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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... we will move on to the final role of SCHOLAR: What Scholars are motivated by on a conscious level in terms of WANTS for the lifetime we might describe as PROJECTS. Scholars want projects. They want to be working on something. They want to be studying something. They want to be calculating something. They want to be crafting something. It depends often on their casting in this case as to what that project would be. It could be helping someone. Or it could be any number of things, but they want projects. This is what motivates them often. Underlying everything else is that sense of creating or participating in or contributing to a project. Now again, in terms of the Scholar, this definition of what project will mean may vary. But we would think that, if one is truly a Scholar, it would be difficult to find a Scholar who has not in some way thought of “what is my next project?” or “who is my next project?” or “how is my next project?” Their NEED, however … again we have two words that might work here … but their NEEDS, what they are subconsciously motivated by and will find ways to fulfill it would be REST or SURRENDER. Scholars need more True Rest than most other roles, or often need to recognize the value of surrender more than other roles. Now, surrender is a word that often gets confused with resignation, and we will clarify here that surrender is the conscious acknowledgement of forces that are not particularly in your immediate control. So there is a sense of allowance for those things that are going to happen whether you are contributing, participating, or able to control them at all. So Scholars have to learn to surrender, and they need that. They will find that they navigate into positions where they have to surrender to forces greater than themselves. This is also how that rest comes about, because when the Scholar surrenders, they can “sigh” a sense of relief and truly become more centered again, centered back into themselves, into a more assimilative position in the life, rather than constantly distracted by the navigation of it. Do we have Scholars that would like to comment or validate or question? [Question] Yeah, it sounds like you are pointing to Scholars having some control issues. The question would be maybe how to differentiate between when to let go and allow for and when to know when you're more needed to step in. And this could be a reflection of my Server Casting as well. I have some trouble differentiating between the two, but I recognize the need to allow for things to just take place. MEntity: In terms of just the Scholar — we'll address the Server aspect in a moment — in terms of when to know when to surrender and when to rest versus when to step in is when you know that you will not be able to control it. This may require you to step in maybe once or twice to try, but more often than not, it's quite clear when you can and cannot control a situation. When you recognize “I cannot control this,” that is when you can step back and rest, because it is not in your hands. This does not mean that you do not have to contribute, or in any way participate, and what we'll do is we'll use a more simplistic scenario that you can then apply to more personal scenarios. If it is going to storm outside, you cannot change that it is going to storm. It is going to rain, it is going to have wind, and you cannot change that. You cannot change that, but what you can do is decide how to navigate that, and that would mean either choosing to stay inside — let the storm happen and stay inside — or be prepared with your raincoat and rain boots and your umbrella and go outside and know that you are still probably going to get wet and that you cannot necessarily control to the degree that you might get wet. Do you understand? [Comment] Yes MEntity: So it is the same in your personal life. There may be a storm brewing around you, and there may be a storm happening. So acknowledging that you cannot change that storm, but you can change how you navigate that storm makes a very big difference for the Scholar. It allows them to get their sense of power back, their sense of capacity to make sense of a situation back, because that is one of the things that Scholars have the greatest distraction with is trying to make sense of things, and it can drive them crazy if it seems senseless or there is a lack of capacity to assimilate the scenario. So knowing where the line is to draw between what you can control and when it is time to simply navigate what you can't control will help to bring that sense of rest back, that sense of centered state back. Do you understand? [Comment] Yes [Question] For a Scholar, you said True Rest earlier, so is it individual to each scholar, obviously, what their True Rest is, so that's what has to come into play or is it really, literally rest? MEntity: We meant it in a broader term. Your Life Task and the Pillars that support your life task — with one of them being True Rest and all the different examples that might fulfill True Rest — could come into play. But we meant the term, or the phrase, in the way that that category is defined in the first place. True Rest means that you feel inspired again, that you are truly replenished, that you come back feeling motivated and enthusiastic from the experience. [Question] So Scholar hygiene I've read, like taking baths and laughter, would that fall into the category of rest? MEntity: It most certainly will help the Scholar, yes. That is the case when it comes to your generalities, you can go take your bath and you can pursue moments of laughter and have a good time. But what matters here, in the context of this topic today, is when you are in a situation you cannot control and you find yourself struggling. You won't probably be able to run off to a bathtub or necessarily laugh in those circumstances, though you would want to resort to your capacity to discern how much control you have and then how to navigate within that. [Comment] So detachment would come into play, in terms of stepping back and letting things happen as they may. MEntity: That is a word that you could use, yes. We will say more that discernment would be more specifically applicable here, because that is what happens for the Scholars. The detachment will help, but the discernment — that being able to define and differentiate between what I can control and what I cannot — is what's important. If that requires detachment, then that will be of help for you. But the key is that discernment … and then, of course, integrating that into yourself so that when that scenario comes around again, you know that “I don't have control over this. I can only navigate this, and here's how I choose to navigate it.”
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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... Next the Kings: Kings are consciously motivate by the WANT for INDEPENDENCE. There is a sense that they must hold their own, that they must fulfill that want in many different ways that all are associated with the term “independence.” We will say that that term is often defined differently among our different Kings, even among those in our own entity. We had our differences in what we considered “independent” and it is quite often contextual to the lifetime. But the King will tend toward that as a form of navigation, to want to fulfill their sense of independence, their sense of self-sufficiency, their sense of being their primary resource. This does not necessarily mean that they have to do this in any insular way, but they often do, cutting themselves off from others as a way of displaying or exemplifying their independence, but that is not necessary. That is why their NEED, and what they are subconsciously motivated by, is INTIMACY. [Comment] Wow. Look at that. Hooking up with the Sages! [Question] I feel independence, and this has been something that's been driving me crazy because of the contextual aspect of me being young and still supported by my family. Um, that factor made me actually doubt whether I'd even finished/exited my third internal monad in the positive pole. But you said it's not necessary to cut myself off? Because right now that's all I've been desperately trying to do. MEntity: To cut yourself off as a form of independence? [Comment] Yes. MEntity: No, that is not … as we said, there are going to be different definitions of what independence means. But, as we said as well, the wants and needs evolve over time. So the King realizes that “Oh, I do not have to cut out the rest of the world as a way of being independent. Oh, I do not have to cut out all of my resources as a way of being independent, but rather I can use my resources in a way that is my own.” They become a part of your independence. They become a source of your independence, a support for your independence. They are not in any way contradicting your independence. They become inclusive of your independence. And that is why the rite of passage that you described — the third internal monad, which is about the process of declaring and owning your independence, your self-sufficiency — can be done still while being supported, as long as you start to own the responsibility of how you use those resources. It is about that sense of responsibility for how you utilize those resources. But the need that will subconsciously motivate the navigations of life for a King often falls into terms of intimacy. They, more than — we will say not much more than the Scholar, but almost on par with the Scholar — have the most difficult time establishing a sense of intimacy, allowing that intimacy, that closeness to another, that confidence in another. In terms of the self, this intimacy is also about letting you get to know you as well. That intimacy is not just about others, as we said, these needs can be fulfilled on your own. Often, there is a denial of the self in the process of the life, and then the needs continually bring you back to experiences that, force you — not by external forces, but simply by terms of your navigation — put you in experiences that force you to learn more about yourself, to get to know you, and to accept you. So that is what we mean by intimacy in this case. It's not just about being close to another, but about also being internally aligned and close to yourself. Do you understand? Do the Kings in here resonate to these wants and needs? [Comment] Yes [Question] Is it common that Kings have a difficult time establishing intimacy because they want to be independent and they see that as a reflection of relying on someone else? MEntity: Yes. They can often pit those against each other. “To give in too much to intimacy means that I've given too much into dependence.” Ironically, one of the greatest ways for Kings to become the most independent is to allow dependence. Because the King, in terms of its manifesting essence, has to recognize its part in the dynamic of life, not as apart from the dynamic of life. They are not an island, but a part of a community. When the King owns that their sense of independence, their sense of resources, is also dependent on their exchanges with others, their recognizing valid resources, their recognizing and delegating appropriately around them … this is what mastery is. That is when the mastery comes in for the king, is when they are able to not just do it alone, but to have recognized who can do it with them. [Question] Is there a negative element to being a King where you might be very resistant or defensive to constructive feedback or criticism. So should you think “I can figure this out on my own,” and you almost, in a negative way that's self-defeating, don't want to accept what other people have to say that may actually help you? MEntity: Oh we remember the days. Yes, we are guilty of this in our incarnations as well. Many of us died for those very reasons trying to “figure it out on our own” and not allow input from other sources. We had to learn how to trust — and that would be the other term we might use in place of “intimacy,” is that you are motivated by that need for trust. You NEED to have that level of TRUST as a form of independence, because you have to trust those who are around you, providing for you, and contributing to your life in a way that matters to you. You must trust that. So the King will find himself or herself often in positions where they are challenging the concept of trust, and challenging the concept of intimacy/trust, questioning their level of trust and the trust of others. It can become quite a dominating issue in the life. Do the Kings here recognize this? To be more specific to your question, we wouldn't say that it is necessarily a negative thing to say “I want to do this myself.” It is only considered a negative thing if it is harming you to do so, or if it is not allowing you to get done what it is you'd like to get done when you are refusing support or input from another. Do you understand? [Comment] Yes [Question] We were talking about Role versus Casting earlier in conversation, and Troy had said on a daily basis we usually sort of project or demonstrate our Cast, but your Role, when everything's sort of in alignment is when your Role really shines. So I was thinking in terms of the king, ironically, does the king perhaps finally get to shine when he or she gets help when they need the help from other people, or rely on people for what they need to rely on them for, because they can't take care of those things on their own, and when they put all those ducks in a row, so to speak, that allows their essence to be made manifest and that's when they can shine. And sometimes they get in their own way because they don't think that they're allowed to reach out, and thus they're not shining. MEntity: You're speaking of Kings? [Comment] I'm speaking of Kings. I'm applying what we talked about earlier to this particular role of the King. MEntity: Yes. If we heard your question correctly, then yes. That sense of insularity and lack of independence can often be, as we said, precisely because they are not depending on and trusting those who are contributing. Did we hear the question correctly? [Comment] Right. Sometimes you need to reach out and get help elsewhere to put you in a position where you do get to shine as a King. MEntity: Yes. More often than not, the Kings will have that offered to them and it can become quite annoying to the King when people are trying to contribute when they are trying to figure things out on their own. They will often hear these forms of contribution as a din around them and miss that one key form of input that may have been beneficial to them, because they have written everyone off by that point, and it can be easy to miss that one or two sources that would have helped to elevate them in terms of independence. [Question] So what both of you were pretty much outlining was the process of delegation, right? Acknowledging that sometimes others will be able to do a better job at a certain task than you will. MEntity: Yes. There is that. We will say that delegation is combined with allowing as well. Delegation is more of an active recognition or seeking out of others who could contribute and allowance is that reception of those who are offering it. [Comment] Trusting them to do it. MEntity: Yes.
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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... Next we will speak to Warriors: The WANT of the Warrior, the conscious motivation and navigation, can be described as … we need one moment here … we were just assessing the differences in the terms that we might present here, and we will go with the word COMMITMENT, though we may change that word. We're not finding the exact word we're looking for in this channel at the moment. It could also be “loyalty” but that is further from what we are intending to say. So we will go with “commitment” at this point, that the conscious motivation, the WANTS of a Warrior, tend to lean toward COMMITMENT. There tends to be full on commitment by the Warrior: commitment to a person, commitment to a cause, commitment to responsibilities. This want is not just in terms of their personal navigation, but in terms of what is expected of others as well: that commitment to be reciprocated, mutual commitment. If someone has a term that describes mutual commitment to help us get that through more succinctly, you are free to speak up. But we will describe it as mutual commitment. This is vital to the Warrior in terms of Wants for the navigation of the life. They will move in directions where there are those mutual commitments capable of being fulfilled. What the Warrior NEEDS, and will tend to subconsciously navigate toward, is HUMILITY. Warriors, more so than any other roles, tend to fall into positions of self-questioning regarding the level of commitment that is being experienced in their navigation of the world. Humility is that experience that puts them into a position to assess more accurately what they were expecting, what they were anticipating, what they were strategizing for, what they were looking for. So what they WANT is MUTUAL COMMITMENT and what they NEED is HUMILITY. We're using that word quite specifically because the Warrior whose expectations are failed or found to be in need of adjustment can often experience this as a result of overshooting or undershooting in terms of mutual commitments. When they find themselves in that position that humility is being explored and fulfilled, they are much more likely to communicate more clearly what was expected, more clearly what it was that they wanted, much more clearly what it is that they would like to bring to that relationship of commitment. So humility puts them back into a position of necessity to speak up about, or to clarify, their definitions of mutual commitment. [Question] Would “support” be a word that could be used? MEntity: In place of what? Mutual Commitment? [Comment] Mutual Commitment I guess. MEntity: We would still have to say “mutual support” then. [Comment] Cooperation? MEntity: That is a little too detached. There is a … [Question] What about submission? How is that different from commitment? MEntity: Submission, in terms of the Goal, is a search for something to be devoted to, to treat as a worthy cause towards which you turn yourself over to. So in terms of mutual commitment versus submission, there is much more of an expectation of reciprocation than when there is submission. Does this clarify? [Comment] Yes. MEntity: Again, if we are to use “devotion” we would still say “mutual devotion” so we will leave it at “mutual commitment” for now, although it could be “mutual” many different terms that indicate commitment, support, devotion. It's the mutuality that is key here. We feel we are missing a word, but we may not be. We may just be working through Troy's brain. Any questions or comments about the Warriors? Or from the Warriors? [Question] So is the Warrior needing to experience humility in another, or is it humility in himself or herself? MEntity: Again it goes in both directions. It depends. That humility may be something looked for in another or experienced from the self … more often than not in the self. But it is also a form of bonding if another expresses that or displays a form of humility to that Warrior. [Question] Can you please clarify Humility? MEntity: In this case, we are using that term to describe the need to own and clarify one's expectations and anticipations so that humility is felt when those are not met and the breaking down of that sense of mutual commitment comes into play. It's often because the Warrior forgot, or did not own, or did not communicate the expectations of that mutual commitment. So they fall into humility. In other words, they have to take responsibility for it. They learn to take responsibility for those expectations in terms of mutual commitment. [Comment] That sounds like being humbled and disappointed at the same time? MEntity: That is one way of describing it, yes.
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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... SAGES . This may seem obvious, but the WANTS of a Sage, and the consciously motivating form of navigation throughout the life, is the want to COMMUNICATE. More elaborately, we would say “to be seen” and “to be heard.” We prefer the term “communicate” because, ultimately, it is not just about being seen and heard, it is about seeing and hearing as well. It is about creating that circuit of communication, that experience of exchange. So a Sage will always find, underneath all other motivations as a foundation, that want to communicate, to be seen and heard and to see and hear, to truly have dialogue, to truly have exchange. This should be quite obvious in terms of the Sage, but often what is subconsciously motivating a Sage, and what they NEED, is AFFECTION. More than any other Role, Sages crave affection the most. They benefit the most from physical proximity and touch and contact. This does not mean they want you to fondle them without invitation necessarily, but that they have, even more so than Artisans, a difficult time feeling present in the world. They may seem present, and they may seem quite aware of themselves, and they are, but it is difficult for them to not have some form of physical contact, some sort of physical proximity, if this goes on too long. Hugging a Sage is much easier than hugging a King. So when a Sage recognizes that he or she is subconsciously motivated by that need for affection, it could help explain a lot of why they gravitate towards certain relationships, certain scenarios. Even if they are completely out of their element, if that need is being fulfilled in that arena, or in that relationship, or in that exchange, they will gravitate towards that even over a great conversation, if that need is lacking. For the Sages among us, do you have comments or feedback? [Question] Well I have a question. So if you maybe are feeling like you aren't getting those things, or getting them … wait let me organize my question. So it would be easy to utilize, like, sex to get affection, but it's not really a very positive thing, and it would sort of be like the negative pole of it, if you're doing it really just to fulfill that need? MEntity: Not necessarily. Your judgment of it, of sex as a way of fulfilling affection, may make it less fulfilling. But recognizing that you may gravitate towards sex as a way of fulfilling your need for affection will help you to make choices that may be more meaningful to you in terms of fulfilling affection. [Question] I don't feel that it's unfulfilling. I'm just saying that I wondered if it was, maybe, not as positive, or if there would be a better way to obtain it. MEntity: We will say that if it turns into something that is a compulsion that cannot be controlled, and possibly moving into a form of addiction that is harmful to you, then yes, you might deem it to be a negative form of fulfilling that need. But if it is bringing pleasure, and is not harming, then it is a valid form of fulfilling that need. We want to remind you that we said, as you progress throughout your lifetime and you evolve your pursuit of your needs and your wants, the necessities for the degree of fulfillment will change. So then sex may not fulfill that need for affection at some point in your life, and you may have to either move away from that as the source and look to other sources, or move to become more inclusive of other sources, such as literally reaching out to those that are close to you, and hugging more, and snuggling more. We are not speaking in terms of affection only being in physical touch, but affection in our definition is about resonance, is about — [Comment] Intimacy? MEntity: We would not say intimacy in this case. We will say simply resonance: that you like who are with, that you like who you are when you are with them, which is often different from intimacy in this case. [Question] Does the craving for affection have anything to do with craving belonging, a sense of belonging? MEntity: That might be another way of describing what we were using in terms of being present, yes. The belonging is a little more emotionally charged than the term “present” in this case in terms of what we are trying to convey here. The Sage does not necessarily need to feel as if he or she belongs, but they often do feel as if they do not have a presence, that they are not seen and heard in a way that is grounded. We can't think of another, more appropriate word than “present.” Belonging could be a part of that dynamic of their definition of present, but there is a little bit more of an emotional charge to that term than what we would like to convey by using the word present. We will turn it to the Sages to ask if you find a difference between being present and belonging, or if you feel the differentiation yourselves. [Comment] Well I do. I don't think there's a huge difference, I think it's very subtle, because I feel like I belong in certain aspects. But remaining present in the times where I don't feel like I belong is very different, like at work or something where I'm around people that are very casual, as opposed to my close family. There is definitely a difference then. I don't feel as much of a belonging there, but I can feel present. [Comment] I think it's easier to be present when you feel that you are someplace that you belong. If you don't feel like you belong in a situation or in a place, then I think that, personally, yeah, you tend to go to the future or to the past — to imaginings, you know? MEntity: What you may have touched on then is an extension of what is required for them to feel present and that would be, in some cases, that sense of belonging. The reason why we differentiated is because we know many Sages and they do not necessarily need to feel as if they belong in a group of people for them to feel present. But there may be circumstances where that is a defining factor.
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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... Next we will move on to the ARTISANS: Artisans are consciously motivated by the WANT for ORDER, for STRUCTURE. This may not always seem obvious for many Artisans, but they are always striving in some way to put things in order, to keep things in order, to keep things straight. This is mostly because of the multiple inputs that an Artisan has, so it becomes quite essential for the Artisan to navigate the life by keeping some form of order and structure. So what they WANT is ORDER and STRUCTURE. What the Artisan NEEDS and what they are subconsciously motivated by is RECOGNITION. More than any other Role — including Sages, believe it or not — the Artisans need recognition, need to be recognized, need to be honored in some way that validates their existence, even more so than the Server. We think this is because Artisans are so consistently straddling the creative forces that are churning, so to speak, beyond the tangible and working very carefully, or chaotically, to bring it into form. That recognition brings them feedback that lets them know that what they are creating or what they are putting into form is being seen, is being received. Are there any Artisans who would like to comment or validate these wants and needs? [Question] I definitely resonate with what you're saying. I'm wondering for me at least if there's, in my wants to create order, this inherent emotional connection to it … striving for the aesthetic, striving for beauty. Is it perhaps necessary, similar to a Priest, is it necessary sometimes — in order to make the best decision — to find some sense of detachment. Because maybe when you are so emotional, you are personally invested in what you are trying to accomplish that you are losing some objectivity, and that you do need to move yourself from it? MEntity: That may be the case, but not as much it would be for the Priest, at least in the context of your question. In the context of this topic and the context of your question, we would say turn to your need. Your want for order needs to be recognized. Once it is recognized, once the form that you have brought out of the chaos is recognized and honored and (we do not like this word, but we will use it here loosely) respected, it is far easier for you to let go of the necessity for order. It is far easier for you to allow room for the chaos if you feel that that necessity, that want for order, is recognized. It is only when that is not recognized, when that becomes more of a priority, more of a defense, more of an importance to you. Do you understand? [Comment] Yes MEntity: We want to pause here for a moment to say that these needs are also capable of being fulfilled by yourself. They're not dependent on other people. It's nice when others, other fragments, are able to contribute, but you are not stuck meandering through life waiting for someone to recognize you. You can also bring that recognition to yourself. You can also recognize that you have brought order, and that it is beautiful, and that it is enough for now and to allow room for some chaos. Order to an Artisan is the equivalent of Beauty, because Beauty is basically the recognition of patterns within chaos, and in the case of Artisans, often the deliberate maneuvering of patterns to bring that Beauty out of chaos. Do you understand? [Comment] Yes. MEntity: So to further respond to your question as far as detachment and stepping back: recognize that the order and the Beauty that you have sought to bring is actually there and not something that you must continually sustain at all costs. That is the form of “detachment” for you, is that recognition.
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[Extracted from: NYC Michael Speaks: Wants & Needs of Essence Roles] MEntity: We understand that Troy has asked for us to discuss what we might describe as the WANT and the NEED of each Essence Role, so we’ve looked at this in a way that we hope will be easy to validate for each of you and your Roles. ... We will start with the SERVER, and describe the WANTS of a Server: The more conscious motivating factor for the Server would be their want to be HELPFUL. More specifically, to be effective. The server wants to matter. For those of you who have Server casting, you may relate to this of course, and in general these wants and needs are going to be relevant to all of you. But, when it is your Role, it should, if we are accurate in our assessment, ring quite profoundly true for you in particular. So for the Servers who are listening to this, it should ring quite true that it is a consciously motivating factor in their lives to want to make a difference, to be effective, to help. What the Server NEEDS, and is subconsciously motivated by in terms of navigation throughout the life, is TO BE HELPED, to be affected, to have someone else make a difference for them. If you know any Servers who feel that they are ineffective, not making a difference, you often find that they have fallen into the struggle to fulfill the need for someone else to affect them, to help them, to make a difference for them. Often they can be stuck there until they allow that to happen, or until they navigate to someone who is effective enough in their own life. To be effective or to be affected are not in contradiction to each other and they are not mutually exclusive, and as we describe the rest of the wants and needs, they still will apply for all of the Roles. But if one is neglected more than the other it will tend to dominate in your navigation more than the other.
