QUEUE IS NOW OPEN Yes, Kurtis. And hello to you. [Kurtis] Hi Michael, :). I'd like to continue as in last time with how the Stoic appears/acts in social situations. [MEntity] The Stoic shows up in social situations as fairly unflinching, unsurprised, and sometimes uninterested. The Stoic has a built-in capacity for slowing down processes so that reactions are either evaded or diminished in a way that does not betray those processes underneath the surface. In the Positive Pole, the Stoic can seem cool-headed, attentive, and informed, but without the biases and reactionary prejudices that might often dictate the perceptions and behaviors of others. In the Negative Pole, the Stoic can come across as tedious, lacking passion and interest, lacking attention, and generally difficult to communicate with. The difference between Tranquility and Resignation is fairly clear and distinct in the social situation. The Positive Pole Stoic could be described as being calmly present, whereas the negative pole may be described as defeated distraction. For the positive pole Stoic, even when there is little expression and reaction, there is an aliveness, but when the Stoic is in the negative pole, there is a draining effect that can be felt by those around her. [Kurtis] Thanks M. :) [Rachel_L] Hi Michael, can you please explain Floating Mate Agreements? You told me in a session: “When one is not sure of one's sexuality, the Agreements "float" between genders of the same Role so that one or the other may be accessible. This is not a complicated arrangement. It is actually more often the case than not, even for those with quite decided sexuality. For every Mate Agreement we tend to describe, we are often describing the potential in terms of any gender, though one will tend to stand out, depending on the momentum. We can explain how this works in further exchanges with you and our students.” [MEntity] Yes, Rachel. Agreements are non-binding, and are quite often more about the facilitating of experience than about the participants. The participants are still important, and there are some key experiences looked for with specific fragments, but, in general, Agreements are about the experience. This means that, while one may have a Mate Agreement, and even if that Mate Agreement is fairly certain with a specific fragment, that Agreement can shift from that specific fragment to another. The experience of matedness is the key here, and even if there is a preference for a specific fragment, Personality and Essence learn very quickly that life is far too random and chaotic to enforce some strict standard for fulfilling Agreements. By "chaotic and random" we mean that it is unpredictable, not that there is no awesome order to it at all. So a "floating" Mate Agreement could be understood as an experience one wishes to have, but are open to this being with whomever is best suited for the details of that Agreement. If you were to decide to experiment with sexuality, but all of your Agreements were static and locked in with a gender of no interest, it would make for quite difficult experimentation or realizations. Essence will always prefer open-ended probabilities than any static or enforced restriction. There is an irony here in that as your Essence grows older, it is capable of making better and better plans for a lifetime so that what is planned actually unfolds as planned, but as Essence becomes more adept at this skill and art, the interest in any strict planning fades. Part of the reason for this greater flexibility is because your Essence is now close to many many other fragments, so the trust is there for many to fulfill Agreements. If a Mate Agreement is sought, it is the context and experience of a Mate Agreement that matters more than whether it is with one person over another. By the time you are an older soul, for every Agreement, each has up to 12 "backups" set up across the planet or time to help ensure the fulfillment. [JanaK] Is there a correlation between complementary focused/creative energy ratios and relationship chemistry? If yes, can you briefly comment on this, please? [MEntity] Oh, yes. Those who share one higher ratio over another tend to lean toward greater common ground, common perspectives, common experiences, and depending on where one is with himself or herself, there is either a great bonding in this commonality, or there is very little charge because one or both still need to be challenged and provoked and healed. Those who are opposite in ratio can tend to find the greatest attraction, charge, and excitement for one another because of the challenges, differences, and complementing of processes, and depending on where one is with himself or herself, there is either this exciting and provocative dance, or there is never-ending conflict, combativeness, and intensity that usually requires separation from one another to fully process. This is why Task Companions tend toward similar ratios, whereas Essence Twins are exactly reversed. Keep in mind that choices, imprinting, and culture can have great influence on this inner design, so this response is a means to understand the dynamic, but we caution against drawing conclusions without experience. [JanaK] Interesting, thank you [MEntity] In other words, those who share similar ratios can still have great sex lives and excitement, and those who have reversed ratios can be profoundly intimate without sexual tension or intensity. [Maureen] Michael, I would like to know more about the effects of drugs, specifically morphine, on one's perceptions. For reference, I'll use myself as an example. Please answer in any way that is fitting for today's session's time and venue. I've been on morphine twice this year - post surgeries. Both times I experienced hallucinations. The first time it was with images of people being around me in the room or wherever I was imagining myself to be. This last time post surgery (last week) I literally “saw” words as if they had just been typed out in phrases. I was seeing full concepts or phrases of my own, and then in my mind's eye, I matched them up, or ordered them, neatly, with a perfectly corresponding concept or phrase from “the world”. This went on for 100s of patterns, each neatly repeating itself as the next concept or phrase came up. It was almost mesmerizing until I realized I was tired, and there seemed to be no end to this pattern making, and I wanted it to stop. Then I realized it was happening because of the morphine. I didn't like the feeling of being drugged and being on this weird pattern treadmill even though it felt like little "AHAs" were made each time a pattern was made evident. [MEntity] The effects of morphine, and most opiates, is one that frees the neurological processes from pain. When that effect is in place, a great range of possibilities are in place for changes in perspective, from clarity of insight to complete distortion of reality. Depending on dosage, usage, addiction, etc., the effects may move from enlightening to devastating. What each person experiences may be different, but the common denominator would be in this freeing up from neurological processes that usually manage and monitor pain. When neurological pathways are suddenly free, if you will, they can find they are processing differently or different data. What you experienced seems to us to have been a slowing down and a more conscious access to how you think and process already. Your mind races with how to make sense of things, how to find or create patterns, whether there are any inherent patterns, or not. It is a beautiful and exhausting process, and you had a chance to see how do this on levels usually too swift for conscious awareness. It is how you "know" even when you seem to have no logical reason to know, but also why you may "know" even when you are lacking in accuracy. This experience can be referenced as a way to keep from being too unquestioning in your "knowing," because some of the processes are artistic and based on habit, rather than on stringing together true insight or knowing. But it can also be referenced as a way for you to access when you do question, so that you use a similar, more conscious technique for assessment. In other words, it is Good Work to trust your knowing, and now you know how it works beneath the surface, but if you ever question it, you can invite the process back into consciousness and play with the stringing together or words to see what you get. [Maureen] Thanks, Michael. [MEntity] As for the individuals around you, these may have been more literal in that your consciousness was shifted enough to perceive the presence of actual forms around you. We can elaborate upon this in more detail with you in further exchanges. [Royce] Hey michael. so i watch iyanla a lot and her method of healing usually includes the participants' complete and total breakdown, tears on floor messiness before they can heal towards an issue they are facing. I notice i never really GET to that point with much and often fear i'm not looking deep enough because i don't reach that breaking point. If it IS a necessary stage of healing, how might one easier tap into one's hidden NERVE that opens the valve to tear wrenching truths? because I feel like i'm pretty good at being honest, but i'm not great at letting my whole body experience that honesty as much* [MEntity] Royce, you do not resist much truth. You may be slow to reflect those truths, to express those truths with confidence, but we do not see you as resisting truths. Those who resist truths tend to require breakdowns and more dramatic turning points, whereas the older soul's most "dramatic" struggle with truth is a heavy sigh and/or rolling of the eyes. The older soul Personality has to work too hard to avoid truth, and tends to find it much easier to accept it. This is not said to diminish the process, but to point out that it is different. It is okay to simply work out the truth, and then work with the truth, rather than resisting the truth to the point of breakdown. If you require a breakdown, however, you will have it. It is not something you must worry about cultivating. To aim for breakdown as a solution or a sign is an aim away from the truth. [Royce] thank you michael. that makes sense. i notice even in my grieving there isn't a lot of crying, but there is understanding. so from this I can sort of take away that that quieter grieving is not off track. thank you [PeterK] When asking about a particular person, including oneself, is it helpful to provide you with a photograph of that person? If so, why is it helpful and what qualities or characteristics of the photograph are most important? [MEntity] We cannot see you, so we do not require photos. Photographs are for the channel, not us. For some channels, the requirement of photos helps to alleviate two concerns: that there is a real person to focus on, and not just a fake name, and it helps the individual to launch into access to us via his or her own trusted intuition. Depending on the extent of the concern and the extent of the dependency upon individual intuition, access to us actually diminishes more with the use of photos. Photos, to us, are very much like names. They are convenient references, but tell us little about you other than one moment's snapshot of you. We find names useless for us, but they are important for the organization of presentation to use via the channel, and photos can be used in a similar way, as well. Names are functional and practical for our communication, but photos are solely for the channel. We will conclude here for today. Good day to each of you. Goodbye, for now.