Michael Speaks ~ March 28, 2021 ~ Goal As The Answer to Everything

[Uma 13,328]

 

MEntity:

Hello to each of you. We are here, now. We will begin.

 

Today we are asked to speak about the GOALS in our set of Overleaves.

 

Troy asked us a question recently regarding how to move through or move forward when there are obstacles, struggles, or lack of motivation or meaning. We told him that the solution to nearly all of these questions and obstacles can be found in your GOAL.

 

Though there are a multitude of potential solutions and sources of motivations and meaning, and layers upon layers of why you exist and live this life, the simplest solution, motivation, meaning, and answer to the question "why?" can always be found in your Goal.

 

This is the broadest answer to the WHY of your existence as "You."

 

Your GOAL describes the thread that moves through every single experience.

 

And we emphasize: every. single. experience.

 

There is nothing that you experience in this life that does not feed your Goal.

 

It is fair to say that the "answer to everything is your Goal."

 

And by "everything" we mean the more existential questions of your specific existence in this Personality.

 

For example: if one is devastated by a painful break in a relationship, a loss of a job, or the onset of illness, what do you do with this?

 

Although the answer to these questions can be difficult, complex, and layered, the first place you can look is to your GOAL. What do I do with this? I FLOW, ACCEPT, DISCRIMINATE, RE-EVALUATE, GROW, DOMINATE, SUBMIT.

 

Some of the terms may be obvious in how they would apply, but for such terms as Discriminate, Dominate, and Submit, we will offer some elaboration:

 

"What do I do with this? I discriminate!" Discrimination is all about learning how to effectively say NO, but to effectively say No, one must learn how to say YES. Depending on your circumstances in question, Discrimination means it is either time to say yes or time to say no, but you must choose.

 

"What do I do with this? I Dominate!" DOMINATION is all about learning how to direct your energy in a way that brings out the best in others, which means learning how to bring out the best in yourself. Depending on your circumstances in question, Dominance means it is time to bring out the best in yourself and/or invite the best of others.

 

"What do I do with this? I Submit!" SUBMISSION is all about learning how to direct energy in a way that you are most needed and most effective, which means learning how let others be most needed and most effective for you, too. Depending on your circumstances in question, Submission means it is time to either care for someone or something beyond you or invite/allow someone to care for you.

 

These are highly simplistic examples, but your creative language prompted by your understanding of your Goal can help you to navigate with a clarity that may not have been present without it.

 

EXERCISE: think back over your day, your week, your month, your year, your life and look at it all in light of your Goal.

 

Notice how much you feed your Goal.

 

See your life through the lens of your Goal and you may see a purpose that was always motivating, moving, touching, lifting you forward in your life because you wanted to learn more about these experiences described by your Goal.

 

Your life is all about Acceptance, or Discrimination, or Growth, or Flow, or Dominance, or Submission or Re-evaluation.

 

Of course, your life is much more than this, but there is a beauty and awe that can be found in your life that may have been missed because you were so dedicated to your Goal, so focused on it.

 

Your life is not always in your control and your choices may not always be your own, but your GOAL is yours.

 

In the worst of circumstances and the best of circumstances, this is a part of you that loves existing and experiencing and learning.

 

Turning to your Goal for insights and answers may not give you immediate relief, but it can give you immediate insight and answers that can be built upon to bring relief.

 

Rather than elaborate in more details, we think our students grasp the general idea here. We will now open the floor to questions. ************** QUEUE IS NOW OPEN ***************

 

Uma:

Would you please elaborate on the other goals like you did on those?

Especially FLOW.

 

MEntity:

"What do I do with this?" I accept!" Acceptance is all about learning how to effectively say YES, but to effectively say Yes, one must learn to say NO. Depending on your circumstances in question, Acceptance means it is either time to say yes, or time to say no, but you must choose.

Let us be clear here:

 

It is not always the immediate circumstances that are being addressed by these insights. Often the insights are speaking to the larger arc of the experience. For instance, someone who constantly says YES but does not learn how to say yes with honesty can build up stresses and resentments that can create chronic issues in the mind, heart, and body.

 

So when we offer these mini "blurbs" to describe how one might apply this information, think in larger arcs. For example, if one is suffering an illness, it may not reverse one's illness to understand they dynamics of the Goal, but it can

 

A) help one to see the larger arc of experiences that may be tied to the Goal and thus give context to the current experience,

 

and B) help one to make the more detailed choices that must be made within the current circumstances.

 

"What do I do with this? I Grow!" Growth is all about taking on any experience that can contribute to one's evolution. So Growth means it is time to take what you CAN (not just what you WANT) from what you are experiencing and make the most of it.

 

"What do I do with this? I Re-evaluate!" Re-evaluation is all about reducing one's experiences so that one can catch up with oneself. Re-evaluation means it is time to let go of what you CAN, not just what you WANT, from what you are experiencing and make the most of it.

 

"What do I do with this? I Flow!" Flow is all about learning how to RIDE life, not TAME it. Flow means it is time to be a PART of life, not APART from it. To truly Flow, one must always "slide" to another Goal, so understanding how the other Goals work can help one to know which Goal is best for helping hang on for the ride.

 

NEXT, Ro.

 

Ro:

Some of us slide to one goal or another. Does the Goal we slide to can change throughout our lifetime? What causes it?

 

And how different is the "flavor" between someone in Acceptance > Growth, from one in Acceptance > Flow?

I'm in Acceptance but I can see myself sliding to either Flow or Growth.

 

MEntity:

The only Goal that can slide to ANY other Goal is Flow. All other Goals can only slide to that which is on the same Axis, or Flow. So ALL Goals can slide to Flow, but only Flow can slide to all Goals.

 

Keep in mind that your Goal describes what you seek to build in your experiences in this lifetime. That means it is a GOAL, not a character trait that is already completed. For example, someone in Acceptance does not mean they are a person who is friendly, kind, and accepting. It means they are LEARNING to be friendly, kind, and accepting.

 

Someone in Flow is not going to be someone relaxed, easygoing, and chill. They are some of the most high-strung fragments we know, because they are LEARNING to Flow.

 

So in your case, Growth may come naturally to you because that is not your Goal. What is most challenging and where your "lessons" tend to be are in how you can authentically ACCEPT, be accepted, encourage acceptance, etc.

 

For that reason, some of the answers to the question of WHY can be found in your Goal, too. "Why am I experiencing this? Because I came to learn how to authentically accept and be accepted authentically.

 

Acceptance would not slide to Growth, but you may already have quite comfortably established that evolution is a given in your life's experiences. The challenge is in the Acceptance parts.

 

You would slide to Flow when you need to learn how to ride through an experience to the other side if you realize you cannot control it.

 

NEXT, Wendy.

 

Wendy:

Can you elaborate even more on seeing our lives through the lens of our goals? Mine is FLOW and my mind just goes blank when I think about it. What you just said about it always sliding to another goal is confusing me even more.

 

MEntity:

Flow only "slides" to other Goals as a solution, not just randomly or chaotically. Your Goal will always be FLOW, even if it is slides to another Goal as a way to flow more easily.

 

In short, those with a Goal of Flow are learning how to RELAX.

 

Not as an escape, not as avoidance, not as a way to deny, but as a way to BE.

 

If you are in a car accident and your body is limp, there is far less damage to the body. If there is a storm and a tree is extremely flexible, there is far less damage. If a building is movable and can sway in an earthquake or high winds, there is far less damage.

 

THAT is Flow.

 

If one has FLOW it means that this life is less about learning how to row and more about learning how to steer.

 

The forces of life are strong like a river and one can either hop in a boat and see where it takes you (freedom) or try to swim up river against the flow and essentially stay in the same spot as the current keeps you from moving forward (stagnation).

 

Flow does not mean that life bats you around chaotically in wild winds and raging rivers, but that can often seem the way it is if one is not learning how to steer themselves along the currents and winds.

 

You have seen both sides of yourself in this life: the part of you that feels that life kicks your ass, and the part of you that feels like you caught a nice uplifting wind and you are coasting gracefully forward now. You may always have a sense of dread because you know that life is often an EBB and FLOW, and that the breeze will either die down or turn into a hurricane.

 

But you can let go of the dread because the breeze always returns, too.

 

NEXT, Zahra - (we will end with Meg's question after this)

 

Zahra:

I recently quit a side job I had, and since then I was thinking of it in terms of my goal (Flow sliding to Growth) . I can't always quit a job or a project because it doesn't suit my goal. I'm wondering then, how should people go about their careers when it doesn't suit their goals? I'm unsure if sticking with a job is more aligned with Flow or constantly changing course. Since you elaborated on Flow, please include other goals in my questions as well.

 

MEntity:

First, EVERYTHING suits your Goal.

 

There are no careers or lack of careers that serve or betray a Goal.

 

The Goal is independent from these details.

 

In other words, if you choose to stay with a career, then Flow can help you to navigate the world of that career.

 

If you choose to leave a career, then Flow can help you to navigate that major change.

 

If a choice is made for you and you lose your job, then Flow can help you to navigate uncertainty.

 

You never have to assess your choices in terms of how well they serve your Goal.

 

Your Goal WILL be served.

 

The question is how can your Goal serve YOU.

 

And that means serving you in any and every circumstance.

 

Your Goal cannot be used to help you make a decision in careers because your Goal does not require special or orchestrated conditions to be served.

 

Your Goal only needs you.

 

Your Goal IS you.

 

To be more specific in response to your question regarding making major choices in career and how the Goal may play into that: you can ask yourself which direction from where you are now feels easier.

 

Not in the sense of laziness or lacking effort, but in the sense of unfolding with the least resistance from within you.

 

This may not always be an easy answer, but it is a start. There is always a direction from where you are, regardless of where you are, that you can go that can unfold with the least resistance, and if you cannot see the path of least resistance, then your goal is to BE less resistant.

 

NEXT, Meg.

 

Meg:

Can you please elaborate more on the tension of CAN v. WANT for Goals of both Growth and Re-Evaluation? I understand "WANT" OK I think (e.g., "you can't always get what you want..."). But what about the notion of capacity / limits with the "CAN" aspect that goes along with it? Can you please explain more how CAN works with respect to these two Goals (i.e., Growth & Re-Eval)? Thanks.

 

MEntity:

Growth often takes on more than it can handle and then falls into Confusion, the Negative Pole. So it is a matter of learning to take on only what one CAN, even if one WANTS to take on more. Otherwise, you will break a leg. We say this with some jest, but it is true that Growth breaks bones more often than most Goals.

 

Re-evaluation is about simplifying life to the bare minimum so that one can catch up and reflect and see how far evolution has brought them. This means letting go of much more than one may WANT to let go, but the truth is that you probably CAN let go and it would serve Re-evaluation quite well to do so.

 

We think we have responded to questions as well as we can at the moment and must conclude here for today. Good day to each of you. We encourage you to explore how your Goal can serve you because we see many of our students often more concerned with how they can serve the Goal. In truth, it will go both ways, but this may be a helpful way to improve your understanding of your Goal.

 

Goodbye, for now.

[Connie Stansell-Foy 2,742]

Thank you, this is helpful. I need to re-read everything on Growth, though.

[Meg 932]

Great session!  Awesome new and helpful info, so grateful to Troy.  (Also, my close friend really had just broken their leg... )

[Meg 932]

Piping up from Team Growth: "How the Goal can serve you" is an interesting idea (as in, the Goal is you, but you are not [just] your Goal).  I like this take that Growth can "serve you" by helping one make the best (or get the most out of) anything.  I'm also suspicious of "it's all for the best" (as in seeing bad stuff as all a "growth experience") analysis -- it can justify a whole lot of nonsense and harm -- but I see this point clearly, and appreciate it.  The "can-do" of Growth resonates with this Warrior and a Spiritualist attitude, as does working to confusion/exhaustion/breakdown of course lol (I'm in Perseverence too, yikes!)  I wonder what else Growth getsya in superpower form.  Hm.  This is indeed a refreshing change for me away from the perspective of collecting self-actualizing Experiences for Evolution, a colonial paradigm if I ever saw one, especially when combining with those rather narcissistic tendencies to "personal growth" we inherit as a matter of course from our occultist/New Age heritage here, and we all just have to deal with now -- like as just straightup post-Christian whiteness, as usually in my case.   I REALLY like the renewal of Overleaf study that this seems to signal, thanks, @Troy!  Can we try some more please when it's time? 

[Wendy 4,239]

@Troythanks so much for this great Michael Speaks.  My goal of FLOW has always mystified me.  Sure I feel good when I'm in the flow of things - doesn't' everyone? - but beyond that I had no understanding of it.  Now I really feel like I comprehend and can really use this information to help myself out and perhaps even flourish! 

[Nick Sweeney (Babylove) 2,846]

I cracked-up when Michael described many of their most "high-strung" fragments who have a goal of Flow  Yep, that's me! 

 

I was so controlling and high-strung when I was a child that my mom would often say to my sisters "Leave that boy alone-you know he's crazy!" LOL!

 

But it's nice to see the progress I have made with owning my true goal of Flow (I used to want to be in Dominance) and being in my positive poles and experiencing Flow and Freedom/Peace.

 

This was such a great discussion!  Thank you, Troy, and everyone who asked questions.

 

It has helped me to understand my goal much more...and goals in general.

[Katja 716]

Wow, it is really mind-blowing session! My goal is flow and it has been really hard to catch it, what it means. I often have found myself from stagnation, when I use much energy with no results. Or everything is going well, until there is some disaster around the next corner. 

On 3/29/2021 at 1:43 AM, Uma said:

In short, those with a Goal of Flow are learning how to RELAX.

 

Not as an escape, not as avoidance, not as a way to deny, but as a way to BE.

 

If you are in a car accident and your body is limp, there is far less damage to the body. If there is a storm and a tree is extremely flexible, there is far less damage. If a building is movable and can sway in an earthquake or high winds, there is far less damage.

 

THAT is Flow.

 

If one has FLOW it means that this life is less about learning how to row and more about learning how to steer.

 

The forces of life are strong like a river and one can either hop in a boat and see where it takes you (freedom) or try to swim up river against the flow and essentially stay in the same spot as the current keeps you from moving forward (stagnation).

 

Flow does not mean that life bats you around chaotically in wild winds and raging rivers, but that can often seem the way it is if one is not learning how to steer themselves along the currents and winds.

 

You have seen both sides of yourself in this life: the part of you that feels that life kicks your ass, and the part of you that feels like you caught a nice uplifting wind and you are coasting gracefully forward now. You may always have a sense of dread because you know that life is often an EBB and FLOW, and that the breeze will either die down or turn into a hurricane.

 

But you can let go of the dread because the breeze always returns, too.

This is very comforting. I agree. I am learning to relax.

[Maureen 24,015]

14 hours ago, Nick Sweeney (Babylove) said:

I cracked-up when Michael described many of their most "high-strung" fragments who have a goal of Flow  Yep, that's me! 

 

I was so controlling and high-strung when I was a child that my mom would often say to my sisters "Leave that boy alone-you know he's crazy!" LOL!

 

But it's nice to see the progress I have made with owning my true goal of Flow (I used to want to be in Dominance) and being in my positive poles and experiencing Flow and Freedom/Peace.

 

This was such a great discussion!  Thank you, Troy, and everyone who asked questions.

 

It has helped me to understand my goal much more...and goals in general.

 

@Nick Sweeney (Babylove), what you said cracks me up!! I'm your sister!!! LOL. My husband is a Scholar in Flow and no matter how I approach him, when he's doing something (and he's always doing something... either on the computer or watching TV), I interrupt his "flow" and he gets impatient (Impatience is his 2nd CF which affects his Mode in intimate relationships). Unless it's for a hug but even then there's a moment where he needs to adjust his "steering".  I'm thinking one's steering with/through Flow might relate to one's Attitude or perspective which allows the action that is required to move more freely. Just some thoughts... 

 

[Nick Sweeney (Babylove) 2,846]

8 hours ago, Maureen said:

 

@Nick Sweeney (Babylove), what you said cracks me up!! I'm your sister!!! LOL. My husband is a Scholar in Flow and no matter how I approach him, when he's doing something (and he's always doing something... either on the computer or watching TV), I interrupt his "flow" and he gets impatient (Impatience is his 2nd CF which affects his Mode in intimate relationships). Unless it's for a hug but even then there's a moment where he needs to adjust his "steering". "> I'm thinking one's steering with/through Flow might relate to one's Attitude or perspective which allows the action that is required to move more freely. Just some thoughts... ">

 

@Maureen, you just described me to a tee!

 

I've gotten so much better with interruptions and being more flexible and adaptable...chilling the fuck out!

 

But I still have my moments.  I catch myself pretty quickly these days and LET GO...then the steering can happen.

 

I have Impatience as my primary CF. Quite regularly I have to take a breath and drop intolerance...and then flow...so much better these days.

 

Having Flow and Impatience is so absurd!  

 

Most of my life has been getting impatient and blowing my top because people and life are interrupting my Flow and peace!

 

"Leave me alone, goddammit, I'm trying to be peaceful!!!"

[avi 883]

On 3/29/2021 at 10:24 PM, Nick Sweeney (Babylove) said:

I was so controlling and high-strung when I was a child that my mom would often say to my sisters "Leave that boy alone-you know he's crazy!" LOL!

 

But it's nice to see the progress I have made with owning my true goal of Flow (I used to want to be in Dominance) and being in my positive poles and experiencing Flow and Freedom/Peace

hahah i LOL’d at “leave that boy alone you know he’s crazy” especially with a child that must’ve been too funny

 

also, i’m learning that i think i try to live in Flow because my life does experience a lot of waves and it feels easier for me (probably why my goal is Dominance in this lifetime haha) but i’m learning to be ok with making clearer decisions and deliberate choices to be my best rather than just flowing along 

[petra 11,783]

@avi  I send Love & Kisses, love this: but i’m learning to be ok with making clearer decisions and deliberate choices to be my best rather than just flowing along 

[DianeHB 17,716]

On 3/30/2021 at 10:30 AM, Maureen said:

 

@Nick Sweeney (Babylove), what you said cracks me up!! I'm your sister!!! LOL. My husband is a Scholar in Flow and no matter how I approach him, when he's doing something (and he's always doing something... either on the computer or watching TV), I interrupt his "flow" and he gets impatient (Impatience is his 2nd CF which affects his Mode in intimate relationships). Unless it's for a hug but even then there's a moment where he needs to adjust his "steering". "> I'm thinking one's steering with/through Flow might relate to one's Attitude or perspective which allows the action that is required to move more freely. Just some thoughts... ">

 

Hahaha, @TexB would tell you this is me, too! I get irritated when he interrupts me when I’m in the middle of something, and I’m also always in the middle of something. He complained about it so now I try to make time if he needs it, or I deal with what he needs when I arrive at a stopping point. I didn’t know this was a Flow thing.