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  1. Michael Speaks Live OPEN FLOOR QUESTIONS November 24, 2013 Channel: Troy Tolley [MEntity] Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We can begin our exchanges with you. We understand this exchange to be focused on the questions and considerations of those students "new" to our teachings. What we will do to launch this discussion is to share with you how best to go about your approach to learning and studying our teachings, and where best to apply what it is that you learn. The best way to go about your approach to learning and studying our teachings is: YOUR WAY. The best places to apply the teachings as you learn them is: WHEREVER AND HOWEVER YOU WISH TO DO SO. We know of no "best way" for either of these things Your questions are yours. Your path is yours. Your pace is yours. We have not presented our teaching in a linear or delineated way for a reason. It is a spherical teaching. It can be approached from all "sides" and each side is interlaced with every other side. You cannot go wrong. [dave] hello michael. is there anything in particular that would identify the influence as you when i am making choices? is there a way to hear each of our guides individually? i feel love for them and am incredibly grateful. [MEntity] First, we will say that we, nor your guides, have much influence through even the most willing of fragments. "Influence" from guides can only come in three forms: insight, perspective, or support. We know this can be considered influence, but we wish to clarify that we cannot do more than what is asked of us. [dave] i get it. those 3 are what i mean. [MEntity] Next, we would say, yes, there are ways to differentiate between "you" and your guides/us. However, this takes time and awareness. Most fragments are quite content with the more practical "inner voice" that one tends to know as one's own voice. Because we do not have a voice, nor do your guides, the indicators for those voices tend to need to be defined by the listener, and then listened for. For example, if you have a guide who is sought for help with career choices, you might assign a more distinct authoritative voice to this guide. That guide will not override this, and all guides would rather use any voice you can hear than to not be heard when you most wish to hear them. [dave] yeah. i think i maybe shouldn't care too much about it. just that i make wise choices. [MEntity] If a guide or teacher does not have a distinct "voice" assigned to them, we can say that voices of guides with INSIGHT tend to come with more unaffected, flat deliveries, while voices of PERSPECTIVE tend to come with more "personality" and even symbolism, and voices of SUPPORT tend to come as quite comforting and quiet. All of these would tend to come as "bursts" or spontaneously, and it is in those moments that you can begin to build your awareness of what each "voice" tends to, and how it is slightly different from your own. We are speaking of those who live with guides and teachers, not of those who pursue a career in channeling where the differentiation is far more important to distinguish. [Connor] Hello Michael. This is a question I've run into a couple times which has not been clarified to date, as far as I know. Can Transcendental Souls create karma? An example of Muhummad comes to mind, whose teachings didn't quite 'get across'. [MEntity] Any fragment who is incarnated can create Karma. It is always a gamble. However, by the time one has come to be Transcendental, the requirements necessary for the formation of a Ribbon or Ribbons would be highly unlikely. Karma can be generated without Ribbons. It is the Ribbons that are evaded, not the Karma. [Connor] Ah. Still learning to differentiate the two. [MEntity] Karma is imbalance generated by intensity of interference of choice. This almost always generates a Ribbon. A Ribbon is the unattended necessity for balance that is caused by the imbalance. Older Souls and beyond in Soul Age tend not to generate Ribbons because they can process any imbalance quite rapidly, and it is rarely relative to any Physical Plane requirements for balance. [Connor] So then the fragment who killed Gandhi, for example, would not have generated a ribbon, despite the act of murder? (if time allows) [MEntity] For example, a Transcendental Soul may still find himself distracted with the pleasures of the Physical Plane, as was Mahatma Gandhi, and generate some Karma because of some irresponsible choices that create imbalances between himself and others. There was no interference of choice in terms of the Physical Plane, but there was neglect and indulgences that created imbalances in the Emotional and Intellectual realms. These were then balanced in those realms, such as through dreams or after the life. [Connor] Cool. [MEntity] Dying is wholly understood and known to be built into the life of a Transcendental Soul. It is expected. The death is often orchestrated through Agreements in a way that would bring about the changes that the life may not have been able to generate. Karma *could* be generated through the murder of a Transcendental Soul, but it has yet to be done. This is because there is simply no sense of intensity or violation to generate the imbalance necessary. [Kurtle] Hey Michael, I'm getting to know the overleaves better. For today could you elaborate on the Caution and Power modes and how they appear in older souls(mature and old)? The definitions we have here typically apply to the younger souls so clarification would be useful in how they “manifest”. [MEntity] The Mode is how one RELATES. This is how one relates to the Goal, to the life, to others, and how one goes about securing Intimacy in the life. At the core of Caution and Power are EXPRESSION, so these will be all about the FORM. Regardless of Soul Age, Caution will relate DELIBERATELY (with intention) as a way to give form to a relationship, to a goal, to intimacy. When the forms of relationship, goals, and intimacy are not felt to be representative of Caution, it can fall into PHOBIA, or an extreme aversion to most everything that is in relationship to the fragment. [Kurtle] ah that makes sense. Well the definition of phobia I mean. [MEntity] In the older souls, DELIBERATION can come in the form of having quite specific standards and parameters for what is of interest for relating to the fragment. Think of Caution as DISCRIMINATION in the context of relating. Deliberation aims for Sophistication. So Caution Mode is about refining relationships. When Caution is in Phobia, it is like Discrimination in Rejection. [Kurtle] It sounds like a friend of mine. [MEntity] It is a refusal to take responsibility for the forms that have been created or allowed. Caution could be said to be an emphasis on how the other half of the equation of Relating takes form, whereas POWER is about how YOU take form in the equation of Relating. Power is about how PRESENT one is in a relationship. The more Present one is, the more Authority one has over the self. [Kurtle] So it's like Caution is adapting itself to the situation and Power is adapting the situation to itself? [MEntity] When POWER feels its Presence is not taking form, it can compensate by falling into OPPRESSION. [Kurtle] Kind of like Enforcing their presence on others. Ah I see. [MEntity] In the older souls, Power is all about being awake in a relationship. When the old soul falls into Oppression, he has fallen asleep. If Power is like ACCEPTANCE, the Oppression is like Ingratiation. It is about losing one's form as a way to conform so that one has some sense of power, in the same way that Ingratiation is about doing what one thinks is necessary in order to be loved. Of course, Ingratiation is not Love, and Oppression is not Power. Kurt, in the younger Soul Ages, Oppression does come as more of an enforcement of presence upon others, but in the older souls, this turns around so that one begins to shrink in the shadow of anything deemed more powerful. For all of the Overleaves, try this for understanding the differences between how they manifest in younger Soul Ages versus older Soul Ages: Add SELF- to the Positive or Negative Pole of the term. [Kurtle] ohhh that make s a lot of sense. [MEntity] For instance, in Discrimination, the Negative Pole of Rejection is more often SELF-Rejection for the Old Soul. The Goal of Acceptance is more about SELF-Acceptance. CAUTION Mode can fall into SELF-Phobia, or the Stoic into SELF-Resignation. And so on. This is not always a clear differentiation, but it can help. [Kurtle] Ah, would that be the same for the Mature Soul? Self- I mean. [GeraldineB] That's for another time, Kurt [GeraldineB] Time to move along [MEntity] By "older" we always mean mid-Mature through Old. [ViP1] Sex education for children is something that seems particularly important in order for children to know how to manage their impulses with respect for themselves as they become older, and yet it is approached in wildly varying, ad hoc ways that typically depend heavily on cultural background. Such approaches range from no intentional attempt at sex education at all, rather avoiding the topic completely, to complete openness that might strike other people as awkward and inappropriate. The education itself might come from parents, or from teachers, or from friends, or from the media, or all of those. In addition, there is usually some degree of awkwardness in parents around even raising the topic with their children to begin with. Do you have any insights on how to approach sex education for children, irrespective of their cultural background, in a manner that is inclusive of their own makeup, that is appropriate to and respectful of their needs and level of mental/emotional development, the best age for children at which to introduce it, and who such education might best be provided by? [MEntity] The greatest approach to sex education is through the removal of shame from the equation. The rest is fairly moot. Shame is easily learned, and this informs one more so than any other guiding factor for health. We say that the rest is fairly moot because most education for children regarding a topic that cannot be fathomed is difficult to instill in any meaningful way, and for those in the throes of it simply cannot hear. "Education" would be most effective in removing shame, and inviting choice. By inviting choice we mean that children would do well to know that they have a choice for being safe, asking for more information, accessing protection, etc. For some, the details are helpful, for others the details are meaningless, but for the entire spectrum of ages and cultures, CHOICE is what is often missing from the equation of education. "You do not have to understand what you are doing, just that you have a choice in how you are doing it." Once the power of choice is in a child's hand from any culture, and the weight of shame is removed, the eagerness for "better choices" comes naturally. In short: reduce shame, increase choice. This can be implemented in any number of ways. [HunterG] Hello Michael, I know you have said listening to music can be a direct link to essence. My question is "What is the interaction with essence in the context of CREATING music?" Because not much has been said in that regard. [MEntity] The process of creating music is often the process of manifesting Essence. It is a bringing of the language of the Astral Plane into form. All music is an extension of the Astral Plane. This could be said of any Matter, actually, but music is one of the more fluid and concise extensions. Different kinds of music extend from different levels of the Astral Plane, but all of it is an extension of this Plane. This includes the "music" of non-sentient species, as well. [HunterG] Would there be a way to differentiate the different kinds of music? [MEntity] Yes. Think of the Astral Plane as something like an Emotional Center with all of its Parts. The Moving Part would be that which encourages movement/action. The Higher Moving would be that which encourages resonance/Beauty. The Intellectual Part would be that which brings Expression, such as song, lyrics, etc., while the Higher Intellectual would be along the lines of choral, or philosophical/Truth explorations in word, and the Emotional Part would be that which soothes and calms, while the Higher Emotional Part might bring healing/Loving. Music is not one or the other of these, but often a mix of at least 2 or 3. [HunterG] yes MEntity: If there is a question to which we can respond in brief, we will take that to close out our session. If there are no more questions, we will conclude here for tonight. Good evening to each of you. Goodbye
  2. ENERGY REPORT JUNE 2011 2011 Overleaves are: ROLE: PRIEST (emphasized all year) CENTER: MOVING (emphasized all year) GOAL: FLOW (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: CAUTION (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: PRAGMATIST sliding to Cynic and Skeptic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Impatience/Martyrdom (emphasized Oct - Dec) MAY began the annual shift in Platforms among fragments on the Physical Plane. Sometimes this goes smoothly, and sometimes this brings great agitation. At some point before June, most fragments go through a 3 day to 2 week review of the progress made on their Platform for the ending cycle, and begin calibrating the Platform for the new cycle. There are various cycles for various layers of Platforms, so we refer here only to the annual Platform. The yearly Platform is a general theme of interest that is generated by Essence, and not by Personality, and so can be a conscious or subconscious focus for the Personality. The more one manifests Essence, the more one tends to see the patterns that are a part of the annual Platform. (more on platforms from 2008 http://our.truthloveenergy.com/topic/39-michael-speaks-april-2008-platforms/) However, the 2010 - 2011 Platform Cycle did not allow much room for exploration of Platforms, at least on a conscious level. This has led to many fragments experiencing a phase of agitation as the shift in Platforms happens, much like the agitation or panic one may have when handed yet another task when a previous task is incomplete. For those experiencing the agitation and distraction, we will remind you that Platforms are not tasks to complete, but are simply specific perspectives through which to interpret experiences over a given period of time. There are many who do not know their Platform, or what a Platform is, and they manage just fine. For the older soul, however, we know that there is an intuitive sensitivity to the fact that there are various layers of “you” seeking to accomplish and experience various themes. That sensitivity and intuition will alert you to those various levels that are being unfulfilled, but it will help you to put that at ease if you realize that this alert is not to be used for self-punishment or disappointment, but is an alert that is no different from a reminder that you are hungry. When you are caught up in your day, and “forget” to eat, there will come a time when your body reminds you to eat. This is the same on an internal, intuitive level, when it comes to various levels of intentions to fulfill. It would make little sense to be distracted or upset with having forgotten to eat, so the focus would simply move to getting something to eat. In terms of fulfilling Platforms, it makes as little sense to distract yourself away from moving on to the immediate intentions for fulfillment. Turn to the tasks at hand, to the life in front of you, and tend to the patterns and themes of life from where you are, rather than halting any sense of progress, or resisting movement forward, in an attempt to “make up” for “lost time.” As Platforms begin to take shape over June, this sense of intuitive agitation would most likely pass, even for the most distracted of students. June also marks the final month of emphasis on Caution Mode, and Relationships. Many students are in the process of looking at relationships through the filter of Caution Mode, moving some key relationships from a negative state of Phobia (distance or paralysis from fear) and into a positive state of Deliberation (a conscious, intentional relationship). To the extent that this renewal of relationship has been accomplished, is the extent to which June would feel like “free time” that can be used for creativity, play and enjoyment, with very little on the agenda. For many of our students, June may simply feel like time passing, or be a rather insignificant month in the scheme of things, except in terms of world events, which may be the focus for those not focusing on personal relationships. However, for those who still struggle with revitalizing, recalibrating, and reuniting within these key relationships, June may begin to feel a kind of “back against the wall” position regarding them. These key relationships would probably reach a breaking point, falling out of one’s more immediate circle of intimacy, or accepting a move further out into a more social or acquaintance position. The key for moving any of these key relationships back into a positive space is to do so with INTENTION, or Deliberately. These relationships will not heal themselves, and waiting for one or the other to do the work will probably not work. Doing the work of healing these key relationships must be considered your own work to do, if these relationships are of any importance to you. Taking into consideration the other Overleaves for the year may help in those relationships, as well: Goal of Flow; Attitude of Pragmatism, and the Chief Features of Impatience and Martyrdom. To translate: these key relationships may have fallen into Inertia, the negative pole of Flow, and are at a relative standstill. Your efforts to heal them would help move them back into Freedom, the positive pole. These key relationships cannot be helped by looking at them through Dogmatism, the negative pole of Pragmatism, but can be helped tremendously by streamlining your perspective through Practicality, or Efficiency, the positive pole. In other words, cutting out all of the “bullshit,” speculation, and imaginary hurts, however justified the feelings, would help these relationships tremendously. And finally, these relationships are not constrained by Time or Space, which are factors in the fears related to Impatience and Martyrdom. The fact that Time and/or Space may have come between you is nothing to fear. It is simply a part of the Physical Plane, and part of the experiences of being Human. Even the best of relationships must contend with distance in time and space, and so do the worst. Remember that Caution is about the refining of Thoughts as a means to fulfill a Relationship or Goal, and so what you THINK is vital here. Letting the go of the speculative is vital. Helpful thoughts over JUNE might be: 1) IT IS NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU THOUGHT, BUT ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK Bringing your thinking back into the present does not mean forgetting the past, or diminishing your hurts, but about empowering you to create something better than what you remember. If this energy report resonates with you, and you choose to heal a relationship, then what you think NOW is far more important than what you remember, or what you thought in the past. 2) SAVING OR HEALING A RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT MEAN TAKING THE BLAME Blame is never helpful in healing any relationship, internally or externally. Blame is a distraction from what one CAN do, feel, and see. Even if blame is accepted by the blamed, it anchors the relationship in the past in a way that it can never truly evolve beyond. However, freeing a relationship from the emphasis of Blame can free a great deal of energy and inspiration to be used for what one CAN do, feel, and see, and so the efforts to heal that relationship are far more effective. Once the hurdle of Blame is overcome, then the process of taking responsibility is also freed for both parties, which is usually far more satisfying for all involved. Encouraging another to take responsibility for his or her part in disappointment, failure, hurt, etc in a relationship cannot be done through Blame. Responsibility can only be accomplished through awareness, and if the emphasis is simply on one party being “right,” then the process of responsibility on all parts is lost to the priority of simply being “right.” Taking the first step in being responsible helps set precedence for the other involved to do the same. This applies to relationships within, as well. Rather than blaming the self for disappointments, failures, etc, focus on taking first (second, third, etc) steps of responsibility, and then use that freed energy previous used for blame, and use it for the necessary healing. DATES OF INTEREST JUNE 11th - a divergence Nexus with an emphasis on keeping relationships in, or shifting them out of personal, meaningful inner circles JUNE 24th - another convergence Nexus with an emphasis on potential, new or renewed relationships, as well as the shift of emphasis from Caution Mode and into that of the Pragmatist Attitude
  3. April 11, 2010 Troy Tolley, Channel Modes [MEntity] Hello to each of you. We are here. We understand the subject to be that of the Mode, which is part of our Overleaf System. We have elaborated upon this through Troy in the past, so we will do our best to expand upon that, or lend insight from other angles. We will do so in a way that should allow for each exchange to stand on their own, but add to one another. First, we will share that each of the Overleaves tend to be showcased, presented, emphasized, brought to the forefront of a Personality in different contexts. Depending on the context, a specific Overleaf is leading the Personality for that context. For instance, in SOCIAL situations, the Attitude is the most prominent Overleaf that is used for leading the Personality. In RELATIONSHIPS, it is the Mode. We realize that Social interaction may be consider variations on “relationships,” but we differentiate these by the level of intimacy that is intended or sought for exchange. In “Social” situations, we speak of the level of interaction that emphasizes “getting along” over “getting intimate.” Social situations seek commonalities in viewpoints, or challenges to viewpoints. In Social situations the commonality or challenge is primarily in the realm of philosophies, expression, and information exchange. In “relationships” the commonality or challenge is primarily in the realm of intimacy, resonance, meaning, emotions. The Attitude has a voice. The Mode is mute. The Mode can only “feel,” intuit, “know,” perceive, etc. The Mode bypasses logic in its support or challenge to intimacy. When in groups beyond 2, it is likely that the Attitude is at the forefront for interaction. But even within a group, if conversation or exchange moves to a more ordinal exchange, a more intimate exchange, then the Mode kicks in, so to speak. It is not necessarily the number within the group that is the determining factor, but how one is focusing upon those within the group. If there is a sense of each individual, then the Mode is probably emphasized, but if the group acts as its own entity, and recognition of individuals is rather fleeting, it is most likely the Attitude interacting. The Mode requires a Connection at the very least, and full-blown Resonance at its best. In fact, it could be said that those terms may be used as Negative and Positive poles for the Term “Mode.” Connection would be an anticipated, speculated commonality, while Resonance would be valid, mutual recognition of commonalities. For the most part, the difference between Connection and Resonance is the difference in the degree of space and time involved. “We have a Connection” is often the anticipated, speculated (and hopeful) initiation of a relationship, whereas Resonance is validated from experience and exploration, which requires space (as in, physical interaction) and time (as in, digestion of experiences). Keeping in mind that one can RELATE to anything from an object to an intention to an animal to a person to a soul and all the way to Tao, it will be helpful to understand the spectrum between Connection and Resonance. We spoke of the comparison of the Attitude and Mode only as a means to exemplify the differences, but for no other reason. In our system, the Mode not only describes how one relates to others, but within the Personality it describes how one relates to the motivation for the lifetime as described by the Goal. Understanding your Mode can help you grasp the challenges or the commonalities that you may feel about your Goal for the lifetime. What we will do is speak briefly about each Mode in terms of how it works within the Personality, as opposed to how each works in relationships with other fragments, which we have already covered in a previous exchange. More specifically, we will speak about how each Mode relates to the Goal in terms of commonality and challenge. RESERVE MODE If one has Reserve Mode, this would most likely show up as one who must have the whole picture, the history, the point, and see that there is Meaning to the pursuit of the Goal. When it is seen that there is Meaning, then the support for the Goal tends to be incremental and specific, accumulating a pattern of Meaning. When Meaning cannot be anticipated or seen as possible, then the Goal tends to fall into the negative pole, and internal struggles begin. PASSION MODE If one has Passion Mode, this would most likely show up as one who feels he or she is already inside the whole picture, is creating history, is creating the point, and seeks to create Meaning from the pursuit of the Goal. When Passion Mode can create Meaning from experience, there is full support for the Goal with no inhibition and the Goal acts as food for the soul. When Passion Mode loses its capacity for creating Meaning, then the Goal falls into its negative poles and experience begins to be overwhelming, empty, and numbing. It could also be said that if Reserve Mode sees others in itself, it can experience Meaning; if Passion can see itself in others, it can create Meaning. CAUTION MODE If one has Caution Mode, this would most likely show up as one who REVEALS oneself at a personal pace, and must clarify Intention behind the pursuit of the Goal. When Intention is clarified behind the pursuit of the Goal, then support for the Goal tends to be a process of revelation, building upon each revelation. When Intention is lost or lacking in clarity, the Goal can tend to fall into the negative pole, and the personality recoils. POWER MODE If one has Power Mode, this would most likely show up as one who DISPLAYS oneself as one is at the moment, and must PROVE Intentions behind the pursuit of the Goal. When Intention is proven behind the pursuit of the Goal, then the support for the Goal tends to be a process of Sharing, building upon the sense of presence that sharing brings with the pursuit of the Goal. If Intention cannot be proven, the Goal can fall into the negative poles and the Personality can begin to feel diminished, invisible, and insignificant. PERSEVERANCE MODE If one has Perseverance Mode, this would most likely show up as one who seeks CONSISTENCY in the pursuit of the Goal, with completion of experiences an important element of that Consistency. When Consistency cannot be found, the Goal can fall into the negative pole, and the Personality can begin to resist all new experiences. When Consistency is found, the support for the Goal tends to be in terms of submersion and completion. AGGRESSION MODE If one has Aggression Mode, this would most likely show up as one who creates Consistency as part of the pursuit of the Goal, with management of experiences being an important element to that process of creating Consistency. If Consistency can be created, then support for the Goal tends to be in terms of Managing and Organizing experiences as a form of navigation. If Consistency is found to be incapable of being created, then the Goal can fall into the negative pole and the personality can begin to impose false consistency upon experiences, plowing forward as a means to navigate. OBSERVATION MODE If one has Observation Mode, this would most likely exemplify the very core of the Mode in terms of Connection and Resonance, and in most cases would include some variation and combination of what we have described for the other Modes. In other words, Observation Mode seeks or creates Consistency, Meaning, and clarifies or proves Intentions as related to the pursuit of the Goal. The preferred emphasis of support for the Goal is usually revealed if there is a habitual Mode to which the Observation “slides.” For those in Observation, it would most likely be true that there is an obvious preference of emphasis in terms of MEANING, CONSISTENCY, or INTENTION. MEANING might be defined as the questioning of how this helps one to BE. CONSISTENCY might be defined as the questioning of how this helps one to DO. INTENTION might be defined as the questioning of how this helps one to HAVE. When Observation is not “sliding,” it could be said that it is the questioning of how this helps one to SEE. All of this can be combined into a kind of clever means for one to understand one's Personality dynamic in terms of the relationship between the Mode and Goal. For instance, Observation Mode and Goal of Acceptance might be the questioning of how Acceptance helps one to SEE. If Observation slides to Perseverance, it might be the questioning of how seeking Consistency helps one to See Acceptance. If one is in Passion Mode and with a Goal of Growth, it might be the questioning of how Growth helps one to BE, or the questioning of how Being oneself helps one to Grow. If one is in Power Mode with the Goal of Flow, it might be described as the questioning of how proving one’s Intentions helps one to HAVE peace, freedom, etc., or the questioning of how one’s pursuit of freedom, peace, etc., helps one to share one’s presence. And so on. We must conclude here today. We will open the queue now to the first 5 questions and our responses to these will be included in the final transcript. You may input your question as soon as you have entered the queue if you are one of the first five to respond. [Upst8] so, to be clear then…..if one was in Dominance, it might be the questioning of how Perseverance helps one to DO, or the questioning of how Doing helps one to lead? [MEntity] We can respond to that question here: yes, that is one way of putting the information together. Good evening to each of you. Goodbye. Note: It does not appear that responses to additional questions were ever appended to this transcript.
  4. OMW - Jul 2, 2011 - Healing Relationships Channel: Troy Tolley [CocteauBoy announces] so this will have three parts: Introduction/Discussion/Application Michael will talk about the topic; then the floor will open for general questions about the topic; then the focus will move into exercises... So while I bring in Michael, write down (privately) up to three relationships that you feel are in need of healing, so that as Michael walks through all of this info, you have specific examples to work with. Let's get started! Have a great session! [Martha] Can they be dead? [CocteauBoy] (yeah) [MEntity] Hello to each of you. We are here. We suggest taking a cleared moment right now for taking a few deep gentle breaths, allowing your focus to be present with your body, while inviting resonance among all of you, and with us, however that works for you in your imagination. And we will begin on the subject of "healing relationships" now. First, we will define "Relating" as "discovering and/or creating common ground." We will define "relationship" as "an attraction or repulsion that binds or bonds one to another." This means that even in hatred, there is a relationship, and the repulsion is still rooted in a common ground. Often in hatred, the common ground is feared, or is not understood, and this gives rise to the hatred or repulsion. Love and Hate are not opposites; they are both bound in Intimacy. Hate is as intimate as Love, when they are legitimate. Apathy is the "opposite" of both. It could be said, then, that the positive pole of Relationship is Attraction, and the negative pole is Repulsion. Another way to describe it may be Resonance and Dissonance. Dissonance and Repulsion are merely different ways of describing a state of UNRESOLVE. The lack of resolve is generated by the natural tendency for sentience to generate common ground, yet not being able to understand what that is, or why that is. Some examples: one who is homophobic tends to relate far more closely to the sexuality that is feared or hated than the phobic one wishes to accept. Rejecting homosexuals, then, is a way of tangibly distancing oneself from the common ground of sexuality. Another who is homophobic may not be homosexual, himself, but simply have been taught to fear or simply does not understand this version of a common ground of sexuality. All phobias, then, are Relationships, in themselves, and in the pole of Dissonance, or unresolved common ground. An aside: Allergies, as well, fall into the category of Relationships, and always represent some form of Denial, or Dissonance. There are Relationships of Attraction and Dissonance, and all relationships will fall somewhere within that spectrum. In other words, a Relationship of Love may be Dissonant and not be Attractive, and a Relationship of Hate may be extremely Attractive. Fearing or Not Understanding your Common Ground does not preclude Love or Intimacy. Wounded Relationships are those relationships that have damaged, lost, or rejected the Common Ground that had previously been accepted. Relationships of Hate, then, are not necessarily Wounded, and Relationships of Love are not necessarily Healed. If Attraction is the acceptance and awareness of a common ground, and Dissonance is the unresolve of the fear or misunderstanding of the common ground, then ALL Relationships by definition have a Common Ground, whether the extremes of Love and Hate are involved, or not. The drama, hatred, love, passion, kindness, fighting, arguing, estrangement, romance, etc., are not indications of Wounding, then. They are simply part of the spectrum of Relationships. Wounding is ONLY when the Common Ground is lost, rejected, or damaged. That being said, the more unpleasant spectrum of feelings involved in a relationship can TEND to be associated with Wounding, but this is a tendency, not a rule or equation. In other words, just because you are estranged, or fighting, or caught up in drama, does not automatically mean there is Wounding. However, when there is Wounding, it can often result in estrangement, fighting, and drama. We share all of this so that you understand that your Relationships are as unique and as beautiful as each individual, and cannot be so simply dismissed as Wounded, just because you are unhappy or angry, etc. In fact, some relationships thrive on the Common Ground of Unhappiness or Anger. And they are far from Wounded. Wounded Relationships are usually marked by complete "reset" of the Relationship. A withdrawal from all Common Ground. The Healing comes through the efforts to re-establish, re-discover, and rebuild Common Ground. For Relationships that no longer have the other party involved, whether because of death or distance or complete rejection, Common Ground can still be re-established, re-discovered, and rebuilt. [Brian_W] how? [MEntity] Relationships are a two-way street, so to speak, but Healing does not require both parties. The short answer to how to Heal a Wounded Relationship is to re-establish, re-discover, and/or rebuild the Common Ground. When the other party is not available, it is only a matter of first identifying the most-obvious Common Ground between you. In cases where the person is distant, then Distance can actually be the starting point for Common Ground. In cases where the person has fully rejected all communication, then Hurt can be your Common Ground. In cases where the person is no longer incarnated, your Past can be your Common Ground. Identifying the very thing "between" you as your starting point of Common Ground can often diffuse that very thing. As soon as a Common Ground has been identified and accepted, Healing automatically begins. Healing a Relationship does not necessarily equate it being as you fantasize it, remember it, wish it to be. Healing a Relationship is not an investment, but a gift, for all involved. By identifying and accepting your Hurt or Distance or Past as your Common Ground, one can often free a great deal of energy that can then bring clarity, insight, patience, compassion, peace, and then those can potentially begin to be included as Common Grounds. [Brian_W] Quick question -- can distance include both temporal and / or spacial? [MEntity] Yes. All of what we have shared so far has been the basics of Relationships and Healing, and just understanding these basics can bring some relief and true Healing to some of your most difficult relationships, but also bring understanding and lightness to those relationships that are not wounded, but are simply challenging. Some of your most annoying, challenging, dramatic, and inconvenient Relationships are not so because of Wounding, but because they are simply those things. Understanding this can help you to move to address the challenges directly, instead of being concerned that there is something to "fix." Relationships come in a combination of these elements (or sets): Sexual/Physical, Emotional, Intellectual. Brief, Short-term, and Long-term. Sensual, Shallow, and Deep. All Relationships would be, at least, a combination of one element from each of these. For instance, a Relationship may be Sexual, Short-term, and Deep. Or Emotional, Brief, and Shallow. Sensual would be those relationships that share in feeling good, sharing sensations, stimulation of some sort, including pleasure. Shallow would be those relationships that require little investment, and are not concerned greatly with reward or payoff. Deep would be those relationships that encourage the transformation of fear, or Chief Features. The first set of Elements correspond to the category of Physical, and basically describe the primary means of Interaction. The second set of Elements corresponds to the category of Emotional, and basically describe the interpretation and use of Time or Inspiration. The third set of Elements correspond to the Intellect, and describe the degree of Presence, or Expression. While none of these are necessarily sequential, and can be "mixed and matched" in any number of ways, they do tend to build upon each other in the order we described. For instance, Sensual usually leads to Shallow, and Shallow leads to Deep. Physical usually leads to Emotional leads to Intellectual, etc. By the way, we do not use the term "shallow" here in any negative sense, but only in the sense of depth of investment within and between. Using the sequential tendency, it is also true of all relationships that as they move from one end of the Elements to the other, they will tend to lose emphasis on the previous. So the relationship that is Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep will include, but not necessarily emphasize Physical, Brief, and Sensual. Because this is not understood, many Long-term Mated relationships fail, because they are distracted by the social emphasis on Sensual and Sexual/Physical. The Older the soul, the more likely the Relationships will tend toward the Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep. This is true, even within closed systems, such as Aging. The longer one is in the Body, the more the Relationship with it tends toward Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep. The Whole Relationship, or the Healthy Relationship, is one that includes SPIRIT, or MIND, depending upon one's terminology, the Assimilative or Neutral Element. By "Spirit" we mean that there is an awareness of the Whole that is greater than the sum of its parts. Regardless of any combination, Spirit can be involved. The easiest way to understand "spirit," in this case, is to understand it as that part of you who knows the Relationship is serving you in some way that is meaningful, or can be meaningful. Regardless of the state of the Relationship. We share these various Elements so that you might understand the nature of your Relationship, as it began, where it is, and what you may have expected of it, and that understanding can free you to bring healing, if necessary. The subject of Relationships is as vast as any other subject we can discuss with you, but we will share one more area of consideration as it relates to Healing, before taking questions. Relationships are formed through the MODE, in terms of Overleaves. Depending upon one's Mode, Relationships will TEND to form in certain ways, and TEND to Heal in certain ways. To be brief for the sake of our limited time here, we will share those details for each Mode. RESERVE MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of History; tends to "get to know" others through their Centering; and tends to require dealing with the past as part any relationship healing process. CAUTION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Motives/Motivations; tends to bond/bind through the GOAL; and requires a return to SAFETY as part of any relationship healing process. PERSEVERANCE MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Appearances or Behavior; tends to bond/bind with another through Body Type; requires tangible action as a means for healing any relationship. OBSERVATION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Perspective; tends to Bond/Bind through the Mode; requires feeling UNDERSTOOD as a means for healing a Relationship. POWER MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Confidence; tends to bond/bind with another through the Attitude; and requires HONESTY as a means for healing a relationship. PASSION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Imagination; tends to bond/bind with others through Soul Age; and requires the experience of BEING SEEN as part of any healing of a Relationship. AGGRESSION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of The LIFE (as a whole); tends to bond/bind with another's Role; and requires recovering INTEGRITY as a means for healing a Relationship. We share these correlations so that you can understand how you may find your angle on building Relationships, and what you might require for healing, as well as others' angle on building Relationships, and what they might require for healing. These attractions, bondings, and requirements for healing are not exclusive to each Mode, but are tendencies that can be helpful as a starting place for healing. As this is our first time communicating some of this through Troy in this way, we know that some elaboration and clarification may be necessary over time, but this is a good start. We will now take questions on the subject. [Geraldine] Please clarify why phobias and allergies are considered relationships [MEntity] Relationships here are defined by "attraction/resonance or repulsion/dissonance of a common ground that binds or bonds one to another." Phobias and allergies are relationships of repulsion/dissonance of a common ground. Phobias and Allergies are basically the differences between Conscious and Subconscious Repulsion/Dissonance. Phobias tend to be conscious dissonance and repulsions, whereas Allergies tend to be subconscious dissonance and repulsions. [Geraldine] but how are they relationships? they aren't people [MEntity] Phobias and Allergies, both, tend to be symbolic and tend to be representative of the Relationship between "you" and "yourself." That could be between "you" and your emotions, your body, your beliefs, your soul, etc. Your sexuality, your past, etc. [Geraldine] ok -- the battleground of self [MEntity] Whether it is the concept of homosexuality, or the effects of pollen, the Common Ground is "you," and how you relate to you. We can elaborate on these as a topic another time, including delineating the various allergies and what they may represent. [Maureen] In an earlier private session with you, we spoke of my ‘revulsion’ for my mother at times and you said – in short – that I would feel the revulsion of those last issues that remain with my Essence – coming to terms with my Essence's "past," and that we are most often repulsed by reflections more than by perceptions. Then you said: “Deciding how to handle such behaviour would give great insight into where you are within yourself/Essence in terms of resolving those remaining conflicts.” Do you have any suggestions for how I (or one) might specifically go about resolving these conflicts from “within”, from the “past”? [MEntity] By responding to your question, we skip ahead to the Application part of our exchange with you: First: determine if there actual wounding, which is defined by your having once shared an identified and accepted common ground; Second: ask if that shared and identified common ground has been lost, damaged, or rejected; Third: identify any common ground you may have, even if it is not one you prefer; Fourth: take responsibility for your part of the Dissonance/Repulsion by understanding what it is, based on your Mode. In your case, with Observation Mode, it may be that you are repulsed by lacking shared perceptions, and not feeling understood; [Maureen] I'm more revulsed by my mother not understanding her own behavior -- and then "owning it" - it is less (now) about her understanding me. [MEntity] By "take responsibility" we mean that you can accept that these are things that are important to you, not only in terms of how they are provided for you, but by others, for themselves. The "reflection" here is that you are just as hard on yourself, as on your mother, in your expectations, standards, and efforts to self-monitor and control yourself. The Dissonance or unresolve here is that you dislike this part of you as much as you need it, and when you see someone else disregard such a priority for you, it is repulsive. This is not to say that these expectations, standards, and efforts are "wrong," but that they are your own. In the end, you are resentful and hurt for having to become your own parent. [Maureen] That hit a nerve... [MEntity] The Common Ground between the two of you is that you are both hurting, you are both children, with the difference between you being that you feel you had to take up the slack for your mother not doing the work of her own healing or maturing. You want some recognition for what you have had to do to "grow up" before you wanted to, or should have to, grow up. Your mother epitomizes the pattern you have with others in your life, as well, in terms of your having to take the "adult" role, even as you would prefer not to. We speak to this, based on our interpretation of records here, but we may be incorrect. [Maureen] it sounds right - thanks! [MEntity] The difference between your mother and others is that most of the other relationships were chosen, while you are "stuck" with your mother. Once one can take responsibility for what it is at the heart of the Dissonance/Repulsion, then one can go to the Fifth step of taking responsibility for what tends to be required for Healing. As this relates to the Mode. For your example, Observation tends to require feeling understood, or that another person understands. Either asking for what you require, or providing it yourself, can free the relationship to move toward Healing. The Sixth step would be in understanding what might be required of the other individual for Healing. In your case, your mother requires the same as you. She needs to feel understood as much as you need to feel, and because this is a Mode that "slides," each you may move to other requirements. In your case, you slide to Passion/Reserve, which means that you need the Past to be dealt with, and/or to Be Seen. And your mother, sliding to Power, requires Honesty, which means that she may have to say what she feels, even if it is not true to you, and she will benefit from your being Honest, and saying what is true for you, even if not immediately true for her. It is the Honesty that is required, though, if Healing is to be. The Seventh step then would be in recognizing or allowing SPIRIT to return, which basically means remembering or creating a higher meaning and value of the relationship that transcends even the challenges and joys. We will return to these steps in a moment. First, we will respond to the other questions. [Martha] Can healing of a relationship spread to other parallels where the relationship is also wounded? [MEntity] No. Technically, no. The work of one parallel will not impact the state of another, but the work of one parallel can draw toward a merge with another parallel that is similar in state due to the work of healing. For example: one parallel may be in no need of healing, while another is. The one that requires healing can eventually merge with the other parallel, if healing is accomplished. [Brian_W] This might tie into Maureen's question, as I definitely see how this applies to healing relationships with others, but in general, what would be the common ground with ourselves? [MEntity] Your idea of "you," your heart, your feelings, your identity, your desires, your cravings, your body, your health, your self-image, etc. Anything that could be described as "yours" would be the common ground. For example, the homophobe would be in a dissonant relationship with his sexuality through the symbolic concept of homosexuality and the homosexuals who exemplify it. [ClaireC] Can you give me some insight as to what the "difference between Conscious and Subconscious Repulsion/Dissonance" is behind my sister's chronic, severe allergies? [MEntity] Keep in mind that there is a vast difference between intolerances and allergies, and chronic, severe intolerances are not indicative of anything but genetics, which may or may not have been intentional as part of the design of the Body. Allergies trigger an immune system reaction, whereas intolerances do not. We would have to look at the details of these allergies to determine the dissonance/denial behind them, and at this point we cannot. [ClaireC] Hers are environmental allergies, it seems. [MEntity] If the allergies are legitimate, and environmentally-related, then this often reflects the dissonance between you and "your world." This often comes from a denial of one's power, or right to be, in the world. When we say "environmentally-related," we mean that it is an immune reaction to several threats that are common in the average person's environment, and usually includes an array. If it is specifically pollen, or dander, for instance, then the dissonance may be different. [ClaireC] Definitely allergic to both pollen and dander. [MEntity] In terms of applying this information, we suggest looking at one of your suggested three relationships that may require healing, and walk through the initial list of details for Relationships, and see how that relationship might be interpreted and understood differently. And then use the steps outlined with Maureen for determining if and how a relationship may need healing. [ClaireC] Yes, that was very helpful information that can be applied to all relationships. [MEntity] We are fading, however, and this channel must stop for now. Troy can continue work with the application aspect in your group forum.
  5. ENERGY REPORT June 2016 2016 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Server (emphasized all year) CENTER: Moving (emphasized all year) GOAL: Discrimination (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Cynic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Self-destruction (emphasized Oct - Dec) JUNE brings the end of emphasis on Caution Mode and the shift toward Cynic Attitude begins later in the month. In the final month of emphasis on an overleaf, the emphasis can tend to fade gently or amplify greatly. At this point, we see a shift away from amplification of Phobia, the Negative Pole, and a return to the Positive Pole of Deliberate. This will not be true “across the board,” but more so than has been in the past couple of months. Most of our students have now seen how the Negative Pole for this Mode shows up as events unfolded in the world and in personal circles where Phobia rises, unwarranted panic, defenses, irrational behaviors and thinking and feeling. And now you may begin to see a bit of the more-positive side of Caution in the Deliberate behaviors that show up as more carefully thought out, with clearer intent, and with some rationale behind them. What may come as a surprise is that clear intent and rationale are not always paired with kindness and “good.” The difference is in the irrational vs rational, not necessarily in the approval or appreciation of the end results. What this may mean is an amplification of Caution toward the Positive Pole, and based on this year’s patterns so far, this would likely show up as entrenchment and headstrong plowing forth with the clear intent that crashes up against many others with their own entrenchment and headstrong clarity of intent. One of the benefits of this Mode being moved to the Positive Pole is that regardless of clashing and crashing of various clear intentions and headstrong rationale, the more inclusive, loving, and beneficial of the behaviors would tend to prevail in the clashes. This is not a guarantee, but it does tend in this direction because when two variations of a Positive Pole meet up, the pattern that is greater in its inclusion would bring into alignment those with less inclusion. This will be more obvious on a larger scale, but in your personal life, you may find that this shows up as inner conflicts between very clear ideas about what to do next and how to do that. What you may find is that you go with the more inclusive, flexible, and gentle methods over any reactionary, defensive, or protective methods, even if the difference is very slight. This shift toward a Positive Pole at this point means this year may quite possibly “turn around” and move away from the spiral into greater and greater division, resistance, pain, and alleviate the effects that seemed imminent from the Chief Features at the end of the year. As Caution amplifies and the inner and outer clashing of intentions helps to sort out what is more inclusive, Cynic may come with only a brief emphasis on its Negative Pole and then move toward the Positive for its “season.” However, the “entry” into Cynic may come as quite rough and harsh near the 3rd and 4th weeks of June, and then soften as July arrives. The Cynic Attitude is the philosophy of living in accord with nature and opposing all conventions that interfere with one’s nature. The Cynic Attitude was born of our species’ very close relationship with the canine which has been in effect since before our transfer from Sirius System and is a term that is a nod to our origins in the “dog star system.” The Cynic Attitude is one that strives to live as inspired by the canine, with nature, reason, and freedom being the highest of priorities, and anything interfering with this is questioned, opposed, and contradicted. The Attitude exists with or without this history as its context for understanding and implementing it, but for Humans, this is how the term came to be and how we found a way to clarify the perspective of this Attitude. A canine can be quite keen on what is not right in an environment and bring this to your attention. Barking as a warning, as information, as indications of danger and even for the pleasures that might have been missed is quite helpful in its innocent alignment with others and the environment. So as the shift toward Cynic begins near the end of the month, it can be helpful to consider behaviors in terms of canine behavior. Are you “barking” as a way to bring attention to that which interferes with or promotes freedom, reason, and nature, or is there simply “barking and snapping” as a way to take a stand against something just to be against something. We will speak more to the nature of the Cynic next month, but the above may be helpful for you to understand and shift more quickly toward the Positive Pole as Cynic becomes emphasized. DATES OF INTEREST (dates are approximate): June 01 - 03 -- ENERGY SHIFT - ENERGY REDUCTION - A plummet in energy may be in effect for many of our students, starting off June as a bit disorienting and agitated. This drain comes only as a means to help “reset” a larger pattern that had been locked in Negative Pole spiral. This drain reflects a kind of stepping out of that greater collective pattern and generating an alternative pattern. Your new, inspired return to the building of more appealing patterns would likely be sensed around the 5th of June. June 20 -- ENERGY SHIFT - ENERGY SURGE - This Energy Surge is paired with the shift of emphasis toward the Cynic Attitude. It may come as a bit of a sharp spike in energy that would bring the usual agitation and heightened sensitivity, or as a sense of excitement for the prospects of a greater collective move toward the Positive Poles of the year. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER JUNE: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE - For nearly every pattern and momentum in the universe that could be improved, evolved, changed, and healed, it is never too late. This includes the trajectory of universes and collective paradigms and personal projects and relationships. It is never too late. This is not merely a cliche, it is a Universal Truth. BOW “WOW” or BOW “OW” - As the energy of the Cynic moves into place, it will be important to note whether you or others are “barking” as a means to point to limitations and pleasures, or is the barking simply adding to the noise that harms clarity and vision and meaningful change. Sometimes this may be difficult to know, but one of the key tests for differentiating would be in the motivation. Is the motivation for the benefit of all involved, or is this merely a vehicle of angry defense and rage against something. In other words, it can be helpful to ask if the barking is FOR something or simply AGAINST something.
  6. ENERGY REPORTMay 20162016 OVERLEAVESROLE: Server (emphasized all year)CENTER: Moving (emphasized all year)GOAL: Discrimination (emphasized Jan - Mar)MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun)ATTITUDE: Cynic (emphasized Jul - Sep)CHIEF FEATURES: Self-destruction (emphasized Oct - Dec)MAY brings with it a full dive into PHOBIA, the Negative Pole of Caution Mode. It is natural to “enter” from the Negative Pole when progressing through various stages or states, with the aim for the Positive Pole at some point, but the Positive Pole is often never reached. When the Positive Pole is not reached, it can be due to the nature of circumstances that require a focused and restricted experience, but more often it is due to fear, to resistance, to denial, etc. The collective consciousness, at this point, appears to be spiralling into Phobia, and it is not from the nature of circumstances, but because of defenses, fear, resistance, refusal, denial, and great fracturing throughout the wholeness of collective consciousness.In many ways, this is to be expected. During a Soul Age transition among any population, this goes one of two ways: with the younger Soul Ages looking forward with wide-eyed curiosity and interest in what is ahead, and the older souls moving into positions of responsibility and care so that progress is made, but the younger are included and nurtured, or the younger souls reject and halt as much progress as possible while the older souls fight to enforce a new paradigm with or without inclusion and consideration for the younger.In the United States, the latter is occurring. The Young Soul paradigm has been so entrenched in the programming and imprinting of most fragments extant among the population that the younger souls are willing to Self-Destruct as a means of halting progress and the older souls are willing to Self-Destruct as a means of forcing progress. Very few involved in the transition are considering a more careful, inclusive, curious, and kind progression. This is true among other countries where great changes are in effect, as well.Irrational and unwarranted fear are gripping the masses, spiraling into Phobia, and most have conceded to an eagerness for Self-Destruction over any other option of compromise or compassion. At this point there is now BONDAGE, FRUSTRATION/FRENETICISM, REJECTION, and PHOBIA (negative poles of every overleaf of the year) compounding in effect, leading toward the addition of emphasis of the Negative Pole of the Cynic Attitude so that DENIGRATION is sustained as well. The more piling of emphasis of Negative Poles, the more complicated and painful the emphasis on the Chief Feature may be as the year comes to a close in Self-Destruction. It is of important note that the return of the Infinite Soul is “back on the table” as the Turning Point of this year has come to be approached with such resistance, pain, and confusion this year among even the most enlightened and awake among you. The Infinite Soul only returns for help in course corrections when Sentience is moving toward difficult transitions. This was never truly “removed from the table,” but activations and negotiations have returned. We will speak to this more as we see activity.All of the above may seem dire and depressing, and we do not wish to undermine the struggles that are arising from this high emphasis of Negative Poles, but it is important to know that this is not a script. It can change. It is not fated. Your contribution to moving as close to the Positive Poles of the year and of your own Overleaves makes a difference. It makes all of the difference. Not only in terms of contribution to helping the collective patterns, but also in your experiencing of any patterns that are not your own.For May, we suggest to our students that you turn your attention away from navigating “the world” and focus on navigating YOU. You will naturally have to navigate the world and tend to the demands of the world, but the more you focus on how you respond, react, act, and choose, the more your navigation contributes to the health of the whole, and to your own well-being.The above is a suggestion we offer to all of our students, even if your year is going well, and especially if you have found yourself consumed by the events of the world around you. DATES OF INTEREST (dates are approximate):May 07 - 09 -- ENERGY SHIFT - ENERGY SURGE - this looks to be an upsurge in energy in a way that can bring anxiety, shock, worry, dread, or excitement, enthusiasm, surprise, and pleasure. However it is experienced, the energy is one that is of amplification. We suggest that if you find yourself affected by this surge that you “ride it” and not make any profound decisions based from within it. Allow the following days to come and settle your energy again.May 30 -- NEXUS - DIVERGENCE - a minor but potentially intense shift that brings emphasis on a major event, either in your individual life, or locally, or in larger terms such as your country or planet.HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER MAY:A HEALTHIER YOU IS A HEALTHIER VIEW - It is becoming more important than usual to emphasize self-awareness and self-care in a way that focuses on how you navigate yourself before you are concerned with how you navigate your world, how you navigate yourself before you are concerned with how others navigate themselves or the world. The more you work on your range between the Positive and Negative Poles of yourself, with access to your Positive Poles more readily accessible, the more your perspective and energy shift so that you can handle the challenges of the external world.PHOBIC OR FRIENDLY - As the emphasis on Phobia comes into greater effect, it may be important for you to note if you are falling into irrational fears, hyper-anxiety, over-thinking, plagued with speculation, panic, defense, etc. One of the easier ways for Phobia to shift is to look at where and how you can bring back your Friendliness. If you can help to foster Friendliness in your approaches, your navigation, your considerations, your cares, your methods, your communication, etc. the more you can move from restricted perspectives and into greater range of insight, choice, and kindness.
  7. DanielaS

    Energy Report: MAY 2011

    ENERGY REPORT MAY 2011 2011 Overleaves are: ROLE: PRIEST (emphasized all year) CENTER: MOVING (emphasized all year) GOAL: FLOW (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: CAUTION (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: PRAGMATIST sliding to Cynic and Skeptic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Impatience/Martyrdom (emphasized Oct - Dec) APRIL began the shift of emphasis from the Goal for the year toward the Mode for the year. Caution is the Mode for 2011. When the shift into the Mode begins, the emphasis on relationships begins. With Caution being the theme this year, some of the more challenging of your relationships, or issues within your relationships, may come to the surface for addressing. In this case, we see that many who are choosing to align with this collective energy have decided to take on an area of relationship that has fallen into Phobia, the negative pole of Caution. The Mode is the part of the Personality that supports the Goal, and in doing so, it must support Relationships, as most Goals cannot be fulfilled without some form of Relating and Networking. In short, to truly explore the spectrum of a Goal, you must include parts of the self that have become fragments, and include others to some degree. Every Mode is either a path through freedom or refinement of a certain relating style. The 7 Modes, then, could be described as: Reserve: reaching your Goal by refining your emotions Passion: reaching your Goal by freeing your emotions Caution: reaching your Goal by refining your thoughts Power: reaching your Goal by freeing your thoughts Perseverance: reaching your Goal by refining your actions Aggression: reaching your Goal by freeing your actions Observation: reaching your Goal by observing and using the Mode most appropriate for the occasion. Once a collective Goal has been established for the year, then the building and fulfillment of Agreements tends to begin to fall into place in support of that Goal. In this case, the Goal is Flow, which means that the intent this year would be for the exploration of the spectrum between Freedom and Inertia, which we have covered in our previous reports through Troy. Because most of our students who have aligned with this collective energy for the year chose to work through the issues of the Negative Pole of Caution, first, this means that most of our students, over the time between April and June, will probably come head to head with some of the more challenging issues within themselves, or between themselves and others, in a way that potentially, permanently alters the thought processes associated with those Phobias/fears. Caution is the refinement of THOUGHTS as a path toward a Goal, and if the Goal is to Flow, or to move toward an inclusive, embracing Freedom, then any thoughts that lock any relationships, internally or externally, away from Freedom would probably come to the surface. Phobia is a paralysis, or a freezing of thought patterns, so that nothing can move beyond those thoughts. Deliberation is the slowing down of thoughts so that other processes can be included alongside those thoughts. When one has fallen into Phobia, the tendency is then to turn to Caution’s partner Mode, which is Power. Power Mode is the Freeing of your thoughts by owning them, being present with them, taking responsibility for them. The positive pole of Power Mode is Authority, and this can be translated into Presence, Ownership, Responsible in terms of one’s thoughts about the self in relation to other. To break the paralysis of Phobia, many of our students may find that they are gently or surprisingly confronted with outdated thoughts, old scenarios, archaic thinking patterns about certain relationships that then have the opportunity to be met with more responsible thinking, more presence, and more ownership of the results of one’s thinking in relation to these relationships; more Authority. This ownership of thought patterns can then return the relationship back into a more Deliberate path of thinking, the positive pole of Caution. This would not mean revelations or miraculous recoveries, but a soft merging of opportunity for creating NEW thoughts, together, Cautiously, but Deliberately. For those who may find this familiar to them over April, May, and June, it would do you well to remember, if you choose to do so, that this is a process, not a pivot. In other words, a kind of self-vigilance and patience is order to help secure any new thought patterns you would like to establish. For most who take on this exploration of Relationships, the new core of that process would probably be comfortably re-established or rejected by the end of June. Helpful thoughts over MAY might be: 1) YOU AND ME MAKE WE Though many fragments can tend to feel alone, there is actually never a moment in which a person is not in a relationship with others. In fact, in most instances of loneliness and feelings of isolation, the person has developed such feelings only from his or her thoughts about what he or she thinks OTHERS think about him or her. Changing or updating how one thinks others think about oneself can help to transform one’s relationship with the self and world, as a whole. Keeping this in mind over the months of April, May, and June can help one to approach those challenged relationships from a fresh perspective, from a clean slate, and to potentially transform the sense of self as it relates to others, and thus help manifest more of the True Personality and Essence. To the degree that one has locked oneself down by what one thinks others are thinking, contributes to the degree to which one has blocked Essence. Ultimately, the concept of the “individual” is a lie. There is truly, only, “we.” Even the individual is a conglomerations of parts; a whole that is greater than the sum of the parts, but a conglomeration, nonetheless. 2) RELATING DOES NOT EQUATE RELIVING Returning to relationships that have fallen into challenge, paralysis, or inertia does not mean one has to relive the patterns that led to those challenges, paralysis or inertia. Returning to a relationship that suffers challenges is a cultivation of new possibilities, new facets, new perspectives, new thoughts. The past may need to be addressed, but that does not mean it has to be relived. Relating is the process of empathy, and in addressing the past, the key to healing would be through the capacity you have for relating, even remotely, to any part of the other person’s experience. This does not mean giving permission, justification, or power over to the other person who may have harmed you, but it does mean planting that “seed” of transformation that is Empathy, or Compassion. Sometimes the greatest relief in a relationship is not through finding fault, or by imposing punishment, but to have one, both, or all parties suddenly comprehend the relief of being seen, heard, and/or understood. If even one part of the equation experiences this, the effects can tend to be a cascading effect throughout the relationships. DATES OF INTEREST MAY 22nd - a convergence nexus focused on emerging relationships and agreements
  8. ENERGY REPORT July 2015 2015 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Scholar (emphasized all year) CENTER: H. Moving (default to Moving) (emphasized all year) GOAL: Submission (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Stoic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Stubbornness/Greed (emphasized Oct - Dec) JULY brings with it a shift into the Stoic Attitude. After months of tension from the emphasis on Caution Mode, this shift into Stoic may hit our students fairly hard and with some amount of confusion. The tension of the previous few months could be said to have been the tension between the poles of Caution showing up in the world as Deliberate or Phobic. It would seem “the world” was in a strange dance between those poles, and this showed up in ways that uncovered phobias and activated deliberate intentions. Great highs and shocking lows. All leading to a kind of drop off into Stoicism of July. The Stoic energy of July through September will likely start out from the negative pole of Resignation and slowly shift more toward the Tranquility that allows for more clarity and peace in perceptions. Caution is a Mode, so it was all about relationships and how they dance between being intentional and deliberate and how they expose or showcase your phobias. Stoic is an Attitude, so the emphasis shifts back away from how others are relating to others, or how you relate to others, and moves toward how you INTERPRET your experiences. This means that this shift is going to bring up the areas of your personal philosophy where you have resigned, given up, stopped trying, or have reached a block in understanding and perception that you find has never or barely changed. So the beginning of July may help you to see where you have resigned and given up, and even see these showcased in terms of areas you have forgotten or thought you were well beyond. It is Good Work to allow for this period of time to let you see IF and WHERE you no longer try, but are now willing to revisit. For some, this bounce into Stoicism and its Resignation may show up as a kind of reigniting of vigor and vitality for making a difference in areas you have long ignored or justified as being too daunting to take on. Resignation is simply not acceptable or an option. For those who find they are passing through Resignation and having difficulty moving through it, we can say two things: IT WILL PASS, so there is no need to be overly concerned, but also IT IS INFORMATIVE, so pay attention and decide if you are willing to do something differently to help change this area of your philosophy that interprets the world as less than it is, as diminished and gray, or blindingly frustrating, or exhausting and too difficult. That is not the truth about life. All of these things are PART of the truth, but they are not the truth. For those who find they are immediately prompted by Resignation to make a change, do something, focus, make a plan, etc, then we can only say that this is a meaningful and useful time for making that shift. Whether making this shift begrudgingly, or making this shift with enthusiasm, the effort matters. As August approaches and moves into September, the payoff and rewards may far exceed your expectations, if you are willing to move beyond Resignation. DATES OF INTEREST: July 5 - 10 -- ENERGY SHIFT - DEFLATION - Nearly all of our students may experience some form of deflation over this period of time. By “deflation” we mean a drop in clarity, enthusiasm, a blow to expectations, a foggy wave of confusion, vague sense of mourning, grief, or sadness. At best this energy shift is simply tiring, but at worst, it is disconcerting and may seem to mean more than it does. In the end, it is simply a dip in the collective energy as individuals refocus and recalibrate before the Nexus. This deflation comes, not only because of the Stoic energy, but because of the great amount of effort that went into shifting a great branch of parallels toward equality and inclusion, away from the momentum of more warring and oppression. July 20 - 23 -- NEXUS - CONVERGENCE - The recent divergence in June separated out the parallels where equality and inclusion are in full swing of resistance while war and oppression take on more momentum. “This” parallel is now fully committed to explorations of evolution in equality, inclusion, and compassion. This July Nexus appears to be a matter of bringing in all parallels where that momentum of compassion, empathy, inclusion, and equality are already in force, helping to secure an even wider array of exploration and evolution in that regard. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER JULY: YOU ARE TIRED FROM BEING ASLEEP - Very few people “pop out” of sleep with bright eyes of wonder and awe. Most awaken from a sleep, particularly a deeper sleep, with grogginess, foggy eyes, and even a bit of a bad mood. As the Stoic Attitude shows up to point to where you have resigned in your perceptions, you may find that your mood goes bad, you feel irritable and agitated. This may be because you are waking up. And it has been a long sleep. Take your time, but if you choose to stay awake, there is work to do. WHAT I WANT IS NOT ALWAYS WHAT I WANT - Often what one thinks and feels one wants is only a small fraction of the truth of what one really wants, or it is symbolic of what one wants. July may bring with it some amount of emphasis on your exploring the distance between what you want and yourself. You may have to look hard and steady your focus, but you may find that if you are facing disappointments, defeat, or distance between you and what you want, then either you were not clear about what you wanted in the first place, or you thought you wanted something that only symbolizes something deeper that you want (and can be found in better places/ways), or you did not know that you wanted something different from what you had become familiar with wanting. We suggest the previous sentence be read carefully. In the end, it is often important to look at disappointments as invitations to look deeper, see differently, and sometimes to look closer to home (such as within) for what it is you look for outside of yourself in the symbols, people, and things you think you want. This is not to suggest that you should stop wanting, or that what you want is not what you want, but that there is always a bit more to the picture, and when one is disappointed, resigned, or angry in the distance between the self and what one wants, there is usually information there about what you really want.
  9. DanielaS

    Energy Report: MAY 2015

    ENERGY REPORT May 2015 2015 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Scholar (emphasized all year) CENTER: H. Moving (default to Moving) (emphasized all year) GOAL: Submission (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Stoic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Stubbornness/Greed (emphasized Oct - Dec) MAY brings a full shift of emphasis to the Mode of Caution. (see previous report for elaboration). As this emphasis comes into sharper focus, the split between those who aim for Deliberation and those who remain in Phobia will likely be even clearer and more distinct. Those who aim for Deliberation will continue to aim for inclusion of their concerns and fears, while also being careful and direct in their relating to self, others, and the world. Those who are finding they are more and more entrenched in Phobia will likely grow more and more tunnel-visioned and make rash decisions with reactions that feed the phobia. MAY looks to be quite the dividing ground between those in Phobia and those in Deliberation. Many who are in Deliberation may find the exhausting weight of having to either deal with those in Phobia, or having to help those in Phobia to see beyond their fears. It will be fairly difficult for those in Deliberation to choose not to want to help, but it is important to remember that you can only help IF YOU CAN HELP. If you cannot, it is okay. Sometimes it is simply more important to allow the growth to happen at its own pace, even if this means letting a part of yourself work through its own Phobia. As the year progresses, so do the emphasis and spikes into the Higher Moving Center, and this can make for some bursts of sudden, strange, devastating, and life-altering weather and geological events. Higher Moving Centered years can often bring great shifts in earth and weather in ways that play into the move toward unity and harmony. It is not that unity and harmony are only feasible in disasters, but that disasters are often, naturally, conducive to the necessity for working together. DATES OF INTEREST: May 04 - 06 -- ENERGY SHIFT - ENERGY DRAIN/GROUNDING - It looks to us like a collective wave of exhaustion is passing through many of our students in ways that can feel draining. The actual point of this is out of necessity for many to ground themselves, to take a walk, to sit down on earth, to lean on a tree, to eat a salad, to just rest. Anything that is an acknowledgement of one’s part and place on Earth. This year is beginning to take its toll on our students (and non-students) in ways that are making it feel as if this world is not your own, and that you are either squatters or somehow completely out of place. This is Maya coming up for you as older souls. This is a false illusion. When you look around at the world and its events and they do not reflect you, this is not an indication that you do not belong. It is an indication that the events do not reflect you. It is an invitation for you to go create your own, to look at what does reflect you, or to reach out and help in ways that matter to you. But if you dismiss your connection to this world, you lose your vitality. May 07 - 10 -- ENERGY SHIFT - VITALITY - Depending on how the previous Energy Shift was managed, one may suddenly or slowly feel a return of energy around the 7th. But in that energy shift, it may come as a “blast” of energy that can be volatile and unstable, so grounding is still important. To help you to move this wave of productive/Moving energy through you in a healthy way, take that walk you dismissed, sit on the earth, lean on a tree, watch birds, pet an animal for an extended period of time, take a bath, be in the Sunlight, anything that gets you moving and/or connected to the Earth. This can help the energy shift to move more gently and carefully through you so that your vitality is not returned with explosive bursts, but as pleasurable motivation. NO NEXUS IN MAY HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER MAY: DECOMPRESSION IS NOT DEPRESSION - We have mentioned this before, and it is important that we mention it again for this month. It can feel as if you are depressed and down when a wave of exhaustion invites you toward grounding, especially if the grounding is not fulfilled. So it is important to differentiate between the need for downtime, the allowing of digestion of meaningful events, or the release of useless worries, and actual depression. Decompression is healthy and natural and comes in cycles that help you to recover focus. YOUR WORLD IS OUR WORLD - What you see in the world is not always you, for you, about you, or relevant to you, even though you are intrinsically a part of it because of the very nature of the dynamic of sharing a world. But your world is OUR world, not just yours. When you look at the world and presume it should only serve your well-being, your path, your struggles, your preferences, your pace, then you contribute to the cacophony in the collective consciousness of the world. It is one thing to reach out and help make a difference when you know the world can be a better place for you and others, and quite a different thing when you simply hide from it, complain about it, dismiss it, or resign to overwhelm. It is OUR world. Not just yours. So it will reflect the multitude of people, not just you.
  10. ENERGY REPORT April 2015 2015 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Scholar (emphasized all year) CENTER: H. Moving (default to Moving) (emphasized all year) GOAL: Submission (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Stoic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Stubbornness/Greed (emphasized Oct - Dec) APRIL brings a shift of emphasis from the Goal of Submission to the Mode of Caution. All Overleaves are in effect all year, of course, but the emphasis does shift. From April through June the emphasis shifts away from the initiation and setting of context and motivation for the year and shifts toward the evaluation of relationships and the nature and state of your relating. In a “season” of Caution, relationships will tend to be evaluated in terms of DELIBERATION and PHOBIA. Deliberation is the careful, conscious consideration of how one relates to something or someone. Phobia is an irrational fear and aversion to something or someone. As you can see, Caution already exemplified itself in the first week of April in the world in several ways, most notably characterized by the Religious Freedom and Restoration Act in the United States and the negotiations with Iran over nuclear facilities. Caution is key this year in terms of moving forward toward greater peace, or toward another great war. This is a pivotal year in that regard, in all levels of relating, from interpersonal to communal to national to global. April through June is a serious look at how consciously you navigate your relationships, how deliberately relationships are secured, nurtured, maintained, and understood or how phobically relationships are rejected, destroyed, undermined, and distorted. As is often the case, the emphasis came first on the Negative Pole of Phobia, but quickly shifted to Deliberation in the above examples. Phobia will not go away, nor will it be necessary for it to go away, but Phobia without Deliberation is incredibly destructive. Deliberation will always take Phobia into consideration and navigate with fears and concerns in mind, but consciously and carefully, instead of through outright rejection, reaction, fear, and distortions. We mentioned in our previous report through Troy that this “entrance” into the Mode would likely come with a rise of emphasis on Phobia, and it would appear that the collective conscious is “right on schedule.” It is important to note, though, that Phobias are often not known or understood to be in effect until they are, and often only when very loud and clear. There are many instances in life that one may be phobic, but you do not have to contend with the triggers for that phobia, so you have no idea just how irrational and fearful you may be in reaction to a trigger. In a year of Caution, you may find that your phobias may suddenly come to light regarding intimacy, responsibility, sharing, caring, enthusiasm, contribution, value, or any other seemingly understood quality of life to which you relate. These often show up as surprising because you either thought you were beyond those fears now, or you did not know they existed, either in the form they now exist, or at all. Your first reaction may be Phobia. You may react with irrationality and aversion that seeks only to push away the trigger. This would likely be clearly seen in your world from the most personal to global in terms of surprising phobias being brought to light with which to contend. If the Mode remains in Phobia, efforts aim only to destroy or distance oneself from the trigger. This can show up in ways from blame to full-scale war. If the Mode shifts into Deliberation, then this is similar to taking a deep breath, gathering one’s wits, and discerning between the truth of the matter and the unwarranted fears of the matter. Imagine walking through the woods and seeing a giant bear standing tall in the path ahead. Your initial reaction is going to be panic and possible overreaction. Phobia triggers the fight or flight extremes. However, Deliberation is the moment you take to adjust your eyes to see that the “bear” is a giant log leaning against a fallen tree across your path. Deliberation takes a moment, just a moment, and assesses if what is triggering your panic is real or imagined. In most cases, one will find that the threats are imagined. Imagining threats is helpful for understanding and navigating threats, but Phobia does not differentiate between imagination and actuality. Deliberation does not ignore threats, but only deals with them as real when they are real. The recent events on a national and global scale we mentioned above exemplify precisely how Caution works from the Negative to the Positive. This is how it may work for you in your personal life, as well. You may have your “freak out” and your panic, with extremes that call for fight or flight, but if you pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and sort through the differences between imagined threat vs real threat, you will likely realize you were never in danger. As April continues into May, Caution will likely be pointing you to any areas in your life, and in the world, that are ready for Deliberation, and no longer willing to endure states of Phobia. DATES OF INTEREST: Apr 04 - 06 -- ENERGY SHIFT - WAKING UP - There appears to be a wave of vitality and energy amplification among our student over these days that may feel as if you are shaking off a sleep, waking up, and feeling like you must get back to focus on things that matter. No matter how busy or how much downtime you may have had in the past 2 weeks to 4 weeks, there was likely a sense of fog about the days. That fog appears to have been the overlapping of Submission and Caution causing some to shrink and recoil at the implications. This Energy Shift seems to clear the air, the heart, and the mind in a way that says, “okay, I’m back.” Apr 18 - 20 -- NEXUS - CONVERGENCE - a reunion of parallels that had branched around 2002 regarding overreactions and phobias that took the world in a far more precarious direction toward full-scale war. Those parallels managed to bring the focus back toward peace, and whether you would like to think so, or not, toward “this” parallel where peace is far more secure than many parallels. The emphasis in “this” parallel continues to move toward greater and greater peace, even as there are clear growing pains. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER APRIL: A TRIGGER INVITES YOU TO BE BIGGER - When you find yourself triggered into Phobic reaction, or irrational thoughts, or feelings of aversion, you are likely being invited to grow, to be bigger and more inclusive than you thought you could be, or thought you were. In some cases, you may not have even thought about it before. But now you are invited to do so. Allow room for the reaction, but be Deliberate in your action. PEACE IS NOT PERFECT OR ALWAYS PRETTY - Peace will never be about agreeing, complying, ensuring like-mindedness, or removal of challenge. Peace is the embrace of evolution. Peace is inviting challenges. Peace is allowing for differences. This is true in global and internal terms. Peace is not fought for or imposed. It is negotiated and realized. It is remembered. It is Deliberate. Remember this as you worry about your life and the world. Peace can be sustained even though the most turbulent of times because that turbulence is embraced as part of the growing pains of evolution. Peace is not fantastical. It is practical.
  11. ENERGY REPORT March 2015 2015 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Scholar (emphasized all year) CENTER: H. Moving (default to Moving) (emphasized all year) GOAL: Submission (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Stoic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Stubbornness/Greed (emphasized Oct - Dec) MARCH brings with it either a lifting of emphasis on the Goal, or an even more heightened awareness of the Goal for the year: Submission. For most of our students, we think this will move in the direction of heightened awareness. [review: Submission is the process of determining how and where one is most beneficial and received. It is a process of determining a full circuit between where and how one is giving and where and how one is receiving. In the Positive Pole, there is Devotion. This is the act of giving in a direction that is both well-received and replenishes you. In the Negative Pole, there is Subservience. This is the act of continuing to give in a direction that “benefits” only one part of the circuit, and does nothing to replenish.] As March opens up, many of our students appear to be ready to own their part in the circuitry or circle of giving/receiving. What we mean by this is that February appears to have brought with it a sense of awareness about what the individual is missing in terms of what is necessary to receive for replenishing, revitalizing, and energizing, and/or what is missing in terms of what is being given for benefit, care, and effectiveness. Becoming aware of these parts of the equation is one thing, and can lead to the mind and heart scattering in several directions as it tries to consider how to implement this balanced equation, but March looks to be about actually working on that implementation. March, then, is likely about your putting into action the ideas and ideals that came into your awareness in February. Did you realize you were putting off pleasures in favor of focus? Were you putting off focus in favor of pleasures? Were you ignoring others as a way to benefit yourself? Were you neglecting yourself as you benefited others? Did you avoid play in favor of work? Did you shun work in favor of play? Did you avoid action in favor of confusion? Did you avoid clarity by simply staying busy? Did you ignore responsibility in favor of self-pity? Did you defend against self-pity through obligations? And so on. The patterns of March may help you to feel a bit more space and time regarding your sense of what is needed, wanted, and what is important to you and to others in terms of giving and receiving in ways that are healthy. This includes even the most trivial of pleasures and the most daunting of tasks. March appears to be a pattern that is supportive of your saying, “JUST DO IT.” One of the issues faced by many of our students is the initial effects of Caution Mode for the year. While all described Overleaves for the year are in effect all year, we do describe these as having “seasonal” emphasis so that the Mode tends to come into emphasis around April. However, Caution Mode tends to stretch out a month more on either side of its “season.” That is the nature of Caution Mode. So there are many of our students who have already begun to feel the effects of Caution, and this may heighten from the middle of March, forward. We will elaborate upon Caution in the following months, but we will say here that as our students “enter” the edges of Caution, they are doing so from the Negative Pole of Caution, which is PHOBIA. This means that many of our students may begin to confront anything that irrational about themselves in terms of how they are relating to the Goal of the year, to each other, to themselves. Phobia is going to emphasize your aversions, your extremes, and your irrationality. As the month comes to a close and moves toward April, it may be vital to each of you that you keep yourselves in check, stay mindful, and help one another to stay aware if you fall into Phobia. The world may begin to reflect some chaos and extremes, itself, as March moves into April, May, and June, so it will be helpful for all of our students to not only keep their sense of replenishment, giving, and receiving healthy, but to rise above any reactionary irrationality and extremes. DATES OF INTEREST: Mar 04 - 06 -- ENERGY SHIFT - HIGH ALERT - This appears to be a window where individuals are snapped into focus, snapped out of a stupor, or suddenly realize that “something needs to be done” in relation to bringing balance to the cycle of giving and receiving. For some, this will simply mean a kind of surrender and a relief found in allowing that balance. For some, this may come as a shocking wake-up, a sense that something has been put off far too long, and/or that a dive into uncertainty is the only option. However this may be experienced, keep in mind that the energy here is all about CARING. It is about caring enough to do something. It is about caring enough to “give a shit.” It is about caring enough to make a change, take a risk, and maybe even break an unhealthy cycle. As for how the world might experience this shift, there may or may not be an obvious event that marks this shift into high alert for the necessary balance required to move forward in healthy ways. Mar 20 - 23 -- NEXUS - CONVERGENCE - a reunion of parallels that had branched around 1999 regarding the fear of technology. This set of parallels have been exploring a move away from dependency on technology, but has since returned to a sense of trust in it again. This Convergence may bring with it a balance between the acceleration of technological impact and the necessity for time and focus away from it, not in “black and white” ways, but in ways that bring balance. For example, rather than being constantly consuming and expressing through social media, time is made for actually reading a book, even if digital. Rather than rendering relationships to text-based exchanges, a heightened effort for using video and audio is inspired so that more meaningful exchanges can be experienced. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER MARCH: RATION YOUR IRRATIONALITY - Allow room for your irrationality, fears, and concerns, but manage them consciously so that you are not driven by or overwhelmed by them. The reason it is important to allow room for them, to ration them, is because they are there for a reason, but sometimes that reason is unreasonable, and you cannot determine this if you simply give in to the irrationality. DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND STOP FAVORING - As the emphasis in March starts to bring to your awareness where you may be favoring one priority at the expense of another, do yourself a favor and stop favoring that one priority over the other. Find a way to give some movement, some action, some life to those areas neglected, ignored, or dismissed. This will help to keep your balance in giving and receiving.
  12. NYC Live: 08/10/2011 Healing Relationships Note from Janet: This material was transcribed by Elaine and Eric from the live video. MEntity: Hello to each of you. We are here and we will begin discussing the subject requested on healing relationships. Bear with us as we come through. The first thing that we will say in terms of healing relationships is that all relationships of significance, in the sense of those relationships that can cause or be affected by wounding, are those that are formed by your relationships developed through your mode in your overleaves. Understanding your own mode, and your overleaves, and how wounding occurs in relationships, why it occurs, and what can help to heal that wounding, can greatly increase your capacity for taking responsibility in those relationships that have been wounded, in those relationships that do suffer from lack of understanding or lack of solution. Because the more you understand your part of the equation in a wounded relationship, the more control or empowerment – or whatever word you would like to use – the more you have the capacity to change that relationship. You cannot control the other person who is involved in the relationship, of course. But taking responsibility for your part, even if it is only to the extent that you understand your part, can have an effect on the other party involved, helping that individual rise to his or her own understanding and sense of responsibility for his or her part in the relationship. All relationships, of significance in particular but relationships in general, are merely relationships with your understanding of yourself. There is no relationship that you navigate that does not specifically cater to your learning more about yourself. All relationships, but particularly those of significance, are relationships with your equals. The fact that you may think that someone is worse than you or better than you, or even unattainable or inaccessible, signifies or equates where you are with yourself. This is often referred to as reflection, and relationships truly are that: a reflection of where you are with yourself. In other words, the state of your relationships often reflects the state of your own internal relationship. It is rare that one who is feeling whole and liking oneself suffers from broken relationships around them. And the same goes for an individual who is divided within and not particularly accepting of himself or herself. He or she will tend to have relationships that reflect that: broken or disappointing or challenging and so forth. So looking at your mode can help you to understand what you expect from relationships, what you are attracted to in the first place in terms of establishing a relationship, and understanding what has become wounded in terms of that relationship. Thus, you can gain your footing in navigating your relationships and raise your capacity for choice, which is the only true tool that every individual has at their disposal. Even when you think that you do not have a choice in your relationships, you do. Before we get into the modes, again we will emphasize that you cannot control the other individuals who are a part of your relationship. To think that understanding your mode and making efforts to heal whatever has been wounded is in some way a strategy for manipulating the other party into a state that is more acceptable to you will not work. The information we will share with you today helps you to understand your part to heal it and to make room for the other individual, or individuals, involved to make their own choices. So the aim here is not to change your relationship as much as it is to heal it. And we use those two words very carefully, differentiating between the intent to recapture someone, or to capture someone, or to reclaim someone, or to change someone, versus heal what has been wounded and then to reset the invitation for that relationship. Resetting the invitation can lead to changes, but the goal will not be to change it. It will be about healing the relationship, and from there your acceptance of the choices of the other individual or individuals involved should be easier to accept and allow. So we will first ask, so that we can focus on the modes of those present, what everyone’s mode is. We think that we have a room of observation and passion. [Audience] And power. [MEntity] Those are the three? [Audience] Observation passion and what? [Audience] Power. [Audience] Who has that? [Audience] Unclear [Audience] A couple of persons are observation though. [Audience] But “secretly...” [Audience] But “secretly” they have power mode. MEntity: So what we will do is start with passion, speak to observation and then speak to power. And if time permits we will cover all of the modes, and if not in this session, we will make sure that the details are shared with Troy to include in a transcript of this session. Those in passion mode tend to be attracted to relationships that transcend time and space. There is a natural quality inherent in those who have passion mode to see beyond any limitations of time and space, and to develop relationships that transcend those, not only in terms of recognizing fragments from previous lifetimes, but also allowing room for the changes and fluctuations that living may bring to a relationship, so that time and space has no bearing on the quality and depth of the relationship. Those in passion mode tend to see an individual from a higher perception, from a bigger picture / standpoint, and does not constrain those relationships to those restrictions of time and space. So passion mode tends to be attractive to those who allow room for those fluctuations in time and space. And for those who do allow this, the relationships last the entire lifetime, to some extent, in some way, and the depth and intimacy is not altered by any divisions caused by time or space. We will circle back to speak about the wounding in a moment Observation mode tends to be attractive to those who can truly see who you are. Those who have observation as their primary mode, tend to be attracted to those who see past all their personas and allow, not just the surface to be seen or rather make known that just the surface is seen, but all of what that individual is. Those in observation mode can tend to do this for others: they can see past the surface, and depending on other factors in the overleaves, those in observation mode can tend to see the best in people or the worst in people, but it is always that they see more than what is shown. So the relationships that tend to be formed and nurtured are those that allow room for all aspects of that personality to express itself, to be seen…and not just seen, but clearly made known that you are accepted despite what you may have thought should not have been revealed about yourself, or that you struggle to hide. Power mode tends to be attracted to the beliefs or the truths of another person. This is often difficult to discern and, depending on factors in the overleaves, can cause some complications in developing and sustaining relationships, because the exposure of an individual’s personal beliefs and perspectives of life often requires exchanges to reveal that. If the overleaves are not in line with the effort to uncover the beliefs of another individual, those in power mode can often sit back and wait to find out what those beliefs are, what those perspectives are, and often miss those opportunities for deeper relationships. However, one of the ways that power mode attracts those to whom he or she can develop those relationships is by being as present as possible, so that he or she is revealing of his or her own personal beliefs in a way that acts as an invitation for those relationships to sustain and nurture. Again, if this is not pursued, it can cause a gap between the self and development of relationships of significance with others, because the key here is in the fact that it is an individual’s truths and perceptions that are attractive to those who have Power mode. Before we circle back and talk about the wounding that can occur, do these resonate with those of you who have those modes? [Audience] Yes. [Audience] Yes, but I have a question. I was wondering if people who have the same mode are generally attracted to each other, based on what you said. MEntity: Yes, modes can tend to be attracted to each other. They can also often be attracted to their compliment on the same axis. But there is no rule for attraction, because the mode, and to whom you are attracted in a lifetime, often depends on what you seek to experience in your lifetime. And by “you” we mean your essence, and if the personality is on board, then the personality as well. Your mode will act as the means by which you relate to and attract another, but it does not automatically attract. [Audience] Thank you. MEntity: Now we will circle back, and speak of the wounding that can occur. Wounding occurs if the mode moves into the negative pole. The causes of this could be any number of things, so we will not go into the causes for why an individual’s mode may fall into the negative pole. This will be something that you can figure out on your own. We can give some clues as to what we think it might be, but it will be your responsibility to determine that on your own, because it may be a large issue, or it may be specific to that relationship. More than likely, it is a larger issue, especially if you’ve seen this occur more than once in various relationships. Then it would be a larger arcing issue that has more to do with yourself than anything. In other words, it would exist with or without those relationships to emphasize it. Passion mode often experiences it’s most wounded-ness in a relationship if it has fallen into the negative poles and suddenly demands or expects time and space to be complied to or adhered to in order for that relationship to have any significance or meaning. If the expectations of time and space are not met, wounding can occur. The phrase “expectations of time and space being met” can be interpreted many different ways and we leave that to you to apply to any of your relevant relationships that have suffered this form of wounding. But in most cases of those with passion mode, they tend to feel the most hurt or affected in a way where relationships are damaged if there is suddenly a restriction or a condition relative to time and space, because this is counter to their nature. It is counter to everything that Passion mode is about, which is the transcendence of that time and space, and the relating to each other based on soul age and relationships of your essence that goes beyond this lifetime. To suddenly have to restrict a relationship to fit those conditions, and they are not met, causes wounding. And like before we will speak of the wounding and then circle back and speak to the healing that tends to work in those relationships. Observation mode can experience the most wounding in a relationship if the individual feels he or she is suddenly not seen, is completely rendered insignificant or invisible in the eyes of someone who previously was seeing you in your entirety. Or the wounding can occur if, in the pursuit of the relationship, the craving and the longing to be seen is not met, and the individual seems to be unable, or incapable, or unwilling to see all of you. Then the wounding can occur. What we’re speaking about today is true wounding. We are not speaking to the disappointments and every day arguments and dismissals. We’re speaking of what truly is experienced as a wounding for the individual. And those with observation mode can tend to feel the most wounded when they suddenly feel invisible. We’ll also point out that all fragments will be able to relate to the various forms of wounding. We’re speaking to the inclination that each individual will have towards developing a relationship and experiencing wounding, but you are not locked into those. These are simply inclinations that tend to be very consistent. Power mode tends to experience the most wounding when there are lies involved: delusion, deceit, or some form of contradiction to what is expressed as a truth, and acted upon differently. Dishonesty. As you can see all of these things may harm any individual, and their relationships, but they tend to be consistently deeply wounding to those relative to the modes associated with them. For power mode, then, this can translate into trust issues. And often, when it comes to power mode, once an initial wounding has happened, it may take a long time to get to a place to allow the experimentation with trust again, whether with an individual or as an individual in terms of accepting new relationships. Now before we move back to what can be healing, we will ask if these descriptions are resonating with you [Audience] Yes MEntity: So now we will speak to what we think might be healing to these modes when they feel wounded. For passion mode, and for our students who have been with us a long time, you may understand the concept of sliding on the axis, so that if your particular overleaf trait is in the negative pole, and you are stuck there – or feel you are stuck – you can pull from / consciously behave from the positive pole of the mode that is paired with you, which will automatically move you to the positive pole of your own nature, your own overleaf. This is called Sliding. [Audience] This is the same concept as with the Goal. Is that correct? When you’re in the negative pole with your goal? MEntity: It can be any overleaf, any axis. Yes. Whatever your overleaf is, if you are stuck in the negative pole, if you consciously choose to behave from the positive pole of the partner, you will automatically pull yourself into your own positive pole. We set up this system so that it is not just a description of yourself, but a map for how to get out of any binds that you feel you may have gotten into. Sometimes the negative poles are perfectly acceptable, and we do not teach our system so that you are consciously striving to escape the negative poles or to avoid them. They are a part of your Personality, they will always be there. However, they do not feel as good and they do not prompt you to feel as alive as your positive poles. So an individual will tend to prefer the positive poles, and your clarity and your openness and your happiness tends to be proportionate to where you are in your Personality between the positive and negative poles. So understanding how to do that can help you make your choices. But if you are in a negative pole, it does not mean you are bad or you are doing something wrong. So in terms if passion mode, what can help heal the wounding that might occur in your relationship is to use what is attractive to the partner mode, in this case, reserved. Reserve Mode is attracted to the past, to an individual’s history. Therefore, if an individual who has passion mode feels wounded in a relationship, it helps to address the past. It helps to talk about where the relationship is in relation to its history. Often this can help put into perspective everything that has existed as a part of that relationship and in that understanding can free it again from the constraints and restrictions and conditions of time and space, especially when the individual realizes that there is nothing about time and space in particular that can take away from the meaning and inspiration of that relationship. By time and space, by the way, we do not speak superficially on showing up on time or being close by. But sometimes those in passion mode can have strict rules about how another behaves in his or her own space. And therefore, those conditions can cause wounding or deflections of relationships. You understand? Those in passion mode, or are you asleep? [Audience] (laugh) I’m not asleep. Yes. I think I understand, yes. MEntity: We will state it again. When conditions get placed on time and space, it does not mean that an individual must be on time in order to feel as if the relationship is good, or that you must be close to each other in order for the relationship to be good. It can also show up as having control or conditions over how an individual behaves when he or she is with you in time and space. [Audience] Isn’t that kind of universal? Like if someone behaves badly, it would be annoying in your space. I mean, I don’t… [Audience] I think it feels normal for us. That’s the whole point. MEntity: Yes, that is the point. [Audience] How can someone not be (unclear). The concept of not being annoyed with the way someone behaves in your…when they’re with you doesn’t even make sense. MEntity: Those in passion mode who can lean towards the negative pole can tend to have the highest standards for how behavior is controlled in his or her space and time. [Audience] That would be me. [Audience] That would be me to. [Audience] Yeah, I am willing to admit that. [Audience] I didn’t quite understand what you said about reserve? MEntity: Those in reserve mode…before we respond we want to make sure we understand your question. You are asking how it fits into the healing? [Audience] Yeah, I mean reserve is the complementary mode of passion, is that correct? MEntity: Yes. [Audience] So yes, how does reserve connect? MEntity: Reserve feels that a relationship is flourishing and tends to be attracted to relationships that are attracted to each other’s history. So for instance, those who have reserve mode will tend to be attracted to a person’s history, not necessarily who that person is now, but who they have been, and this often refers to past lives as well. Those in reserve mode can often find themselves in relationships with individuals who have no obvious reasons for being in that person’s life, but the reserved mode recognizes them from previous lives where relationships were significant, and therefore can attract them in for significant relationships now against all judgments. So in terms of healing for passion mode, returning to the history of a relationship that has been wounded can often provide the healing required for freeing that relationship from those conditions. For instance, if an individual is feeling wounded by the behavior or choices of a significant other in a relationship, it can help to remember what has gone into the relationship up to that point, and to pay attention to that history instead of losing it to the present where behavior is not complying to your conditions. [Audience] That makes it so much clearer. MEntity: Did this answer your question? [Audience] Yes. It makes it clearer, I think. MEntity: We are speaking to Kerrin as well. [Audience] Yeah. Yes, so reserve is another mode, it is not the negative pole of passion right? MEntity: Correct, yes. Passion and reserve are both complementary, inspirational axis modes. Returning to the concept of wounding and what we had said earlier, often those who are in the negative poles of their reserve or passion modes, and seeing this reflected in relationships, is often because of wounding that is occurring within in regards to their sense of inspiration. If an individual does not feel inspired, or is not doing anything that feels inspiring, or is not in any way allowing a relationship internally to be what is inspiring, it can often be reflected in the relationships, and the relationships take the brunt of the expectations for providing that inspiration rather than pulling it from within. [Audience] What is the negative pole of passion? MEntity: Identification. [Audience] What is the definition of that? MEntity: Those in passion mode who go into the negative pole can tend to lose their boundaries between themselves and whatever it is that they have focused their passion on. The relationship then becomes an extension of identity, rather than a way to actualize the self, a way to learn more about the self, a way to grow. Instead, it is just an extension of the self. Therefore, whatever is happening in this individual’s life, if it is not complying with what you would do, issues can arise. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes MEntity: To put it in simpler terms, an individual in passion mode…if he or she were to cook you dinner and serve it – a plate of spaghetti, let’s say – those who eat it might say “I love this,” or “I do not like it.” Passion mode in the negative pole will hear “I do not like you,” or “I like you.” They have lost their boundaries between themselves and the spaghetti. [Audience] Yes. [Audience] Yes, I completely understand that. (Unclear) MEntity: Observation mode now. The healing that often comes to those who have been wounded does not come from pushing the other individual to see you more clearly, but that you make the effort to see the other person more clearly. It is often the case that when you feel the most invisible, you have also lost perspective of the other person. So those in observation mode would do well to practice, or to put effort into, seeing the other individual or individuals beyond the surface or, more specifically, beyond what you think is defining that other individual at the time. Because observation is a neutral overleaf, it has access to all of the other modes, and it can tend to slide to any of the other ones. Usually there is a habitual means of sliding that a neutral overleaf will develop over the lifetime. So, as we cover all of the modes, you may find that the solution can be helped and supported by wherever you slide. For instance, if you slide to passion mode from observation, your relationship may find support by freeing that relationship from the conditions that you have, or the expectations you have placed on it in terms of time and space. In other words, you may be thinking that an individual should be processing things faster, or keeping up with your speed of processing, when you may need to free them from that restriction. Or, sliding into reserve, it may help you to look to the history that is a part of your relationship, rather than just at the myopic version of your relationship currently. So that is how that would work if you have a neutral mode. The sliding to these other modes would only be for support, because ultimately the goal will still be for you to expand your perception, or your capacity to see the other individual more clearly, as a means of healing the relationship. This does not mean that you will be seen by that individual, but expanding your capacity to see another individual more clearly is not a strategy or a manipulation for helping them to see you more clearly, but rather for you to be able to see their innocence, to see their capacity for making choices to the extent that they are capable of this time, for their capacity to see to the extent that they can see, which may not include all of you. Sometimes you are not seen, not because what is see-able is ugly, but because the other individual simply cannot see. And by your being able to expand your capacity to see that, it frees you from locking into that struggle to be seen and continuing the wounding. The healing that can come for power mode is to utilize what is a part of caution mode’s attraction. Caution tends to be attracted to the security of a relationship, to the safety that another individual provides, or to the sense of safety that is developed within, as a result of the relationship, or to the confidence of another individual. Caution is strongly attracted to that because caution mode tends to work on developing that sense of confidence, that inner security, and so forth. So when power mode feels distrust and feels divided from the capacity for inviting relationships, it can often be healed by developing trust in the self, by developing confidence in the self. If there is a relationship that has been wounded as a part of a blow to trust, that wounding can be healed by the realization that it has no effect on your own sense of self. It has no effect on your sense of trust in you. Sometimes when you enter a relationship, and this is in particular with power mode, there can be a strong wounding occurring if you feel duped, if you feel that something has deceived you or misled you. This can develop into a distrust in your own perceptions, your own capacities to discern and to navigate. Understanding that the choices of another individual, and their capacity to express their truths consistently, has no bearing on your capacity to do that for yourself can bring about the healing for the wounding that may have occurred as a result of those experiences. Going back to observation, we’ll say that what tends to be the case on a larger scale, as we said with passion mode, it tends to be an inspirational issue that can often affect relationships and bring about wounding, because that issue is already inherent in the individual. For the observation mode, it tends to be an emotional – as well an inspirational – but a personal emotional issue that is carried around with you: some form of emotional wounding for which you are waiting for someone to see and to accept and to embrace, a brokenness to some extent. So for those in observation mode, addressing that brokenness, that sense of wounding that is carried around with or without a relationship can greatly increase your capacity for managing many relationships that suffer blows in the future, because often those blows in the relationships speak to or trigger than wounding, that emotional wounding that has been carried long before the relationship came to suffer blows. Observation is related to the emotional rather than the assimilative and those of you who understand our system will see that this may seem like an anomaly, but it is not. In terms of how the mode works in this realm of relationships, it is an emotional mode, whereas reserved mode is the instinctive or the assimilative mode, and we can go into that apparent anomaly another time if it is of interest. Power and caution tend to carry into relationships…With or without relationships these issues may exist, and that would be what we might describe as contradictions within. With or without a relationship, often power mode walks around carrying a confusion about what he is, where he is going, what he is doing, and lives in this divide of how to be present in the world, and what that means. So in short, they have not defined their truths yet. They have not found yet what feels comfortable as a truth, and until that individual does, it can often show up in relationships as distrust and of course develop into distrust within. Because if you do not have that navigational tool of perception and truth to guide you, you feel as if you can’t even trust yourself. So what we’ve described so far in relation to the modes and relationships, wounding, healing…have they all made sense to you? [Audience] Yes [Audience] I have one question. It’s to come back to the way to address the wounding and about going back to the history of a relationship. I find that I agree with that in a sense that I do go back to review the history of a relationship, but I actually find myself getting stuck sometimes in that past or getting resentment or…is that linked to something else in my makeup or is that an aspect? The way I am going about looking at the past…it’s creating a sort of stuckness in the past. MEntity: Well there are two responses we can give to this. One is that yes, you can…those who are in passion mode who then look to the past for the healing by recognizing “maybe this relationship isn’t wounding me as badly as I thought it was, just because it’s not complying to my expectations currently. Look at the history. It’s been wonderful.” However, if it has not been wonderful, then that same negative pole that has caused you to restrict your focus on the current time and space can then look into the history and hone in on one of those past experiences that contribute to supporting why you are having trouble or feeling wounded currently. So if you think of it in terms of looking back across the landscape and then suddenly seeing that there is a trip along the path, passion mode can hone in on this and say, “See? Here’s why I don’t…this is why I feel wounded, or this is why I am bitter.” But the key will be not to search the history for proof, but to see the history in it’s wholeness, and that would be the difference. When passion mode looks to the history, it does not serve it well to look for proof to support the present disappointments, but rather to look at the overall picture of the history in fairness. If that picture reveals to you that the current relationship is simply not one that is healthy, and one that is necessary to step away from, then you are still healing the wounds, because you are seeing that larger arc of history and saying, “There is a pattern here that dominates, and it is not so great for me.” Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: So when we said that were have two responses, one is that if you are honing in and looking for proof to support your disappointments now, then you know that you are possibly not doing the work of healing. However, if you are looking at the bigger picture and seeing that there is a pattern that is not healthy, then you are doing the work and you can make your choices from there. [Audience] Yes, thank you. [Audience] Does frequency play a role in that process? MEntity: It plays a role in every process. [Audience] In the speed of healing? MEntity: Yes. Those who are on the lower end of their frequency will tend to take a lot longer to heal. It’s not a rule, it just simply tends to be that way. [Audience] Do they tend to hone in more on evidence to support their disappointments? MEntity: Not necessarily, but the length of time for healing seems to be consistent in terms of a higher frequency person can process and heal faster than a lower frequency person. But in terms of searching the history, a high frequency person can also tend to hone in on past issues that support complaints currently. However, it could be said that the lower frequency makes the exploration of the past slower in terms of processing, which makes those instances appear more clearly than to a person with higher frequency. Does this make sense? [Audience] Yeah. MEntity: Any more questions? [Audience] I have a question from Geraldine. She would like to ask about the mode differences between one's casting vs. ones chosen for role and personality if the casting modes have equal influence? MEntity: We do not understand the question. [Audience] What is a casting mode? [Audience] Maybe the mode that is associated with your casting? MEntity: No, we are speaking of the actual overleaf that is part of your Personality design, not the ones associated with your role or casting. [Audience] ::Discussion (not included):: MEntity: Your role and your casting, and their association to the other overleaves that are on the same axis has no bearing on this particular discussion. Any more questions? Any relationships or examples of relationships, that you would like to discuss can also be bought forth if you choose to. [Audience] There is so many in the room right now. [Audience] Oh yeah, it could be hours. [Audience] Where to even start? MEntity: We cannot solve those or heal those for you, but we think that what we have shared today might help shed light on your part of the equation that can then increase your capacity to choose what to do from there. [Audience] I do think it was very helpful. I mean, to remember why you are in the relationship to start with, like all the great things that you have or had. It seems like such a simple thing, like why didn’t you think of it. You know what I mean? [Audience] I have a question. Everything that you’ve been discussing so far was, from what I understand, from the vantage point of you healing a relationship with another person. Everything that you have discussed, can you apply that if you are trying to heal a part of yourself or if you’re trying to heal your own relationship with yourself? Like, would part of the problem or the infighting be that, if you are of a certain mode, are the positive and negative poles of that mode conflicting or trying to fight off one another? MEntity: Well what we can say to that is that you are correct in your assessment that applying this to relationships within will also be affected. So that, if you are in passion mode for instance, and you are seeing this played out in your relationships – where you are finding yourself wounded by the non-compliance to the constrictions which you may have placed, or the conditions you may have placed on other individuals in terms of time and space – you can turn that within and find that maybe you are also imposing those upon yourself, and that you are thinking you have limited time in order to be who you are, or that you may have to have certain things or conditions in place in your life before you can be who you are, or to find that inspiration, and so forth. Looking at all of this conditions relative to time and space within can free you to heal those inner conflicts. Or in terms of observation mode, there may be elements within the self which you refuse to see that you are expecting others to do the work of seeing and bringing to the surface. And therefore, it could be that you are ignoring a part of yourself or that you consistently do that as a method of relating to yourself: ignoring certain feelings, ignoring certain thoughts, dividing yourself in certain ways in order to feel as if you are a whole person when in fact you only feel whole if you keep this over here and that over here, and so forth. Of course we are speaking metaphorically here. So the for instance, in terms of the overleaf itself, the negative pole of observation is surveillance. The positive pole is clarity. So when an individual is using the positive pole of observation, it means that the individual is able to see the life in a 360 degree fashion. There is clarity about where you are going, who you are, who other people are, what they are doing, and so forth. There is a sense of participation in life and being able to see where you are going. In the negative pole of surveillance, the individual then divides himself from life as a means of seeing things more clearly. And so it can feel as if you are living in life, but watching it through a glass window. You are somehow no longer a part of the very life you are living, a great disconnection. So this can occur within as well, where you become your own observer, rather than your own experiencer. You are watching yourself live your life rather than living it, and it would do you well to bring more of your self into the picture that you so often simply watch as a means of healing that divide within. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: If there is any validity to what we have shared, it should have hit home quite personally. As we said, there is no hard and fast rule associated with these, but there is a consistency that can be explored with relevancy to your relationships within and without. We will quickly add in perseverance mode and aggression mode so that it is completed in our discussion here. Perseverance mode tends to be attracted to physical relationships, to the physical presence of another person, to their physicality, how that individual shows up in their own skin. Perseverance mode can often, in fact, use sexuality as a form of relating. But perseverance mode truly connects to the physical presence of another individual. Aggression mode, on the other hand, is attracted to the totality of an individual: not just their physical presence, but the totality the individual’s beliefs, the individual’s choices, the individuals behavior, the individual’s physicality, their emotional realm, their physical realm, their intellectual realm, their spiritual realm. Aggression mode tends to look at all of it in terms of relating. [Audience] That is so interesting, because my father is in aggression mode and he just recently, apparently, told my mother that she is everything that he’d ever wanted. MEntity: And we think that she is attracted to him for the security and safety. [Audience] Yeah, she’s Caution Mode. [Audience] What’s Caution mode’s one? [Audience] It attracts to security and safety. MEntity: So we will leave those. We can explore them further, but we wanted to throw that in. And the wounding of course would come from extensions that can be extrapolated from the words that we have described. That, if an individual physically alters, for instance, in a relationship with someone who is in perseverance mode, it can be devastating. And by physically alter, we mean there can be indiscretions, or cheating, or ill health, or the lack of productivity. Anything tangible about the individual becomes a measurement for what is meaningful. For aggression mode, of course, the wounding may come from an individual becoming fragmented, divided, scattered, not present, not whole. Those in aggression mode have very few relationships because of this, as well, because there are very few fragments on the planet who are not fragmented. But, because these two particular modes are not present, we will not elaborate upon them. We will conclude or wrap up our discussion about his if there are no more questions. [Audience] I would a question, then. In terms of my relationship with my mother, everything you said fits in with that except that I’m not quite sure what concretely…I guess I want a little bit more concreteness about how to go about improving the relationship, because I definitely feel that I was wounded at some point in the not being seen aspect and then feeling the violation of time and space in that relationship throughout, starting a certain point in my childhood. And it comes up in our interaction, and of course I can’t decide not to interact with my mother anymore. I don’t know if there is something… MEntity: What is your primary mode? [Audience] My mode is passion and her mode is observation. MEntity: Knowing the other individual’s mode is helpful, or can be helpful, because this will give you clues as to what the other individual might need. In this case, as you’ve already discerned, it might be that she does not either feel seen by you or completely accepted in what you see in her. But it also may be – and this is something that will be important for you to understand if you chose to heal in this relationship – is to understand that this particular fragment may never truly like what she sees about herself as well, that there may be parts of her that she refuses to see, and, because you see them, you are held at bay, or given challenges, or struggled against. Do you understand that part? [Audience] Yeah, I’m sorry. I am surprised, because I thought it was about more the wounding, the feeling that I wasn’t seen, but you’re saying that the wounding is on both sides or just on her side? MEntity: If your mode is passion, that is where you want to focus what we shared with you so far. If yours were observation, then your issues would be about being seen or not being seen. However, in your case it, would be more about the relationship in terms of passion and the wounding that occurs in relation to passion, because that is your experience of the relationship. In other words, your mother is an extension of you, and therefore if she is not complying with the expectations that you have of what a mother is, then you may feel the wounding. [Audience] So the wounding is for all modes when you are not seen, or just for the observations mode? MEntity: Just for the observation mode. However, as we said before, there is no rule. Those in passion mode can also experience the feeling of not being seen. For instance, Sages in general have this issue and struggle with it across many lifetimes. Those who have arrogance can have issues of being seen or not being seen, those with self-deprecation. So it is not specifically linked to, or isolated to, a particular mode, but in this context of discussion, in terms of wounding and how individuals relate, this is a clue as to what might be causing the wounding and what could heal the wounding. So in your case, you would focus on the passion and the information we shared relative to that, but if you want to understand where your mother is coming from, then you would want to understand how observation works, because then you have insight into how she is experiencing the relationship. Do you understand? [Audience] Yeah, so the focus on my own passion would be then for me to focus on the time and space. MEntity: Yes, letting her be free from the constraints of your expectations about how she should be now, how she should have been, how present she is, how close you are. Letting her be free from that can help you heal. It may not help you have a better relationship with her, it may not help you to encourage a closer relationship, but at least it will help you heal, which, like we said before, resets the invitation for a better relationship if it is possible. In some cases, it simply is not possible to get what you want from a relationship, even if it’s with a parent. [Audience] Thank you. MEntity: Knowing that she is in observation mode, you can use that to help with the invitation for a better relationship by consciously allowing yourself to see, or expressing to her that she is okay the way she is; that you accept her as she is, not necessarily what she has done, or your responses to it, or your feelings of wounding, but that you are okay with who she is; that she is not just a mother; that she is more than that. She is a person. She is an individual who had a life before you and you are a part of that life, not her life. Being able to see and express that you embrace the totality of her may help her to feel more her own or invite her own form of healing. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: But the work starts with your own, for all of you. So it is not necessary for you to know the modes of those with whom you have struggles. If that were the case, no one would heal. And it is not even necessary for you to know all of this information for you to heal, it just helps. All of you would find your own way with or without this information, or not. We will wrap up the session then here, if there are no more questions. UNRELATED QUESTIONS: Left Out
  13. ENERGY REPORT April 20162016 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Server (emphasized all year)CENTER: Moving (emphasized all year)GOAL: Discrimination (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Caution (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Cynic (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Self-destruction (emphasized Oct - Dec) APRIL brings with it a shift of emphasis from the Goal to the Mode of the year. Caution Mode is now in emphasis. All descriptors are in effect, but the emphasis of exploration is now on the Mode. Caution Mode brings with it the Positive Pole of DELIBERATION, or DELIBERATE, and the Negative Pole of PHOBIA. As a year unfolds it is often the case that the emphasis begins from the Negative Pole and then resolves in the Positive Pole toward the end of the emphasis, if “all goes well.” The Goal of Discrimination was processed over January through March and did not manage to move into the Positive Pole of Refinement, but found many fragments further entrenching themselves in Rejection, the Negative Pole. This does not bode well for the possibility of moving Caution from Phobia to Deliberation, but because there is always the power of choice, it cannot be predicted what the next few months may bring. We can only look at patterns and probabilities. The Positive Poles are always within reach. One must simply make the choice. It could be said that Discrimination is the process of learning how to say NO through saying YES and Acceptance is the process of learning how to say YES through saying NO. For those in Acceptance, this tends to be far more apparent. The inclination to say Yes to everything and everyone is, eventually, found to be meaningless, empty, and exhausting if there is no sense of power and meaning in saying No. Saying Yes out of fear, obligation, routine, or “just to be nice or liked” is not a true Yes. That is the Negative Pole: Ingratiation. To truly mean Yes, one must know when to say No. For those in Acceptance, this is a hard lesson and can be painful to take those steps in establishing clear boundaries and parameters of acceptance. Ironically, the more comfortably one can say No, the more unconditionally one can say Yes, and be in the Positive Pole: Agape. For those in Discrimination, the tendency to say No is far more justified and encouraged by modern society. To say No is considered to be an act of confidence, strength, and power. However, just like saying Yes to everything is empty of meaning, so is saying No to everything. Saying No to “everything” is not Refinement, it is Rejection. Rejection is sloppy. It is lazy. It is resigning from the equation of navigation. It is often thought that it is simply easier to say No, but it takes its toll. Eventually, Discrimination must learn how to say Yes so that No is a process of choice, not a process of protection. What tends to happen for both Acceptance and Discrimination is that this “hard lesson” of learning to say Yes or No is avoided by “doubling down” on saying what has always come to be familiar. So Acceptance will “double down” and become deeply entrenched in saying Yes to something, losing themselves in that Yes, and investing deeply in whatever has become the focus of that Yes so that the No can be avoided. Discrimination will “double down” and become deeply entrenched in some statement of No as a way to avoid saying Yes. And that is where the Goal of Discrimination has found itself among the masses at this point. Most have simply “doubled down” on what they seek to say NO to, rather than take the more inconvenient and inclusive route of saying YES to anything. The irony is in that those who become entrenched in NO tend to think or feel this is a way toward some preferred YES. It is often considered some kind of path toward Refinement. But it is deep investment in Rejection. This becomes clearer as any suggestion of any form of Yes, any variation away from that NO, is met with hostility, defense, excuses, etc. and the defining No stands. Rejection is always a path toward Refinement, but the more invested one is in Rejection, the longer that path will tend to be. So as Rejection is the general atmosphere of collective consciousness as Caution comes into emphasis, Phobia is likely to be fairly “amped up” in effect. CAUTION MODE is a means of reaching the Goal through the Refinement of Thought. The Positive Pole is Deliberate and the Negative Pole is Phobia. Deliberate, or Deliberation, is conscious intention, or long and careful consideration, whereas Phobia is extreme and irrational fear. Caution in its Negative Pole is when thoughts lose all sensibility, all rational capacity, all insight and clarity and lashes about wildly in reaction to input. That input is often in the form of something symbolic that triggers the Phobia. As April moves forward, we expect to see many who have entrenched themselves in Rejection find themselves “triggered” into Phobia and lashing out with irrational and extreme methods to ensure Rejection is upheld. For our students, we can say that that if you have found yourself in any position that more preoccupied with saying NO over saying Yes, then you may find yourself far more likely to be triggered than others. For those students who are not invested in Rejection, but are doing their best to aim contribute to Refinement, the wave of Phobia from others may bring about some challenging scenarios, either symbolically or literally. In either case above, the key here for the next three months is in your being able to consciously override any triggers that set you off, that provoke you, that compel you. As soon as you feel any form of triggering, your only option for transforming that dynamic is in removing yourself from that dynamic. You can return to it, later, but if you are triggered, you may feed yours or someone else’s Phobia and further fuel the wave of Rejection on the planet at this time. All of the above is said with the idea that our students may seek to aim for and contribute to the Positive Poles of the year, but it is not said to discourage you from the Negative Poles. The choice for Positive or Negative Poles is your own. DATES OF INTEREST (dates are approximate): April 16 - 19 -- ENERGY SHIFT - POWER STRUGGLE - this looks to be a window where a shift in power occurs that may be fairly high profile and sets a momentum for the remainder of the year. On a more personal level, this may also be a period where one must reposition or recalibrate oneself to determine where one’s center of power is and how to move forward with that. April 22 - 29 -- NEXUS - DIVERGENCE - This looks to be a fairly major Nexus that may reflect the shift in power around the Energy Shift described, and seems to be a closing down of several parallels that have been in potential. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER APRIL: TRIGGER OR CHOICE - A “trigger” here is anything that causes a reaction that is disproportionate to the cause. In the most practical example, a gun has a simple mechanism, that if pulled, causes the explosive reaction that propels a bullet. That is the trigger of a gun. That simple cause has massive consequences. You have a trigger, as well. Many have many triggers. If you find yourself triggered, you have removed your option for further choice. In a gun, this trigger is quick in its reveal of cause and effect, but it is not always so obvious in your own life. Your trigger may be slow to build, but the consequences will always be explosive and out of proportion to the cause. Though the consequences are explosive and disproportionate to the cause, the build to that explosion can be slow and often fueled by “reasoning,” which is the Negative Pole of the Intellect. Reasoning is manipulation of thought, information, and ideas to enable excuses, behaviors, and justifications. Insight is the Positive Pole because it is open to being wrong, to learning, and to inclusion, whereas Reasoning tends to be defensive and explanatory. As April unfolds, watch closely for when, how, and if you are being triggered, and pay particular attention to if you have used reasoning to shore up your defenses. Being triggered tends to have a lot of energy behind it and if it does not show up in the more obvious explosive lashing out, it can often be mistaken for “passion” when the build is slow. A disproportionate explosion that removes choice is the end result, no matter what. If you wish not to be triggered, you must walk away or remove yourself from the equation until you have your power of conscious choice back in focus. If you do not wish to shoot a gun, you do not hold it in your hand. This is true of your “triggers,” as well. You either “put down the gun” or you “holster it.” Making the choice to override a trigger is the choice that expands upon your further options of choice. Allowing yourself to be triggered exponentially removes the range of choice. Sometimes you can only catch yourself after the trigger is pulled, so to speak, but catching yourself is key. DO YOU KNOW, OR DO YOU “NO” - Saying NO is vital to the learning process of choice, and sometimes saying No means taking a stand that is dangerous, difficult, and/or terrifying, but saying No should always be related to a Yes. If your only effort is to say No, you have lost your way. You have become sloppy and lazy. You have resigned from the equation of choice. You may find it invigorating and exciting and falsely empowering to only say No, but it is important to know what Yes that this No is intended to support. It is important to understand that sometimes the most effective way to say No to something is to actually say Yes to its alternative.
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