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Ask Michael Live Chat December 7, 2014 Channel: Troy Tolley ViP2: How do neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, dopamine, etc (and drugs which influence neurotransmitter production and handling in the brain, such as Prozac) fit into the spectrum of choice that is available to an individual? For example, if an individual is depressed and feels like there is only a small range of choices available to improve that situation, is taking such a drug a "useful" way to increase the available spectrum of choices? I suppose taking the drug is a choice in itself but I'm curious as to how one's mental condition, which appears to depend partially on neurotransmitter activity, influences or establishes the range of choices available in a given situation. MEntity: In response to the first part of the question: Though this topic is far more complex than the mere minutes we have here to respond, we will say that the primary effects that these neurotransmitters have is not so much on the range of choice, but on the AGREEABLE vs. DISAGREEABLE range of choice. When these neurotransmitters are in a healthy state, there is a tendency to be in a more agreeable state, which makes the range of choice accessible, but not necessarily indicative of a "good or bad" choice, as much as an agreeable choice. When these neurotransmitters are in an unhealthy state, there is a tendency to be in a more disagreeable state, which makes the range of choice seem more inaccessible, even if they are not, because any choice will tend to be opposed. Unhealthy states of neurotransmitters tend to incline one to reject, deny, or battle against options, even if the range is vast, while healthy states of these neurotransmitters tend to incline one to experiment, allow, and accept options of choice, even if the range is quite limited. In terms of influence, choice is still there, of course, even if it may not seem to be so. There is a difference between neurological processes that affect one's mood around the options of choice, and neurological processes that actually reduce the capacity to choose. When there are neurological influences that reduce the capacity to choose, then there is either self-karma taken on, or choices made for this individual become consequences for those who make the choices, not the one who is compromised. The latter would be similar to, say, how a baby or infant might require care, and how its capacity to choose is truly limited. Any choice on that baby's behalf is of consequence to only the one making the choice. We can alway speak more on this subject, but this is our response for now. ClaireC: Hello, Michael. In a similar, health-related vein, is there any validity to homeopathic medicine and the claims made by its practitioners? MEntity: Yes. ClaireC: Could you elaborate? MEntity: In most instances where homeopathic remedies have little effect, they are simply administered or taken incorrectly. One of the benefits of homeopathic remedies is that one cannot be made sick from them if there is a misdiagnosis or poor administration. But, as a whole, the claims and treatments of homeopathy are valid. This is a holistic means of treatment, best used for chronic issues and issues that require long-term treatment, while allopathic (or "western") medicine is best for emergencies. ClaireC: How does the mechanism work? MEntity: One of the ways in which one can validate the legitimacy of homeopathic remedies is that they work on non-human, non-sentient creatures. One does not have to "believe" in their effectiveness. They simply work. Veterinarians have turned to this source of treatment for many chronic ailments of animals. ClaireC: Any examples? MEntity: The means by which most homeopathic remedies work is through a kind of intense "stamping" of a molecular structure into the "memory" of water. There will come to be a better word/phrase for describing how this works, but the long and crude description is that the "essence" of molecular structure is stacked in the water in a way that is almost holographic, though not quite. Because it can be "stacked," the remedy may seem to be quite diluted when viewed through current technology, when, in fact, it is actually highly potent and concentrated. Examples for non-human animals can be seen documented for a number of ailments, from skin conditions to ear inflammations to digestive issues to neurological compromises, etc. Because there is no regulation of any significance for homeopathic remedies, and because the intake of dosage is so unfamiliar, many do not receive quality benefits, but if care is given in the selection of a professional, as well as in how one is using the remedies, profound benefit can come. ckaricai: Thanks, My question: The recent events in Ferguson, MO sparked protests all around the country. More people are opening up to the fact that people of color in this country experience a different America and it seems like emotions surrounding this fact are high for everyone...What can we do, rather what can older souls do--other than protest--to help move this country towards more racial harmony? MEntity: One of the first things that can be done by older souls is to stop pretending that one can understand the entirety and complexity of the subject. Not even those who are directly involved and directly affected can do so. It is an ancient wounding, and while current wounding can be addressed, the ancient wounding cannot. At least, not in any superficial satisfactory way. ckaricai: That seems pretty bleak MEntity: Ancient wounding of a people is valid. It is carried forward in the biological constructs of the Instinctive Center of any considered to be of that people. Even as the Essence brings forth its own Instinctive Center data, it is mixed in with the biology of the "race." While "race" is a social construct, and not a valid biological construct, those social constructs still carry an influence in terms of procreation and lineage. In other words, there is validity to "ancestral memory." However, the older the soul, the less dependency upon ancestral memory. The younger the soul, the more defined one is by ancestral memory. ckaricai: ...How then would african americans as a group move past that collective ancestral memory? MEntity: This is also true in terms of species, which is why there is an ancient wounding among all Humans regarding their place in the cosmos, related to the original relocation from Sirius. Our pointing to the fact that no one can truly comprehend the profundity and complexity of the ancient wounding is not meant to imply or sound bleak. It is meant to point to the fact that many speak AS IF they completely comprehend it, and offer opinions, ideas, and facts that speak only to a fraction of the pain. And this can tend to add to the pain. For the older soul, this inclination to presume a full understanding can be much easier to relieve than for the younger souls. As for the whole of the people in question, one of the ways for this to be healed is to allow for diversity within the whole of the people. ckaricai: I understand. Thanks for your answer. MEntity: One of the greatest internal setbacks of any oppressed group is the negative effects of solidarity. Solidarity is important and effective, but not if it is used as a means for not allowing variations in advancement and growth from within the group. Imagine a group of people seeking to escape a fire. In one scenario, everyone is linked, and shoulder-to-shoulder so that no one can get through the door. In another scenario, some will will get through the door before others, and some may have to wait a moment. This is a crude comparison, but it is simple in that it speaks to the necessity for moving beyond solidarity and into the active nurturing of diversity. ckaricai: That makes a lot of sense. MEntity: Again, this is not a full response, as the scenario is far more complex than this, but it is our best response to the questions in this format for now. MikeClev: Is there currently any other Sentience living in or visiting our Solar System (other than Earth's Humans, Cetaceans and a few Gorillas)? And, is there any NON-sentient life in our Solar System other than on Earth, for instance, on Mars MEntity: There is a great deal of non-sentient life in this system, but not sentient. There was Sentient life on Venus that has long-since cycled off, and there have been stations on Mars and Earth's Moon by non-Solar System sentience, but not as native species. Most of the species in this system would be classified along the lines of "extremophiles." MikeClev: If so, have signs of stations on the moon and mars been seen and recognised by scientists? MEntity: Oh, yes. Though they are not fully understood and debate continues, there are those who know without question that intelligent life has created structures beyond the Earth. Maureen: Is there any relationship, at all, between The Nine Needs and the Chakras / Centers? If so, what are they? I do understand that our time is limited today. If there is no relationship, I’ll pass on this question. Note: I know the numbers aren’t complementary (9 Needs vs. 7 Chakra/Centers) but as I have reviewed The Nine Needs I’m often left wondering if there is a connection as they’re both dependent on choices made that effect the fulfilment of the Physical, Emotional, Intellectual and Spiritual Bodies. MEntity: First, think of the Nine Needs as being fulfilled through the use of the Seven Chakras/Centers. Any single Need can be fulfilled through the use of any combination of Centers/Chakras. Think of the Nine Needs as results, where as the Seven Centers/Chakras are functions. Maureen: That helps. MEntity: Results and functions can always find some correlation, even if the systems are different. But to draw strict correlations between the Centers and the Needs would be like drawing some significance from one set of directions to the grocery store over a different set of directions. The path to the grocery store is a matter of function/navigation. The grocery store is the point/result. Maureen: I see. Thanks Michael. MEntity: Correlations can be drawn between the grocery store and a path taken, but also between the grocery store and a different path. This is true of the Nine Needs and Seven "paths," as well. GeraldineB: I'm asking a Q on behalf of Kurtis who couldn't attend: Hey Michael, I'd like to ask for elaboration on the Jovial Body Appearance, and any celebrities that would show it off well, thanks :) MEntity: The Jovial Body Type, in terms of Appearance, is one that embodies density of intellect and expression. This body type is designed to carry and store a wide range of ideas, feelings, stories, anecdotes, memories, wisdom, and so has a great deal of "space" among its cells that show up as either loosely packed or densely packed. Those that are loosely packed, so to speak, are those that are quite fleshy, fat, round, and what many associate with "jovial." So while one version may be like "santa claus," the loosely packed, another may be like the "dumb bodybuilder." This is not to say that Santa is wise or that bodybuilders are dumb, but the stereotypes are there. There are origins of a "Santa" that was valid, but the the modern version is simply a result of clever marketing. In terms of more specific "celebrity" versions, there is John Goodman, and then there is Arnold Schwarzenegger. We must conclude here for today. As usual, there is more to say about each of these questions, but we abbreviate our responses to accommodate this format. These more abbreviated responses can be helpful in that they prompt incremental steps in contemplation and comprehension so that a topic can be fully explored with some base knowledge, if that topic is of interest for further exploration. Good evening to each of you. Goodbye, for now.

Michael Speaks: Healing and Healers May 8, 2011 Channel: Troy Tolley MEntity: Hello to everyone. We are here now. We can begin on the subject of Healing & Healers. We will, first, define "Healing" and "Healers." We will define Healing as "a return to, extraction of, or an imposition of Order from Chaos" and Healer as "that which, or those whom, facilitate the return to, extraction of, or imposition of Order from Chaos." Wounding, however it manifests, is Chaos, or at least seeming Chaos. There are really only 7 ways in which a Body can die, or be wounded. These 7 ways can overlap, and some may be able to refine these to a greater degree than we have through this channel, but those 7 Basic Ways of Wounding/Dying would be: Illness, Poisoning, Impact, Impaling, Suffocation, Starvation/Dehydration, and Natural/Shutdown. Each of these can bring wounding or death, and can be brought to any Body, including the Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, and "Spiritual" Bodies. Some of the terms would not be so literal in terms of the less-tangible Bodies, but are relevant terms. Death and Wounding are parts of the experience of the Higher Moving Center, which is the spectrum between Chaos and Beauty. Beauty is simply the recognition of patterns versus the lack of recognition of patterns that is Chaos. We use the term "recognition" because often the difference between Chaos and Beauty is a matter of recognition, or perception, and is a relative state. There are those who "suffer" wounding in ways that "should" bring about a great deal of Chaos, but those individuals return to, extract from, or impose a new order from the chaos in a way that is HEALING. There are those who have "no reason" to suffer and have lost all recognition of order, or beauty, in the life, and these individuals can truly be wounded. And so it is that the differences between Wounding and Healing are as "simple" as the differences between Chaos and Beauty. And so it is that the difference between Wounding and Death are the differences between Chaos and Beauty, as well. Wounding is Chaos. Death is Order/Beauty. Every Personality and Lifetime will explore the spectrum between Order and Chaos, but will always end in Order as a means for Review in the afterlife, and Death is that process of returning everything back to Order, or Beauty. Order can also be returned within the life through HEALING, and since not everyone wants to die as a means to regain Order, there is a necessity for HEALERS. This necessity is vital enough that it is one of the 12 Primary Support Positions within any Circle of Support. This means that every single fragment has at least one Healer accessible at all times in every incarnation and beyond. This may seem a rather sweeping generalization as there are many who suffer without apparent access to healing, but this apparent lack of access is a result of complications that are often unnecessary and are products of choice. A society can become rather powerful in imprinting various individuals to only accept the standardized methods and providers of Healing, which may or may not have helped. The Healing that a fragment may require is not always as obvious as his or her wounding. But the Healer and Healing that a fragment most-requires is ALWAYS accessible in some way. The first key in accessing that is through the realization of the fact that no Healer or Healing can actually HEAL; they can only facillitate Healing and Healing Methods. The only one who can ever truly heal you, is you. The individual can always override a Healer and Healing. However, the necessity for Healers is because often the first step to True Healing is in the ASKING FOR HELP. Wounding, or the plunge into Chaos within a lifetime, is a vital part of the experience of living because it is one of the few states or experiences that can be explored that provokes the Universal Truth of Oneness, or in simpler terms, the fact that you are not alone. Ever. Even if the Wounding leads to Death, or if someone's asking for help is still met with Death, the profound validity of that Oneness and the necessity for reaching out, is often registered in ways that are never lost by Essence. The 7 Ways to Die, or 7 Methods of Wounding, correspond to the Axes in ways that can often shed light for Healing and for Healers. Illness and Poisoning are Inspirational-based Woundings/Deaths. Impaling/Impact are Action-based Wounding/Deaths. Suffocation/Starvation are Expression-based Woundings/Deaths; and Shutting Down/Natural methods are Assimilative. Some of these are obvious, and some may not be so clear, and while we offer up these correlations, we will not say that they are rules or static associations. For example, we can say that MOST Illnesses or intaking of Poisons are MOSTLY related to issues of Self-Esteem, which are extensions of the Chief Features of Self-deprecation and Arrogance. This kind of statement can be explored in a multitude of ways. The immune system is directly connected to Self-Esteem, and so it goes that any fluctuation in Self-Esteem is a fluctuation in Immunity. Self-deprecation is almost always at the core of Illness. The toxins that one takes in without question or concern through his or her eating of poor diet, might be an example of Arrogance at the core of slow Poisoning of the body. And so on... There are only 4 ways through which any of these 7 Methods of Wounding/Death can be implemented: Suicide, Homicide, Accident, and Natural, each corresponding to an Axis; Inspirational, Action, Expression, and Assimilative, respectively. Extrapolating meaning from those correlation to Axes can shed light on those methods, as well, for Healers. And there are only ever 3 methods of Healing: through Truth, Love, or Energy. Facilitating Order within the Chaos of the Truth, Love, or Energy of an individual. This means that Healers range far beyond those who actively practice Healing, or those who specifically work with the various Bodies. In fact, every single one of you are Healers in at least one other Fragment's Circle of Support in every life. If this were not so, then Healers and Healing would not be so accessible to every fragment. One does not have to identify with being a "healer" to be a Healer. If you help to bring Order to someone's Chaos, you are a Healer. If you help someone to experience, comprehend, see, feel, or hear the Beauty that is inherent in any part of his or her life, you are a Healer. Anyone who can help others to bring Order to the Truth, Love, or Energy in someone's life, is a Healer. Whether this is done actively and consciously, or passively and unconsciously, does not matter. And so it is that each of you will always be in a position to HEAL YOUR OWN LIFE, which by definition simply means to bring Beauty to the Chaos of it, whether this be in Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, or Spiritual form. Bringing Beauty or Order to any part of your life helps to bring that Healing into every Body you are. Often, for instance, the Chaos that is in your Physical Body can only be masked by the treatments offered for the symptoms that this Body exhibits, but the True Healing would come from the Beauty/Order that is brought to your Emotional Body/Life. Much of what passes for Healing is only Treatment. Treatment is necessary, and is not a "bad thing," but it is not Healing. Understanding the various correlations above, and the 3 methods of Healing as they correlate to Wounding, can also shed light on the requirements for True Healing. For instance, those who are Wounded by Illness or Posioning usually require True Love for True Healing. Those who are wounded by Impaling or Impact often require True Order for True Healing; those who are wounded by Suffocation/Starvation often require The Truth for for True Healing. Keep in mind that there is a limitation on language here that can make some of these correlations seem confusing, so we encourage creative understanding here so that the terms are not always literal. For instance, it might sound strange that Impaling or Impact requires True Order/Beauty, but if you think of these Wounding correlations as extensions of Martyrdom and Impatience, both rooted in fears of losing Control, you might see why any healing would require a shift in understanding the nature of Beauty and Order. A fragment who is thrown through a windsheild because of his Impatience might be an example. A fragment who is rendered lifeless because of the "impaling" of her heart by the rejection of a loved one might be another example. Being Wounded and Being Healed are MESSY. There is no hard, clean, perfect correlation, and there is often a great deal of overlapping of correlations, so we offer these insights only as guidelines for those who explore Healing, or need Healing. ALL Wounding is a progression that begins INTELLECTUALLY, then EMOTIONALLY, and then PHYSICALLY. This means that if Wounding has come to the level of Physicality, it is almost assured that there is Wounding "up through" the Emotions and Intellect. When we say "All wounding," we mean ALL. Even "Accidents." This does not mean that Wounding is a fault of the Wounded, but it is often a result of a path of choices, internally and externally, that led to the state that allowed for, or created, the Wounding. Even in cases of Homicide. Again, this is not a matter of fault or choices made on obvious levels, but there is something to the fact that two people can be in the same place at the same time doing the same things and only one is Wounded. [liiona24] Please comment on the validity Of the Reconnection As brought forth by Eric Pearl as " new" Healing energy There is no "new" healing energy. All Healing is essentially the return of Order from Chaos, however that is described or packaged, tangibly or intangibly. There are many illnesses in modern times that are susceptible to "miracles" or "energy healing" because the illness never truly existed in the dimension from which it was diagnosed, such as AIDS, Cancers, several other chronic issues. This is not to say that there are no such things as collapses of immune systems, or Cancers, or other chronic issues, but those categories have a percentage of diagnoses that are valid diagnoses at one point, but because the "illness" is not Physically-rooted, the return of Order to the Emotions, or Intellect, can "cure" the "illness." Often, the return of Order to the Intellect and Emotion does not require Physical Healing, or Treatment, but a simple shift in beliefs or feelings. Energetic Healing can ONLY ever return order to the Intellect or Emotion, which may then result in being reflected Physically, of course. When we say "Energetic" here, we refer to those practices that would not require Physical contact in any way. In short, to clarify with Marion: we think the idea of "The Reconnection" is more likely a "Repackaging" of ideals and energies that have always been available. This is not to say that the repackaging is "bad," because even our own teaching requires repackaging for different students with different capacities for hearing us. [Nicholas] When Dr. Pearl and others refer to "new" healing, could they be referring to the validity that as a collective, we are opening up to more possibilities of healing as a reflection of the shift to Mature Soul paradigm? In response to Nicholas: we cannot speak on the behalf of the fragment who is known as "Dr. Pearl," or his associates, but we can say that a Mature-based Paradigm would have far more validity to the concept of "Energetic" healing, since most Emotional and Intellectual Wounding would also be considered as valid. In a Young-based paradigm, most Healing is only considered valid on the levels of the tangible. It is only in recent years, relatively speaking, that the concept of Therapy was considered something of validity."Therapy," in terms of Psychologists, Pscyho-, etc. [TimW] Can you please elaborate a little more on what you said, "Extrapolating meaning from those correlation to Axes can shed light on those methods, as well, for Healers"? Possibly a couple of examples with relation to physical "energetic" healing (if time permits)? For example, Tim, those who are wounded from attempted Homicide would clearly benefit from healing that focuses on the Action Axis, so that a sense of Order for that individual's Time or Space is vital, or put another way: that the Martyrom and Impatience is addressed. Those who suffer from the wounding of attempted Homicides do well to have had their sense of Control brought into focus for their lives in some way, because Homicide, or Impaling/Impact, on a Body CAN throw the entire life into absolute lack of control. For those who are wounded by the methods of Suicide, it is vital that Inspiration is brought back into his or her life. Suicides are usually the result of Inspirational elements collapsing into Chaos, so a return to Order in that context can help bring about True Healing. We realize that "Suicide" is also the Negative Pole of Self-destruction, which is an Expression Axis Chief Feature, but this is another example of Context. In the context of Methods for implementing Wounding, Suicide correlates to Inspiration. In the context of Results of Fear, Suicide correlates to Expression. For those who are Wounded by Accidents, there is a necessity for those fragments to understand "the message" in the "Accident," as all Accidents are Expressions, or Messages. In fact, there are no "accidents," but it is a valid category for understanding how Wounding is implemented, and Accidents equal Messages. Healers, then, would help that fragment to understand what "lesson" or "message" might have been in the accident. [Diane_H] Can you explain the difference between Intellectual and Emotional healing? Are they often intertwined? Intellectual Healing would require the Order returned to the Intellect, or the Intellectual Center to return to the Positive Pole of INSIGHT. This is usually a matter of returning the fragment to a state of honesty about his or her life in a way that brings that Insight, instead of a chronic state of REASON. A chronic state of Reason will bring the Intellect into a constant state of overdrive, looking for patterns that are not there, or creating patterns that are not valid, forcing justifications, reasons, explanations for that which is not understood. This, then, can lead to affect the Emotional Center in a way that pulls the Emotions into a chronic state of Negative Pole, which is Sentimentality. Sentimentality is the confusion and blurring between Symbols and Meanings, and when Symbols and Meanings become confused, Beliefs are generated. And so the Intellect that forced a false pattern then begins to believe it in the Emotions. A simplistic example would be in one who might Think that someone's intentions were to hurt her, and so begins to believe that this person did hurt her, because she can feel that hurt. But the truth will have been that she forced an explanation or a reason for someone else's choices that she did not like, and then the person who symbolized "Love" for her is gone, so that means "love" is also gone, and now she has become Intellectually and Emotionally wounded. To bring Healing to her Emotionally, she will have to regain the Order that allows for a person to symbolize Love, but does not confuse the conduit of Love for Love, itself. [Diane_H] So it could be said that Intellectual wounding comes from one's interpretation of symbols, and Emotional wounding is the emotion that result from it? If the Healing is not addressed Intellectually or Emotionally, it can then move into Physicality, and she will either open up to, or create a path to, Homicide, Suicide, Accident, or Natural methods of implementing one of the 7 Woundings. Yes, Diane, that could be one way of describing a pattern, though we might clarify the statement to read: Intellectual Wounding can come from False or Forced Interpretation, and Emotional Wounding is the Belief/Feelings that support in that Falsehood or Forced Interpretation. [Kathryn41] I assume that 'wounding' can also be a 'choice' for a life experience, but how often does the choice to experience one type of wounding lead to a collateral type of wounding, for example, a consequence of choosing a body type that allows for the chosen wounding to occur but experiencing an additional injury/illness that came along because of that body type? We will say here that it is rare that Wounding is CHOSEN, though sometimes, it is. What is a more accurate way to understand the nature of Choice, in this regard, is that Wounding is often a RESULT of Choices. [Kathryn41] the example I can use is a child with type 1 diabetes - born with the condition - a chosen condition more easily manifested in lunar body and then later in life experiencing another type of injury for which the lunar body is especially susceptible A Body Type is chosen that may have predispositions to certain health issues or deformities, but it was not necessarily the health issues or deformities that were chosen, but that they were hooked in to other choices that were more important as priorities. For instance, an Essence may have thought it was a great idea, or a great method for balancing Karma, to choose a Body Type that may lend itself to a sort of dependency that allowed for kindness, patience, and Love to come into the experiences of the Personality, from within and without. Often these "great ideas" go in all kinds of directions once the life is in motion, but that is part of the Chaos and Beauty that is inherent in any life, even in the most-perfect of body with the most-perfect of plans and Karma-free life. [Oscar] What would those wounded by natural/shutting down need for True Healing, or is there no healing possible since it's natural? UNDERSTANDING. That is all. Those who are Wounded by Natural Causes/Shutting Down can often do best with a simple bit of comfort in Wisdom shared with him or her or from him or her. In terms of Wounding/Dying, Natural Causes/Shutting Down is about bringing comprehension to the moment about the life before exiting, and this can show up as the life "flashing before their eyes," or from loved ones around the bed side, etc. In terms of Wounding/Dying, it might even be better understood as "Gratitude" that is a part of the Healing. In terms of Implementation, with something like a Natural Disaster which may bring Impact, Impaling, Illness, Poison, etc, it can still be helpful for those who experienced that Implementation to grasp the nature of Nature, so that it is not seen as personal. Though it will always be the most-helpful to focus on the actual Method of Wounding, for Healing purposes. [VLS] Is there any healing that can be done with the dying involving touch, if so can you advise the best approach-thank you ALL Physical forms of Healing affect Physical, Emotional, and Intellectual Bodies, whereas Emotional Healing can only affect Emotional and Intellectual Bodies, and Intellectual Healing is limited to Intellectual Bodies. This is because the denser the form of Healing, the more it can be accessed by the subtler Bodies. This is not to say that Emotional Healing cannot bring about Physical Healing, but it would not be direct. Physical Healing, or rather, having a Physical Medium for Healing, can bring about multiple layers of Energy for use in the multiple bodies. For instance, your Touch can bring with it the Comfort that is of the Physical Level of Healing, the Affection that is the Emotional Level of Healing, and the Permission that is the Intellectual Level of Healing. We are speaking to you about a very specific kind of Touch that you bring, and not all Touch would bring that same kind of Healing. A simple resting of the hand on the person who is exiting is enough, and in some cases, the moving of the energy of the bodies through use of swirls and various contact points, can be the form that is used. We will clarify here that all Bodies are interconnected in many ways, so the Healing that is offered without Physicality does not mean it will not help the Physical Bodies. And not all Physical contact is a form of Healing, but is often forms of Treatment. For instance, the Emergency Room of a Hospital is mostly-filled with Treatments, not Healing. Healing often comes later. [DavidB] Someone asked me to pose this question: "What makes one healer more effective than another?" RESONANCE. There is no Healing between a Healer and The Wounded without Resonance. This is why even the most "whackadoodle" of false healers can bring about such "miracles" (which is a term to describe false or misunderstood forms of Beauty from Chaos) because there is Resonance between the two fragments. And it is why the consistency of even the most powerful Healers cannot facilitate Healing for everyone, because there must be Resonance. Resonance can only come through Empathy, which is built from Experience, which may or may not always come from within the current lifetime. In other words, one can only truly facilitate Healing for that which he or she has already healed within himself or herself, even if that healing came in other lives. We know this is a rather broad topic, but we think we have covered enough tonight for some provocation of thought and exploration that may shed insight into the experience of Healing and Wounding. We will conclude here. Goodnight to each of you. Goodbye.

OMW - Jul 2, 2011 - Healing Relationships Channel: Troy Tolley [CocteauBoy announces] so this will have three parts: Introduction/Discussion/Application Michael will talk about the topic; then the floor will open for general questions about the topic; then the focus will move into exercises... So while I bring in Michael, write down (privately) up to three relationships that you feel are in need of healing, so that as Michael walks through all of this info, you have specific examples to work with. Let's get started! Have a great session! [Martha] Can they be dead? [CocteauBoy] (yeah) [MEntity] Hello to each of you. We are here. We suggest taking a cleared moment right now for taking a few deep gentle breaths, allowing your focus to be present with your body, while inviting resonance among all of you, and with us, however that works for you in your imagination. And we will begin on the subject of "healing relationships" now. First, we will define "Relating" as "discovering and/or creating common ground." We will define "relationship" as "an attraction or repulsion that binds or bonds one to another." This means that even in hatred, there is a relationship, and the repulsion is still rooted in a common ground. Often in hatred, the common ground is feared, or is not understood, and this gives rise to the hatred or repulsion. Love and Hate are not opposites; they are both bound in Intimacy. Hate is as intimate as Love, when they are legitimate. Apathy is the "opposite" of both. It could be said, then, that the positive pole of Relationship is Attraction, and the negative pole is Repulsion. Another way to describe it may be Resonance and Dissonance. Dissonance and Repulsion are merely different ways of describing a state of UNRESOLVE. The lack of resolve is generated by the natural tendency for sentience to generate common ground, yet not being able to understand what that is, or why that is. Some examples: one who is homophobic tends to relate far more closely to the sexuality that is feared or hated than the phobic one wishes to accept. Rejecting homosexuals, then, is a way of tangibly distancing oneself from the common ground of sexuality. Another who is homophobic may not be homosexual, himself, but simply have been taught to fear or simply does not understand this version of a common ground of sexuality. All phobias, then, are Relationships, in themselves, and in the pole of Dissonance, or unresolved common ground. An aside: Allergies, as well, fall into the category of Relationships, and always represent some form of Denial, or Dissonance. There are Relationships of Attraction and Dissonance, and all relationships will fall somewhere within that spectrum. In other words, a Relationship of Love may be Dissonant and not be Attractive, and a Relationship of Hate may be extremely Attractive. Fearing or Not Understanding your Common Ground does not preclude Love or Intimacy. Wounded Relationships are those relationships that have damaged, lost, or rejected the Common Ground that had previously been accepted. Relationships of Hate, then, are not necessarily Wounded, and Relationships of Love are not necessarily Healed. If Attraction is the acceptance and awareness of a common ground, and Dissonance is the unresolve of the fear or misunderstanding of the common ground, then ALL Relationships by definition have a Common Ground, whether the extremes of Love and Hate are involved, or not. The drama, hatred, love, passion, kindness, fighting, arguing, estrangement, romance, etc., are not indications of Wounding, then. They are simply part of the spectrum of Relationships. Wounding is ONLY when the Common Ground is lost, rejected, or damaged. That being said, the more unpleasant spectrum of feelings involved in a relationship can TEND to be associated with Wounding, but this is a tendency, not a rule or equation. In other words, just because you are estranged, or fighting, or caught up in drama, does not automatically mean there is Wounding. However, when there is Wounding, it can often result in estrangement, fighting, and drama. We share all of this so that you understand that your Relationships are as unique and as beautiful as each individual, and cannot be so simply dismissed as Wounded, just because you are unhappy or angry, etc. In fact, some relationships thrive on the Common Ground of Unhappiness or Anger. And they are far from Wounded. Wounded Relationships are usually marked by complete "reset" of the Relationship. A withdrawal from all Common Ground. The Healing comes through the efforts to re-establish, re-discover, and rebuild Common Ground. For Relationships that no longer have the other party involved, whether because of death or distance or complete rejection, Common Ground can still be re-established, re-discovered, and rebuilt. [Brian_W] how? [MEntity] Relationships are a two-way street, so to speak, but Healing does not require both parties. The short answer to how to Heal a Wounded Relationship is to re-establish, re-discover, and/or rebuild the Common Ground. When the other party is not available, it is only a matter of first identifying the most-obvious Common Ground between you. In cases where the person is distant, then Distance can actually be the starting point for Common Ground. In cases where the person has fully rejected all communication, then Hurt can be your Common Ground. In cases where the person is no longer incarnated, your Past can be your Common Ground. Identifying the very thing "between" you as your starting point of Common Ground can often diffuse that very thing. As soon as a Common Ground has been identified and accepted, Healing automatically begins. Healing a Relationship does not necessarily equate it being as you fantasize it, remember it, wish it to be. Healing a Relationship is not an investment, but a gift, for all involved. By identifying and accepting your Hurt or Distance or Past as your Common Ground, one can often free a great deal of energy that can then bring clarity, insight, patience, compassion, peace, and then those can potentially begin to be included as Common Grounds. [Brian_W] Quick question -- can distance include both temporal and / or spacial? [MEntity] Yes. All of what we have shared so far has been the basics of Relationships and Healing, and just understanding these basics can bring some relief and true Healing to some of your most difficult relationships, but also bring understanding and lightness to those relationships that are not wounded, but are simply challenging. Some of your most annoying, challenging, dramatic, and inconvenient Relationships are not so because of Wounding, but because they are simply those things. Understanding this can help you to move to address the challenges directly, instead of being concerned that there is something to "fix." Relationships come in a combination of these elements (or sets): Sexual/Physical, Emotional, Intellectual. Brief, Short-term, and Long-term. Sensual, Shallow, and Deep. All Relationships would be, at least, a combination of one element from each of these. For instance, a Relationship may be Sexual, Short-term, and Deep. Or Emotional, Brief, and Shallow. Sensual would be those relationships that share in feeling good, sharing sensations, stimulation of some sort, including pleasure. Shallow would be those relationships that require little investment, and are not concerned greatly with reward or payoff. Deep would be those relationships that encourage the transformation of fear, or Chief Features. The first set of Elements correspond to the category of Physical, and basically describe the primary means of Interaction. The second set of Elements corresponds to the category of Emotional, and basically describe the interpretation and use of Time or Inspiration. The third set of Elements correspond to the Intellect, and describe the degree of Presence, or Expression. While none of these are necessarily sequential, and can be "mixed and matched" in any number of ways, they do tend to build upon each other in the order we described. For instance, Sensual usually leads to Shallow, and Shallow leads to Deep. Physical usually leads to Emotional leads to Intellectual, etc. By the way, we do not use the term "shallow" here in any negative sense, but only in the sense of depth of investment within and between. Using the sequential tendency, it is also true of all relationships that as they move from one end of the Elements to the other, they will tend to lose emphasis on the previous. So the relationship that is Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep will include, but not necessarily emphasize Physical, Brief, and Sensual. Because this is not understood, many Long-term Mated relationships fail, because they are distracted by the social emphasis on Sensual and Sexual/Physical. The Older the soul, the more likely the Relationships will tend toward the Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep. This is true, even within closed systems, such as Aging. The longer one is in the Body, the more the Relationship with it tends toward Intellectual, Long-term, and Deep. The Whole Relationship, or the Healthy Relationship, is one that includes SPIRIT, or MIND, depending upon one's terminology, the Assimilative or Neutral Element. By "Spirit" we mean that there is an awareness of the Whole that is greater than the sum of its parts. Regardless of any combination, Spirit can be involved. The easiest way to understand "spirit," in this case, is to understand it as that part of you who knows the Relationship is serving you in some way that is meaningful, or can be meaningful. Regardless of the state of the Relationship. We share these various Elements so that you might understand the nature of your Relationship, as it began, where it is, and what you may have expected of it, and that understanding can free you to bring healing, if necessary. The subject of Relationships is as vast as any other subject we can discuss with you, but we will share one more area of consideration as it relates to Healing, before taking questions. Relationships are formed through the MODE, in terms of Overleaves. Depending upon one's Mode, Relationships will TEND to form in certain ways, and TEND to Heal in certain ways. To be brief for the sake of our limited time here, we will share those details for each Mode. RESERVE MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of History; tends to "get to know" others through their Centering; and tends to require dealing with the past as part any relationship healing process. CAUTION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Motives/Motivations; tends to bond/bind through the GOAL; and requires a return to SAFETY as part of any relationship healing process. PERSEVERANCE MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Appearances or Behavior; tends to bond/bind with another through Body Type; requires tangible action as a means for healing any relationship. OBSERVATION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Perspective; tends to Bond/Bind through the Mode; requires feeling UNDERSTOOD as a means for healing a Relationship. POWER MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Confidence; tends to bond/bind with another through the Attitude; and requires HONESTY as a means for healing a relationship. PASSION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of Imagination; tends to bond/bind with others through Soul Age; and requires the experience of BEING SEEN as part of any healing of a Relationship. AGGRESSION MODE: tends to be attracted to the Common Ground of The LIFE (as a whole); tends to bond/bind with another's Role; and requires recovering INTEGRITY as a means for healing a Relationship. We share these correlations so that you can understand how you may find your angle on building Relationships, and what you might require for healing, as well as others' angle on building Relationships, and what they might require for healing. These attractions, bondings, and requirements for healing are not exclusive to each Mode, but are tendencies that can be helpful as a starting place for healing. As this is our first time communicating some of this through Troy in this way, we know that some elaboration and clarification may be necessary over time, but this is a good start. We will now take questions on the subject. [Geraldine] Please clarify why phobias and allergies are considered relationships [MEntity] Relationships here are defined by "attraction/resonance or repulsion/dissonance of a common ground that binds or bonds one to another." Phobias and allergies are relationships of repulsion/dissonance of a common ground. Phobias and Allergies are basically the differences between Conscious and Subconscious Repulsion/Dissonance. Phobias tend to be conscious dissonance and repulsions, whereas Allergies tend to be subconscious dissonance and repulsions. [Geraldine] but how are they relationships? they aren't people [MEntity] Phobias and Allergies, both, tend to be symbolic and tend to be representative of the Relationship between "you" and "yourself." That could be between "you" and your emotions, your body, your beliefs, your soul, etc. Your sexuality, your past, etc. [Geraldine] ok -- the battleground of self [MEntity] Whether it is the concept of homosexuality, or the effects of pollen, the Common Ground is "you," and how you relate to you. We can elaborate on these as a topic another time, including delineating the various allergies and what they may represent. [Maureen] In an earlier private session with you, we spoke of my ‘revulsion’ for my mother at times and you said – in short – that I would feel the revulsion of those last issues that remain with my Essence – coming to terms with my Essence's "past," and that we are most often repulsed by reflections more than by perceptions. Then you said: “Deciding how to handle such behaviour would give great insight into where you are within yourself/Essence in terms of resolving those remaining conflicts.” Do you have any suggestions for how I (or one) might specifically go about resolving these conflicts from “within”, from the “past”? [MEntity] By responding to your question, we skip ahead to the Application part of our exchange with you: First: determine if there actual wounding, which is defined by your having once shared an identified and accepted common ground; Second: ask if that shared and identified common ground has been lost, damaged, or rejected; Third: identify any common ground you may have, even if it is not one you prefer; Fourth: take responsibility for your part of the Dissonance/Repulsion by understanding what it is, based on your Mode. In your case, with Observation Mode, it may be that you are repulsed by lacking shared perceptions, and not feeling understood; [Maureen] I'm more revulsed by my mother not understanding her own behavior -- and then "owning it" - it is less (now) about her understanding me. [MEntity] By "take responsibility" we mean that you can accept that these are things that are important to you, not only in terms of how they are provided for you, but by others, for themselves. The "reflection" here is that you are just as hard on yourself, as on your mother, in your expectations, standards, and efforts to self-monitor and control yourself. The Dissonance or unresolve here is that you dislike this part of you as much as you need it, and when you see someone else disregard such a priority for you, it is repulsive. This is not to say that these expectations, standards, and efforts are "wrong," but that they are your own. In the end, you are resentful and hurt for having to become your own parent. [Maureen] That hit a nerve... [MEntity] The Common Ground between the two of you is that you are both hurting, you are both children, with the difference between you being that you feel you had to take up the slack for your mother not doing the work of her own healing or maturing. You want some recognition for what you have had to do to "grow up" before you wanted to, or should have to, grow up. Your mother epitomizes the pattern you have with others in your life, as well, in terms of your having to take the "adult" role, even as you would prefer not to. We speak to this, based on our interpretation of records here, but we may be incorrect. [Maureen] it sounds right - thanks! [MEntity] The difference between your mother and others is that most of the other relationships were chosen, while you are "stuck" with your mother. Once one can take responsibility for what it is at the heart of the Dissonance/Repulsion, then one can go to the Fifth step of taking responsibility for what tends to be required for Healing. As this relates to the Mode. For your example, Observation tends to require feeling understood, or that another person understands. Either asking for what you require, or providing it yourself, can free the relationship to move toward Healing. The Sixth step would be in understanding what might be required of the other individual for Healing. In your case, your mother requires the same as you. She needs to feel understood as much as you need to feel, and because this is a Mode that "slides," each you may move to other requirements. In your case, you slide to Passion/Reserve, which means that you need the Past to be dealt with, and/or to Be Seen. And your mother, sliding to Power, requires Honesty, which means that she may have to say what she feels, even if it is not true to you, and she will benefit from your being Honest, and saying what is true for you, even if not immediately true for her. It is the Honesty that is required, though, if Healing is to be. The Seventh step then would be in recognizing or allowing SPIRIT to return, which basically means remembering or creating a higher meaning and value of the relationship that transcends even the challenges and joys. We will return to these steps in a moment. First, we will respond to the other questions. [Martha] Can healing of a relationship spread to other parallels where the relationship is also wounded? [MEntity] No. Technically, no. The work of one parallel will not impact the state of another, but the work of one parallel can draw toward a merge with another parallel that is similar in state due to the work of healing. For example: one parallel may be in no need of healing, while another is. The one that requires healing can eventually merge with the other parallel, if healing is accomplished. [Brian_W] This might tie into Maureen's question, as I definitely see how this applies to healing relationships with others, but in general, what would be the common ground with ourselves? [MEntity] Your idea of "you," your heart, your feelings, your identity, your desires, your cravings, your body, your health, your self-image, etc. Anything that could be described as "yours" would be the common ground. For example, the homophobe would be in a dissonant relationship with his sexuality through the symbolic concept of homosexuality and the homosexuals who exemplify it. [ClaireC] Can you give me some insight as to what the "difference between Conscious and Subconscious Repulsion/Dissonance" is behind my sister's chronic, severe allergies? [MEntity] Keep in mind that there is a vast difference between intolerances and allergies, and chronic, severe intolerances are not indicative of anything but genetics, which may or may not have been intentional as part of the design of the Body. Allergies trigger an immune system reaction, whereas intolerances do not. We would have to look at the details of these allergies to determine the dissonance/denial behind them, and at this point we cannot. [ClaireC] Hers are environmental allergies, it seems. [MEntity] If the allergies are legitimate, and environmentally-related, then this often reflects the dissonance between you and "your world." This often comes from a denial of one's power, or right to be, in the world. When we say "environmentally-related," we mean that it is an immune reaction to several threats that are common in the average person's environment, and usually includes an array. If it is specifically pollen, or dander, for instance, then the dissonance may be different. [ClaireC] Definitely allergic to both pollen and dander. [MEntity] In terms of applying this information, we suggest looking at one of your suggested three relationships that may require healing, and walk through the initial list of details for Relationships, and see how that relationship might be interpreted and understood differently. And then use the steps outlined with Maureen for determining if and how a relationship may need healing. [ClaireC] Yes, that was very helpful information that can be applied to all relationships. [MEntity] We are fading, however, and this channel must stop for now. Troy can continue work with the application aspect in your group forum.

OMW - May 17, 2014 - You and Your Reflections Channel: Troy Tolley [CocteauBoy] ANNOUNCES: okay, I had planned for everyone to receive the OMW in advance so these chats could be used for more interactive time, but that flopped miserably. Just like the other Reports that had been offered over the years, I've come to discover that some things require the presence of others for the channeling to flow. I don't know why that is. [CocteauBoy] CONTINUES: so, for the next OMW, I am going to meet with Bobby and/or Geraldine so we can get the OMW in early. That should work. [CocteauBoy] So to accommodate today's chat, since we are going to get the details live, if anyone feels as if they do not get much interactive time, please feel free to grab a 15M Time Bloc 9:32 AM 5/17/2014 [MEntity] Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We can begin. [MEntity] The subject of focus today is the Inspirational Axis and how this works for each of you as a source of information. [MEntity] All Axes are in constant effect around and within an individual, regardless of whether these are consciously acknowledged, utilized, or rejected. The Moving, Intellectual, and Emotional, or the Action, Expression, and Inspirational, are constantly at work in a dynamic dance within and without. [MEntity] Even the most sedentary of bodies will still have the Action Axis at work in the functions of the body, for example. [MEntity] Of course, the mere existence and presence and functioning of these Axes do not inherently mean they are serving you well, or helping. Consciousness must often come into play for the benefits to be extracted. [MEntity] Yes, the functions of a sedentary body will automatically continue with or without your effort to move, but your conscious effort to move makes a world of difference. [MEntity] When speaking of Inspiration, it is to speak of what you see as YOU in something or someone. [MEntity] When one feels inspired, it is not a force that is emitting from the inspiring art or person, it is you seeing you in that art or person. [MEntity] In most cases of what people think of as "inspiring," that "you" is a higher "you," better you, different you, full of potential, possibility, and then if this inspiration is utilized, you would seek to match that in your own behaviors, efforts, perceptions, etc. [MEntity] If you see an armless woman creating art with her feet, it is not that you now wish to create art with your feet if you feel inspired by that person. It is most likely that you simply see in her that you, too, can overcome what might have seemed like an obstacle to your own expression or accomplishment, and then you work to bring that "you" to the forefront of your challenges. [MEntity] All forms of Inspiration are inspiring TO YOU because they are telling you something about YOU. [MEntity] If you are inspired by music, it is not often that it is meant that you wish to re-create that music, but that it is music that brings you back to you, to a part of you that may easily be forgotten, overshadowed, etc. So all Inspiration is really about bringing you back to you. [MEntity] What we have mentioned, so far, is Inspiration that is fairly easy to spot. This is what most mean by "inspiring." [MEntity] But Inspiration, like everything, has its spectrum, and not all of it is obvious. [MEntity] If Inspiration is all about seeing yourself around you, and seeing ways to bring you back to you, or to bring more of you out of you, then nearly everything you see is some form of Inspiration. [MEntity] More accurately put: nearly everything that catches your attention is some form of inspiration. [MEntity] On the Positive end of the spectrum of Inspiration, it is REFLECTION. [MEntity] This is the end of the spectrum where you tend to see the best of you in others, in events, in arts. [MEntity] REFLECTION can be broken down into PASSIVE and ACTIVE forms of Inspiration. [MEntity] PASSIVE REFLECTION is basically Empathy. [MEntity] Empathy is triggered in you when you see you in someone or something. It is when there is no differentiation between yourself and that which is benefiting or suffering, successful or failing, happy or sad. [MEntity] It is not that you confuse yourself with that person or thing, but that you simply see yourself through or in that thing or person. [MEntity] There is no effort necessary. It is a dynamic that is inherent in your evolution from experiences. [MEntity] ACTIVE REFLECTION is Awareness. [MEntity] This is a state the comes before the Passive State. [MEntity] This is a kind of inspiration that continues to return to you in a way that seems to be asking for your attention, inviting you to see something different, but that you must actively participate in as a means to truly bring empathy. [MEntity] For instance, it may come to one's attention on a regular basis that the suffering of animals is unnecessary and that one can make a difference in that suffering, but it would take effort, action, changes. It is just outside of the edge of empathy. It is not that Reflection is missing, but that there is active resistance. This means active embrace would be needed. [MEntity] One might feel a draw toward the plight of homeless children, but be overwhelmed by what actions could possibly be made to make a difference, so it is kept in the realm of Awareness, but not Empathy. [MEntity] Awareness and Empathy are very close together. This is why there can be some confusion about what one "cares about" versus what one does something about. It is the difference between passive and active, empathy and awareness, but all of those things that matter to you are REFLECTIONS. [MEntity] Awareness is not just in terms of suffering, but also in terms of successes and happiness. One can be fully Aware of how one can make a difference in his or her life when inspired by another, but simply choose not to do so. You are AWARE because you see yourself in the happiness of that person, but you choose not to act. [MEntity] Keep this in mind when inspired by both suffering and pleasures; struggles and successes. Empathy is Passive because you are already there. Awareness is prompting you to do something so you can evolve. [MEntity] Do not pit these against one another, of course. They are merely informative. [MEntity] On the more restrictive end of the spectrum of Inspiration, or the Negative Pole, it could be said to be PROJECTION. [MEntity] Where Reflection invites you to see yourself in things and people around you, Projection is when you impose or superimpose yourself on things and people around you. It is no longer about what you see, but about what you wish to see. [MEntity] PASSIVE PROJECTION could be described as OMENS. [MEntity] "You have seen this before so it must mean this again now." [MEntity] If a person is behaving a certain way, it MUST be because his intentions are "this." [MEntity] Because you know this from your own experience, and your experience is all that matters. [MEntity] If it happened to you, then it must be universally true. Or if you have seen it before, it must always mean the same things. [MEntity] You are no longer reflected in something or someone, but you are projected. This Passive side to Projection is prejudiced, biased, invested, and conclusive. [MEntity] This is still Inspiration because it is still about YOU SEEING YOU. You are still seeing YOU in that person or event or thing. But on this end of the spectrum, it is about protecting yourself from your experiences. [MEntity] On this Passive side of Projection, it is about patterns that you are ready to heal. [MEntity] On the ACTIVE side of PROJECTION, it is DEFENSE. [MEntity] Active Projection is when one does not like what one sees about oneself in others. [MEntity] You see a "weak person" and it disgusts you. This is because you see yourself as weak, and it disgusts you. And the best way to keep from being disgusted with yourself is to be disgusted by others. It is an active defense against that which you refuse to heal. [MEntity] You see an obnoxious or inconsiderate person and you are repulsed. This is because you self-monitor and criticize yourself to such a degree that it angers you that someone else might not have to do so, as well. It is unfair. [MEntity] Your Defensive Projections tell you where you refuse to heal. It tells you where you have gained some righteous footing in your wounding. [MEntity] Your Ominous/Omenous Projections tell you what you are willing to heal, but that you still wish for others to do the work of that healing. [MEntity] Your Aware Reflections tell you where you are in your evolution, and what steps could move you forward in this life. [MEntity] Your Empathic Reflections tell you where you have been, and how far you have come, and where you are, even if you have forgotten. [MEntity] Do each of you see these variations in your life? [ViP1] I do Michael [Maureen] Yes [ViP1] although some stand out more than others [LisaC] yes [Claire2] Oh yes. [GeraldineB] Yes, I see that I'm far more Aware than Empathic -- and do see that Projection issue has still solidly in place [DianeHB] Yes [MEntity] We wish to clarify that this map is a matter of information, not a matter for reprimanding yourselves or assessing where you are lacking or should do differently. That is not our point, and that approach would not be helpful at all. Instead, this is information. It can help you to make the choices you wish to make, to take the steps you wish to take, that you are ready to take, and to accept those areas where you may now realize are helping you to heal. [Jana_K] I can clearly understand Defensive Projections [Jana_K] Still catching up with the other ones (I was a bit behind reading the transcript) [MEntity] All of you are wounded. Most of you will be all the way until your last breath and beyond the last life. Many wounds require Review to fully heal. However, the more consciousness you bring to where you are wounded, and how you project that wounding upon others, the more choice you have within a life to free yourself from that, and to move into awareness and empathy. [MEntity] YOUR HOMEWORK: (if you choose) [MEntity] Look at what inspires you in the most common sense of the word. What elates you, lifts you, makes you feel a return to yourself, "inspired." List a few of these so you can look at how these might reflect your evolution, your experiences that have been integrated, and let yourself embrace that vastness. [MEntity] Look at what keeps coming to your attention for making a change. Something gentle, but somehow important. Haunting you in some way without being nagging. Look at what a few of these might be, and realize that these are messages from you, asking you for that one step or action that might shift you into a different perspective, experience, and empathy. [MEntity] Choose one or two, and let yourself make that leap. [MEntity] Look at what you constantly see around that is irritating and agitating, constantly meaning something distracting to you. Let yourself in on the fact that there is wounding here that may need your attention, and it might be time to do the work of that healing, instead of presuming it is someone else's problem or cause. [LisaC] Are we meant to list them here, or just think about it? [MEntity] In those instances where you are ready to heal, it is often only a matter of choice in that moment when you are next triggered. Do you react? Or do you respond? Let yourself be triggered, but unless you are in some way being truly violated, you may simply be able to soothe your feathers and see the experience in a different way. [MEntity] You do not have to know exactly what the wound is, or how it got there, or what to do to heal it. Just shifting the experience will usually begin that process. [MEntity] (Lisa, this is for you to do on your own.) [MEntity] And finally, look at what you righteously stand on as justified disgust or repulsion. List 3 things that "really get to you." These are almost incapacitating in their effects, angering, or depressing, defeating. [MEntity] These are areas where you refuse to heal because you probably have more work to do in that area of your life, or across lives. [MEntity] This can help you to gain insight into your Self-Karma and Karma. [MEntity] Now, before we leave you with all of that, we will return to the point that this is only INFORMATIVE. [MEntity] For example, if you are repulsed and angered by the raping of a child, there is nothing wrong with you. For most of you, this wounding will carry forward through to the last of your lives, as most of you will have had this experience stored in your Instinctive Centers and networked among the species. Some wounding is IMPORTANT. [MEntity] The quadrants of Inspiration are there to help you sort out your experiences, to use them in ways that evolve you, and to use them in ways that help you to help others. [MEntity] So what you would want to do is look at what wounding may be serving you, and which ones are not. Those that are not serving you are probably those that can be healed, shifted, and moved toward Empathy. [MEntity] If your wounding helps you to navigate, then it is serving you. If it debilitates you and incapacitates you, then it is not. [Maureen] Michael, you said: The quadrants of Inspiration are there to help you sort out your experiences, to use them in ways that evolve you, "and to use them in ways that help you to help others". In what ways can we help others? [MEntity] If it is not serving you, it can move into healing. [MEntity] Maureen, if a child is being raped or abused, or an animal is fighting for its life on a factory farm, and there is repulsion at these ideas, then your prompt to intervene is helpful, not just for yourself, but others. Inspiration is always about you, but it can often be about how you can help others to be more of themselves, too. The point is not to aim for apathy, but empathy, so some wounding will always stay sensitive and raw. [MEntity] Repulsions do not have to be toward such obvious scenarios, but about how another makes choices, behaves, affects others, etc. However, in those more nuanced scenarios, one must do the work of assessing whether this Projection is based on beneficial wounding to help you navigate, or if it is simply a deflection from your own responsibilities to make different choices and behaviors, yourself. [MEntity] As a simplistic example, if one has been threatened when walking down a street at night, it is fair to then reconsider a different route the next time. This is helpful and increased your navigational skills. If you, instead, now never go out at night at all, you have probably fallen into a Self-Karmic or Karmic scenario. [MEntity] As Troy has suggested, if any of you would like to discuss a couple of your forms of Inspiration as both Reflection or Projection, you would now schedule 15 minutes with us so that we may focus on that with you. For now, we will leave you with this mapping of Inspiration to help you take a new look at your spectrum of experiences and how you arrange them. [MEntity] Good day to each of you. 11:22 AM 5/17/2014

ENERGY REPORT October 2014 2014 OVERLEAVES ROLE: Priest (emphasized all year) CENTER: Intellectual (emphasized all year) GOAL: Growth (emphasized Jan - Mar) MODE: Passion (emphasized Apr - Jun) ATTITUDE: Realist (emphasized Jul - Sep) CHIEF FEATURES: Impatience (emphasized Oct - Dec) OCTOBER brings with it a move into emphasis on Impatience, the collective Chief Negative Feature for the year. For most, this is going to come in the form of emphasis on the past. For some, this will be a wave of nostalgia and a look at the past in comparison to the present. For others, it will likely be a matter of explosive release of wounding from the past that has not had a chance to come to the surface in some time. In either case, it would arise from a fear of time passing, of not being able to control where one is in time, and fearing that life is passing by too quickly. Though Impatience may be part of the prompt for nostalgia, this response is the healthier of the responses as it is a look to the past for recognition of the healing that has come from the passing of time. There may be some longing for the past, and some grieving, but if nostalgia stays intact, the healing is recognized. The more explosive or reactionary defenses would arise from wounding that the individual still feels someone else is responsible, with Impatience bringing out the desperation for attention and plea for help. Impatience is partnered with Martyrdom, so we would not be surprised if some students feel the pang of victimization as the month unfolds, particularly if any issues of controlling space come to be involved along with controlling time. For some, both the explosive and the nostalgic may be in the patterns over the next several weeks. In any case, if our students allow for Impatience to simply prompt them to recognize time as a resource for organizing experiences, then the reactions to nostalgia and wounding can be softened. Rather than longing for the past, the past is seen as being rightfully in its place as a part of one’s history, evolution, and healing. Rather than demanding or exploiting an explosive scenario of old wounds, take pause and let the experience settle back into the body in a way that can make some sense, find order, and move into a pattern of release that can bring healing. As October continues, so will the wave of intolerance and audacity that makes up the spectrum of Impatience. One way to counter Impatience is to practice listening to one’s quieter impulses, rather than one’s loud and demanding compulsions. Impulses help lead one in directions of Essence, while compulsions lead one in directions of defense. The quieter the impulse, the more likely it can lead one away from reactionary positions of defense. As October shifts into November, the extremes between intolerance and audacity will likely become more pronounced and move into higher profile incidences. Over the year, this has already been in place as power plays amplify between Mature and Baby/Young Souls. We expect there will be plenty more of this in the weeks ahead. DATES OF INTEREST Oct 03 - 05 -- ENERGY SHIFT - Nostalgia Wave - the past begins to come up for examination by some students as they consider the passing of time and decide if there has come to be any healing effects. Oct 10 - 13 -- ENERGY SHIFT - Wounding Wave - the past comes up for examination by some students as they consider that someone else may be to blame for their wounding, and this may generate an explosive round of attention to these wounds. Oct 28 - 31 -- NEXUS - Divergence - permanently-wounded aspects of the self that refuse to allow for healing take on their own direction, potentially freeing November for a bit of relief. HELPFUL THOUGHTS OVER OCTOBER: QUIET OVER RIOT - As you move through October and into November, keep in mind that quiet calm in response to panic, worry, and impatience almost always trumps reactionary rioting that only serves to escalate the very wounding that one wishes to heal. If you have a choice, it is helpful to choose calm.

NYC Live: 08/10/2011 On Healing Relationships Note from Janet: This material was transcribed by Elaine and Eric from the live video. MEntity: Hello to each of you. We are here and we will begin discussing the subject requested on healing relationships. Bear with us as we come through. The first thing that we will say in terms of healing relationships is that all relationships of significance, in the sense of those relationships that can cause or be affected by wounding, are those that are formed by your relationships developed through your mode in your overleaves. Understanding your own mode, and your overleaves, and how wounding occurs in relationships, why it occurs, and what can help to heal that wounding, can greatly increase your capacity for taking responsibility in those relationships that have been wounded, in those relationships that do suffer from lack of understanding or lack of solution. Because the more you understand your part of the equation in a wounded relationship, the more control or empowerment – or whatever word you would like to use – the more you have the capacity to change that relationship. You cannot control the other person who is involved in the relationship, of course. But taking responsibility for your part, even if it is only to the extent that you understand your part, can have an effect on the other party involved, helping that individual rise to his or her own understanding and sense of responsibility for his or her part in the relationship. All relationships, of significance in particular but relationships in general, are merely relationships with your understanding of yourself. There is no relationship that you navigate that does not specifically cater to your learning more about yourself. All relationships, but particularly those of significance, are relationships with your equals. The fact that you may think that someone is worse than you or better than you, or even unattainable or inaccessible, signifies or equates where you are with yourself. This is often referred to as reflection, and relationships truly are that: a reflection of where you are with yourself. In other words, the state of your relationships often reflects the state of your own internal relationship. It is rare that one who is feeling whole and liking oneself suffers from broken relationships around them. And the same goes for an individual who is divided within and not particularly accepting of himself or herself. He or she will tend to have relationships that reflect that: broken or disappointing or challenging and so forth. So looking at your mode can help you to understand what you expect from relationships, what you are attracted to in the first place in terms of establishing a relationship, and understanding what has become wounded in terms of that relationship. Thus, you can gain your footing in navigating your relationships and raise your capacity for choice, which is the only true tool that every individual has at their disposal. Even when you think that you do not have a choice in your relationships, you do. Before we get into the modes, again we will emphasize that you cannot control the other individuals who are a part of your relationship. To think that understanding your mode and making efforts to heal whatever has been wounded is in some way a strategy for manipulating the other party into a state that is more acceptable to you will not work. The information we will share with you today helps you to understand your part to heal it and to make room for the other individual, or individuals, involved to make their own choices. So the aim here is not to change your relationship as much as it is to heal it. And we use those two words very carefully, differentiating between the intent to recapture someone, or to capture someone, or to reclaim someone, or to change someone, versus heal what has been wounded and then to reset the invitation for that relationship. Resetting the invitation can lead to changes, but the goal will not be to change it. It will be about healing the relationship, and from there your acceptance of the choices of the other individual or individuals involved should be easier to accept and allow. So we will first ask, so that we can focus on the modes of those present, what everyone’s mode is. We think that we have a room of observation and passion. [Audience] And power. [MEntity] Those are the three? [Audience] Observation passion and what? [Audience] Power. [Audience] Who has that? [Audience] Unclear [Audience] A couple of persons are observation though. [Audience] But “secretly...” [Audience] But “secretly” they have power mode. MEntity: So what we will do is start with passion, speak to observation and then speak to power. And if time permits we will cover all of the modes, and if not in this session, we will make sure that the details are shared with Troy to include in a transcript of this session. Those in passion mode tend to be attracted to relationships that transcend time and space. There is a natural quality inherent in those who have passion mode to see beyond any limitations of time and space, and to develop relationships that transcend those, not only in terms of recognizing fragments from previous lifetimes, but also allowing room for the changes and fluctuations that living may bring to a relationship, so that time and space has no bearing on the quality and depth of the relationship. Those in passion mode tend to see an individual from a higher perception, from a bigger picture / standpoint, and does not constrain those relationships to those restrictions of time and space. So passion mode tends to be attractive to those who allow room for those fluctuations in time and space. And for those who do allow this, the relationships last the entire lifetime, to some extent, in some way, and the depth and intimacy is not altered by any divisions caused by time or space. We will circle back to speak about the wounding in a moment Observation mode tends to be attractive to those who can truly see who you are. Those who have observation as their primary mode, tend to be attracted to those who see past all their personas and allow, not just the surface to be seen or rather make known that just the surface is seen, but all of what that individual is. Those in observation mode can tend to do this for others: they can see past the surface, and depending on other factors in the overleaves, those in observation mode can tend to see the best in people or the worst in people, but it is always that they see more than what is shown. So the relationships that tend to be formed and nurtured are those that allow room for all aspects of that personality to express itself, to be seen…and not just seen, but clearly made known that you are accepted despite what you may have thought should not have been revealed about yourself, or that you struggle to hide. Power mode tends to be attracted to the beliefs or the truths of another person. This is often difficult to discern and, depending on factors in the overleaves, can cause some complications in developing and sustaining relationships, because the exposure of an individual’s personal beliefs and perspectives of life often requires exchanges to reveal that. If the overleaves are not in line with the effort to uncover the beliefs of another individual, those in power mode can often sit back and wait to find out what those beliefs are, what those perspectives are, and often miss those opportunities for deeper relationships. However, one of the ways that power mode attracts those to whom he or she can develop those relationships is by being as present as possible, so that he or she is revealing of his or her own personal beliefs in a way that acts as an invitation for those relationships to sustain and nurture. Again, if this is not pursued, it can cause a gap between the self and development of relationships of significance with others, because the key here is in the fact that it is an individual’s truths and perceptions that are attractive to those who have Power mode. Before we circle back and talk about the wounding that can occur, do these resonate with those of you who have those modes? [Audience] Yes. [Audience] Yes, but I have a question. I was wondering if people who have the same mode are generally attracted to each other, based on what you said. MEntity: Yes, modes can tend to be attracted to each other. They can also often be attracted to their compliment on the same axis. But there is no rule for attraction, because the mode, and to whom you are attracted in a lifetime, often depends on what you seek to experience in your lifetime. And by “you” we mean your essence, and if the personality is on board, then the personality as well. Your mode will act as the means by which you relate to and attract another, but it does not automatically attract. [Audience] Thank you. MEntity: Now we will circle back, and speak of the wounding that can occur. Wounding occurs if the mode moves into the negative pole. The causes of this could be any number of things, so we will not go into the causes for why an individual’s mode may fall into the negative pole. This will be something that you can figure out on your own. We can give some clues as to what we think it might be, but it will be your responsibility to determine that on your own, because it may be a large issue, or it may be specific to that relationship. More than likely, it is a larger issue, especially if you’ve seen this occur more than once in various relationships. Then it would be a larger arcing issue that has more to do with yourself than anything. In other words, it would exist with or without those relationships to emphasize it. Passion mode often experiences it’s most wounded-ness in a relationship if it has fallen into the negative poles and suddenly demands or expects time and space to be complied to or adhered to in order for that relationship to have any significance or meaning. If the expectations of time and space are not met, wounding can occur. The phrase “expectations of time and space being met” can be interpreted many different ways and we leave that to you to apply to any of your relevant relationships that have suffered this form of wounding. But in most cases of those with passion mode, they tend to feel the most hurt or affected in a way where relationships are damaged if there is suddenly a restriction or a condition relative to time and space, because this is counter to their nature. It is counter to everything that Passion mode is about, which is the transcendence of that time and space, and the relating to each other based on soul age and relationships of your essence that goes beyond this lifetime. To suddenly have to restrict a relationship to fit those conditions, and they are not met, causes wounding. And like before we will speak of the wounding and then circle back and speak to the healing that tends to work in those relationships. Observation mode can experience the most wounding in a relationship if the individual feels he or she is suddenly not seen, is completely rendered insignificant or invisible in the eyes of someone who previously was seeing you in your entirety. Or the wounding can occur if, in the pursuit of the relationship, the craving and the longing to be seen is not met, and the individual seems to be unable, or incapable, or unwilling to see all of you. Then the wounding can occur. What we’re speaking about today is true wounding. We are not speaking to the disappointments and every day arguments and dismissals. We’re speaking of what truly is experienced as a wounding for the individual. And those with observation mode can tend to feel the most wounded when they suddenly feel invisible. We’ll also point out that all fragments will be able to relate to the various forms of wounding. We’re speaking to the inclination that each individual will have towards developing a relationship and experiencing wounding, but you are not locked into those. These are simply inclinations that tend to be very consistent. Power mode tends to experience the most wounding when there are lies involved: delusion, deceit, or some form of contradiction to what is expressed as a truth, and acted upon differently. Dishonesty. As you can see all of these things may harm any individual, and their relationships, but they tend to be consistently deeply wounding to those relative to the modes associated with them. For power mode, then, this can translate into trust issues. And often, when it comes to power mode, once an initial wounding has happened, it may take a long time to get to a place to allow the experimentation with trust again, whether with an individual or as an individual in terms of accepting new relationships. Now before we move back to what can be healing, we will ask if these descriptions are resonating with you [Audience] Yes MEntity: So now we will speak to what we think might be healing to these modes when they feel wounded. For passion mode, and for our students who have been with us a long time, you may understand the concept of sliding on the axis, so that if your particular overleaf trait is in the negative pole, and you are stuck there – or feel you are stuck – you can pull from / consciously behave from the positive pole of the mode that is paired with you, which will automatically move you to the positive pole of your own nature, your own overleaf. This is called Sliding. [Audience] This is the same concept as with the Goal. Is that correct? When you’re in the negative pole with your goal? MEntity: It can be any overleaf, any axis. Yes. Whatever your overleaf is, if you are stuck in the negative pole, if you consciously choose to behave from the positive pole of the partner, you will automatically pull yourself into your own positive pole. We set up this system so that it is not just a description of yourself, but a map for how to get out of any binds that you feel you may have gotten into. Sometimes the negative poles are perfectly acceptable, and we do not teach our system so that you are consciously striving to escape the negative poles or to avoid them. They are a part of your Personality, they will always be there. However, they do not feel as good and they do not prompt you to feel as alive as your positive poles. So an individual will tend to prefer the positive poles, and your clarity and your openness and your happiness tends to be proportionate to where you are in your Personality between the positive and negative poles. So understanding how to do that can help you make your choices. But if you are in a negative pole, it does not mean you are bad or you are doing something wrong. So in terms if passion mode, what can help heal the wounding that might occur in your relationship is to use what is attractive to the partner mode, in this case, reserved. Reserve Mode is attracted to the past, to an individual’s history. Therefore, if an individual who has passion mode feels wounded in a relationship, it helps to address the past. It helps to talk about where the relationship is in relation to its history. Often this can help put into perspective everything that has existed as a part of that relationship and in that understanding can free it again from the constraints and restrictions and conditions of time and space, especially when the individual realizes that there is nothing about time and space in particular that can take away from the meaning and inspiration of that relationship. By time and space, by the way, we do not speak superficially on showing up on time or being close by. But sometimes those in passion mode can have strict rules about how another behaves in his or her own space. And therefore, those conditions can cause wounding or deflections of relationships. You understand? Those in passion mode, or are you asleep? [Audience] (laugh) I’m not asleep. Yes. I think I understand, yes. MEntity: We will state it again. When conditions get placed on time and space, it does not mean that an individual must be on time in order to feel as if the relationship is good, or that you must be close to each other in order for the relationship to be good. It can also show up as having control or conditions over how an individual behaves when he or she is with you in time and space. [Audience] Isn’t that kind of universal? Like if someone behaves badly, it would be annoying in your space. I mean, I don’t… [Audience] I think it feels normal for us. That’s the whole point. MEntity: Yes, that is the point. [Audience] How can someone not be (unclear). The concept of not being annoyed with the way someone behaves in your…when they’re with you doesn’t even make sense. MEntity: Those in passion mode who can lean towards the negative pole can tend to have the highest standards for how behavior is controlled in his or her space and time. [Audience] That would be me. [Audience] That would be me to. [Audience] Yeah, I am willing to admit that. [Audience] I didn’t quite understand what you said about reserve? MEntity: Those in reserve mode…before we respond we want to make sure we understand your question. You are asking how it fits into the healing? [Audience] Yeah, I mean reserve is the complementary mode of passion, is that correct? MEntity: Yes. [Audience] So yes, how does reserve connect? MEntity: Reserve feels that a relationship is flourishing and tends to be attracted to relationships that are attracted to each other’s history. So for instance, those who have reserve mode will tend to be attracted to a person’s history, not necessarily who that person is now, but who they have been, and this often refers to past lives as well. Those in reserve mode can often find themselves in relationships with individuals who have no obvious reasons for being in that person’s life, but the reserved mode recognizes them from previous lives where relationships were significant, and therefore can attract them in for significant relationships now against all judgments. So in terms of healing for passion mode, returning to the history of a relationship that has been wounded can often provide the healing required for freeing that relationship from those conditions. For instance, if an individual is feeling wounded by the behavior or choices of a significant other in a relationship, it can help to remember what has gone into the relationship up to that point, and to pay attention to that history instead of losing it to the present where behavior is not complying to your conditions. [Audience] That makes it so much clearer. MEntity: Did this answer your question? [Audience] Yes. It makes it clearer, I think. MEntity: We are speaking to Kerrin as well. [Audience] Yeah. Yes, so reserve is another mode, it is not the negative pole of passion right? MEntity: Correct, yes. Passion and reserve are both complementary, inspirational axis modes. Returning to the concept of wounding and what we had said earlier, often those who are in the negative poles of their reserve or passion modes, and seeing this reflected in relationships, is often because of wounding that is occurring within in regards to their sense of inspiration. If an individual does not feel inspired, or is not doing anything that feels inspiring, or is not in any way allowing a relationship internally to be what is inspiring, it can often be reflected in the relationships, and the relationships take the brunt of the expectations for providing that inspiration rather than pulling it from within. [Audience] What is the negative pole of passion? MEntity: Identification. [Audience] What is the definition of that? MEntity: Those in passion mode who go into the negative pole can tend to lose their boundaries between themselves and whatever it is that they have focused their passion on. The relationship then becomes an extension of identity, rather than a way to actualize the self, a way to learn more about the self, a way to grow. Instead, it is just an extension of the self. Therefore, whatever is happening in this individual’s life, if it is not complying with what you would do, issues can arise. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes MEntity: To put it in simpler terms, an individual in passion mode…if he or she were to cook you dinner and serve it – a plate of spaghetti, let’s say – those who eat it might say “I love this,” or “I do not like it.” Passion mode in the negative pole will hear “I do not like you,” or “I like you.” They have lost their boundaries between themselves and the spaghetti. [Audience] Yes. [Audience] Yes, I completely understand that. (Unclear) MEntity: Observation mode now. The healing that often comes to those who have been wounded does not come from pushing the other individual to see you more clearly, but that you make the effort to see the other person more clearly. It is often the case that when you feel the most invisible, you have also lost perspective of the other person. So those in observation mode would do well to practice, or to put effort into, seeing the other individual or individuals beyond the surface or, more specifically, beyond what you think is defining that other individual at the time. Because observation is a neutral overleaf, it has access to all of the other modes, and it can tend to slide to any of the other ones. Usually there is a habitual means of sliding that a neutral overleaf will develop over the lifetime. So, as we cover all of the modes, you may find that the solution can be helped and supported by wherever you slide. For instance, if you slide to passion mode from observation, your relationship may find support by freeing that relationship from the conditions that you have, or the expectations you have placed on it in terms of time and space. In other words, you may be thinking that an individual should be processing things faster, or keeping up with your speed of processing, when you may need to free them from that restriction. Or, sliding into reserve, it may help you to look to the history that is a part of your relationship, rather than just at the myopic version of your relationship currently. So that is how that would work if you have a neutral mode. The sliding to these other modes would only be for support, because ultimately the goal will still be for you to expand your perception, or your capacity to see the other individual more clearly, as a means of healing the relationship. This does not mean that you will be seen by that individual, but expanding your capacity to see another individual more clearly is not a strategy or a manipulation for helping them to see you more clearly, but rather for you to be able to see their innocence, to see their capacity for making choices to the extent that they are capable of this time, for their capacity to see to the extent that they can see, which may not include all of you. Sometimes you are not seen, not because what is see-able is ugly, but because the other individual simply cannot see. And by your being able to expand your capacity to see that, it frees you from locking into that struggle to be seen and continuing the wounding. The healing that can come for power mode is to utilize what is a part of caution mode’s attraction. Caution tends to be attracted to the security of a relationship, to the safety that another individual provides, or to the sense of safety that is developed within, as a result of the relationship, or to the confidence of another individual. Caution is strongly attracted to that because caution mode tends to work on developing that sense of confidence, that inner security, and so forth. So when power mode feels distrust and feels divided from the capacity for inviting relationships, it can often be healed by developing trust in the self, by developing confidence in the self. If there is a relationship that has been wounded as a part of a blow to trust, that wounding can be healed by the realization that it has no effect on your own sense of self. It has no effect on your sense of trust in you. Sometimes when you enter a relationship, and this is in particular with power mode, there can be a strong wounding occurring if you feel duped, if you feel that something has deceived you or misled you. This can develop into a distrust in your own perceptions, your own capacities to discern and to navigate. Understanding that the choices of another individual, and their capacity to express their truths consistently, has no bearing on your capacity to do that for yourself can bring about the healing for the wounding that may have occurred as a result of those experiences. Going back to observation, we’ll say that what tends to be the case on a larger scale, as we said with passion mode, it tends to be an inspirational issue that can often affect relationships and bring about wounding, because that issue is already inherent in the individual. For the observation mode, it tends to be an emotional – as well an inspirational – but a personal emotional issue that is carried around with you: some form of emotional wounding for which you are waiting for someone to see and to accept and to embrace, a brokenness to some extent. So for those in observation mode, addressing that brokenness, that sense of wounding that is carried around with or without a relationship can greatly increase your capacity for managing many relationships that suffer blows in the future, because often those blows in the relationships speak to or trigger than wounding, that emotional wounding that has been carried long before the relationship came to suffer blows. Observation is related to the emotional rather than the assimilative and those of you who understand our system will see that this may seem like an anomaly, but it is not. In terms of how the mode works in this realm of relationships, it is an emotional mode, whereas reserved mode is the instinctive or the assimilative mode, and we can go into that apparent anomaly another time if it is of interest. Power and caution tend to carry into relationships…With or without relationships these issues may exist, and that would be what we might describe as contradictions within. With or without a relationship, often power mode walks around carrying a confusion about what he is, where he is going, what he is doing, and lives in this divide of how to be present in the world, and what that means. So in short, they have not defined their truths yet. They have not found yet what feels comfortable as a truth, and until that individual does, it can often show up in relationships as distrust and of course develop into distrust within. Because if you do not have that navigational tool of perception and truth to guide you, you feel as if you can’t even trust yourself. So what we’ve described so far in relation to the modes and relationships, wounding, healing…have they all made sense to you? [Audience] Yes [Audience] I have one question. It’s to come back to the way to address the wounding and about going back to the history of a relationship. I find that I agree with that in a sense that I do go back to review the history of a relationship, but I actually find myself getting stuck sometimes in that past or getting resentment or…is that linked to something else in my makeup or is that an aspect? The way I am going about looking at the past…it’s creating a sort of stuckness in the past. MEntity: Well there are two responses we can give to this. One is that yes, you can…those who are in passion mode who then look to the past for the healing by recognizing “maybe this relationship isn’t wounding me as badly as I thought it was, just because it’s not complying to my expectations currently. Look at the history. It’s been wonderful.” However, if it has not been wonderful, then that same negative pole that has caused you to restrict your focus on the current time and space can then look into the history and hone in on one of those past experiences that contribute to supporting why you are having trouble or feeling wounded currently. So if you think of it in terms of looking back across the landscape and then suddenly seeing that there is a trip along the path, passion mode can hone in on this and say, “See? Here’s why I don’t…this is why I feel wounded, or this is why I am bitter.” But the key will be not to search the history for proof, but to see the history in it’s wholeness, and that would be the difference. When passion mode looks to the history, it does not serve it well to look for proof to support the present disappointments, but rather to look at the overall picture of the history in fairness. If that picture reveals to you that the current relationship is simply not one that is healthy, and one that is necessary to step away from, then you are still healing the wounds, because you are seeing that larger arc of history and saying, “There is a pattern here that dominates, and it is not so great for me.” Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: So when we said that were have two responses, one is that if you are honing in and looking for proof to support your disappointments now, then you know that you are possibly not doing the work of healing. However, if you are looking at the bigger picture and seeing that there is a pattern that is not healthy, then you are doing the work and you can make your choices from there. [Audience] Yes, thank you. [Audience] Does frequency play a role in that process? MEntity: It plays a role in every process. [Audience] In the speed of healing? MEntity: Yes. Those who are on the lower end of their frequency will tend to take a lot longer to heal. It’s not a rule, it just simply tends to be that way. [Audience] Do they tend to hone in more on evidence to support their disappointments? MEntity: Not necessarily, but the length of time for healing seems to be consistent in terms of a higher frequency person can process and heal faster than a lower frequency person. But in terms of searching the history, a high frequency person can also tend to hone in on past issues that support complaints currently. However, it could be said that the lower frequency makes the exploration of the past slower in terms of processing, which makes those instances appear more clearly than to a person with higher frequency. Does this make sense? [Audience] Yeah. MEntity: Any more questions? [Audience] I have a question from Geraldine. She would like to ask about the mode differences between one's casting vs. ones chosen for role and personality if the casting modes have equal influence? MEntity: We do not understand the question. [Audience] What is a casting mode? [Audience] Maybe the mode that is associated with your casting? MEntity: No, we are speaking of the actual overleaf that is part of your Personality design, not the ones associated with your role or casting. [Audience] ::Discussion (not included):: MEntity: Your role and your casting, and their association to the other overleaves that are on the same axis has no bearing on this particular discussion. Any more questions? Any relationships or examples of relationships, that you would like to discuss can also be bought forth if you choose to. [Audience] There is so many in the room right now. [Audience] Oh yeah, it could be hours. [Audience] Where to even start? MEntity: We cannot solve those or heal those for you, but we think that what we have shared today might help shed light on your part of the equation that can then increase your capacity to choose what to do from there. [Audience] I do think it was very helpful. I mean, to remember why you are in the relationship to start with, like all the great things that you have or had. It seems like such a simple thing, like why didn’t you think of it. You know what I mean? [Audience] I have a question. Everything that you’ve been discussing so far was, from what I understand, from the vantage point of you healing a relationship with another person. Everything that you have discussed, can you apply that if you are trying to heal a part of yourself or if you’re trying to heal your own relationship with yourself? Like, would part of the problem or the infighting be that, if you are of a certain mode, are the positive and negative poles of that mode conflicting or trying to fight off one another? MEntity: Well what we can say to that is that you are correct in your assessment that applying this to relationships within will also be affected. So that, if you are in passion mode for instance, and you are seeing this played out in your relationships – where you are finding yourself wounded by the non-compliance to the constrictions which you may have placed, or the conditions you may have placed on other individuals in terms of time and space – you can turn that within and find that maybe you are also imposing those upon yourself, and that you are thinking you have limited time in order to be who you are, or that you may have to have certain things or conditions in place in your life before you can be who you are, or to find that inspiration, and so forth. Looking at all of this conditions relative to time and space within can free you to heal those inner conflicts. Or in terms of observation mode, there may be elements within the self which you refuse to see that you are expecting others to do the work of seeing and bringing to the surface. And therefore, it could be that you are ignoring a part of yourself or that you consistently do that as a method of relating to yourself: ignoring certain feelings, ignoring certain thoughts, dividing yourself in certain ways in order to feel as if you are a whole person when in fact you only feel whole if you keep this over here and that over here, and so forth. Of course we are speaking metaphorically here. So the for instance, in terms of the overleaf itself, the negative pole of observation is surveillance. The positive pole is clarity. So when an individual is using the positive pole of observation, it means that the individual is able to see the life in a 360 degree fashion. There is clarity about where you are going, who you are, who other people are, what they are doing, and so forth. There is a sense of participation in life and being able to see where you are going. In the negative pole of surveillance, the individual then divides himself from life as a means of seeing things more clearly. And so it can feel as if you are living in life, but watching it through a glass window. You are somehow no longer a part of the very life you are living, a great disconnection. So this can occur within as well, where you become your own observer, rather than your own experiencer. You are watching yourself live your life rather than living it, and it would do you well to bring more of your self into the picture that you so often simply watch as a means of healing that divide within. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: If there is any validity to what we have shared, it should have hit home quite personally. As we said, there is no hard and fast rule associated with these, but there is a consistency that can be explored with relevancy to your relationships within and without. We will quickly add in perseverance mode and aggression mode so that it is completed in our discussion here. Perseverance mode tends to be attracted to physical relationships, to the physical presence of another person, to their physicality, how that individual shows up in their own skin. Perseverance mode can often, in fact, use sexuality as a form of relating. But perseverance mode truly connects to the physical presence of another individual. Aggression mode, on the other hand, is attracted to the totality of an individual: not just their physical presence, but the totality the individual’s beliefs, the individual’s choices, the individuals behavior, the individual’s physicality, their emotional realm, their physical realm, their intellectual realm, their spiritual realm. Aggression mode tends to look at all of it in terms of relating. [Audience] That is so interesting, because my father is in aggression mode and he just recently, apparently, told my mother that she is everything that he’d ever wanted. MEntity: And we think that she is attracted to him for the security and safety. [Audience] Yeah, she’s Caution Mode. [Audience] What’s Caution mode’s one? [Audience] It attracts to security and safety. MEntity: So we will leave those. We can explore them further, but we wanted to throw that in. And the wounding of course would come from extensions that can be extrapolated from the words that we have described. That, if an individual physically alters, for instance, in a relationship with someone who is in perseverance mode, it can be devastating. And by physically alter, we mean there can be indiscretions, or cheating, or ill health, or the lack of productivity. Anything tangible about the individual becomes a measurement for what is meaningful. For aggression mode, of course, the wounding may come from an individual becoming fragmented, divided, scattered, not present, not whole. Those in aggression mode have very few relationships because of this, as well, because there are very few fragments on the planet who are not fragmented. But, because these two particular modes are not present, we will not elaborate upon them. We will conclude or wrap up our discussion about his if there are no more questions. [Audience] I would a question, then. In terms of my relationship with my mother, everything you said fits in with that except that I’m not quite sure what concretely…I guess I want a little bit more concreteness about how to go about improving the relationship, because I definitely feel that I was wounded at some point in the not being seen aspect and then feeling the violation of time and space in that relationship throughout, starting a certain point in my childhood. And it comes up in our interaction, and of course I can’t decide not to interact with my mother anymore. I don’t know if there is something… MEntity: What is your primary mode? [Audience] My mode is passion and her mode is observation. MEntity: Knowing the other individual’s mode is helpful, or can be helpful, because this will give you clues as to what the other individual might need. In this case, as you’ve already discerned, it might be that she does not either feel seen by you or completely accepted in what you see in her. But it also may be – and this is something that will be important for you to understand if you chose to heal in this relationship – is to understand that this particular fragment may never truly like what she sees about herself as well, that there may be parts of her that she refuses to see, and, because you see them, you are held at bay, or given challenges, or struggled against. Do you understand that part? [Audience] Yeah, I’m sorry. I am surprised, because I thought it was about more the wounding, the feeling that I wasn’t seen, but you’re saying that the wounding is on both sides or just on her side? MEntity: If your mode is passion, that is where you want to focus what we shared with you so far. If yours were observation, then your issues would be about being seen or not being seen. However, in your case it, would be more about the relationship in terms of passion and the wounding that occurs in relation to passion, because that is your experience of the relationship. In other words, your mother is an extension of you, and therefore if she is not complying with the expectations that you have of what a mother is, then you may feel the wounding. [Audience] So the wounding is for all modes when you are not seen, or just for the observations mode? MEntity: Just for the observation mode. However, as we said before, there is no rule. Those in passion mode can also experience the feeling of not being seen. For instance, Sages in general have this issue and struggle with it across many lifetimes. Those who have arrogance can have issues of being seen or not being seen, those with self-deprecation. So it is not specifically linked to, or isolated to, a particular mode, but in this context of discussion, in terms of wounding and how individuals relate, this is a clue as to what might be causing the wounding and what could heal the wounding. So in your case, you would focus on the passion and the information we shared relative to that, but if you want to understand where your mother is coming from, then you would want to understand how observation works, because then you have insight into how she is experiencing the relationship. Do you understand? [Audience] Yeah, so the focus on my own passion would be then for me to focus on the time and space. MEntity: Yes, letting her be free from the constraints of your expectations about how she should be now, how she should have been, how present she is, how close you are. Letting her be free from that can help you heal. It may not help you have a better relationship with her, it may not help you to encourage a closer relationship, but at least it will help you heal, which, like we said before, resets the invitation for a better relationship if it is possible. In some cases, it simply is not possible to get what you want from a relationship, even if it’s with a parent. [Audience] Thank you. MEntity: Knowing that she is in observation mode, you can use that to help with the invitation for a better relationship by consciously allowing yourself to see, or expressing to her that she is okay the way she is; that you accept her as she is, not necessarily what she has done, or your responses to it, or your feelings of wounding, but that you are okay with who she is; that she is not just a mother; that she is more than that. She is a person. She is an individual who had a life before you and you are a part of that life, not her life. Being able to see and express that you embrace the totality of her may help her to feel more her own or invite her own form of healing. Do you understand? [Audience] Yes. MEntity: But the work starts with your own, for all of you. So it is not necessary for you to know the modes of those with whom you have struggles. If that were the case, no one would heal. And it is not even necessary for you to know all of this information for you to heal, it just helps. All of you would find your own way with or without this information, or not. We will wrap up the session then here, if there are no more questions. UNRELATED QUESTIONS: Left Out