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ASK MICHAEL - OPEN FLOOR March 2, 2014 Channel - Troy Tolley [DianeHB] From Kurtis: Hi Michael, I'd like to ask for elaboration on the Realist Attitude, Reserve Mode and Perseverance Mode within the time allowed. Such as how the Negative and Positive Poles function, as there isn't much on any of those traits. If there isn't enough time for 3, that's fine too, then we can just elaborate on the Realist Attitude and Reserve Mode. MEntity: The Realist Attitude is the Exalted, Action Attitude. Attitudes describe a base philosophy through which life is interpreted. In this case, the Realist interprets life through the larger patterns of experiences that have proven to be trustworthy. These experiences tend to be tangible experiences. Anything outside of that collection of tangible patterns and experiences is not considered to be "realistic." This is not to say that the Realist is not open to new, tangible experiences that would build upon previous tangible experiences, but that if it is not already within that range, it is simply not trustworthy. In other words, if it is worth questioning, then it is not "realistic" to count on it. This can tend to leave the Realist with a very refined, but broad, net of what is considered trustworthy and "real." When the Realist is in the Positive Pole, OBJECTIVITY, it means that there is no investment in what is that range of tangible experiences. That Realist is open to all experiences, and if it moves into that range of trust, then so be it, but if not, then so be it. The Positive Realist simply sees WHAT IS. The Realist in the Negative Pole, SUBJECTIVE, starts to become invested in what is wished to be real, what is expected to be dependable, and what is longed for. Their interpretation of experience then shifts outside of its range of trust, and moves more into that state of investment. It is no longer about WHAT IS, but about WHAT IS NOT. And the effort to turn WHAT IS NOT, into WHAT IS. RESERVE MODE is the Ordinal, Inspiration Mode. Modes are how one RELATES, and the HOW of fulfilling the Goal. If Passion Mode is the approach to relationships and to fulfilling the Goal through the freeing of emotions, then Reserve Mode is the approach to relationships and to fulfilling the Goal through the refinement of emotions. Those in Reserve Mode are acutely aware of their feelings and the energy that flows behind those, but are quite selective about what is shared or released or put into use. If you think of emotional energy as a kind of fuel, then those in Reserve prefer to use their "fuel" only when it is necessary, efficient, or relevant. So those in the Positive Pole, RESTRAINT, will find strength in the building up of this energy for those uses where it is more necessary, efficient, or relevant. It is a kind of allocation process, and not one that is intent on ignoring or rejecting emotions. However, if Reserve falls into the Negative Pole, then this allocation process falls away from the strength of Restraint, and into INHIBITION. Inhibition is the same process, but with only the intention for protecting the emotions, or protecting one's "fuel." Considering the queue of questions, we will move on from here to the next question. [Larissa] Anxiety seems to be a growing struggle for many these days. I understand that anxiety relates to fears/focus on the future while depression is a focus on the past. For a person who has difficulty identifying that they are in fact competent and understanding ‘why’ they feel overwhelmed/anxious/fearful, what tools can we use for ourselves or to assist a person in uncovering contributors to anxiety and help to shift our/their anxiety from a negative and debilitating concern to one that can be more easily understood and navigated, and eventually leads to our/their “recovery” (for lack of a better word), neutrality, or and/or healing? Any additional insight you can share on the topic is welcome and appreciated. MEntity: First, we will say that Depression can also be about the future, but is a more resigned position from that of anxiety. Anxiety would like to regain control, while Depression may have resigned that there is no control. In both cases, an underlying issue is the same: one cannot find themselves in any position of beneficial influence in their internal stories, images, possibilities, etc. The conditions you describe could be more of a syndrome than a mood, so it is also important for us to note here that a response from us in broader terms may not be able to address the mix of issues that contribute to one's anxiety or depression. In general, the healing measures that can help would begin with a return to some semblence of control. Since both Anxiety and Depression are about helplessness, it can be beneficial to direct the attention toward some area in which that person can rekindle his or her sense of control. Often that redirection of attention can be in the most surprising of ways that then cascades a return to confidence across the spectrum. For example, arranging a bouquet of flowers in a vase. This may seem useless, but that focus on such beauty and how one can enhance it with some nurturing moves, can be quite healing. Or an effort to smile. This can seem useless, as well, but making the concerted effort to smile, and then holding that for 30 seconds, can help ignite the sense of levity and energy that would be useful for dealing with the anxiety or depression. So, as a general response, we can only suggest here that ANY return of participation in ANY action that brings a sense of contribution and control is useful here. We would suggest not dismissing even the silliest or most "useless" of efforts. These add up. Add 5 of these little events to the day of one who is depressed or anxious, and it can turn around that day. Other suggestions: petting of animals; playing with children; repairing something minor; singing the "abc song;" counting; making time to sit under a tree; etc [Tyrone] Ok: About the Mormon/Latter-Day Saint church: Would Michael say that the current portrayal of Joseph Smith's life is generally historically correct? As in mainly, what were the events surrounding the time when he reportedly was shown metal plates and translated the book of Mormon? (Was it something like higher plane beings, extraterrestrial contact, wishful dreaming, actual gold plates, Urim and Thummim, etc?) MEntity: There is very little that is accurate regarding the life of the fragment known as Joseph Smith, though much of that inaccuracy was perpetuated by the fragment, himself. This was an early Mature Priest, Artisan Cast, in Acceptance, Passion Mode, an Idealist, with double Arrogance. His zealousness compelled him to bring about his ideals at any cost, even if that meant lying. There was no channeling. The source was directly of the imagination of the fragment. With that being said, his intentions and ideals appear to have been "good," even if colored by the imprinting and paradigm at the time. The aim appears to have been toward some ideal of agape, but became mired in mythologies that ended up promoting this agape as an insularity, instead. [Philip] About the Zeta information. Is this to be taken seriously? Is this channeled material? MEntity: There are many variations on what might be phrased "zeta information." Are you asking of this, in general? And are you speaking of the off-planet species that this tends to refer to? [Philip] What I am seeing is about a Planet X and a pole shift on earth. Yes, off planet species MEntity: Your question is quite broad, so our response will be, as well: to take the information you are coming across seriously, or not, is up to you. We cannot make that choice for you. In terms of a group of off-planet species generally referred to as "zetas," this has gone wildly into the realm of symbolism, and not accuracy. Though there are species that are similar to the descriptions often offered, the use of "Zeta" to group them is about as accurate as describing Humans, chimpanzees, and apes as "American." The symbolism of these aliens have come to be the replacement for what were once considered demons. In other words, they are a modern construct of personified fears, in many instances (not all). The species referred to, in general, are not as sinister as are often depicted. In terms of "Planet X" and a "pole shift," there is some validity to the fact that there are "planets" in trajectories that could be worrisome for Earthlings. Though we are not certain as to when any of these may be of necessity for concern, we do not think it is any time soon. As for Pole Shifts, these occur all of the time. They are not unusual. The pole shifts often referred to as being on a scale of massive destruction or change has never happened. We know that it is possible, but highly unlikely. [Juni] How is it possible to tell the difference between (and validate) when one has had actual contact/conversation with others while sleeping versus it being "just a dream" and is there cording happening when it's the former? MEntity: If you dream about a person, you are most likely in some form of contact with that person. Even your sex dreams about a celebrity are "real," in that regard. The Astral Plane is not restricted to known or appropriate relationships, and this is why you might even have sexual dreams about a family member. In the Astral Plane, sexual exchanges are not exploitative or ugly. They are forms of nurturing, support, and resonance. This is often carried back into the waking state as disturbing or distracting, because of the rules of relationships in the Physical Plane, but one can simply let them be what they were, and not impose temporal concerns on them. The Physical Plane is not burdened by those Astral relationships/contact, beyond the memory of the person dreaming, and what he or she chooses to do with that. In most cases, it is quite specific to the need of the dreamer, and not the one dreamed about. We emphasized sexual exchanges here, but we speak of any exchanges. And, yes, Cording does get involved. In most cases, the Cord would have had to have been in place already. If you dream of communication with someone you know you know in the dream, but do not know in waking state, it is often the case that you simply do not have a current incarnation that can reference that fragment very easily to you. If you dream of an exchange with someone who is faceless, or is vague, it is often an exchange with some facet or extension of yourself. [ViP1] Hi Michael, I have a couple of questions about Essence attributes. First, do the frequency and focused/creative energy ratio of an Essence remain fixed across all of the Spark's grand cycles? Or are they chosen anew, from scratch, at the beginning of each grand cycle? Second, do the roles in Essence have frequencies of their own (separate from the frequency of the Essence itself?) I have read from another channeler's channeling of you, that the roles do have such frequencies, ranging from Warrior (lowest) to Priest (highest), and that the frequency of a Role implies how "solidly" a Personality of that Role would be in touch with and connected to the tangible world around them (the lower the frequency, the more connected). Is this valid? MEntity: In response to your first question: Yes, Frequency and Focused/Creative Energy is locked across all Grand Cycles within a universe. These are the very unique "signatures" that identify a fragment with or without a Role. Once that signature is claimed, that fragment is capable of being recognized and identified, even upon return to the most conclusive oneness that is Tao. The Roles, however, also carry their own frequency, but that is only in terms of inherent characteristics that are then overridden by any individual Essence. So there is validity to the fact of more solid Roles, and less solid Roles, and that solid or less solid effect is a generality in each lifetime. However, the more one Manifests Essence, the more one's own Frequency begins to override any solidity or liquidity. In earlier Grand Cycles, the Frequency of the Essences will tend to gravitate toward the range that is inherent in the Roles, but as one's number of Grand Cycles rise, the differences between the Frequency and the inherent range of the Role can be quite drastic. Those who are in False Personality will tend to be experienced and be navigating based on the default of the Role. Those who are in True Personality will tend to be experienced and be navigating based on the Frequency of Essence. Between lives, and in terms of Review, the default of the Role will tend to be the case in the earlier lifetimes, and then, eventually, the Essence's own Frequency is owned and used. The above is meant in the context of how one processes experiences. However one processes experiences, the Frequency will still be static. [brian] Hi Michael, could you describe what Narcissism is in relation to the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual bodies and how to reduce or eliminate its causes and effects, both internally and towards others? MEntity: Narcissism, in relation to the different bodies, would simply be a matter of contexts for where narcissism is upheld. It would not be much different in any of those contexts, though. Narcissism is often an extreme of either Arrogance or Self-deprecation, and is developed as a means of protecting what has come to be accepted as the most fragile thing in one's life: THE SELF. Those in extreme Self-deprecation or Arrogance where valid narcissism has developed will tend to have a very difficult time hearing, or listening, to anything that contradicts their conclusions; will have a very difficult time focusing on anything other than the preservation or serving of the self; will actively or passively refuse to accept that any social rules or contracts are applicable to them; will often hear any insights or suggestions for help to be merely criticisms and insults to them; will tend to default to the distraction of blame of anything other than the self for what goes awry in the life; and will tend to consider any instances of helplessness, anger, or depression to be the cause of someone else. Or something else. So the key for addressing this, even though it is an extreme, is the same for addressing any issues of self-esteem. It can be a long road to recovery, but the individual would have to come to terms with the fact of fragility in others, as a way to recognize the strengths within the self. This is because the one thing that locks those in Self-deprecation or Arrogance away from confidence is the idea that they are somehow less than what another person wishes them to be, or more than what another person can handle. To address someone in Narcissism, we would have to discuss with that person, specifically, the more detailed suggestions that could help that are relative to the causes of that person's fears. In general, though, the narcissist can start by allowing his or her fragility, and honoring that fragility in others. [brian] Is it possible for someone in Narcissism to actually care about others, even if they have difficulty expressing it appropriately? Or are they truly "in it for themselves?" MEntity: The irony here is that this can then become a source of empathy and strength that no longer requires defenses. Brian, that tends to depend on Soul Age. The younger souls tend toward this condition as a form of near-erotic love and admiration for the self as a way to compensate for that which feels makes him or her so different from others. Older souls will tend to go in the other direction, despising themselves, and desperately seeking to be rescued from the trap of those differences that define them, thus creating many inappropriate scenarios, or constant crossing of boundaries. This is not to say that the narcissist does not care, but that the caring is often conditional on how well it distracts the narcissist from his own disgust. So the older narcissist would want to begin to treat himself or herself with the same eagerness to care and nurture and love as he or she would any other person. [wyatt] Why are there identical pyramid structures erected in various ancient civilizations when historical records haven't indicated the civilizations have had contact with each other previously? As in Mayan mexico and indonesia/bali/Cambodia [MikeClev] (China...) MEntity: Wyatt, the ideas for the architecture was from off-planet species, and those were shared among those civilizations, even as those civilizations were disparate. That is the general answer we can offer. There are nuances, and variations, of course. [wyatt] will the off planet species strike again? MEntity: We would not describe it as "strike," but yes. Wyatt, our idea of "soon" may not be accurate to the Physical Plane, but we have yet to see a probability over the next 50 to 100 years that does not include contact with off-planet species on an open and wide scale. Good evening to each of you. Goodbye.