NWM - Feb 20, 2016 - Accepting Death

[Kasia]

NWM - Feb 20, 2016 - Accepting Death

 

 

Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We can begin.

 

Today we are asked to speak on the acceptance of death.

 

We will speak to this from both the approach toward your own death and the deaths of others.

 

For most, the experience of death is associated with loss.

 

There is validity to this, but today we will point to some greater truths about death that allow loss to be a PART of death, and not the definition of death.

 

Before we begin, we would pose a question to each of you.

 

With as much honesty and as much stripping of romantic notions as possible, would you consider yourself afraid of, confused by, unaffected by, welcoming, or curious about death? (choose one closest to your usual feelings/thoughts about it)

 

Janet: Curious

Bobby: Same, curious

PeterK: Confused

DianeHB: Curious and a little afraid

Maureen: Curious and Afraid (of others dying - not me).

Colleen: Sometimes afraid of it such as worried about waking up in my coffin.

Maureen: If that is a question ...cremation is the answer. :)

Colleen: No, I don't want to be burned up.

Maureen: I'm changing my answer to welcoming rather than curious.

 

That was not a test question, but a prompt for a baseline in exploring with us.

 

What we will do is speak to the acceptance of your own death, first, and then the acceptance of death of others can be extrapolated from there.

 

First: you will die.

 

Death is a universal experience, a universal Truth.

 

It is universal in the sense that Death = Transformation, and transformation is a result of evolution, and evolution is a momentum throughout the entire universe and beyond.

 

Death can come in many forms across the universe, but death cannot be escaped.

 

Death exists as a part of the dynamic of the universe and beyond, so that even universes "die."

 

From the perspective of Personality, this can look like loss and "the end."

 

That is because the Body is designed to avoid death.

 

It is designed to extend the experience of living in a body for as long as it can.

 

It is an unconscious design because it is anatomic, or put another way, it is an inherent choice that need not be made on a daily basis because the fact of having a body means that you already chose to be alive.

 

Once the choice is made to incarnate, the choice is made to live in a body. This need not be a conscious choice made every single day or moment, so the body takes on the task to navigate toward life and away from death.

 

This is the negative pole of the Instinctive Center, and a part of all living beings in physical form.

 

This is the most-basic of choices made by all creatures.

 

Most creatures are driven instinctively, or anatomically.

 

The positive pole of the Instinctive Center is Atomic.

 

This is when you learn to make choices that can go beyond programming and "instinct."

 

This is why humans can commit suicide or willingly make choices that override the instinct that would normally keep the body alive.

 

This is not to say that all suicides are conscious choices, but that many are. Whether suicide is a choice or a result of other factors, it is always a matter of overriding the instinct to live.

 

Our point being that death is seen as the opposite of life because of this anatomic dynamic.

 

Death must be understood as the opposite of life until the true nature of life and the universe is understood.

 

If death is ignored and approached with no concern, the quality of life can diminish greatly.

 

This has happened in various cycles of history on Earth.

 

From genocides to witch hunts to manufactured poverty to war, etc.

 

When death is ignored or regarded without concern, it is used as a means of destruction or self-destruction.

 

This is why most fear death, are confused by it, or apathetic to it.

 

If this anatomic sensitivity to death is ignored before there is an understanding of the true nature of life and the universe, the results can be worse than death, itself.

 

We share this with you to help you understand that you fear death, are confused by it, or unaffected by it because you live in a world that has not yet comprehended the true nature of life and the universe.

 

Even as Old Souls, you may have a great sense of the true nature of life and the universe, but when submerged in a world that does not comprehend this, you are bombarded by imprinting that confuses you and has a long way to go toward that understanding.

 

This does not undo your understanding as Essence, but it undoes your understanding as Personality.

 

As an Old Soul you are born with this understanding, but your Personality is inculcated back toward the dependence upon anatomic navigation.

 

You are taught quickly to mourn death, to be sorry for it, to reach out in sympathy and your experiences of death are quickly shown to be painful and deeply horrifying.

 

It is easy to quickly take this stance as your own and remain with it.

 

Even as you Manifest Essence, this is such a deep and instinctive dependency that even the wisest of souls with the greatest number of deaths under her belt can still find death perplexing and upsetting.

 

So today we speak directly to the forgotten core of you who truly comprehends the nature of life and the universe.

 

Maureen: That is making me cry.

 

Understanding the nature of life and the universe does not mean that you will override your efforts to stay alive, but to include that effort as a CHOICE, not a reaction or fearful response to threat.

 

When you function from the positive pole of your Instinctive Center you do not ignore the negative pole, you simply repurpose it.

 

When in the Positive Pole, overriding your Instinct to live simply means that you not only trust your body to navigate away from threat, but that you choose to live.

 

And choosing to live is one of the greatest paths toward accepting death.

 

This may seem ironic, but not when you understand the nature of life and the universe.

 

To clarify what we mean by the "nature of life and the universe:"

 

The nature of life and the universe is change, evolution, transformation. Everything you do aims for these things. Everything. Even your resistance to these. Nothing in existence truly avoids change, evolution, and transformation. Nothing.

 

This means that to understand this means to understand the necessity of death as a version of these very aims.

 

Some say that you begin dying as soon as you are born. This is true, but not in the sense that the life is then rendered meaningless. Quite the opposite. If you exchange the term "dying" with "evolving" you can see why your life is immediately aiming for death upon birth.

 

Understanding the nature of life and the universe is to put death into the same category as a beautiful sunset, a blooming flower, a cocoon-to-butterfly, a great night of sleep, a profound trust in existence.

 

However horrific and painful the death, we are speaking of the death, itself.

 

The path toward death is a separate discussion.

 

Every life has its sunset. Every life blooms and then drops its petals. Cocoons into release and transformation. Requires a great rest/review.

 

It is fair to grieve your lack of access to the Person and Personality who you loved in your life. This is natural. This is separate from understanding and accepting death.

 

If you have experienced a break up of a relationship or a divorce or a failed friendship, you know this same grief. You know that this grief is separate from your acceptance of the truth of the change.

 

You must grieve.

 

Grief is not an indication of lack of understanding.

 

Chronic grief may indicate a rejection of the truth of death, but even this is not indicative of a lack of understanding. Things that are understood can be rejected.

 

We must make it clear that you are not obligated to understand or accept death. You will die anyway. Others will die anyway. And you will continue to cycle through remembering and forgetting. If you choose to understand and accept death, here are some key elements to consider:

 

DEATH IS A PART OF LIFE, NOT THE OPPOSITE OF LIFE.

 

Death is normal. It is not a surprise. You know very early in life that it will come. This does not mean you will not be sad or upset when it comes to others or even to yourself, but one of the primary foundations for accepting death is to stop pretending that it is a surprise element of life.

 

DEATH ADDS MEANING, IT DOES NOT NEGATE MEANING.

 

The fact that you will die does not negate the effects of a life lived. There may have been so much more you wanted to do, or that you know someone could have done, but they will do it. You will do it. The ideas survive. The body is recycled. The fact that death will come to all and even to this universe in billions of years does not make that time meaningless.

 

It makes everything on the other side of death and every life beyond that ever more meaningful.

 

This life means more to you than any life has ever meant before this. And future lives will mean even more. This is not because early lives are meaningless, but that death helps comprehend that meaning of every single day of that life lived.

 

You carry this forward into the next life, and the next.

 

LIVE YOUR LIFE SO THAT YOUR DEATH IS A PART OF IT, NOT AN INTERRUPTION OF IT.

 

One of the more comforting ways to accept death is to live life. To truly live it. To make the choices you mean to make. To say the things you wish to say. To reach out to those you wish to reach. To allow room for others to not be what you expect of them. To allow room for you to fail. To allow room for you to succeed. To play, to experiment, to lay around and do nothing, to be irresponsible and upset and annoyed. To be filled with bliss and love and affection.

 

All of this is life. There is nothing that is not life. To live this means to aim for what you prefer, to navigate through that which you do not prefer, and to embrace all of it as yours.

 

GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION ARE FUELS FOR ENTHUSIASM AND KINDNESS, and these build the greatest bridges between life and death.

 

Expressing and acknowledging all that you appreciate and for which you are grateful helps to fuel your enthusiasm and helps to increase the radius of your kindness.

 

This cannot be stressed enough.

 

The practice of this awareness is quite easy to ignore, and in some cases we know it nearly impossible to extract from a difficult life, but even in the darkest of lives there are moments that can be considered.

 

One need not start a gratitude journal or some other ritual that might reduce the effects of appreciation by turning it into repetitiveness.

 

Simply take a moment as you remember, as you feel it, and hold it for a moment in your consciousness.

 

Let this float from you like energetic spores to share in the world.

 

Many of you make it a common practice to complain, to notice what you do not want, to notice what you do not like, to fight against that which is unfair and ugly, and we can say that this easily becomes 45% to 75% of our students' conscious dynamic.

 

This is not a bad thing. We are merely saying that it is a choice. And that you have other choices. You do not have to stop your good fights, your noticing of injustices, your navigation of preferences and repulsions, but you can lay down alongside all of this the truth of wonder and joy and love of this life.

 

Noticing "the bad" in life fuels your self-karmic dance through life, while a focus on "the good" fuels your enthusiasm, vitality, and kindness.

 

Both are necessary elements, but one tends to be easier to ignore. When the emphasis is primarily on your disappointments, losses, struggles, and on "the bad," then death comes as an interruption that seems to come before you got a chance to live.

 

Allowing room for the enthusiasm, kindness, and vitality lets you fully live so that death comes as a part of life.

 

LIVE FOR MORE THAN LIFE.

 

Live for Joy. Live for Happiness. Live for Love. Live for Meaning. Live for You. Live for Animals. Live for Curiosity. Live for People. Live for more than life.

 

This makes death come as a comma in your existence rather than as a traumatic halt.

 

UNTIL YOU ARE DEAD, YOU ARE ALIVE.

 

Living with a fear of death or a rejection of it can drain you of life force long before death will.

 

So live as if you are alive until you are not.

 

And finally:

 

CONTINUE TO LEARN NEW THINGS

 

LEARNING can sometimes become a passive element in a life that reduces the meaning and quality of life so that death comes looming as an interruption.

 

When you consciously make the effort and choice to continue learning, you are choosing to live not only until you die, but far beyond death.

 

LEARNING is as constant as Change.

 

To hook into the momentum of Learning is to hook into your persistence of existence.

 

You cannot change the fact that change exists. You cannot change the fact that existence exists. You cannot NOT learn.

 

To consciously embrace any of these truths is beneficial, but to embrace and nurture Learning is to embrace all of it.

 

We have spoken to you about the process of death in other exchanges, and we can tell you over and over about the nature of life after death, but today we remind you to live as a path of acceptance of death.

 

You will die. You will live. You will do both. If you die tomorrow, you will want to have known that you lived today.

 

We will open the floor for a few questions: QUEUE IS NOW OPEN

 

Yes, Maureen.

 

Maureen: Michael, is this session today with you, and what we have learned, reference what Troy and I were talking about on January 16th: Maureen: I feel like I'm having to come to terms with death in a way that is "new". Troy: Same here. A new level.

 

Not intentionally, Maureen. But in a year where death will be prominently featured, it is helpful to look at the concept in new ways and meaningful ways that help to bring understanding. Many of our students are finding the necessity to perceive, understand, and accept death in a new way this year.

 

Next, Colleen.

 

Colleen: Could you speak more about exit points? How are these determined? How does a person skip an exit point? How does one recognize that an exit point was avoided?

 

Exit Points are managed by Essence. There have to be Exit Points considered upon creation of a life. This is because death will come. Since this is a fact of life, Essence anticipates various factors that might contribute to "the best deaths" and the timing of those deaths.

 

There tend to be an average of 3 Exit Points set up, and up to 12.

 

These are not hidden from Personality, but Personality does not have the capacity for access to that information or the capacity for processing it.

 

Comprehending Exit Points is the equivalent of "try to think of no color."

 

Every thought of no color is a color.

 

Every effort to consider an Exit Point is redirected toward living, toward life, toward existence.

 

This is because the body is designed to hold its form in matter. YOU may continue to exist, but the matter that forms your physical body returns to the Physical Plane. To consider this is counter to its design to live, to survive.

 

So Essence sets these up and they are coded into the body in various ways that look exactly like life to the body.

 

For lack of a better word, these are fragile threads and dissolve over time.

 

Or they are reinforced, depending upon parameters set by Essence.

 

If the threads are reinforced, they are because the life is collecting the experiences relative to making that Exit Point relevant.

 

If they are dissolving, then that Exit Point is passed.

 

Sometimes one can sense when an Exit Point was passed. These are usually marked by a sharp dive into grief 'for no reason" and then a burst of vitality and focus on moving forward. These are symptoms that can indicate many things, so they are not easy to differentiate from just having a bad day, but some who are sensitive enough and know their dynamic of emotional landscape well, they can sense the Exit Point was passed.

 

DianeHB: What do you mean they are "coded" into the body? in DNA?

 

Diane, the "coding" is subtle energy that is "threaded" in various ways throughout the body. Depending on this placement of threading there is an event triggered.

 

If this is based in illness and aging, then it is in the DNA. If it is relative to a combination of external factors such as disaster, murder, accident, etc. then that thread is part of a network among all involved.

 

DianeHB: wow

 

We will add that while Essence designs Exit Points into the life before birth, Alternate Exit Points are developed through cumulative actions and choices of the Personality outside of that original set.

 

We will conclude with Claire's question.

 

Next, Claire.

 

Claire: "This is not to say that all suicides are conscious choices, but that many are. Whether suicide is a choice or a result of other factors..." Can you elaborate on this statement, in view of the fact that you always stress the importance of Choice in everything? In what way is suicide not a Choice?

 

Suicide will always be a choice, but not a conscious choice. When suicide is seen as the only choice, it is usually not a conscious choice. That is because when awareness is involved, then the range of choice is much clearer. When there is little awareness, or little consciousness, then it may seem that it is the only choice.

 

Claire: Wouldn't that be true of most suicides then?

 

We are speaking here of those who suicide from despair, not from the choice to end a life in a body that is dying.

 

Claire: Yes, those are different.

 

Claire, no. Many make the choice to end their life even as they know there are other solutions. They still make the choice to end the life.

 

When it is thought or felt that there is no other option, then it is not a conscious choice. When it is chosen even as other options are clear, then it is a conscious choice.

 

When suicide is a conscious choice, it is usually not from despair.

 

Consider this analogy:

 

The difference between a sky diver who plummets to the ground and a person who leaps from a bridge is not different in the end, but it is very different in the choice to jump and most of the fall toward death.

 

Both who die on impact will reach the same point, but how and why they got there makes a difference.

 

We must conclude here for today. Good day to each of you. Goodbye, for now. We are as alive as any of you. We are just not as dense.

 

And the humor is intended.

 

Goodbye, for now.

[Christian]

[Bogi]

15 minutes ago, Joe said:

 

I think about death, mortality and stuff like that from time to time. Sometimes, it feels like the scariest thing in existence, other times welcoming, similar to falling asleep after a long journey. I feel death as a unique experience and a foreign concept, something that occurs once every lifetime or so.

 

Lovely session!

 

When I was about 12, I had a dream about me dying. I was shot. Kinda a strange experience. The feeling was something like between falling asleep and fainting. It wasn´t scary or anything. And then I woke up, so I cannot say what happened after that. I guess, my mind couldn´t fill in the gaps, so it woke me up.

[ClaireC]

@Joe Thanks for bumping this.  I just re-read the whole thing, and if it weren't for my question at the end, it seemed like brand new material I was hearing for the first time.  My, we high-frequency types really do need to process things over and over again...

[Bobby]

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Many of you make it a common practice to complain, to notice what you do not want, to notice what you do not like, to fight against that which is unfair and ugly, and we can say that this easily becomes 45% to 75% of our students' conscious dynamic.

 

This is not a bad thing. We are merely saying that it is a choice. And that you have other choices. You do not have to stop your good fights, your noticing of injustices, your navigation of preferences and repulsions, but you can lay down alongside all of this the truth of wonder and joy and love of this life.

 

Noticing "the bad" in life fuels your self-karmic dance through life, while a focus on "the good" fuels your enthusiasm, vitality, and kindness.

 

Both are necessary elements, but one tends to be easier to ignore. When the emphasis is primarily on your disappointments, losses, struggles, and on "the bad," then death comes as an interruption that seems to come before you got a chance to live.

 

 

I could almost just requote this whole session but the above quote is what I really would like to more consciously focus on for 2017.  Considering what we'll be facing in January and over the next 4 years, I think it will become even more important.  Just as Michael noted, I won't be dismissing the "bad" but likewise, I won't be so easily dismissing the "good" either.  I want to more consciously do this regularly if not daily.

 

We went and saw the movie Collateral Beauty yesterday.  I think it plays nicely into this idea.

 

[ClaireC]

Bobby, I second that emotion.

Edited November 5, 2017 by ClaireC

[Guest Matt]

On 5/19/2016 at 3:13 PM, Kasia said:

Expressing and acknowledging all that you appreciate and for which you are grateful helps to fuel your enthusiasm and helps to increase the radius of your kindness.

I am grateful for this website and the fact that i get to know all of you in this life through this website. 

[PPLD]

On 19/07/2016 at 2:38 AM, Christian said:

Beautiful

[PPLD]

On 19/05/2016 at 10:13 PM, Kasia said:

We are as alive as any of you. We are just not as dense.

 

And the humor is intended.

? Michael...

 

Fantastic session! Thank you.

[AnnaElisa]

Oh... I'll read and reread this... Since I was little, I've had really hard time handling the thought that my loved ones will die. When I first heard about this thing called death and that my mother once would die, I had a really hard time and I guess a part of me shut off. It's not a thought that has continuously occupied my life, but it pops up sometimes and paralyses me. Now, due to a loved ones sudden ailment, the last months this fear in me has escalated and I have heard myself saying that "I just can't handle it and I might as well die first to avoid it". I know I wouldn't commit suicide, because I'm too directed towards life, and the suicide thought too paralyses me as it is just an escape from a deeper awareness. Reading this post was the beginning of a relief for me, I think.  

[KurtisM]

Ok, I almost died from falling off a mountain on a hike back in 2012/13. But that was due to a reckless decision made from excitement. My dad blocked me from falling to my doom.

I'd consider that an alternative exit point.

 

But from pretty much 2013/14 onward to 2016, I struggled with acclimating to growing up and fearing the loss of my personal freedom. I struggled so much with addictions, keeping secrets and processing resentment and not self-destructing. 

It lead some of my parallels to suicide, so I'd certainly call that a built in Exit Point.

When I look back to 2013, it branched off many life paths in subtle ways that would come to bloom in 2016. 

 

I returned to similar feelings but from a more global perspective in 2018 as I went through my 4th IM. Since we diverged Parallels towards a 5 year Descent into Unimaginable Dystopia in November 2018, I imagine that set of me is also on some kind of path to an Exit Point by 2024.

 

I cry and grieve when I think of these paths...